Bethenny Frankel

Bethenny ponders the importance of taking a break, and the magnitude of her SkinnyGirl empire.

on Apr 7, 20110

I'm writing this as I leave for a much needed vacation to the Caribbean. Last week was intense. The last year was incredible yet overwhelming. Every aspect of my life turned upside down in a very short period of time.

Jason and I really needed our little respite in Montréal. It was so romantic and intimate, and I guess parents need alone time. However, I really hate leaving Bryn. She is my little angel, and I just cherish every single day, bath, and moment with her.

Going to the plant was nothing short of mind blowing. TV didn't even do it justice. The sheer magnitude of how much we're producing and how massive a brand this is was breathtaking. To think that a little idea of mine is a game changer in the world of booze predominantly (I mean entirely) run by men and currently for men. I knew that women would be the ones to purchase my products and that all the men who have told me no simply didn't know. As I say in my book A Place of Yes, never assume anyone is smarter than you. I subsequently partnered with a massive liquor company Jim Beam, who bought my brand. I still have creative control; I'm the face of the brand; I'm the marketer; and I am still the SkinnyGirl. I wrote an article on this on Bethenny.com if you want the full story.

171 comments
DWD
DWD

Love the show

Will miss it!!!!

What is up with the lawsuit?

Money can really make the roaches come out

Marcia56
Marcia56

Bethenny, I just love you! You are incredible with everything you take on. I like that you're alittle nuts, aren't we all? You have a beautiful family, and Jason is prefect for you, along with his Mom and Dad. Bryn is adorable, you made a beautiful baby, make another one. Keep up the good work, and hug and kiss everyone you have as a family now for me. Thanks, Marcia

ViewerThirsty In Alabama
ViewerThirsty In Alabama

We need Skinnygirl Margarita in Alabama!!! I have to buy it when I am in Atlanta! I know our alcohol laws here are ass backwards, but we love you!! There are lots of great women here and we are big fans. We're not all a bunch of rednecks!:) Luv the show, the margarita, the books. You are an inspiration!

ck08
ck08

Second season and I'm still watching and enjoying every minute. I'm glad you are on vacation and so happy about your business success. I checked and found out we have Skinny Girl Margaritas in my corner of L.A. now. Yay! I watched Skating W/ and ever since, I've wanted to vent. "That" judge was such a rude jerk to you and I used to like him, but it's all over now... He must be jealous. I'm still mad. You handled it well. He was unprofessional as well as a few other choice words, I won't say. I wouldn't watch that show again; all the judges made odd choices. It wasn't you. You were amazing. Keep taking those vacations and enjoying your great hubby and beautiful, smiling baby. Lov.

Jbear
Jbear

Hey bethenny, I've been watching your show now since I've been home sick from a recent surgery. I gotta be honest I haven't been your biggest fan, but a fan none the less. I think you have a great sense of humor and it's rare that I laugh at anything on tv. Anyway the real reason I'm writing is because I am a huge fan of skinny girl cocktails, I tried one and was hooked. I'm a big fan of tequilla! When I went back to the liquor store (Medford Nj) they were sold out for weeks. I know this is a problem your handling and you've probably received a ton of posts about it but I had to be one of them. The liquor store allowed me to put a case on hold, and beleive me when I tell you I was number 20 something on the list! Anyway congrats, and please do the pomegranate drink u mentioned (only with a tad more alcohol content haha!) no seriously.

beckyrg
beckyrg

I also liked you on HW, and so glad you are completely done with those women. Stay with your wonderful family. Tell hubby to keep bustin your balls. That is the real you when he does that. Your baby girl is beautiful. Good luck to you and your family.

An Eph
An Eph

I wonder how many people will get that MBTI reference.....

