As for moving to Cali, I have some business opportunities on both coasts so we need to weigh our options. I do love both places but I'm loyal to my New York. I also am sensitive to Jason's family, and it would be hard for Jason to move across the country.
Ice-skating was intense. No matter what I said, I ended up being terrified and traumatized. What in God's name was I thinking?
I love my skating partner so much. What a great guy. He was my ice husband. No matter what, I loved our routine even though I was sweating my balls off from fear. Those judges were brutal, and there was a third judge who was even nastier. Then came Thanksgiving. That shrink of mine is no dummy. He really makes me dig deep, and I am better for it.
Jake was right. I have everything to be thankful for, except maybe the fact that I am totally nuts. Just know this: it's harder to be me than to deal with me.
I love and thank you all so much. You support me, you make me stronger and better and I learn from you every day.
Bethany is a nut, i a good way. A woman after my own heart; hard working, tell it like it is no matter what. And let's not forget Jason, god bless Jason for putting with her!! I mean that with love. I laugh, I cry, but laugh more when watching her. Truley enjoy wathching their show and sharing their nutness with us.
Please oh please oh please tell us where to get the layered diamond-looking necklace you wear in the interview and your skinnygirl branded clothes!
Love, love ,love your show. I really feel you and I have alot in common when it come to our families and the past. You are a great strong woman and i love you for that. Be Strong and feel blessed in who you are and the beautiful family you have. one last thing. Bought my first bottle of Skinny Girl Margarita. Any suggestions on a good way to serve it. Many blessings to you and your family. Ellen
Dear Bethenny, Your words today are clear and centered - the rest is doing you well, or Jason did a good job impersonating you!! I discovered you while watching Bravo, and find you to be an inspiration and motivator. Thank you for sharing all of your vulnerabilities with the world - you are a love and have a beautiful soul. Peace to you and your family. I love your raunchy - strong- biting- quick- wit - you make us laugh and in a bizarre way, makes you endearing to us!
Bethenny, I am so in love with your honesty and putting all your emotions out there. Any one who has survived a dysfunctional child hoold grows up with scars. I actually prefer to call them cuts that have scabbed over and on some days it's an open wound. When I say survive I use the term loosely because in order to survive you put up walls to protect yourself. You are an amazing mother, and wife, all your hard work and digging deep into your wounds is so inspiring ...keep doing what you do, and being who you are...AMAZING!! I consider myself a constant work in progress, the adversity and difficulties have truly made me who and what I am today, I have my hang ups and watching you I sit back and say...I GET HER...I understand and I love it!!
You Rock Hoppy Family...Good luck Gina...that baby is adorable...you are all great care givers to her. I love your father in law what a hoot!
Bethanny, I absolutely love you. I have been a fans since RHof NY. You are so real and honest. I find Jason very funny. He has a great sense of humor, but at the same time a tender heart. Bryn is so cute, such a beautiful girl. My heart just melts when they catch a smile on camera. The times we see her she is so content and happy, a testament to you guys as parents. Happiness Allways!
Hang in there Bethenny. Take the time you need to get some much needed rest and to reconnect with what's important. Wherever you end up living you guys will figure out the family stuff. I do think it's unrealistic for Jason to think you can visit his parents' home once a month if you move to California. Maybe they can get a vacation home near you and come out a few times a year. And there's always Skype to keep them in touch in between visits. That's what families do. Enjoy your vacation and get back to your happy place.
I felt your pain at Thanksgiving. My 1st Thanksgiving dinner for my parents and in-laws was also a disaster. I bought the dressing and it had soured. I opened cans for vegetables and my pecan pie, I made, didn't set. I was so embarrassed. That was 48 years ago and I remember it like yesterday. I still get uptight doing holidays....my kids say the meal is not ready until the bread is burned. We all want to give our best to our family and friends.....we all fall short. Thank goodness they love us anyway. I think your sharing the fiasco was more heartening to those new brides and old hens than you will ever know. Prayers go out for Gina!!!
Love you, love your show, but most of all I love your honesty and that we can all tell your not acting! Be true and stay you!
Bethenny,the goodbye with Gina was hard for us to watch to. My daughter said she cried when Jason did. I guess we the viewers feel so vested in your lives. You really do seem to have the world by the tail, but you can't be all things to all people all the time. It's taken me years to learn that lesson and sure hope it gets easier for you. Love, Love, Love the show and can't wait till next week!!!!!!
