"I love and thank you all so much. You support me, you make me stronger and better and I learn from you every day." ^^^ LIKEWISE girl. thanks for being and sharing with us your multi-talented, multi-dimensional self.
I'm writing this blog while on a two-week vacation in the Caribbean. I haven't used my Blackberry or worked or tweeted or done a single work related thing except this blog. As indicated in this episode, it was time for me to check out, to sleep, to reconnect with myself and my family, and just let go. My book, my business, my show will all survive and can wait. I need to take care of myself for the first time in a while.
This episode had many dimensions. So much was going on. And I rarely say this so hear it: I have taken on way too much, and no is often more important than yes. Gina leaving us was devastating. I don't get close to many people, and we all know that my boundaries get blurred. She cared for my baby when she was a teeny premie, and I will always love her for that. She is part of our family forever. The thought of a stranger caring for Bryn was daunting, so I decided to have my trusted glammy Veronica step in.
Los Angeles was absurd. The breaking and entering happened exactly as you saw it. I never did find out the price of that house, but I'm sure it was out of our price range.
"I love and thank you all so much. You support me, you make me stronger and better and I learn from you every day." ^^^ LIKEWISE girl. thanks for being and sharing with us your multi-talented, multi-dimensional self.
Bethenny, your baby may be one of the most beautiful I have ever seen. Congradulations girl! By th oure way, we would LOVE you in Cali!
Very. Very sad show is winding down....Look forward to your return...To me, best show on Bravo!!! Love, Love, Love it...You, Jason & Beautiful baby girl Bryn...
Bethanny, I think that a way to help rhony, is to allow YOU to cotiniue as the "greek chorus". Your wit and judgement is very missed!!!!
Enjoy your vaca with your darling husband and daughter--you deserve it!! Love love love you and your show. Just bought your book on my ipad and it is SO inspiring--I had to order another one and send it to my bff so we could be inspired together! Keep on being yourself Bethenny we LOVE you!!
Thank you so much for being so real, on reality tv that is hard to find. You inspire me to be my very best and to push myself. While watching the episode where you went to the bottleing plant was so emotional for me to watch. It just goes to show that with a little creativity and perserverance you can do and become anything you desire! Like my husbands boss always say: If you can dream it, you can acheive it. Love your show and love your wit!
I love your show. April 18th's episode (especially the Thanksgiving/Shrink discussion) hit so close to home that I even wanted to ball up in fetal position and cry. :) God is giving you a mulligan... a chance for you to live your life all over. To experience true happiness. God loves you and cares for you and is honestly opening your eyes to a new and beautiful life. It can be difficult to go through those challenges, but it is also so humbiling. Your husband and his family love you deeply and that is something to embrace and, for the first time, understand what true family is about. Jason is your 'teacher' as well - let him show you - let him teach you what family is about. He is your backbone and will not let you fall. :) The two of you have a wonderful new family of your own. You and Jason get to show Bryn what unconditional love is. I hope and pray you are thankful to God for giving you this new life to live...embrace it, experience it and smile. Take time to breathe and not let this time slip by. You understand you want to remember this time, and need to - for you - you're a determined beautiful women!! You'll get it all! I'm so happy for you!! God Bless - SB
Enjoying your show so much! I enjoy your humorand I love the relationship between you and Jason. He's a great guy! And little Bryn is adorable! Soooo sweet! And Cookie too...another love muffin! Keep up the great work...best wishes to you and yours. Kindest regards, Janis & Gerard Moakler
P.S. - I'm searching for your "Skinny Girl" Margaritas...not here yet (in Maine). I'll keep watching for it!
BETHANNY~ I absolutely agree with the comment- pls help makei t easier in sending you/your team our thoughts... WE ARE WITH YOU, ADORE YOU, YOUR AMAZING HUBBY, AND THE ANGEL GOD HAS BLESSED YOU WITH!!!!!!!
CAN'T GET ENOUGH...