CHRISTINE NAPOLITANO
CHRISTINE NAPOLITANO

All i can say is i fell in love with you on HW, NY & i adore you, your hubby & that ADORABLE baby girl Bryn,,,,I wish I could take care of her, Hug & Kiss her!! Yes, ready for grandchildren, lol Keep wishing my three get married & give me some grandchildren already..Anyway, glad your relaxing you deserve it.."God Bless" you & your family..You are a great inspiration to All young woman, with Love & Respect Christine

Rjennings
Rjennings

Bethenny,

I get who you are, it's like looking in a mirror every time I watch your show. The only difference is that I don't have the Jason, who is just who he is and loves you for who you are with all your crazy and faults and perfection. That is the greatest form of respect and love there is. You are a strong a wonderful person with a crap hand for a mother. I had the same thing, the expectation of perfection with none of the example at home growing up. God bless you for staying with the therapist because sometimes we need an objective person to see what we don't (i.e. the connection between what we do and where it comes from). You are a great mom, I have 7 children 3 out and four to go, and your daughter is one lucky little girl. My daughter had 8 surgeries and she is my heart, although I was not my mothers and the relationship was... well a train wreck, mine with my daughter is much better and that is all we can do. Don't give up or in you are a little crazy (as we all are in our own way trust me) and loving (just because it is not so overt) and SMART! I really get the hard time with Jason's family and how close they are and how hard it is to get used to it. Give it time, it will come and I think you are handling it right. Oh and the birthday thing, OH MY GOD I GET THAT, it is hard to have people make such a big deal of what really no one in your life before then ever had, it is a lot to take, christmas is another hard one for me, just not really used to it. People who are used to it don't understand and that makes it even harder on you, they feel unappreciated and it is really that you don't know how to react to something you have never really had; double edge sword. God bless and good luck.

Renee

kayskripac
kayskripac

Stop calling yourself "crazy" - I like to think of people being 'high strung".

Ashley Delaney
Ashley Delaney

I just got done watching Season 2 Episode 8, and I cannot tell you how much I THANK you for being THAT raw and real so publicly. I am so like you in SO many ways. I am a strong woman (complete with daddy issues that are VERY similar with your mother issues), I am a mother of 2 girls, a Marine Wife, an Army Vet, and I am building my Photography business all at the ripe old age of 23. I live life int he fast lane baby, and if your not hauling ass, MOVE out of my way! LOL! I am always thinking of different ways to grow, expand, and "hustle" to pick up the slack from the LAUGHABLE pay that my husband receives as a SERGEANT in the USMC after TWO tours to Iraq... ok, end of rant. LOL

As I was watching you literally POUR your heart out on your VERY popular NATIONALLY televised reality show, I realized that what you are doing is NOTHING SHORT OF ADMIRABLE! How you juggle everything is beyond me, but I have a funny feeling that your hubby is an equally amazing person that helps ground you a lot like my husband does. I realized, that I have a lot of your "Thanksgiving Turkey DISASTER melt downs" on what feels like a weekly basis, and that makes me sad. My daughters, who do not have any contact with either sets of grandparents in order to protect them from hurtful AND harmful people, are watching ME BE MY DAD. They are watching and learning HOW to melt down, and HOW to scream and yell and DEMAND perfection out of NO ONE but yourself... of myself. I am so critical of myself and I see so much of what you were so humble to show on air.... the CRAZY, neurotic mess that I work myself into over the DUMBEST AND SMALLEST things. THANK YOU for being so open to everyone and showing these raw emotions that you experienced and continue to work through with therapy. (P.s. I need your therapist number.... he's DAMN GOOD! LOL)

I guess the point of me even writing this is the hope that you will read this and know that what you are doing with the show is truly helping people. You and your family are FREAKIN HILARIOUS and you guys are a BLAST to watch, but when things get serious, you are compelling to watch. You inspire SO MANY people like you, and me, to NOT CONTINUE THE CYCLE. I never go online and write to any show or anything like that because nothing has moved me... and I don't get much time to watch much television due to my insane busy life. But, in all seriousness, I hope that this gets to you, or someone close to you can explain that I was moved by your revelation about your mother and the "Thanksgiving Turkey", and in turn, had a revelation of my own, and for that I am so thankful to you. I am a person who is a lot like you, and that kind of vulnerability must have KILLED you and must have had Jason's ear talked off at all hours of the night wondering if you showed too much, too little, etc. You did it perfectly, tastefully, and handled it with grace. Jason, you are amazing. You are a very lucky man with great burden to carry with women like us, but Bethenny is better because you are hers, and you are better because she is yours. My husband commends you for letting B be herself, just as much as he lets me be me, and you will NEVER know how much she loves YOU for being the constant in her life. Coming from one "difficult person" with boatloads of baggage, my husband has been my best friend just as you have been to Bethenny. You are her shoulder, and it shows. Your kindness towards her and your understanding is nothing short of heart warming, and it is so beautiful to see two people SO willing to go through the hard times supporting each other. Keep pushing yourself to be Bethenny's best friend and greatest accomplishment. Keep giving her the sense of family that you all so deserve.

