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Let the ice wars begin.
Signing on to do Skating With the Stars was probably a desperate cry for my youth. I was so enticed by the idea of the costumes, the exercise, and the whimsical childish nature of it. I just don't know that I understood what I was getting myself into. I really didn't know how to ice skate very well, and I just couldn't imagine what was in store for me.
Ethan is a great guy. He made the experience such an incredible one. He is going to make some girl very lucky. And yes, he has very nice buttocks. Jason loves him too. In fact, we saw him in LA just yesterday. He is a friend of ours for life now.
As far as my 40th birthday, the number doesn't, nor didn't, bother me at all. I simply don't do well on my birthday -- no matter what age I'm approaching. That day has a lot of stuff attached to it, and it is never easy. I really didn't want to do a party, but I just found myself headed in that direction.
It was great to see Shawn. He really is a wonderful, entertaining, slightly neurotic, lad which makes him fit in so perfectly in my life.
I did buy your book and love it so far. I too have a rough time on my Birthdays as well as when I see my babies do things I often wonder if my parents ever felt the joy I feel towards mine with me. Great season, love you guys!
I can sooo relate to the childhood thing. As a grown woman of 56, I still have bad dreams at times. My saving grace was the GROUNDED man I married. Stable family....the whole 9 yds.! Next month we celebrate our 35th anniversary! We have 2 grown children that are married & we have 2 beautiful grandchildren. With you Bethenny, you can make me laugh AND cry within 1 hr. Continued success & happiness.....it gets much easier!!!!!
Bethenny, I just love you! I love your show, your whole family everything. Its just so REAL! YOU are so real. And we are priveledged to see all of that on national t.v. Thank you for letting us the viewers see what your private life even though sometimes difficult is like. Be proud of who you have become, despite your terrible childhood. You aint crazy girl! You are the most sane! Tackling the bad, conquering the good. You did GREAT!!! Love ya. You've inspired me, not an easy thing to do. P.S. You are hilarious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!
I love how strong you are. Your're such an inspiration for showing that your life is not perfect but thats what makes it that much better!
Congrats, on a great show!!! I really enjoy watching you and your family. Jason and you are perfect together, he is so funny. I imagine that watching it must be uncomfortable especially when you come across a scene like last night, when the two of you are walking & having a normal conversation that suddenly turns into a discussion. I mean how many of us have been in that situation, but when you are in it you always think you are right but having a chance to look at it as an outsider looking in, allows you the opportunity to look at the other person's side & also really see how you come across. That must be tough to do and you guys are really brave for putting it all out there. I hope there are many more seasons to come.
Bethenny, I relate to you and your situation with your mom VERY well. My mother did similar things to me, and she's still not mature about things to this DAY. It's heartbreaking for me, because I cherish my children, and try to give them everything I didn't have, (not materialistic things) so why couldn't OUR MOM'S do that for you and I?... Who knows... but you know, B, it's THEIR issue, not ours. You are not alone in your struggle with emotions your parents left you with. What some people don't understand, (esp. if they come from LOVING homes) is how deeply the emotions run from the scars your parents left. For me, what hurts the most, is knowing that deep down, my mom really doesn't love me. She loves me when it's convenient for her... so, I HAD to let her go. It's been one of the best decisions I've made, and it's helped me work through the emotional baggage I've carried around a great deal of my life. What touched me the most, was when you said, "it doesn't sound real when it comes out of my mouth..." because that is EXACTLY how I feel! When you are younger, you don't know what "emotional abuse" is... and confronting it when you're older, and know better, leaves you with questions that don't always get answered. You are who you are today because of YOU... because you've had to live and deal with these issues on your own. I applaude you for being so honest and open on your show. Watching you made me feel just a little less alone... thank you, Bethenny.
Your gain is to have life experience that gives you lots of wisdom not to sweat over the little thing that do not really matter. And as far hearing your mother making out with her husband. I bet it happens just to any child. I heard it to. It did not offend me. We lived in a 2-room apartment and hearing things was unavoidable. Did not scar me a bit. You should know by know that caring the pain inside you is detrimental to you well being. Look in the marrow, ask yourself if you are a good person...and you are. That is enough to breathe easy and let go of all the insecurities. Nobody is perfect. No everybody have perfect parents. Be the stronger person because of it. Your childhood gave you an advantage to work hard and be somebody. If life would be too easy and rosy, you would not strive so hard to make yourself self-worth. Be wise, draw the strength from suffering. It is a great gift. Your child needs to see the wise women in you.