I Love evey one of you ,Bethany and I certainly have a lot of past issues in common,that said, I am not one to dwell it's Icky!! You are so blessed to have Jason and Bryn and all the great people around you . I wish you the ability to feel the love that surrounds you, even with your show the popularity is not morbid curiousity.It is the rallying around the little girl who pulled herelf up by her bootstraps and said watch out world here I come!! Much love and good wishes with the rest of your dreams. Faith
Wow - the thanksgiving show was very uncomfortable to watch. I would be mortified if my in-laws were that uncomfortable around me - Jason's parents were so nervous that you were about to explode at any moment and wow - you did! Work on it!
Love you! Love Jason! Love Love Love Bryn! Love your show! And the reason is because you are all so relatable. Bethenny, you make us laugh, you make us cry, and sometimes you make us cringe, but that is life. You are way too hard on yourself. Glad you're getting a little time away for yourself and your family.
On a personal note, when you said you believe in "things done perfectly", it struck a chord with me. I'm the same way! I'm slowly having to work at not having things so perfect because as a Mom, I've noticed that my kids feel it. Kids are the most imperfect perfect things on the planet and they can and do sense and feel "less than" when they have perfectionist Moms like us. I applaud you for working through this publicly and allowing us to see your transformation.
Keep smiling! And speaking of smiles, Bryn has a smile that lights up her whole face! Just want to squeeze that girl!!!
Bethenny, you're not normal unless you're missing a few screws. I aboslutely love you and your family, and so glad you share it with the world. You are a role model to many girls/women!! Congrats on all your success and wishing you eternal happiness! I wish I could be just like you!
I can relate to your whole life. I take on way too much too. Love your therapist. PICK AND CHOOSE WISELY, Bethenny. You have a great support network around you so I'd hate to see you start all over in Cali.
I totally relate! We are alike in many ways in the way you interact with those around you! I have also had a troubled childhood and my share of unhealthy relationships. A few years of therapy helped me find myself and helped save my relationship. I'm now happily married to a wonderful man who is a loving father to my 15 year old daughter and our 5 month old son. Thank God you are finally taking care of you and your family! Getting through lifes challenges is a process and a never ending learning experience! Thanks for helping me jump start my exercise regimen with your workout video and for the great recipes in Skinny girl Dish. Hope to run into you sometime if you are ever out in Orange County, California. Congratulations on all of your success!
Bethany, Don't be so hard on yourself. You have "Come A Long Way Baby" & you are doing the best you can. I love your show as does my daughter. We talk about it after episode. We laugh and cry cause we both can relate to you in so many ways. I too come from a very dysfunctional family and always tried to make things perfect. You can't and in the long run it doesn't mater. All that maters is that you are happy, healthy and a great mother and wife and Bethany you are all those things and more.
So, I have discovered a thing or two. Super smart people have a level of crazy that no one else can understand. I am that way, I have a couple of friends who are that way, and you are that way as well. You are an overachiever and a control freak and all of that is okay. I admire you in more ways than one and God bless Jason for being mellow and calm in the midst of all of that. Hopefully, one day, I'll be able to find the person that deal with all of me too
I really identified with where you were in this episode. A lot of hard work I've put into various areas of my life is really paying off right now - but all at once. It's rewarding but exhausting at the same time to keep everything going. Especially when you're a perfectionist :)
When you were talking about having to stop yourself from throwing the turkey out the window I have totally done that when something didn't turn out in the kitchen like I wanted. Several times. The last time, I threw a whole ball of bread dough on the floor because it wasn't rising correctly. And cursed it out until my dog ate it. And a few weeks before that I had dumped a just out of the oven batch of biscuits straight into the trash because they weren't just right.
There's nothing wrong with being type a...but we have to learn to achieve not only our personal and professional goals, but also a healthy balance between them
You may be a little neurotic but who isn't? You did take on too much but you acknowledge it so that's a good thing! Enjoy your baby as much as possible (they're not kidding when they say they grow up way too fast) I think we all learn a little bit of ourselves as well when we watch your show, I personally LOVE it and don't miss it for ANYTHING! I will be very sad when you decide to carry on with a normal (no cameras in your house) kind of life but like all your fans will continue to support you throughout all of your endeavors! Best wishes for you & your family and quit beating yourself up on being such a perfectionist...you are GREAT in all you do, we LOVE you!! xoxo
Bethenny I absolutely LOVE YOU and ur family you prove to young girls that u can do anything you set ur mind too but ur a little off the mark when it comes to Jasons relationship with his family especially since the lost a son i think u need to liten up on the snappin at JASON FOR WANTING TO SPEND TIME WITH THEM WITH BRYN not saying u don't love them we all no how ur mother IS well at least we no from what u say now im getting off subject so my sugeestion to u if Jason wants to take Bryn to his parents for the weekend let him take her trust me ( i have a 18 yr old and 7 yr old daughters) U WILL ENJOY THE PEACE AND QUIET AND GETTING TO SLEEP IN Jason is a great man and he seems like a wonderful father take A DEEP BREATH AND LET IT GO '...................