Brynn, you have NO CLUE how lucky you are to have "tubbies" with your mommy and daddy and you will NEVER know how much those two people love you. You will always be perfect in their eyes. Your Mommy and Daddy are actually doing an AMAZING job (especially for their FIRST BABY) and you are such a little tiny wonderful little girl. I hope you will look back when you are in your twenties and know that your parents did the best job at loving, supporting, nurturing, and guiding you into a successful life. You are so blessed. Learn from your parents. You mom's drive and your daddy's steadfastness will be a combo that will be so great to learn from. Know that no matter what, they ALWAYS had your best interest at heart, and they would do anything for you. You are so blessed to have the parents that you do. You are one lucky little girl.

Bethenny. What can I say other than I don't envy either of our childhoods, BUT what we can pull away from all of this is that we are stronger, tougher, wittier, and better because we made it out the other side and are determined.Whether it's in business, motherhood, relationships, or life, we are survivors. Never victims. You are perfect in your own right and you deserve all the happiness and success that this world can bring you. Thank you again for putting it all out there. It wasn't weakness, it was the actual raw footage of growth as a person. Keep doing what your doing and know that if nothing else, you are successful, pretty, funny, great, and all the other nice things that you will NEVER tell yourself! So, let me tell you, that you are a genuinely great person, and I felt your pain and it was worth it. Thank you a million times over. If nothing else came from it, know that you at least helped ONE person, raising TWO kids, and loving ONE man... that's 4 people's lives that you affected by a one hour episode of Ever After and that's something to be REALLY proud of.

May your family live long and prosper happily as Hoppy's ;), Ashley Delaney

Me in CT
Me in CT

You make me laugh...you make me cry...you make me crazy with your continuous striving for perfection! The Thanksgiving show was VERY telling...I think you have waaaaay too much on your plate and it's affecting your ability to handle stresses and problems of every day life. While I can understand your wanting T-day dinner to be wonderful and you may have felt embarrassed at what happened, your reaction was over the top. I hate to see someone as lovely, funny, talented and as blessed as you are (Jason, Bryn, Cookie, all your friends) so stressed that you can no longer enjoy the gifts you have. I know all this was tape quite a while ago, so I'm hoping that your schedule is much quieter and calmer now and you're making more time for your family...more time for YOU to enjoy them...you deserve it! :)

Jenny580
Jenny580

Betheny, as an avid "housewives" viewer I've noticed the majority of the (ahem) ladies change as the seasons progress. Ego's go berserk! I truly admire you and so very happy all your dreams are coming true. All your success's have not changed the beautiful, witty, and very loving person you are to everyone, not just those who can further your career, but the way you've embraced Gina and Julie as family members. Jason is absolutely wonderful. I didn't like that bald guy at all (I think from the first season). I love the relationship between you and Jason and love Jason for showing it's ok for a man to be emotional, what a great match and great parents. After 20 yrs as a Psych Counselor, sometimes we can over analyze and forget that we are what we are, just human beings who make mistakes and have emotions. You're more stable than most, so be gentle with yourself. And, please stay just the way you are.

tracy12fingers
tracy12fingers

STOP WASTING YOUR $$$ ON THE SHRINK!!! HE'S A PUTZ!!! (luv ya girl) :)

shweeble
shweeble

Total INTJ/ENTJ. I love it. Do your thing!

