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Wow! Last week was intense and it's only the beginning. I read all of your comments and I always appreciate your time, feedback, and, most importantly, your honesty. I have learned so much from you throughout these years and I continue to do so.
When I agreed to do my show, I knew it wouldn't be easy. I could very easily manufacture plot lines, pretend everything is perfect in my home and office, and try to create drama for entertainment. However, that isn't who I am. I do my show because I think it is important for it to actually be "reality." I think you deserve the honesty that you have given me back.
This is the first year of my marriage, my motherhood, and my success. I no longer strive for balance because it probably won't ever come. Right now I strive for quality time with my family, integrity in my career, and a good night's sleep.
Rachael Ray: What she said about balance defines my life. It probably isn't going to happen so I better just accept that. I'm so thankful to her for creating such a special experience for Julie. I was so happy to give Julie a day for herself. She deserves it and rarely takes one. This job isn't easy. Many people think they want to work for me but it isn't a party.
Us Weekly: The humor isn't lost on me that Us Weekly was nice enough to name me one of their most stylish New Yorkers. This must mean that someone else canceled. I do the best I can, but a fashionista I'm not.
LOVE,LOVE,LOVE,LOVE you and Jason. Just watched the scene where you ran into Nick. You both were so nice and geniune with him. So awesome to see such caring people. Good for you.
Bethenny~ Thanks for your blog tonight. Love to hear your thoughts on what Bravo airs. Your therapist is great and it's nice to see he is helping you. I'm sure he will be your go to guy .... when you want to vent and really not want an opinion......therapy is great. Just one suggestion....on date night....don't get into the heavy conversations when drinking.....enjoy each other..
Bethenny, I just want you to know that I just watched your show on Monday night (March 7) and i was brought to tears! You and Jason treated Nick with so much compassion and respect that alot o f people would not have! It is so obvious to me that you are the real deal.. no bullshit..no I'am a tv star, you are who you are and I respect you so much! You and Jason are helping so many couples by keeping it real not acting like "shit" doesn't affect our everyday lives. I wish for you much happiness and joy and continue to be your authenic self!! I hope this email makes it to you, and you know that you are thought of with such joy!! Have a great life....Tasha
I gave you the benefit of the doubt last week in regard to how you were treating Jason's parents. But, this week, I really see how you feel. I think to rake Jason's parents over the coals like this is awful. You have no idea how lucky you are to have such loving in-laws. You married an only child and into a family that lost a child. You have their only grandchild. Stop being so selfish. Your attitude towards them is really offensive.
Then tonight you said, "Well, I'm a difficult person." After watching how you treat his parents, I can certainly see how true that is.
You do not see the value in the love that Jason's parents are extending to you and Bryn. Appreciate it. Embrace it.
Why not let them have the baby for an overnight visit w/out you? This is very common behavior and Jason's parents seem like capable loving people. You leave Bryn with her nanny, why not the grandparents?
I am horrified by how these wonderful people are being abused on this show for people's "entertainment". Nothing about it is fun to watch.
Hi Bethenny! As much as I love the show, there was that one moment last season when I was SO BUMMED that you didn't hire the first guy you interviewed (before we got to know max). He was so FUNNY and seemed like he was the match made in funny connections for you. His comments went side by side with your dry sense of humor - which is hard for people that don't have one to do. Not that Max hasn't been good too... but I had the same reaction you did when I saw the one that got away on your show tonight - i was like THERE'S THAT GUY!!! You and Jason need to find a place for him. You said he was the nerd, but actually - I thought he was beyond cool. What is more cool than a great sense of humor? And NO.. I don't know the guy - I can't even remember his name - just that I thought he would have been a riot with you. Seeing you realize it after all made me like you even more!
Bethenny, I hope that you can get there, sooner than later. Your reticence to let Jason visit his parents with the baby, but without you, is setting you back as a couple. Let it go! The sooner you realize this, the sooner you'll feel free. This is setting you back to becoming happier than you've ever been.If your relationship with Jason is your best decision ever, believe me, that sharing that love , your baby and including Jason's parents in your circle ( more than you want to now ) will liberate you in a way that will improve your peace of mind and happiness , more than you'll ever know. You're so lucky to have found an incredible man and having the cutest , little baby ever. You've come a long way and I'm so glad you got out of that circle of New York housewives.THOSE were toxic relationships. Regarding spending the holidays with family, you could spend Thanksgiving with them, and spend Christmas Eve just the three of you back in New York, and so on and so forth for the rest of the annual holidays. Good luck to you.