We always take to much than we scream about it is a compulsive NEW YORK BEHAVIOR we are known for multitasking. It might be a great idea to move to Malibu, Ca if you could make in NYC you could make it any where--I know.... But is the true. So happy that your Skinny Margarita is selling in 40 state but sad because in North Carolina is the one in the ten list who is not selling it because I cannot find a fine light drink call skinny margarita and boy have I been looking soon people are going to misinterpret my action for trying something new to being an Margaritalunatic maniac. keep it up Bethanny!!!
The best show on Bravo. I can't miss an episode of Ever After! Thank you for letting us into your life, your mind and your heart. Jason and you are absolute perfection, and little Bryn is just a precious delight. You are much loved out here in "fly over" country.
Just an FYI
Lots of us would love to post on the BEA message boards, but it seems to be taken over by a bunch of bullies. We love you, love the show, and wish we could say more on the message boards...but sadly, we all stay away from that mean girls group
Congratulations on another great season and your new venture with your skinny girl drink line. You have inspired me so much by how you have been able to juggle it all and you are amazing at it. You are a mom now so it's going to be way more challenging and you know that already. Get the rest you need and enjoy your wonderful family.
Bethany, will u make it 41 states and bring skinny girl products to North Carolina preferably Charlotte and the surrounding counties......us southern girls love to drink too, and wouldn't mind getting fewer calories while enjoying our drinks. Thanks so much.
Bethenny, what a wonderful inspiration you are to all women, not just those who came from abusive and/or disinterested parents. You are truly under an open Heaven of blessing right now, so SEIZE THE MOMENT! I know you know you are blessed on so many levels right now, and I pray it just gets better and better, you so richly deserve your happiness and prosperity! Thank you for entertaining us, your lightning fast wit is remarkable, your intelligence and ability to quickly size up the situation at hand is inspiring. It is also worth mentioning that you seem loving and compassionate, now more than ever after baby Bryn, (what a doll)! Jason is also a very special gift of love for you, and it is a joy to watch you both appreciate each other's differences and love! How blessed you are to have your soul mate, your beautiful, healthy, happy baby and now to be a multimillionaire, too!!! You must be thinking this is a dream! It is the American dream and you are an American doll!!! Also, Julie the 'coordinator of chaos' is so awesome! It will be exciting to see what you do next! I would say ALL THE BEST TO YOU, BUT, SKINNYGIRL, YOU ALREADY HAVE IT! SO HERE'S WISHING YOU MORE AND MORE AND THE PEACE, JOY AND GOOD HEALTH AND BALANCE TO ENJOY IT ALL!!! WE ALL WIN WHEN ONE OF US DOES!!!!!
Hey Bethany! I think we are twins (not identical) separated at birth! lol You are so much like me, or vice=versa. My humor has gotten me through life. Sometimes it is a little too sarcastic or biting, but once people know me they understand.....I'm joking. I Tivo your show each week. I sit here by myself and laugh my ass off. god you are so funny. What you said to Jason when he was trying on jeans,(regarding his SIZE) had me crying tears of laughter. He is the Bpmb! In all the good ways. Someone was looking out for you when he came into your life. And your little Bryn is just the best. She is a good baby because she has GOOD parents. Keep doing whatever it is you both do. I can easily relate to you on the "parents" issues also. I had an absent Dad most of my like. It was like when he divorced my Mom, he divorced me too. Sadly my I was never good enough for my Mom, my entire life. So when you have talked to your Doctor in the past re- your parents...I totally got it! But with your smarts and your great new family (J& B) you will be fine. I wish you all the best in whatever comes next and if you are ever in Phoenix, Az. and need someone to walk Cookie, I'm your girl.!!!!!! Love Ya, Connie B
Congratulations on the new nanny who has the talent of doing hair as well. Jason cracked me up. At first when in the restaurant he was giving you a hard time about having your nanny do your hair. Then he asks,"does she do mens hair." That was funny. Sometimes you guys aren't even trying to be funny and will have me rolling on the floor. Your baby couldn't be any cuter. When Jason holds her she looks like the ditto of her Dad. That might change. She might start taking on more of your beautiful features. Hopefully your sense of humor and Jasons teeth. Don't get me wrong, you have a nice set of pearls. Jasons smile had to be one of the first thing you noticed. He has a nice smile.
