and by the way i do the same to my husband but, i see it and have to fix it. I have been married for sixteen years an d i love more today than when we met and i realy mean that.
First of all, thank you so much for watching my show and sharing with me the joys, the stresses, and the ups and downs of life. I'm so proud of my work, my family, my show, and I am especially proud of my fans. You support me, you stick with me throughout this journey, and you have taught me a lot about you and about myself.
Marriage is a beautiful gift and probably the greatest decision I've ever made so far. I feel like I have a partner, team mate, friend, and someone always there for me and to always to be there for.That said, they say the first year is the toughest. That combined with a career that exploded, a new baby, and the filming of a television show can make things kind of crazy. This season, I really let you into exactly what that first year is all about.
This season tells the story of marriage, religion, in-laws, turning 40, trying to be a good wife, mother, and how to manage a business that just keeps growing.
It will make you laugh and cry but most of all, it is relatable. Ultimately, the nuts and bolts of my life are really no different than yours. There is a little more makeup, a few cameras, the occasional glitzy event, and lots of action but most of all; I'm home with my family doing exactly what you're doing in your house.
and by the way i do the same to my husband but, i see it and have to fix it. I have been married for sixteen years an d i love more today than when we met and i realy mean that.
Bethany as i watched your show i was wondering why didn't you ask your husbands opinion about the new apartment and when he tried to speak you cut him off several times. I think you area n amazing woman who has a husband who is a smart business man and you need to lesson to him somethimes. We all know this his your business but throw him a bone. I'm just wondering if you saw what we saw, you continued to push him out of that meeting and for the first time i found myself feeling sad for Jason. I am nobody and all we see is a small glimps of you life and i know nothing except i really like you, and wish you all the best that life has to offer.
wishing you and your family all the best things life has to offer:
Hi,Bethany, I admire you, and Jason, tremendously. Right now, from watching your TV show, the two of you seem really stuck. I'm sorry for that. You both love each other very much. I think some counseling might help. I don't know what the issue is, but I think you need a third party to help you clarify. About Jason's parents: they are lovely people, and I hope you can open you heart to them. They made your husband. They helped create the man you sleep next to every night. A little more respect and inclusion for them would be good for all of you. I hope you are doing well. Jill
I would also like to tell your husband. To ease up with his parents. Who is he married to? His parents or you? Look I do not have a relationship with my grand daughters. We all live in the same town. I barely see my own son at least 5 times a year if I am lucky. I never hear from him. SO please tell your husband to ease up.
When you and your husband came back from that unfortunately boat trip. Who was that girl taking care of the baby? I do not trust her. She was flirting with your husband. Don't care for her. "Get rid of her!" Good luck in your marriage. Yet I heard on Wendy's Show that you were getting a DIVORCE? Please could you clear that?
Love your show but you need to relax. Seems like if you are not the center of attention you become the ball buster you so readily admit to being. Not always an admirable trait. Be happy people adore your husband Everyone knows he is not perfect. No one is. If you can't make this marriage work never marry again.
Hi Bethany my name is Cintia I just want to let you know that I love your show I admire you because of all the things you are doing work, house, baby and of course a husband to take care of know and by the way I am really happy for you.I never tough in my wildest dream that I was going to be interested in this kind of show because I am a Mexican lady and of course i like soapaperas but I really love what you do specially the skinny margarita. I want to say a lot of things to you but it will take me like three days but this is what I am going to say to you success comes from within and you have it and thats what I want to have for my girls and for me and do not listen to anybody that says you can not have it all OF COURSE YOU CAN AND YOU HAVE IT RIGHT NOW SO DONT LET ANYBODY TAKE IT FROM YOU GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR FAMALY AND THAT LITTLE ANGEL.
Love your show, your baby, and your very supportive hubby! Brynn is so cute and you guys are obviously enjoying every bit of her baby stage.
As time goes on, the need for discipline will eventually come to light. The hardest part is that we all had an 18 year internship learning how to parent.... The good, the bad, and the ugly (or in some cases - just the bad and the ugly). Pushing that aside and doing things different is hard when the rubber hits the pavement...
I wanted to share a program with you that changed our lives in regards to raising our kids. My mom was a yeller, rage fanatic, knife thrower - literally - she threw steak knifes at my brother when he took his boyscout knife to school.
I had read soooo many books trying to find something to replace the parenting style I was raised with. None of them helped! This program came on PBS seven years ago and it truly changed our lives. I highly recommend that you look into Love and Logic. www.loveandlogic.com. They are based out of Denver, Colorado. The program is nondenominational and quite funny. With your sense of humor, you will really enjoy it!