Bethenny, I love your show. I am 25 and struggle to figure my way and I am very outspoken and pretty raunchy. and I love the way you are so out spoken and I have the same issues in my relationship. I have watched since you were on the housewives of new york and loved you then as well.your amazing! and skinny girl cocktails are the best! Regards, Katrina -Lantana florida
Bethenny, Jason is totally wrong. You and Bryn are his family now and he needs to cut the apron strings. His parents are grown ups who have been on your side of the fence. I am in their position and want my granddaughter 24/7 but like it or not I have to realize and live with the fact that my son has a family and they not only want but need their own family time. Do not give in on this it is Jason who is wrong and not you. Jason, Mommy has left the building. I hope this gets worked out soon cause I love you all and love the show.
Bethenny, I will admit when I watched you throughout the first season of RHONY, I was not a fan. I thought you drank way too much, like coudn't get through an event without getting toasted kinda thing.You always came off as so unhappy/miserable. It took some coaxing from my sister before I gave Bethenny getting Married a try. It was like watching a different person, maybe it was your drinking which was a huge issue for me in RHONY, was no longer there. You were still a huge smart ass, which is a characteristic I hold dear to my heart, but with less of an angry edge. I really ended up falling love with the show. Now my husband has the honor of being my "Bethenny" buddy and is hooked on this new season. He is calm like Jason and I, well I am "the anti-calm". While watching the show with him, he enjoys comparing the craziness factor. How fun for him! Loved the show tonight. THE best part of the show was when you met up with Nick. It was awesome the way you sat and made time for him. Embrassing him as a valuable person, I'm sure, meant more to him than you can imagine. He seems like a great young guy that just needs a little self-esteem building boot camp (perhaps Jason could take that one under his wing). Personally, I like him way better than Max. And last but surely NOT least, I am SO bummed that I missed your appearance in Joliet. I had no idea until I found it on you website TONIGHT. Damn,damn,damn.
I really sympathize with your family situation .. and every episode I watched where you talked about it I cried. Bc everyday people judge me or talk to me different or I'm looked at diferently because of how my father is an alcoholic and abused me at one point and has never been there.. it is something i have to deal with everyday... but i really respect you for putting all this out there it helps me to cope.. Thanks Bethenny!!
Bethenny, A few of us watched your show from the doctors lounge of a hospital near Hazleton,Pa. It gave us a brief respite from an intense career, which we love. We checked you out online and you have an impressive amount of products. Your show tonight was a toot. You are so real, even though I was cringing for Jason. Don't try to control the inlaw thingy. Just let it flow and it will take care of itself. I hear from other members of the staff that you are beloved in the Central Susquehanna Valley of Pa. Politicians are afraid to go there. It is about 70 miles from Hazleton. During your show the male doctors were extremely quiet. I guess they were wishing they were Jason. Good luck with your show and we will continue to watch. I never watched a bravo show before. Now I am a crestfallen fan of you and Bravo. Thank you.
Hi Bethenny! I loved your bedding in this episode, where did you get it? White with Brown paisley? By the way, I love your show and you are the funniest--your honesty is refreshing!!!
Bethanny, when in doubt, don't ask "Patrick"!:) You looked great in your outfit for the US Weekly party...& not because you were poppin' your collar:) You read this Patty guy right, but I'm not so sure he read you right...how much did he pay you to wear that ring? J/K, it was cute...
I adore Bethenny. But I think there is more to consider than just Bethenny. Bryn has to be considered as well. I truly feel that Bryn is being kept from a close, loving relationship with her only grandparents. She has the opportunity to have 2 more people who love her beyond measure, and who can be almost as close as her parents. Those relationships in life are few. Please dont deprive her of it by limiting the visits to once a month. I dont mean to be unkind, but people in prison get more visitation with their children.