I want to first say how much I LOVE your show. From watching you on the Real Housewives of NY, to see you now on your own show, you have evolved so much as a person with all the wonderful changes in your life. I just purchased your book, and can't wait to read it!
I see in your show that you struggle so much with your past, and how it still affects you very much. I can only say that the past is the past, and you can learn from things that happened and move forward knowing you won't make the same choices for Bryn that your Mom made for you. It's unfortunate that some adults who have children, don't have the maturity to make decisions for themselves, let alone for a child who's trying to find their way in life. I hope in time you can let go of what's behind you.
You have a great future ahead. Bryn is beautiful, and she is so lucky to have a Mom like you! It's easy to see how much you love and adore her. Jason loves you for who you are, and accepts the life you live both as individuals and as a family. So your experiences of the past made you the wonderful person you are today. A loving wife, and devoted Mom!!!!!
You are a true inspiration to those who've been through the same experiences as yourself. No matter what, you can make it, and live your dreams...........
Had to laugh when you got so offended that you thought Jason was "shooshing" you! Yet, it's perfectly ok to "shoosh" Jason's sweet parents. You are a piece of work...so glad Jason doesn't let you walk all over him like you try to do.
I love watching your evolution. What you are learning just about birthdays is life-changing. To see your face light up when you talk about Bryn's first birthday shows that you do know about how important it is to celebrate the birth of those you love, something that has been badly warped in your own personal history. Loving yourself and accepting love from others is something you are still learning and a worthy journey for anyone. Keep it up, Bethenny. You are an inspiration!
Bethenny-- loved your new book!! I hope you don't get too stressed out over your future birthdays-- you now have family and friends who love and care about you to make future birthdays happy ones. I'm sure Bryn would love to help make you a cake and make you a present in a few years.
I don't like my birthday's either or holidays for that matter. Probably stems from my childhood. We were always made to feel guilty that we were born. Be thankful, and I know this may sound strange, that you don't have siblings. My parents had three children that grew up dysfunctional. Good luck to you and your family and keep your toxic mother out of your life. That is the best advice I can give you.
I really have always liked you & the show but this week's episode was THE BEST! I have to say I dont often watch a show twice but the Ice caslte episode was worth a repeat performance. You were hysterical. Well wishes to you, I think you are great so just filter all the negative and know that you have fans that really appreciate what you do.
Bethenny I really wanted to comment on the show, however, I had to abandon the tv several times and come back to it while watching the entire show, but will catch it the next airing. What I did catch was the scene with your therapist, and the statement you made to him about your mother's jealousy made my jaw drop. You see, I too have lived with the knowledge for many years that my emotionally distant mother was jealous of her 4 daughters. At different times in our life, I know from the remarks that I heard that she could not be happy for different triumphs my sisters would have. Getting a new house, car, purchasing something for the home, etc., were all times that made us happy, but my mother would make comments to me that told me she wasn't happy, but envious in a way you would expect an arch rival to be.
I had never known how to talk to other people about this revelation I had, not even to my own sisters, because, I don't think they were privy to the same comments, so they might not have gotten it.
I have no relationship with my mother today. Sometimes I feel sad about it, other days numb, and other days glad. My mother was an emotionally distant woman who never baked her children a birthday cake or wrapped a present for them. Her whole purpose in our life was to see how far apart she could keep us as siblings, and sadly, I have to say, pretty far apart. I am so emotionally lonely for sisters that I know I should have a good relationship with, but we were not taught to watch out for one another or be there.
If I could, I would also write a book to try to heal what I believe was a war time childhood. The only thing that prevents me is my children might read it one day, and how embarassing. I have kept all the horrible parts away from them, because the knowledge that any of that could touch their mind as a thought makes me feel like her bad parenting would taint them as people. They are grown, but it doesn't matter. I am not sure sons would understand all of that, since I raised them the way I was not raised.