I have NEVER in my life taken the time to post a comment about anything but as a former East Coaster and New Yorker, LIVING in Malibu with a toddler, married to a PA boy from a similar town, and working our ASSES off...I couldn't help but identify with the episode tonight. And EVERYTHING you talked about is exactly why we live here (MUCH to the horror of our family back East). I would be in a mental institution if I didn't come "home" here every night. I noticed you rented a house right on PCH though. We originally lived on the PCH and moved because it was too loud and DANGEROUS, so many places FAR more magical, safe, and stress free. Then again, you are coming from the "jungle" so baby steps I guess. ;) Happy to give you the inside 411 if you have any interest. (btw- Beverly Hills BLOWS..DON'T DO IT)
I don't ever writ on these things but I want you to know you are so inspiring! You make me want to strive to be a better mother and wife! You are an amazing woman and I look up to you! You take on so much and still manage to be the best mother Bryn could ask for and the best wife Jason could have! Thank you for always inspiring woman to be the best they can be and to always follow their dreams!
I am an active duty Army spouse..and the only TV I ever get to watch between my two year old ( watching DORA ) and my husband (soon to be deployed) playing video games! You seriously just make my night time TV watching enjoyable, which is the only time I get to myself. I just wanted to say thank you and when the Skinny Girl Margarita comes to NC at the Fort Bragg post I will def. buy it! I'm a big fan of patron/margrita mix so having a less calorie margarita will help my dilema of loosing ten pounds anyways! Thank you for being awesome and please stay on the AIR! My husband will be deployed for more then a year in a few short months and will def. need a show like yours to keep me sane! Much Love Forever
totally agree. Finally there is someone who is real, on a reality tv show. But I hate to tell you, after tonights episode, I do believe cookie has stolen the spotlight.:) I loved watching cookie run like a maniac on the beach you would have thought she was a year old again. I love cookie! Thank you for being real, for making us laugh, cry, dance and yes...watch tv show's like skating with the stars:) Thank you for not having Jill on the show ..and more importantly thank you for being you, for being real, and letting the rest of us know that we are not alone. Take care of your baby, your husband, cookie and you!
The most real girl I've seen on tv!!!! Yes, you're crazy, but we all are a little crazy!!! I love drinking a skinny girl margarita (well a bottle) while watching your show!! So glad your drink finally came to Des Moines, Iowa! Hell yeah!In a second life, you should have been a comedian or a bartender!!!Although, the money you make, well..., think you made the right choice! Love watching your show along with my fiance, he's a Jason too, that needed new jeans ! ha, and a reformed cheap man! Wishing your family love!!!
I just want to thank you for being so open and honest with your life. For those of us who identify with major disfunction in their childhood and "losing it" from time to time in really big ways, I really appreciate that you have the courage to allow America, and me the opportunity to see you work through challenges. While everyone else in reality TV is trying to showcase how fabulous they are, you give us the truth, the good, the bad and sometimes the ugly. It is refreshing and truly reality.
Bethenney, I really hope that you and your family are having a great time on your vacation! Hope you get some much-needed rest! I thought you did great in your ice routine, and don't even worry about that third nasty-judge...he's a jerk.
You're awesome and I can't wait for the new episode tonight!
Bethany and Jason together are the CUTEST thing since Teddy Bears! I melt everytime he calls her "Mama". So sweet it's almost sickening, but I keep watching anyway.I hope when my baby comes my hubby calls me "Mama" too, I just love it. Bravo did good with this one.