Bethenny - I love your show so much! My husband of 28 years was watching it with me and laughing as much as I was. Jason is a lucky man to have you in his life and you are so blessed to have him as your partner. I can honestly say that I feel you two will make it because you both talk to each other. Keep that up and you will make it! Thank you for your honesty and the laughter with tears each week.
Bethany I really enjoy your show and admire what you have done for yourself. But I have to relate to you about having a close family. I understand you didn't have a close relationship with your family but some people do have close relationships and that is normal for them. I feel for your husbands parents as I am now a grandmother and see my grandchildren every week, this is our normal. My husband and i would be crushed if our family wasn't as close as they are now. You should try to accept Jason's family closeness for what it is, and that seems to be that they all love each other and enjoy each other. There is nothing wrong with that if that is their normal. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, and you shouldn't this is all new to you, but I can see how important this is to Jason and his parents. It would be to me because I was brought up that way. Your therapist said there is no normal and he is right about that, our normal can be crazy at times. But there is a bond that is so strong when a family loves each other as much as Jason's family love each other. That won't change and Jason will feel bad for his parents and he will feel guilty for not seeing them because he has always been close with them. Please give yourself time to get comfortable with your new family. Good luck to you, and take care.
I just watched tonights episode. I think you just need to allow yourself to be happy and not feel guilty for having a happy family with not only Jason but also his parents. You are so lucky for a healthy baby and wonderful husband. I wanted everything you have, and my husband got addicted to drugs and we became separated. So just go forward and never look back. You are coming to Baltimore this weekend, and I live like 30 min. away but can't make it. Not in the financial cards right now. But I'm sure you will be great. Don't get scared away by all the horrible Maryland accents! Remeber you are never given anymore than you can handle. Enjoy it!
So happy for you all,
I really hope you and Jason find the balance. I hope you see how perfect you two are for eachother. You guys are silly and hilarious. Watching you and Gina hit on the guys was the funniest thing ever. You are unbelievably lucky to have such chemistry in you home. You deserve all the happiness in the world. Can't wait for the next episode.
bethenny, try not to over think everything. i totally get the visiting part. i too have wonderfull inlaws. my husband and i have been married forty years, and many times we argued about visiting them. not because i did,nt like them, but when you work and you only have two days for yourself it becomes stressfull. so give yourself a break. you are a good person with a lovely family. take care.
I found it so refreshing to see your love and respect for your assistant. It is so great that you let her know how appreciated she is. Tired of employers thinking we should all be grateful just to have a job. So it was nice that you as a business woman was just that a true woman and took time to say "Thank you". I loved it and respected you in that moment. Not being afraid of personal and professional affection intertwined into one. Well done.
Who doesn't have a soft spot for NIck? Fate brought him to you and to us. Glad to see him I wish him nothing short of blessings. Yeah Nick nice to see you back ;-))
The scene with you & Jason in the car enroute to the "best dressed" event was a bit sad to watch when the cameras "panned in" showing both of you had "shut down" & looking out the windows in opposite directions in silence. I could not imagine what it has been like for you two..having the cameras rolling during such intimate or personal moments. Please keep up with the self discovery with your gem of a therapist. And try to work on keeping your hand outta the cookie jar you little cookie monster you! :)
At first I felt uncomfortable with some of the tension between you and Jason in this episode, but then I realized that that is what happens in relationships and marriage. I loved seeing you two dancing together and role-playing at the bar. I really identified with having a cocktail and suddenly telling your guy the one thing you told yourself not to bring up. My boyfriend has the same reaction as Jason, and in the end, it all works out. Thank you for having an honest reality show where I'm not constantly questioning what is staged (ahem, Kardashians.)
Bethenny, Not to worry. I'm still crazy after all these years. Forty-four years of marriage to be exact. And yes, my husband has consistently been the "normal Norman" to my "deranged Dora". It doesn't feel so good, but I guess it's better to embrace the maddess and be kind to ourselves, no? Like Kermit the Frog laments, "It's not easy being green". Since I was twenty, I've been singing those haunting lyrics to my "Norman", "Will you still love me when I'm sixty-four"? Now, I'm stunned to realize that I am sixty-four and he still loves me and so will Jason love you. Thanks again, for not sugar coating your reality, the good, the bad and the not so very ugly. I'm okay. You're okay. I seem to have a cliche addiction. I'll work on that.