I don't know what to say Bethenny, except I felt for you last season, and I feel for you this season. I think as you peel back the layers of lost chances with your parents, you allow us, the viewers, to look at ours as well...that is a very brave thing to do, as I am afraid to talk to my own sons about mine....hang in 40 really isn't gonna be a bad year, but, we will have to talk about 50.
Bethenny, Ask Jason to Blog!!!! I love coming in the day after or a couple days after your show and love reading your blog. It really is a great show that is so funny sometimes. I loved the comment about when Jason was talking about getting you a blender for your bday and you would blend his balls. Quick humor like that is so funny! I love watching your show b/c you make me laugh. And in this life sometimes a good laugh helps out so much!
I love everything about this show and applaud your courage and determination. I am just a little older than your mother, and maybe can give you some perspective. We were raised by a generation that thought that women should stay home and depend on men for our livelihood. Perhaps as a young girl, your mom had that mindset. If your dad was unkind, she was probably very afraid for both of you and felt she had to find someone to take care of both of you. By the time you hit 13, she was considerably younger than you and maybe had an early mid life crisis. If you left home in your teens, there was never time enough to work through the teenage resentment or agnst so common between moms and daughters. Sometimes a little empathy, deserved or not, goes a long way toward healing.
Hi Bethenny, I absolutely love your show and your books!!! I feel like you are stuck on your parents not treating you as their child because you don't have closure. If you try to reach out to your mom and talk to her about this maybe you will feel better about the situation. When I watch you at the therapist it makes me super sad :( you're such as strong person. I love and appreciate you sharing your life with us! Bryn is super cute!! love you
Sweetheart - first of all, please don't move to L.A. New Jersey would welcome you with open arms. I will personally share my nanny with you and Bryn and help you navigate through the Snookies! HA!: ) Stay close to Jason's family - enjoy them while the are still active and vital. You don't want to raise that sweet girl in town full of shallowness, neurosis, drugs and eating disorders! I know that it is hard for an independent woman like you to allow Jason to have a voice and opinions, but that is what marriage is. It breaks my heart everytime I see you cry to your therapist. Please take a break from your busy world and go exorcise your demons - Miraval is a great spa/retreat in AZ that I went to when I was in emotional pain and it was amazing. It won't heal everything but it will put you on the right track. There are some very cathartic experiences there and the food is healthy, the spa amazing and accomodations lovey (I don't travel anywhere that isn't five star honey!). God bless you in your journey! Unlike the rest of those Bravo biotches, we ALL love and adore you!
Bethany, I have to be honest. Your coldness and your anger had made me not like you for several years but now I actually have compassion for you because I am starting to understand you.
You are not alone in your struggle with poor parenting. A mother who does not nuture and care for her children is a freak of nature. A father who does not provide and protect his children is just as bad.
You are a very nice mother and your husband is a very nice father. You have gone in the right direction and Thank God you are not in the prison system. My home was very dysfunctional growing up and I am more angry about it at 50 than I was growing up, in my 20s, 30s, or 40s.
You deserved and had the right to better parenting. I just wished you would open up to Jason's parents and let them more into your life. I feel like you are trying to push them away because it is too painful for you to have them close to you.
I', sorry you had to go thru what you did but you are not alone. I am successful in my life but I spent most of it day dreaming to escape my childhood.
I think you are really sweet!
Last season on the housewives you were very humbled by everything you experienced. It seemed as though you were headed in a direction of toning down some of your abrasiveness. NOW, that you have the marrige and baby you so desired, you are back with a vengence on your tone and delivery. Dial it down a bit, Bethenny. I know the show is about you, but Jason is right. You are a couple ... and not EVERYTHING is always about you. Is it possible for you to have one coversation with someone where you are not being a wise-ass? You are funny...but man, it's tiring at times to watch you. And Bethenny, I really and truly do not want you to let fame go to your head....like Nene, Jill, Theresa, Tamara ...... just saying. I really feel relieved when Jason calls you on something and you realize he is right ... like when you asked his opinion about your party.
You remind me of when Mr. Big told Carrie (after they were married) that she needed to learn how not to be single anymore.