It is a very loving approach to parenting. It allows us to have empathy and still be sweet when we hold our kids accountable. The audios are great because you can listen while you are on the go. You can find a workshop just about anywhere, but with your schedule, you may want to just pick up the Early Childhood curriculum. The DVD's in the program will have both you and Jason laughing and help keep you on the same page.
I teach the program in Florida. When my husband is in town on the first night, he will often give his thoughts on it from a Dad's perspective. One of the things he says is that in addition to giving us much laughter and love in our home, it has also made our marriage stronger.
Good luck with your adorable family!
Bethanny: Birthday parties seldom are about the person's birthday --but rather about all the gift givers who crave love, thanks, attention, and feedback for what they have given. Human nature, I guess. Perhaps your volatile reaction posed an important question-like what does the birthday person really want? Maybe what is really wanted doesn't involve cameras clicking. Sometimes wanting to help, do good, and shower things on people "can create a total disaster". In the meantime, you can still realize how rich and miraculous life can be at 40.
I'm not sure if you take the time to read all your comments but I just want you to know that I was very touched by your first episode. I came from a family with crazy parents, literally, and know exactly how you feel. I find my fiance wanting me to go with him to his parent's house every holiday, and almost every other weekend! He loves to have his parents there all the time and wants to be around them and I find it hard to want to go because it almost makes me feel uncomfortable. All I can say is that you should not feel like a bad person, and you are defiantly not alone. I'm sure they are wonderful people but they also need to understand you need your space to grow as a couple. I'm sure you have heard it a thousand times but you truly are an amazing woman. Thank you so much for doing this show and I enjoy watching you every week :)
Okay, I feel for Bethenny on so many levels. The in law issue is something I deal with too, and it is exactly the same issues. Jason's parents are very overbearing, and need to realize that it just isn't possible to ask for that much from them. Bethenny clearly isn't comfortable with visiting that much, and she has every right to want her own family time. It is not a Grandparents right to ever tell their kids how much they need to see their Grandkids. Every parent needs to set boundaries for how often they visit and what is comfortable with everyone from the beginning. Being a Grandparent is not a right. It is a priveledge and one day when I am one, I will never be overbearing because I deal with it as well from the in laws and I suffocate. Yes, it is important for Grandparents to see their Grandkids and bond, but it is more important for the parents to have the most time and live their lives as well. Bethenny, I feel for you.
I'm stuck here in "Planet Hazleton"...lol...and for the record..I do wear a bra! I loved the show!!! You are so funny!!! I love your personality. I love to watch you and Jason. I think you are great together and I wish you both many blessed years of happiness. Bryn is so beautiful! I hope you find the balance you hope for, because they do grow fast. I have 2 boys, 6 and 12. My older son is going to turn 13 on the 1st and I just may have a breakdown. Looking forward to future episodes and who knows maybe we will meet someday here in "Planet Hazleton"
First off Bethenny I have to say You are looking good girl. I am loving the show and so glad you let Max go. He was not a good fit and I don't think he would have ever changed. I think a lot of people are giving you a hard time about your inlaws and that is there problem. I have been married 30 years and believe when I say everyone needs boundries. What if you were close to your family as well, what every weekend you both would be having to go see one side or the other. You are in your first year of marrage with a new baby this time is for the three of you. I say hurry and move to California and then you two want have to deal with it. Wishing you all the best thanks for sharing your life with us and know I am proud you and everythind you have accomplished. Hope you ever make it down to Texas would Love to meet you. Love Ya
One shortcoming of therapy is that the therapist ONLY sees the facts as presented by the patient.. He doesnt have the advantage of seeing the show at the time they are in therapy sessions. I am not suggesting that Bethenny is deliberately deceptive. Not al all. But she has her view of things, and no human being is 100% objective about our own selves.
Bethenny, I love your show and I think you are an exceptional human being. The first episode really struck a chord in me as I'm having the same issue in my 2-yr. marriage. My in-laws live 3 hrs away, my husband is an only child and sometimes I feel pressured to see them so often...and when I don't, bring on those guilt trips! I am looking forward to both of us setting some boundaries and learning to compromise. Much love!
Bethanny,Jason,Bryn,Cookie: I truly love your program and watch it as often as I can. Lately,though I have become very nervous about your situation with Jason parents. Its o.k. to express your feelings but not at the expense of others. Dont blow this marriage you have the best of the best. Bury your past and live for your future and Jason is definetly your future
It wasn't long ago that we saw you crying and leaning up against a car in Manhattan. You were overcome with sadness about your felationshp with Jill. Remember how that felt???? To be so disappointed and devasted by someone who is supposed to love you and be your friend? You just did the same thing to Jason's mom, but you were too busy spouting rules and regulations to notice. I bet Carol cried that evening. You disrespected the Hoppys in their own home and at their own dinner table. You owe them an apology. You have just made it impossible for them to move freely through their years of being grandparents. Some day, you will be a mother in law and it will be too late to apologize to them.