I absoloutely love you, your family, and the show. You make my week. I did watch you skate and voted for you as well. I believe you didn't win because of that comment you made about not caring what the judges thought. They took it out of context and didn't hear the whole comment. Oh well, as long as you had fun. Bryn is absoloutely beautiful and I'm so happy for you and your success. I thought you might like to know that I can't find Skinny Girl Margaritas in Maine so I guess I'm not part of the forty states. Also, I agree. Jason was wrong about wanting to invite his friends over yours to YOUR birthday party. You shouldn't have had to drop any invites. Made no sense to me that his friends being invited was more important then your friends being there. It was insensitive. I'm sure you won't complain about having your friends at his. I was thinking. If you do move to CA you can become a Beverly Hills housewife. I still wonder if Alex was making a point to be so freindly to you before you heard about getting this show or after. hmmmm.
Betheny, love the show, you and Jason are perfect for each other! The best part of the show is the interaction and love between the two of you.
I LOVE you. Every week I watch this show, and EVERY week I cry. You move me. I am a SAHM of 5 kids, and I've always had this fantasy of living in New York, a single successful business woman, and here you were, that girl. To see you now have a family, brings me to tears because you are doing it all. I really wish there was a way you could patch things up with your family. I went through some really hard times with my divorced parents and now I love them both and have a great relationship with them, though it took a LOT of work on my part, I just wish you could have that too, and heal. But I am so glad you have Jason and that beautiful baby! GOD bless you all =) Jackie
Bethany, today I spent the entire day watching your show. I know that the producers choose portions of the taping of the show they know the public would watch, but I can also see that a bit of your relationship with Jason. he is the man that you have always been looking for, perhaps the man every woman has been looking for. however it seems like he does not have a mouth piece of his own and he can barely get any of his inner feelings out (completely) because you are always over (talk) him. marriage is about compromise everyday, every hour, minutes and second your life ( on both sides). Jason seems to understand that. compromise is about doing things for your partner even when it is not your most favorite things to do. I love your honesty. you are real, bit there has got to be some things that you reprocess before you say to your husband. it is dangerous ground Dear..... you might lose him. he might get tired of it. you guys are such a great couple. Jason .... keep loving her more everyday... she is the best wife you could ever ask for... a "Diamond fragile vase" she is. ( this is just my opinion) love you guys
Food for thought...
Just a suggestion, regarding the demons from your past that you constantly deal with. If you want to know a bit more about your parents and step father the best thing to do is get intouch with family members that have known them intimately, you just may get a different vversion of what you have experinced with them especially you mother. I had a very violent relationship with my own mother and I am an only child as well. Her love for me was none existing or conditional love. she was very verbally abusive condisending and no mater what I did or did for her was never enough or appreciated. I had to take care of her with cancer for seven years without hearing words from her like, thank you for all that you are doing for me Jackie you are such a good daughter Jackie. She was vain, selfish and jealous of the love that my father had for me. When she finally passed away, I made my peace with her at the grave and fogave her in order to move on with my life. If I did not I too would have turned out just like her a bitter, resentful and angry person.
I hope you try my suggestion as you are blocking alsot of memories about your parents especially you mother out ot avoidance. Despite all that you have acheived so much in your life financially, Bryn and Jason. Jason reminds me of my father a pasif, patient and loving man. Please don't do anything to ruin what you have with him despite that you are the Alpha male in that relationship.
I wish you love, great health and peace of spirit within yourself my dear.
all my best for your continued sucess,
never written one of these things b4.. but i totally understand the things you do, and the way u handle things.. i love it, you make me feel normal and someone else out there deals with things the way i deal w/ them and how it makes me feel.. ur not crazy ur awesome and ur soo freaking funny.. love it.. and ur baby is soo sweet.. congrats
Luv you to pieces, but have a bone to pick.... WHY, did we not get to check out Jason in his new jeans!!!!!!!!! I feel so cheated!!!! LOL
Luv it all and want lots more!
sashasmom in York PA
I've never written on one of these before.. But it's crazy to think that a show like this can motivate, inspire and touch someone so much.. but I swear your show is THAT amazing. I just can't get enough of it. You are so open and real and it makes me wanna be more like that. You are proof that the things you dream of having are never out of reach.