Hi Betthany- Love you and your show. i also had distant parents and felt that my birthday was a punishment because they didn't like to celebrate anything. I am 55 and still don't enjoy my birthday today. i guess you never get over it. when i had children i never conveyed my negative feelings and they had fun parties. why not find another holiday like Halloween or Valentines Day and make really fun parties? That's what I did and I got alot of enjoyment out of it. Good luck with your amazing family.
SHINE ON GIRL!! make your mistakes, blurt out all the wrongs and then buy a big box of bandaides to fix them! its called life! its messy and silly and sometimes hurtful, when the dust settles, and it will, we will still be here, and I would pick up a check for a couple of drinks with you and Jason any day! you give good tv!
I've enjoyed you from the beginning of RHNYC. Sometimes you're too harsh especially with women - all of us women know that feelings and emotions run high. I keep waiting for you to discuss your need to control men with your therapist. IDK what kind of employee Max was but you said he was inappropriate -- AND GINA ISN'T???? I'm not enjoying this season, you're all about you and it's annoying.
So moving watching your struggle. It takes time, patience, and hard work. Remember that business success has not a lot to do with success as a human being. Do not lose the opportunity to heal yourself for the sake of a quick, witty joke or sound bite. The fame will not last - it never does, but the hurt you feel and cause others will last well into your family's future if not addressed in a thoughtful and deep way. All the best to you- I'm rooting for you!
Always relatable!! I am a little bit older than you (45) and I can completely relate how you feel. I think we would be fast friends if we knew each other, I had a very unhappy childhood as well, I LOVE my dogs, and I would have loved to have had a child. I am still hoping that will happen for me, and watching you makes me feel as like it can. I hope your success continues throughout your life, I think it's wonderful you can give Bryn all that you didn't have. Keep up the good work! I love your show, Jason seems like a wonderful man, you deserve all that you get!
Bethenny, Your dry sense of humor knocks me out - hilarious ! I'm so glad to see your success both personally and professionally. It's all well deserved. Good job on the show and thanks for sharing with all of us.
You and Lauren are not nice when you are together. I did not think Julie deserved the two of you to be so critical of her dancing at the girl's night out. Be careful who you pick as your friends - you seem to gravitate to "mean girls". I think you should apologize to Julie.
But Gina isn't part of her SkinnyGirl business. Gina is living in her house and working for her personally, as Brynn's nurse. She's not out on the forefront, meeting potential and current client and customers. She's not representing Bethenny to the public. She's at home with the baby so Bethenny can actually go out in public.
Its funny I didnt like you for a long time but I gave you a shot at watch ever after and now I love you. I feel kind of guilty
OMG! You are right on. I love the show and I think Bethany is the best thing on Bravo right now, but she needs to realize that she is married now and it's no longer about her exclusively -- it's about the family! Jason is the perfect partner for her (you can see how much he loves her). Bethany, don't ruin a good thing. Best of luck!
I've never been one of those people to say something "changed my life" but I must say for the first time in my 42 years of living that A Place of Yes has changed my life. I am so much enjoying this book and I cannot believe how much it's making my life better. The timing was perfect. I highly recommend it.
Maybe because we have simular personalities. Our childhoods were vastly different, but no matter what circumstances, we all have issues from growing up.
Thank you for writing this! I'm all about a place of yes and my friends and family already notice a difference.
Bettheny I so enjoy watching your life, your daughters absolutely beautiful your raw nerve is so endearing to me. You were my favorite housewife I hate that crazy bitch Kelli and how she treated you. I've never written anyone before tells you how special you are, yeah I said your special cuz I love your life heehee.
I love the show and you, but you need to chill and enjoy life, I am older and I will tell you Life flies by I was 40 yesterday with young kids in my home a husband, dog and lots of friends, Today I am 61, the kids are grown, the husband is gone and so is the dog, I have lost a few friends along the way as well, it went fast kid, ENJOY this time...
Bethenny, You are loved by your fans for being so real and down to earth. Your daughter is adorable, a great husband and you have great people all around you.
You are like a raw nerve, I think you have post partum depression, I did and you act emotionally just like I did!