I totally relate to the in-law situation. My husband and I watched this episode together and both groaned because we have had all of those conversations before. We live 5-6 hours away from our families who we are both close to, and it took years and a lot of stubborness on our part to put down some very firm boundaries and ground rules to protect our interests as our own little family, sometimes upsetting the expectations our parents may have had. Marriage is different from dating, and it takes time to find your groove as newlyweds. Parenting is even more different from anything you have ever done before, and you need time to find your style. Constantly having family on top of you, as loving and well-meaning as they may be, really hampers how your marriage and parenting get hammered out. It's taken almost 5 years of those in-law conversations, but we're finally both on the same page, and now we are a strong, united front for our growing family, which our parents have come to respect. P.S.- Bryn is so freakin' adorable!!
First of all, I love your show. That being said, I don't think Jason and his parents understand what you have been through not having a relationship with your own parents. I agree with you that sometimes a person can feel like they are being smothered. No Bethanny, you are not crazy as you mentioned in your show. Fight to have those family moments with you, Jason and Bryn. You are a strong person so don't let them guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. When Jason said you should get over it, I thought this man needs to not be so clingy with his parents. I know they lost their first son, but don't use that as an excuse to guilt Jason into feeling like he has to visit them every couple of weeks. Jason should put you and Bryn first before his parents. He knows how you feel so HE needs to get over it. Until he does, I see nothing but problems in the future.
I think Bethenny never had the love of grandparents so she dosen'tknow what Bryn is missing.I hope Her husband takes her to see them
I won't beat a dead horse...you've heard it over & over on this blog and in your own personal life from those closest to you (i.e. hubby, inlaws, friends, family..etc).. However, I will say...Your life is so different from just a few years ago. Open your heart, mind and soul to the "new" that life has brought to you. As a mother, I know the overflowing feeling of love that one can have for their child..the joy that cannot be contained seeing their little faces and watching them change everyday...it's all so priceless. Your hubby and baby are your joy & love. You should stand there with pride knowing that they are yours. You 3 are make such a cute little family. Enjoy having Jason's parents around. Be open to their wants and needs as first time grandparents- Be sensitive with their feelings. Compromise, Compromise, Compromise. Set some boundaries with the visitations and re-adjust as often as needed but don't push them away. They seem like such wonderful people. Good Luck in all your future endeavors and especially in your own personal life with your little family! XOXO
Dear Bethanny: You and Jason early in your show last night came to a mutual and what anyone would consider a fair agreement, by visiting Jason's lovely parents once a month. Divide holidays by two, and I don't recall if birthday's was discussed but Bryn's and Jason's every year, and Jason if not every year every other? Yours, a vacation with Jason and Bryn! But then you went to your therapist and didn't mention anything of the agreement, rather complained as if the agreement didn't exist. Then after agreeing with your therapist not to discuss it for now, you immediately brought it up at what was suppose to be a lovely night out for you both? Jason attributed this to the drinks when it really is a form of Bipolar hopefully not too severe, but something you have to work on as you should have for the many years you were not happy! Because now you say you have it all and you certainly do if you don't sabotage it! If your not going to listen or at least challenge your therapist advice, you must get a new one that talks more your language like a Dr. Phil! I appreciate the honesty, that you are what you are on T.V. and I want you to have for many years what you have today, so please deal with your problem, compromise not in words but deeds in your wonderful marriage, and if you can't do it all don't, and prioritize in favor of your lovely family, yes your lovely family as strange as that may sound to you! Only the very best, Charles
It's SO refreshing to watch a show and actually relate! This is exactly why I love the show, a viewer can watch and say '...I've had that discussion/problem..' Life is crazy and we totally empathize with you, money is nice but it doesn't solve the fundamental problems only the individual can do that and we love watching you share our struggles as women.
You were too harsh with the Hoppy's. Jason is the way he is because of them. You are so lucky to have such a wonderful husband, a great father to Bryn and an loving and caring son. Jason will only put up with you hurting his parents to an extent. I know you didn't purposely set out to hurt them, but even though it made you feel better to air out your grievances, it hurt them-you could see it in their faces.