Robyn in Vancouver, BC Canada
Robyn in Vancouver, BC Canada

I love your one liners. "because I am a difficult human being". Well said!!! I love it!! Like you (a little older mind you) I am who I am, say what I feel, and I don't pause to think about it before hand...Too stinkin bad cause I plan to never change that. Reality is this, like you, I'm just real and not phony. Wouldn't we be two kookoos for coco puffs, throwing up shat back and forth....hilarious. Take care of yourself and your darling Bryn...be happy my dear you seriously DO deserve it.

Jen Disco
Jen Disco

LOL Gina's voicemail! Hilarious! So great! Made my week. Thanks for sharing it! Great job on the skating, wow, amazing work! Good therapy stuff too this week, I commend you on being so brave to share your work in therapy with your viewers. I think it will encourage more people to go to therapy. There is still some taboo and what not about going to therapy and you help normalize it for the general public. I'm a therapist and have had it myself too. Anyway, love the show!

View4me
View4me

You have golden in-laws. Be thankful for them, you seem resentful. Foster that relationship and let your daughter have that beautiful relationship with her grandparents. She will be so much the better for it. It's not wierd that Jason wants them in his life. Trust him that you are important, he doesn't have to prove it by shoving out his parents. Keep having fun and laughing with your husband.

HousewifeofBellflower
HousewifeofBellflower

Oh my god!!! Bethenny I love u I make my husband to be watch ur show ever Monday. I am going to go get a bottel of ur Skinny Girl Margarita tomorrow can't wait to have a drink all by myself no kid no man. Keep up the good work I hope u get everything u want in life. I will keep on watching to see what comes next. Tell Jason I love him too I always tell my man (why can't u be more like Jason?) I think he really complets u as ur other half.

CLK
CLK

Here is what I love and have tremendous empathy for where you are concerned... you refuse to be a "nothing". The dialogue in your head will tell you that is all you are but you fight to be so much more. We are walking on the same path right now. I'm also in therapy for a broken childhood and trying to deal with being married to a man who is "normal" who comes from a "normal" family and I am the crazy one in the relationship. I watch you struggle with your life, striving for perfection and I just want to grab you, hug you and then make you look me in the eye and tell you what I've learned in my ten year struggle to find "normal". Be so much kinder to yourself than you think you should be. You are survivor. Your family didn't break you, they made you resilient to what is ugly in this world and you will forever try and shield Brynn from that kind of disfunction. You married a man who could walk beside you and love you even when all you see in yourself is flawed and broken. He has chosen you, even when you can't see why. With or without the fame and sucess, Jason clearly loves you. He reminds me so much of my husband. Both are extreme examples of love in it's purest form. They love us inspite of our great efforts to convince them NOT to. You and I could be friends. We seem to be so much alike and have so many shared experiences and while you go through therapy sessions, I hear my own voice sometimes. It's all gonna be okay. The advice I could give.... I so wish someone would have grabbed me ten years ago and told me that I would struggle with the inlaws, the marriage, the career, the new baby, the moving, again and again and again- the INLAWS- all because of the ugly and conditional love in the past. You're amazing and DESERVING. Believe that.

Alice Fortin
Alice Fortin

Love how we've been able to see you blossum over these last couple of years. I think you deserve your happiness now just make sure you take the time to enjoy it !

emmey
emmey

This show makes my week. Bethenny, you are so funny and so much of a control freak that I finally found someone to whom I can relate. Would that I were so young and talented. I had never voted for anything, however, I definitely did vote for you on Skating with the stars. Good grief, I would have been terrified, yet you were and are a class act. Thanks for letting us into your life and your joys and sorrows.

Danielle H
Danielle H

I love your show!!!!! :) your so funny

Richelle McCarey
Richelle McCarey

Bethenny, Watching you is like a breath of fresh air. Your honesty is something I admire so very much. I too have a great deal of my childhood haunting me throughout my adulthood and your courage to put it all out there is just so damn admirable! Please give yourself a break and some kudos for breaking the cycle. I adore you and will always be one of your biggest fans!! And just so Jason doesn't feel left out, he seems amazingly supportive and I just need to tell him WAY TO GO and keep it up. You have a gem in Bethenny, don't ever lose sight of what you have or what she's been through. She is a survivor in every sense of the word.