Get such a kick out of you guys. My only comment involves the in-laws. They are so, so lucky that you guys are available as much as you are. They should be thankful and I am sure they are. Sound like wonderful people. However, you have your own family as your therapist reminded you. I am lucky to see my ONLY grand child 4 x's a year and they live 60 miles away. My daughter in law is selfish, it's always HER family, HER this and that. SO, I've accepted it.
I say once a month is way generous and every other holiday. Best of luck.
You are new to this family thing, give yourself time and cut yourself a break. You are evolving like everyone else, Rome was not built in a day. Just live, enjoy, decide things one by one and before you know it it will be second nature. Jason is solid gold and you do communicate, just let him do it a leeeeeeetle more often without jumping all over him. You both should consider couples therapy and he individually as his brother's passing has left him thinking he must be all things to his parent. He could use a little help with that. All the best,
I have repected and admired you since the first season of Housewives. I've read both of your books and the lessons that I learned from them have changed my life. Now I would like to return the favor by giving you some advice. Give your husband a break. He is so understanding and tolerant of your crazy life and he loves you for you. It makes Jason happy to be around his parents. Give him that, for no other reason other than that it makes him happy. You're not wrong for your feelings but we sometimes put our own feelings and comfort level aside for the person we love, especially when that person is our spouse. We see Jason do this for you all the time, but we don't see you doing that for him very often. Just let this be the one thing you do for him, without whining and complaining about it (to him-bitch about it to your girlfriends). You are not going to die if you see his parents more than you would like. Both he and your beautiful daughter will thank you and love you for it in the end. It's not abnormal to not be close to your family. You are right about that. But it IS a wonderful thing to be close to family and should be appreciated and celebrated when the opportunity is there. Jason and Bryn need more people in their lives than just you. Give them the gift of family that you never had.
Bethenny, You don't realize what family can mean -- what it can be. Please don't deny your baby and your husband the time to connect with his family. If you're busy, why not let him go to see them with the baby. You and Jason are NOT attached at the hips and the cord has been cut. The baby will be safe and loved. Gramma knows how to care for a baby and Dad, Jason, will be there. Even if he's playing golf and they have him alone for a few hours. This is life. Isolating them will harm them more than you know. I'd give anything to have my Mom and Dad alive with me and my kids just one more day.
Thank you Bethenny for providing a "warts and all" view on your life, business and marriage. You are intense but you are funny and real and that why the fans absolutely adore you and root for you. Your marriage, child and work balance issues make you instantly relatable to every working Mom out there (and there are millions of us). This season I especially love your interactions with the foodie assistant that you never hired. You two have a very funny and appealing dynamic (the nerd and the popular girl get along!) that is compelling to watch. I look forward to watching the rest of the season and buying Place of Yes when it comes out in stores. Keep doin' what you're doin'!
Jason is so sweet - be happy Bethenny that your in-laws love you. My husband comes from a family of eight and the daughter-in-laws are very low on the priority list of who my in-laws want around. Jason's folks are very sweet people and adore you and your baby - lucky you!
Bethenny, when Jason said to you "why must you make everthing so difficult?" ... it could have been my husband ... he has said that to me often. I guess, like you, I'm a difficult person. (Love that line...hope you don't mind, I'm stealing it!). Bethenny, have loved you since the first season of RHONY and think you are hysterical and managing a "real" life. Look forward to the rest of the season!
Love you and your show. You are amazing. Your hubby and baby are great. You really deserve to have a good life. Let go of the past, I know I had a rough childhood but am married to a amazing man. Good Luck we all love ya
Bethenny, your not alone in your struggle over time spent with FAMILY. At age 52 I still have problems with my Mother. She and I live in different states about 5 hrs. away and she wants all of us and our children at her home for a meal every holiday. My daughter is a new Mother and lives a hour or so from my Mom. So when given the chance to visit I want to spend it with her and my new grandson instead of at my Mom's. So I deal with alot of guilt. Your so right about having your on family holiday's. But, there is no greater love than a Grandparents. I really hope you can find balance for everyone. I really enjoy your show, it makes me laugh.