Sweet Bethenny, Yes , this show (vs Real Housewives) shows a genuine, kind side of you that is enhanced by your marriage relationship with Jason. He is a catch, and you are a deserving girl-believe it and relax in this gift. From one who in my youth really dealt with a lack of self esteem, I know it when I see it. I was attractive, successful,well liked, but struggled to be best at everything. I came from 2 loving parents, just not loving to each other. They were divorced when I was 17, which rocked my world.But on the outside, I was much like you, looked like I had it all together, lots of dates, activities, friends, just never confident on the inside. A wonderful guy came in to my life, and at 48 now, I have had 25 beautiful years with the love of my life and best friend. He balances me, makes me feel secure, and brings peace to my anxiety. God gave you Jason so you would relax and enjoy life. Just enjoy the moment. Your inlaws are a blessing, most of us would have loved to have them. Mine never offered to babysit any of my three, let alone have us over for dinner, and my husband is an only child. You have been given an invaluable gift. Best to you!
I just wanted to let you know that you make me feel sane. I just gave birth to a beautiful baby boy last November, my husbands parents first. I am running into the same issue of trying to balance our family life and spending time with his parents. Please know that you are not crazy and by no means alone in your struggle for space. My husband and I are going through the exact same battle. I love you and I look forward to your show every week.
It seems to me Jason need to do a little therapy about his need to be the perfect son. He cannot live life for himself and his Brother. It is not possible to keep the schedule that he and Bethany have and visit his parent once a mont every month. Holidays need to to bet staggered so that new traditions get formed with their new family. They have moved at warp speed in this relationship. Breath.... Love and allow each other to grow into this family. Jason lovingly cut the apron strings. All Grandparents wold love to have more time with the babies. It is just not possible with all that you have on your plate. Remember a half a loaf is better than no loaf. Rooting for both of you to find balance.
Bethenny, ask Jason's parents how often they visited each others' parents the first year they were married. I seriously doubt if it were every two weeks. Jason is a great guy but he is over-compensating b/c of the death of his brother. Mom & Dad Hoppy need to cut you both some slack.
I aspire to be just like you bethenny! I am a very independent driven 22 year old woman i'm in school about to go to grad school to be a registered dietitian and also dreamed of going to culinary school. I love food but healthy food and cooking but healthy cooking! I dream to have my own company one day and become a self made mogul! With that said I have always watched your show and loovveed you! You are such an inspiration and real and absolutely hilarious. I hope i can find a man just like your husband, yalls relationship is indredible and so healthy!
I love your show Bethenny. I totally understand when you talk about your parents. I had a very similar upbringing as you and wonder why my parents even had me. I am a mom as well as you and realize how to be a better parent. I don't have in-laws that want to be involved though. In one sense I totally agree how you want to keep a distance but wish I had in-laws who were involved since I never had parents that were involved. I love how you show how difficult it is to be a new mom!! I have to try your margarita!!!
I'm watching your show now Bethany. I think you are such an amazing woman- I love your sense of humor and I love the fact that you are honest and you do actually listen to the other person. Bethany, you married a great man- I watch him with you and he loves you and his daughter with all his heart - and sometimes you just have to give even though you don't want to. And when it comes to his parents just give Bethany- just give as much as you can- it may drive you crazy because it goes against your grain- but just give - just to make Jason happy and to make the only grandparents Bryn has happy. And know that too many people can never love your child- Lola
Bethany you hit it in the Hazleton visit at the Capri...Alien. If you are not from Hazleton and visit, you feel like an alien or fish out of water. Do not fight his parents just go with it. They come from and stay in a strange place. That area is 20 years behind in every sense of the word. I moved there for 15 years and wondered why I stayed. Now that I am out, I could not be happier. Hazleton absolutely stinks. I laughed when you mention there was only one full set of teeth in the bar. That is so true. People there did not know there were dentists. Anyway, your husband is from there your child's gene pool is from there and be glad she is not going to date there. sThe gene pool is very small there. That was one of many reasons we left the area, education for our children being the first reason. Thank you for reading. Take care. Also, his parents should move with you.
Really looking forward to seeing more of your show! You're doing a terrific job, and so long as Jason is happy with you, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Babies grow up, people move on, and it all comes down to you and the face on the pillow next to your's. He's the fella that's going to teach your child how to build successful relationships with family and friends that will go to your credit as a wonderful wife and mother. Jason is your devoted husband, and the sooner you start trusting him in confidence to fight your battles, he can begin to give you the abundant joy in life that comes with longevity.
The world is your oyster!