Still love you , you go girl!
bethenny thank you for being who you are, which in reality is me. im 25 years old and in a heavy leadership role for a major corp, dont ask me how i got here...lol....but i love it. it's nice to know there's women....humans....like me out there....feel free to adopt me any time....ill pay good $$$ n rent. seriously...thanks!
At my age you try to celebrate everyday of your life. I'm 62, and never had a birthday party. You should be happy people thought enough about you to celebrate your life. Next time you have a birthday party, just pretend you're having a party, not a birthday one, and just enjoy the night. I think the way you reacted made people feel guilty for celebrating You. I felt so bad for Jason, because he had no Idea what he had done wrong. You have a wonderful man in your life, and a beautiful baby. Darline
I felt for you so deeply watching your Birthday episode , as well as the episode that happened due to your troubled (lack of better term) childhood. Just the fact that you are here , now , and thriving in NYC , i think that's a major victory on it's own. I see how your pain fuels you at times , i do hope in time that you will find that same fuel provided from the great sources of love in your life ... Jason , his family , your lovely Daughter and even the millions of fans that you have as well. I am a single dad to an incredible 6 year old daughter . Bethenny, i got her out of and away from horrible abuse that i certainly wasn't aware of during her first 4 years , and having been a child of abuse myself and 46 years old ....I know in time , with or without therapy you will find that long deep breath that will help you slow it all down , soak it in , and enjoy what must be a great life with Jason . I wish that for you . Perhaps , like myself , you might allow God into your life one day , certainly gets me through the toughest of times and allows me to enjoy the great times without having to feel guilt for being happy . I do hope and pray all good things come your way , you are an amazing person , and you have just gotten started ! Lots of life yet to live , plenty of time.
Take good care .
Bethenny... I had just watched the 40th Birthday episode. Wow!!! I really felt for you! I wish I could just go through the tv and hug you! My birthday falls the day after my mother and it's always been very hard sharing birthdays together. As you can sence, I'm not close with her. Watching you go though your birthday made me feel all your pain. Your not alone! Your very LOVED and that is the strength that will get you through! My prayes are with thoes that never had a relationship with there mothers! Blessing to all of you out there going through this. Remember to STOP, take a moment and see who is around you and know you are so very loved!! God Bless!!
xoxox Lisa!! xoxoxo
Bethanny, I understand...
we all have some demons inside us that we can not let go or has influenced our future. I had a very vain, selfish and abusive mother we constantly fought tooth and nail. She messed with my mind and self esteem which in the future led to relationships with verbally and physically abusive men. It''s a type of conditioning which leads to bitterness, lack of self esteem and other insecurities. I was an only child and she was jealous of my fathers love for me. As parents, aren't you supposed to love your child or children equaly? She even told me out of spite that I was adopted once.
Bethanny, you are being to hard on yourself you have to find the means to forgive your past and move on. You have a wonderful husband in Jason and a beautiful daughter in Brynn. Treasure them and don't push Jason away with your insecurities as you may lose him. You are making your life harder than it should be. I would suggest that you try and locate any cousins on aunts and aunts or uncles to give you some idea why your parents were the way they were with you the way they were, it might lead to discovering that everything that you are experincing really was not your doing. We never choose our parents.
As an only child I took care of my mother for seven years with Cancer. Never did I hear from her thank for taking care of me or what a wonderful daughter you are or I love you. After her passing I had to make my peace with her forgive her and move on or I would not be alive today. I only wish the best for you Bethanny, be grateful for what you have and don't throw it away...No regrets and much therapy!
Much love and respect and blessings,
Bethany...Love the show! I know what you are going thru and you are not alone. I too was never called by my father on my birthday. I also had a self absorbed mother who dated many men and married many too. My dads second wife took me to strip clubs, dance clubs and bars when I was ten. I saw alot that I shouldnt have, but I thought it was normal. There was booze and partying and alot of critiquing of my appearance. It was on hard on me for years. Therapy helps. Sometimes when we are used to negative things, positive things overwhelm us. I think this is why you broke down at your party. Jason and his parents did alot for you. Sometimes people who had a great upbringing dont realize the effects a bad one has on us. But their hearts were in the right place. Its ok to be happy. Appreciate what you have and dont push it away. Dont let your past dictate your future...otherwise 'they' are still winning.