Crazy, right? That a simple TV show about one woman's hectic life can move so many viewers. I hope to see more of you and your family, and thanks for having the balls to lay it all out there for the world to see and judge... It's been a trip. :) I wish you tons of future success and happiness.
You are so REAL. I love that about the show. Even on the Housewives you were the only one I could truly respect because of you're honesty and openness. You honestly inspire me to be more like that. You can't find shows anymore that make you laugh, cry and THINK all at the same time. It's so amazing that you are willing to share your life with the world and just say "hey, it's out there.. this is me, take it or leave it. love it or hate it" and the fact that you don't give a shit about what people think of you makes people love you even more. We all wish we could care less about what people think of us. It's harder that it sounds though. Anyways, this was my little rant about how much I love your show.. my roommate makes fun of me constantly because I have to watch it every week. OH WELL. you deserve to be praised for this show.. It takes a lot of balls to lay it all out like you do, and i applaud you. Keep making us laugh.. Every little bit helps. :)
Not to sound like a nut job or anything, but I wanted to say that your show is helping through a difficult time. I am 35 weeks pregnant with my first child a girl, and I have no relationship with my family at all. My mother is not a great person and because of me not wanting a relationship with her it snowballed into all of my family and friends. On the other hand I am lucky to have a great husband with a family I think of as my own. We have been married for five years and I wanted a baby so baddly, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant it only made the bad feelings I had about my family worse. I really thought I was the only one nobody except my husband comes close to understanding how I feel. After watching you with your amazing baby girl those feelings are subsiding knowing that I'm going to have my own family now and thats all that matters. Thank you for sharing your life with the world it is making more of an impact than you know.
Bethenny I agree, your dr. is spot on. From your meetings with him on your show, you have given me the strength to tell my distant father how I feel. He has always been so judgmental and tough and I have always felt I was never what he expected as a child and now an adult person. I am the only child. Dad and I hit a rough patch of him always not following through on things he says to his grand kids. I called him on it and he basically did a pout and only he can be right. So watching and listening to your sessions made me much stronger to tell my Father how I have felt all these years. I had 30 years of build up that needed to be said. Thank you Bethenny for being part of the courage given to me to do this. Much love to you and your family. ♥
Bethenny - I am such a fan of yours. I am alot older than you - could be your Mom, but I love your spirit and the way you live your life (to the fullest)!! Jason is wonderful and the baby is just georgous! I loved Gina too, I wish she could stay with you and be Bryn's nanny forever. I said a prayer for her health and I hope you will mention her on the show so we know how she is. Jason's Mom and Dad are like my husband and I - we have two grown sons and I never want to lose them. They are wonderful. Learning to be a family is not an easy thing, I know (I am an only child too). In fact, you reminded me of me when I first came into my husband's family. Whoo! Not easy. Anyhow, just wanted to tell you also that Skinnygirl Margarita is soo hard to get - I live in Pennsylvania and it is supposed to be available here - but couldn't get it. My son who lives in Brooklyn got it for me and brought it down. It was sold out in Manhattan. Keep up the good work!!
I am proud of you for taking some time off. Forget about the world, and yes TV can wait.
Take this time to really take in all your accomplishments and blessings - and to ENJOY those around you who support you so much and give you so much love.
I admire your strength, vulnerability and compassion. You and Jason are perfect for each other and it's beautiful to see how the both of you find a way to make things work amidst your differences - believe me I am learning a lot from it.