Rock on Bethenny!!!

rush
rush

I agree she is very strained this year, what happened to our lil Bethany? Her hubby is one in a million, he is so adorable and handsome too. Please Bethany lighten up a little, don't for gods sake lose that man!!! I still adore you but, am worried about you.

Tamyra Golden
Tamyra Golden

Love you Bethenny! Please learn to love your birthday!! I really do not know how many I have left. I have stage 4 cancer and it is in my bones and spine. I will be turning 40 this year on July 17th. You have to enjoy every moment. You have a loving husband and child and friends.

Pacific Northwest
Pacific Northwest

Bethanny, I adore You and your family! And I totally get where Jason is coming from when you asked him about moving to LA and missing his parents. I kind of get the feeling that he DOES have to defend his relationship with his parents. You should be happy that his parents want to spend so much time with your daughter. You and Jason and Bryn are their family!!! Just saying..... xoxo

misse60
misse60

Love..Love...Love... you!! Love your comentment to Jason and your baby.. just love how you handle life.. you are the bomb!!

Beverly Blackburn
Beverly Blackburn

Bethany, Saying I love you isn't quite enough! You are everything a woman would like to be. Of course I also love Jason, Bryne, and your extended family. Please don't change anything! You and Jason have a great love and I thank you for sharing your lives with me. But, just one question: when can I buy "Skinny Girl" in Orange County, California?? I am 71 years old, live alone and your family is the highlight of my week! Love, Beverly

housewife conisure
housewife conisure

Bethenny, You are AWSOME! I absolutley love love love you and your life. You have been blessed and you know it. Bry is so darn cute, she is just georgous. Good luck to you, I love the show. Voted for you on Skating w the Stars.

khristine
khristine

I started to watch your show and I kind of like it and I kind of can relate to you. I am dying to see it tonight with what is going to happen or what you are going to show us your viewers. take care luv ya and god bless!

Viewergloria
Viewergloria

Bethenny: I absolutely love your show.Am glad you left real housewives of nyc. One question-is this gorge ous and dreamy Jason any connec tion to the boyfriend you used to have with three children and you were going to move in with?

Raysa R.
Raysa R.

B . love the show, but sometimes you are way to emotional and combative for me. I wish the show was about Jason only, when you make much to do about nothing. It's a turnoff. Appreciate that you have a good man at your side, and don't push him away as you often do. Know that there is always someone else there ready and willing to pick up the pieces...

Good Luck

AlisaP
AlisaP

Bethenny, I just purchased a bottle of SkinnyGirl and I love it. I am not a drinker, but this is low in calories and taste great. I love your show and your family is awsome! A piece of advice - you have done so much in a short amount of time and so some where you need to sit back and enjoy it. I have two beautiful children who are 23 and 25 and now live there own lives. If I had to do it over again I would, because it flys by before you know it. So, It is great to have all this success, but enjoy what you have, there is always time for more when Bryn goes to college, enjoy your time with Jason & Bryn, breath once in awhile and don't sweat the small stuff - a year from now no one will remember and even it they do that is what family reunions are made of and can laught about. Enjoy life! you deserve it!!!!

Loyal Viewer
Loyal Viewer

Bethany, You and your family are precious. I am very happy for you and you deserve all the wonderful things that have happened in your life over the past year! You are very strong and I know you continue to do great things!!! Not to put a damper on things but I have been watching Housewives of NYC. You made a GREAT choice to go your own way. I saw that Jill mentioned you on an episode while talking to Kelly. Same Jill, same drama and she's doing the same thing to Alex that she did to you. So I'll end on a positive note to say your daughter, PRECIOUS, and your Skinny Girl Margaritas, AMAZING!! Keep up the great work!!! :-)

mary louise
mary louise

I just have to say, like you I had a very dysfunctional childhood and have no contact with my father at this point. But, when I got married and had children it was the absolute best and I loved it, BUT I did drive everyone crazy with wanting everything to be perfect and it took me a deal of self reflecting why I was so wanting everything the way I wanted it. Anyway, just try to give up some of the control and you will be happier and the fam will be more relaxed. Every and then the hubby will put his foot down and tell me to knock it off if I become too bossy! I really love the show and you and Jason crack me up you remind me of my hubby and our relationship except we have been married 20 years and our kids are leaving our home and grown up! By the way, my hubby is a pilot and we are not mile high club members yet. oxoxoxox