Sounds like WE ARE ALL craz !!!! Bethenny... you just show yours to the public.... So rest assure you are not the only one... if it's any consulation
You are such an inspiration to everyone thank you so much for that. I look forward to your show every week and have never laughed out loud so much, god bless you and your beautiful family!
LOLing at the no Weir sighting. Well played, Mrs. Hoppy. Well played I get to vent now because it is a solid after seeing the sweet edit job. I'm sure you have been told a zillion times by now, but I have to say it too. You and your ice husband were robbed by the no other priss. I watched and was so elated with your mad skillz. I mean, Bryn could have called it for what it really was as to why you had low scores. It's judging competition not go by what other people tell you to do. Duh. It was personal and he of all people knows better when it comes to ice competition. shame shame. I have a feeling I know what Gina was "really" bleeping about. ;o) It really infurated me that he wasn't called out for misjudging because hes on Team Horn. Not cool. I'm not going to rant anymore about it. Who wants to read crappy drivel while on a nice vaca? \_/...cheers!
Love the show. I followed you from real Housewives New York. I liked you then and even more now. I like this Jason better..
Bethenny I love you!! I am a Memaw in Texas and watch your show faithfully. You were my favorite on the first show and I was tickled pink to see you on your own show. You have it all now, a wonderful, loving husband, a beautiful little girl and a great career. Now it is all about compromise and priorities. Jason and Bryn should be number one and career second now. You can put good people in place to oversee your businesses so that YOU can ENJOY your family. Moving to California? Compromise. Move out of the city into a community where you can have the house and the yard for Bryn and Cookie, but still be close enough to NY that you can drive in when you need to. That way you are happy, Jason and Bryn and Cookie are extra happy and you are still close to Jason's family. And you can de-stress. I have a relationship with my mother like you have with yours. I am 51 and I decided in the past year that I am tired of trying to get her to love me. I have closed that door, locked it and moved on because I have a wonderful husband, kids and 8 grandkids and friends who love me the way I am. Close the door and lock it Bethenny, sometimes people are just evil. Read Dr. Laura's book "Surviving Shark Attacks on Land". I just lost my Daddy to cancer on March 7th. I was with him for the last month and half and the day he passed away. My mother was making my life a living hell even though she was not the one sleeping on a cot beside his bed and taking care of him. She proclaimed me a bitch and so on. That is the way it has been my entire life. Nothing was ever good enough for her in anything I achieved or did. So CLOSE THAT DOOR Bethenny. Be happy and feel the love and sense of family that Jason and his family bring to you. We are not perfect, no one is nor will they ever be. Let the turkey thing go. Let the perfectionism go. Just be Bethenny and be happy!! Love ya!!!!
I totally relate to you and your interactions with those around you. I had a troubled childhood and a slew of unhealthy relationships. A few years of therapy saved not only me but my realtionship with my then boyfriend, current husband. He's the most wonderful husband to me and father to my 15 year old daughter and our 5 1/2 month old son. I'm glad you finally see the light about taking time off to care for you and your family..that's exactly what I did (I'm a doctor who is taking time off from work to raise my son). You see I truly missed out on my 15 year olds childhood because I went back to school. I can't go back and make her little again. I'm not missing out on my little boys milestones, that's for sure! Thank you for helping me jump start my exercise regimen post baby and for the recipes in Skinny Girl Dish. Hope to run into you sometime if you are ever in Orange County, California( there are beautiful beaches here too)! Congratulations on all of your success!
I love Bethenny! She's so crazy and real. I love how going to her therapist she realizes oh wow I'm doing exactly what I didnt want to do. I've been thru similar experiences. We're ALL a little nuts so your not alone Bethenny. You do have a huge heart and mean well so keep up the hard work!