I just watched you with your in-laws, and I nearly threw up!! It is a wonderful strenght to be able to speak your mind, but you took it too far with them. Trust me, you need them. The way you talk to your friends and enemies (Kelly) is not the way you deal with the Hoppys. That is their only son, respect that. Don't put jason in the middle of your drama, if not, it won't last. He might not be able to take the pressure from you. Its not all about you Bethenny, always remember that.
omg! this is my life ! so crazy! i went thru the same adjustment with my in laws , my husband came from a very close family and mine was the complete oppsite , when we had our son it was the first baby on his side , and i think number 6 on mine , his family wanted to pretty much move in , every breathing moment in the beginng was " what's he doing ?" " when are you coming over " when are we coming over ? etc it was waay out of hand and we had plenty of disputes in the beginning, but we worked thru it ,and they great common part is that everyone wants to love the baby , the part i had to get use to was that i never had grandparents and now my child does and that is a gift ,it takes time and her hubby will come around and so will she, they still drive me nuts but they know it :) and i wouldnt have it any other way , now our son is 6 and we have a daughter who is 3 and my in laws are a blessing they would drop anything for those kids , and my husband knows now we come first and that doesnt mean he doesnt love his folks any less and neither do i , all about boundries but you never want to cross the line of being mean but you do need to be honest start first with your hubby then filter to the folks
Bethenny- Its great you are out there with Jason's parents and are not just being "la la la la" and then being pissy at home! That is a healthy relationship... BEING OPEN! But family is family, including extended. Holidays especially with babies are going to be filled with grandparents, aunts and and uncles, cousins, and more people than you want. Extended family (at times) will help you turn around and understand to "praise" your immediate family during times of stress, and to appreciate your daughter and your husband. -EfromBoston
My in-laws did not even want to be bothered with my children. When my motherr-in-law died and they asked people to speak at the casket, my son said there was nothing to say. She should be grateful that they dearly love that little baby and her and all her baggage.
You handled yourself with such class during the conversations with Jason's parents. I love what you said and how you put it. I wish I could have thought of those words when my husband and I had the same issues with his family. I think your are being honest from the start, and I hope that Jason learns that YOU are the number on mother in his life now.
Please don't blow this with Jason. Not really liking the new you this year...priorities seem to be your work, not your child and husband. Heck, even in your blog "work" came out before "family". You have been handed a gift in Jason and his family. If you run away from them you will lose and so will Bryn. Jason's "normal" is what you should want for your daughter. Trying to bribe him with a second child contingent upon a move to CA was heartless and beneath the old Bethanny. You seem scared. You keep talking about how "crazy" everything is for you right now...FIX IT! Prioritize your family and let go of your celebrity a little bit. Otherwise you'll just end up another one of those reality stories with a crappy ending....
Go with your gut, stay true to you and things will always work out.
Make your decision based on your family. Sometimes it is hard for people to see what is really going on or how things feel-by watching it on tv. As a married mom of three, with divorced parents (on both sides) -I know what it's like to be pulled, guilt tripped and overwhelmed by family. The Hoppy's seem like great parents, in-laws and grandparents. Let's be honest- no matter what they will always want more time. They love your family!! But, they will also understand. You and Jason need to decide what works and doesn't for your family. It's a hard middle line to travel but I have no doubt that it will work out and everyone will win. Honest is the best policy. It might be hard to swallow sometimes but it will always make things better in the long run.
Keep up all you do. Your a great wife, mom and most importantly-a great person!
Hi Bethanny I saw you in Lowell mass.You were wonderful and thanks for the hug. But for Gods sake be happy .STOP NITPICKING YOUR LIFE, YOU HAVE WONDERFUL INLAWS and you were mean to them. So run to L.A. to prove some point you have.tHAT THEY CAN BE A PART OF BRI LIFE WHEN YOU SAY SO,
Bethenny, Seeing how you treat Jason and his parents only confirms what I already suspected about you, and that is that you are self absorbed, money hungry, and always seeking your 15 minutes of fame wherever you can get it.
Hello...they live 2 hours away...and only visit once in 3 weeks for the weekend...are you kidding me?
How lucky you are to have a great career, georgous sweet husband, beautiful little girl and of course cookie goes without saying! Please give your child what you did not have growing up. It is such a gift to her to have grandparents that love her so much. Jason is close to his family and he is all they have. Of course every weekend is a little much. Maybe one a month is great for them to come visit you and they can just spend the time with bryn and you can take care of all you need to get done. Do you know how lucky you are? We raise two boys 19 months apart across the country from any family. I would have given anything for grandparents that wanted to see them and could have babysat. Holidays are meant for family, please let them have the memories they will be hers also. You are beautiful and I am one of your biggest fans!