Amber<3's Houswives
Amber<3's Houswives

I'm quite sure that if it irritated Bethanny Jason would know about it:/ We know how outspoken she is and she is deffinately not afraid to tell someone if something is annoying her:/ It is ment to be a term of endearment bc they are both first time parents and as you can tell are enjoying it!

Allie bentley
Allie bentley

Love you!!! You are the best thing that has happened to Bravo and margaritas!!:) xo

MommyTC
MommyTC

Hey Bethenny!!! Just wanna say that you are a Fabulous Strong Rockin Woman! & i enjoy watching your show every monday! Bryn is the cutest little girl her smile just steals your heart! I am excited to have my First Skinny girl hopefully soon, the Liquor stores here in PA can't keep getting more fast enough :) YOU GO GIRL!!! Best wishes to you and your Family!!!!

Love the Show
Love the Show

He calls her Mommy and calls himself Daddy when referring to Bryn. It's very endearing I think. They are first time parents and relishing every second of it, and they are both so in love with this precious little girl. I think being Mommy and Daddy is the most important thing to both of them and that's why they do it. I love it when they do it. Also loved Cookie in her sunglasses in the bathtub. Bathies looks like SO much fun.

Viewer7
Viewer7

Bethenny, I love you and Jason and Brynn. What a beautiful family. Your witty and so hilarious, however, learn to curb that tongue when it comes to your man, Jason is a great sport, but sometimes some of the things that you say to him, or about him and his upbringing are hurtful to hear, and I don't even know you, imagine how he must feel seeying the show and hearing you say some of the things you say about him and his folks. I wish you a long and happy marriage and another baby someday to complete your beautiful family. God bless and learn to believe that you are worthy of everything, and that the people you have finally surrounded yourself with really love you, warts and all.

dmaabbey
dmaabbey

Your show makes me smile - your alcohol does too. Thank you.

shermm
shermm

I absolutely adore Bethanny and Jason. Bethanny is one of the funniest people ever and Jason is so handsome and charming.. I hope we still get to watch you guys to your grandparent years.

LA Fan
LA Fan

Hi Betthenny,

What you have done with Skinny Girl is truly amazing and your hard work has paid off, but would it hurt to thank Bravo? Without them giving you a platform, I don't think you would have your brand today. Like you said, a woman in a male dominated industry just doesn't exist - until now.

jen griff
jen griff

OMG Cookie in the bath was the BEST. Loooove you & Jason for including her. So great!!!

jen griff
jen griff

Hey nanaof 5... I work for Raley's Supermarket in Sacramento & we carry Skinny Girl Margarita. YAY!

DietSnappleLady
DietSnappleLady

i totally LOVE that Jason calls Bethenny momma! it's a term of endearment. what nicer thing to be called than momma? Jason is an absolute doll.

stacynola
stacynola

Laughing through cancer diagnosis :) I haven't written to a "star" since probably 4th grade and Andy Gibb but feel compelled to let you know that I am dealing with a recent breast cancer diagnosis with laughter and Skinny Girl Margaritas! :) I live in New Orleans (born and raised) and have told everyone how much I relate to you and your humor and am a walking (ok, sitting on the sofa) advertisement for your fabulous product! I find myself wishing there were more time in each episode as it truly is my favorite way to forget this new "chapter" I'm about to embark on (will start treatment in a few weeks). Thank you for you!!!!! :)

Sue B.
Sue B.

bethenny, remember your inlaws are the people who created the wonderful man you are married to. please be kind to them, they can be your biggest cheer leaders. They will love your baby like no other.

AnneFl
AnneFl

Enjoy your time off..it's well deserved. And BTW..your life is exciting...enjoy the madness..it all goes by so swiftly....enjoy enjoy!