I feel ya, Bethenny...and I love your show. I also grew up in a home where you never knew when things would spiral out of control and the holidays were a rollercoaster ride. I got control of my emotions when I had my own kids because I didn't want them to live like that...and you will too...because you love your people and you want to do whatever you have to do to make it right. My favorite part was Cookie hiding under the bed...and Jake...what a guy.
Bethenny, I love your show. I think it's touching that you let America in on everything in your life: the good and the bad. I hope that you continue to use therapy as a tool to come to terms with your past. As a student in school to become a psychologist, I love seeing your therapy sessions on camera. I hope that you realize what a great assistant Julie is, as well--her job seems stressful but she handles it with grace!
Bethenny, you are truly an inspiration! Although my story is different than yours, your struggles are my struggles. I have issues with both of my parents and try to be nothing like them. In the process, I often burn myself out or feel lost. I have an amazing fiancée who is loving and supportive. I feel we have a very healthy relationship, but I still have baggage from my parents. Watching your show, listening to what you say, your therapy sessions, how you interact with everyone, your struggles, they help me more than you can imagine and I appreciate that you have put it out there like you do. I feel like there are things we feel are "ugly" and we try so hard to hide it and it is exhausting! While watching your show, I often find myself saying "Me too. Thank God I'm not alone!"
So thank you for everything! Enjoy your vacation and the time with your family. Just keep in mind that you are helping others look at themselves and take an inventory of their lives. You are such a brave and inspirational person! Love you lots!
I love your comment: "kids are the most imperfect perfect things on the planet" - very well said! :)
I just love that Jason. How cute is he and so supportive! I know that you know how lucky you are to have him in your live and in Bryn's life.
OMG! I think you are awesome! I will agree with your fans, when I say you are too hard on yourself! It is good to sometimes say "no". I look forward to watching your show every week. I think you are brave to take on all that you do. I am sure that alot of us WISH, we could do the same. You are such a positive female role model. You and your husband are so lucky to have each other. You are not nuts! Could you simmer down, yes. The good thing is that you deal with your issues, and you do see that you can chill little. The issues you have withyour mom (parents) well,,,you will always have them as long as you deal with how it affects you today, you will continue to be a good woman, wife, friend and most all great mother. Your daughter is so lucky to have a mom like you!!!! I am so glad you put your life on T.V. b/c I am really tired off all the B.S. thats on T.V. these days. Your show is the one show I don't mind my daughter sitting and watching with me. I know she is getting a good example on what a woman can be today. THANK YOU,THANK YOU, THANK YOU, Bethenny! I hope you are having a great vacation!
Bethenny, your show is the best show on Bravo. I laugh, cry and laugh with you and the show. I am so thrilled that you are a success and after each episode I say out loud "way to go Bethenny you are a successful wonderful person." I love your entire family and cried along with you when Gina left. Please come back for season 3.
Oh my, I saw myself watching the Thanksgiving break down. I do the same things, but for different reasons. I am a Pastry Chef and am very hard on myself. If things aren't going well in my kitchen I freak also. It depends on the stress of the day or the time crunch I am in. But, I have been known to have icing on my celling, pink, after thinking I could bake a 1st birthday cake for my niece just days before my wedding. I freaked out and thank God my husband is also a Chef and Pastry Chef because he sent me to bed and he finished the cake.
But, I am so happy you are on vacation with your family, much needed break. I love your show and am so thankful you continue to share your life with us.
Why do I think of a young Sigorney Weaver when I see this blog picture of B.... Does anyone else think that? I mean she is gorgeous.
All of us have skeletons in our closet. Yours are just out there for all of us to see. I admire that fact you are trying to deal positively with your past. I so enjoy the show and watching the dynamics between you, Jason and your extended family. Brynn is so lucky to have both of you as her parents.
Betthany, they only sequence you did not write about was the dinner with your husband. I believe you really owe him an apology for how you treated him. You always say that you tell it like it is. Then why can't Jayson. He came acrossed very belittled. He is a great husband and father. I would hate to see him leave that role. Every episode we see you "cracking". I loved the "old" Betthany, not this one. You despartly needed this vacation. Please come back as the "old" Betthany. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful. Don't let her grow up in "that kind of family life. Don't let history repeat itself. Love you, Jayson, Bryn, Coco and Gina, be good to each other. I know Gina is gone, but I included her, she is a wonderful nannie.