I am rooting for you and sending you all the best wishes in the world! =pecocita
Just love you and your family. The therapist moment when you realized you were behaving like your mother was priceless. I remember a light bulb moment for me in therapy when we were discussing my mothers narcissism and I looked at my therapist and said: Oh, sh-t, if she was narcissist than so am I. Therapist said Bingo and we laughed. The more you try to not be like your mother, the more you are like her. Resistance is Persistence. Just take the parts you like of your mother and let the others go. Your show is so real, thanks for that. Good job on getting away from hw shows. They have become women being nasty to woman. Only watch you and top chef. :)
An American dream come true, congratulations. Now you have enough money to stay in the area, breathe a little and not worry about moving to California for work opportunities. It looks like your opportunities were your original ideas. Your baby is so darn cute I can't take my eyes off her. And so happy!! I think she's happy because she's so loved by so many people, especially Grandma and Grandpa. Let them love her. She'll cherish her relationship with them her whole life.
Bethenny, A few words of wisdom from someone who has "issues" like you and was scarred by family, but I am 20 years further down the road. Therapy will not automatically heal you but you will understand with time the why and your wonderful therapist will give you the tools to cope. As you go through the next years, your primary family issues will fade and the extended family and friends you chose (as opposed to the family you did not chose) to create will be your support. Like many who have issues, we are strong like bulls, but we are bulls made out of glass, fragile, easily broken. Both can and need to co-exist within you. And your new family will help you along your life's path. Have another child! I had one at your age and wish I had a second one as my daughter would have loved a sibling and our family would have been more complete. As you know, Jason and his family are your rocks, I would have loved to have had a wonderful mil, but mine was mentally ill and my mother had an early stroke so my daughter had no grammy to cherish her. Your success is so admirable, your beauty is breathtaking and your mothering skills are proof that you have begun to overcome the hand that was dealt you. I appreciate you letting us into your life, warts and all as it shows how human we all are and how much we all have to overcome. I have had several meltdowns and they are terrifying but I feel it is the anger, fear and rage finally coming out. I find myself at age 60 happy, content and glad and I remember the terrible place I was in before I met my wonderful husband and had my child. I am grateful for the best 20 years of my life. Good luck to you and your lovely family.
You are amazing!
You're not crazy... I have had similar issues with my boyfriend's family. I finally got them to be okay with having him for myself on Christmas Eve and he will be over there bright and early Christmas Day. His family comes with at least 20 people at all times... it is opposite from what I'm used to since I spend holidays with my mom. People with large families don't get it and think everyone should want the same thing. It is okay for it to only be you, Jason, Bryn and Cookie for some holidays.
I wish you all the best and hope that your show continues.
Sweet and wonderful Bethenny....please don't be like me! I've always over-reacted to everything like undercooked turkeys, and I've ended up ruining the event for everyone. I know it's hard to control our feelings and reactions, but for the sake of your precious daughter you have to learn to chill out and relax about things more. You don't want her to grow up being uptight and worried all the time.
I agree with those who have advised you not to move so far away from Jason's folks. You and Jason and your baby are their lives. Family is more important than anything. Why not move out of the city into a community with homes with yards?
Don't you love the way we feel free to tell you what to do with your life? lol
So glad and thankful that Gina is okay. Take care. God bless you and your little family. Love, Patty
Thank you for your courage by showing parts of your therapy. You will help many others by doing so. As for the Housewives of NY - it is boring without you; plus, there is no wit nor heart.
@lizbetz, Loved your letter. You and I were on the same page. I havent lost a child. But I have had the insight into what it must feel like. I too feel Bethenny and Jason were meant to be. Not only Jason and Bethenny. But his parents as well. They've come full circle with little Bryn in the middle of the circle . I feel Bethenny is very kind and compassionate to her in laws. She name her child after their son who died.I hope and pray when and if they move to California. The grandparents make the move too. Southern Calif weather is divine. No more digging snow. We Californians take the year round warm weather for granted. I bet they wouldn't. They'd love it here.Bryn would love it here! Dont forget about Disneyland "the happiest place on earth."
BTW, I just bought a bottle of Skinny Girl at a local liqueur store in Livermore, Ca. The owner said he just started carrying it and it was selling like hotcakes.