Bethenny, I love your shrink, I get soo much out of your sessions. I totally relate to almost everything in your life though on a much smaller scale. The mother thing we share and I have not spoken to mine in 3 years, she has never seen my son (who is 2 months older than Bryn) your description of your Thanksgiving is exactly how I would describe mine and I cringe when I think I have a trait in anyway like her...but I do and I like things done perfectly too at least when I am doing them (or I don't do them). I also had a rough 40th. I can relate to being the "crazy one" but also think thing thing that makes you or me or anyone a little nuts'o is the very thing that makes you unique and brillant at what you do! A diamond is still a diamond even if it has a little dirt on it...shine on!!!
I just adore you, Bethanny! I sooooo wish I could adopt you! As much love as you have around you with Jason, Bryn and Cookie, it just always reminds me how important a mother's love truly is! I feel your pain in wanting everyTHING to be perfect...but I guess in real life nothing is every truly perfect...and it's hard to accept. I wish for you a "mother figure"...someone in your life who can scoop you up in a hug and make you feel a mother's love! I'm available! I need a daughter as much as you need a mother! Hugs, hugs, hugs!
I WAS JUST CURIOUS WHERE BETHENNY BUYS ALL THE GREAT TANK TOPS? I HAVE EVEN BEEN WATCHING OLD 'RHWNYC' EPISODES AND IT IS EITHER THE WAY THEY FIT HER BODY OR ITS THE TANK TOPS THEMSELVES... BUT ALL COLORS AND FABRICS I HAVE SEEN HER WEAR, I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO FIND NICE ONES ANYWHERE... I HAVE TRIED, YUMMIE TUMMIE, J.CREW, ABERCROMBIE, TARGET, VICTORIAS SECRET... WHERE DOES SHE BUY THEM?
Bethany, you are as real as they get. Watching your show is like being right there with you. I cried about Gina and I know you will always be family to her. As to you showing some of your sessions with the Doctor, I commend you. Loved the breaking in part.
You are and will be okay, just not every minute. I know people have told you, " You're a strong woman!" and you are, but you are human and you have feelings and needs just like anyone else. So enjoy your time with your family and breathe! You and Jason need this time.
I'm so glad you're taking a vacation, you really need to start slowing down a bit and taking care of yourself. I get out of breath just watching the show,, but you have so much love around you and,, you make me laugh so much, which I need. I can also feel your pain when you talk about your past, but now you have Jason and Bryn and Jason's parents to get you through the present and future,, start enjoying the simple things in life and catch your breath - you're an amazing woman!!
Love that BEA edited out that will-remain-nameless lousy third judge. He did everything for attention so good that you're not giving him any!
Oh Bethenny, there was so much to relate in this episode. When it began with you meeting with your psychiatrist (and the interspersing of your telling of this tale throughout the flashbacks was brilliant, by they way) it was like, "uh oh..." lol...let's just say the holidays don't typically bring out the best in people ;) There was sooo much to relate to in this episode. A woman with way too much on her plate. Check. Rampant perfectionism. Check. Holidays digging up old stressors that we then unconciously play out to wreak havoc on the so-called "happy" holiday. Check. You really are every woman. That was like a collective psychology session for all of the uber achieving working moms out there. In a nutshell: we ARE crazy...crazy for trying to do way too much. I guess we're all learning, and usually the hard way... not just you, all of us. So take it easy on yourself :) I have two other things to say....love your father-in-law - such a sweet man and I loved how he and Jason quietly went to work to save the turkey :) My heart did go out to Julie though. Ya see, I am a legal assistant and I have been on the receiving end of about a million of those unjustified beatings for something I didn't do and I am not sure a simple sorry covers it. Just a warning...it becomes cumulative. I am sure you gave Julie a huge hug off camera and truly apologized...particularly after having it documented on film. Give her another one when you return from vacay ;) As always, thanks for making the rest of us realize that our lives are not in fact crazy...just another "normal" day in the lives of working women in America and this might just be the first show that realistically depicts it.
Bethenny I know you had such a crappy childhood! It is sad for you, but Bryn is lucky to have two parents who love her so completely! I hope you can let go of the past and live and love every moment of your fortunate life! Really, you seem very blessed! I have to say that I did cringe that you behaved that way in front of your in-laws! I can totally see losing it in front of husbands, friends, sisters, but NEVER my in-laws! It seemed immature. For a gal that has so much control over her life you lost control! I am just calling it like I see it, but again I can only imagine that many behaviors stem from having such terrible parents and a rotten childhood! You are in charge of your own happiness so take charge and be happy!