I love Bethenny and she was my favorite on the New York housewives. I just have one beef with her. She needs to learn to compromise more with Jason. He is such a great guy and I would hate to see their relationship end in divorce. She needs to realize it's not all about her and she does have an extended family, Jason's family. The times Jason goes to visit his parents without her, I think he should be able to take their baby and not have to ask permission. After all, it's his baby as well.
Jason is truly a wonderful husband, father, and son. You are so blessed. Please don't make him choose between being a son and a husband. He can be both if you decide that it's okay with you. Bryn will learn to love and respect her parents by how Jason shows love and respect for the Hoppy's. I hope that you can see this for what it is and not spin Jason's love and respect into something negative. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. I know you need all of Jason's love but don't be jealous of his parents. I love who you are and know that you will be ok. You are a great person and I love your show.
Hi Bethenny, I love how you dress even though you are not a self proclaimed fashionista! That blue jumpsuit you wore out on your date was killer!! With that being said, as an insider looking in I worry for you about your marriage. I am sure a balance is hard to achieve with the whirlwind that is your life, but at the same time you may want to look at Jason's comments and his concessions towards you a little bit less selfishly. Let the guy take Bryn to see his parents if you don't want to go, he was giving up golf to be able to take her but you weren't willing to give up anything. Your not a bad person but continuously trying to control every situation is tiring and painful. Say "yes" a little more, especially to Jason it will change things between you two and you will realize how a little letting go will make such a huge difference in your relationship. It's uncomfortable peeking into someone's life who has such a great marriage and seeing a glimpse of what could break them up. Don't get to caught up, Jason is a keeper I would hate to see something happen to you two over something solvable.
Bethenny, I am so happy that your show has made its return to Bravo. I love you, always have, and I am so happy for all you have and continue to accomplish. Jason is a wonderful partner for you and Bryn is adorable. God bless your family and all of the love that you share. I have to say that it is always refreshing to watch you and know that I am not the only crazy, Type-A woman in the tri-state area, I love that you keep it real and show not only all of your success, but the trials and tribulations of your life and business, as well. On top of all that, you make me laugh AND cry during each episode and blog! You are incredible, keep being YOU! LOVE YOU!!! XOXO!
I think this season is great already. You are truly blessed to have found someone as wonderful in every way as Jason. He seems to have brought much love into your life in the form of himself, your beautiful Bryn, and also his family and friends who, by the way, seem to love you as much as they do him. I thought it was beyond adorable when you surprised Julie!! The expression on her face told the whole story. You are very lucky to have someone so dedicated to you. Gina.....she KILLS me!! LOL!! Honest to God, she is the absolute perfect mix to your household!! I literally could not catch my breath when she was hitting on the camera guy!! Thanks for giving us great, real "reality" TV!!
Thought about your show alot last night. I enjoy you because you and your show are so real and natural. However, I feel for Jason (by the way very handson) with his family. I really think you need to cut him a break. He accommodates you, your schedule, life style, fame, etc. all he asks from you is to visit his family every three weeks. First of all, his parents are grandparents, a very important role in their life and for your daughter's. They lost a son and this baby brings them great joy. Also, it's important to Jason; for that reason you should do it without such a fuss; he does what's important to you. Plus grandparents play a really important role in your children's life. They give them unconditional love, extra attention, devoted time to them and they feel that and know it and it gives them confidence. My daughter saw each set of grandparents once a week and she loves them so much and she knows she is loved so much by them. You are actually have a little less stress by not having 2 sets of parents to juggle. Why don't you take advantage of the opportunity to give them time with your daughter and go out on dates (especially if they visit in NY). We did that--it gave us quality time together without a kid and it gave them quality time with their granddaughter. I realize the family thing is hard -- but you really need to look at it differently. You are a family with an extended family. Believe me them being older the whole thing could change tomorrow and everyone would have missed that bonding time. Your daughter will remember the love shared forever that only grandparents can give.
Good luck and give the grandparent thing a little more thought. a Fan
Bethanny, I get you and I really enjoy seeing you and your family. It is unfortunate that you don't have family to call and spend time with. I wouldn't say it isn't normal but it is unusual. However, who needs family that is destructive, self-centered and mean? I would rather have no family than have a horrible family. The obvious disconnect is that he can't seem to understand quite how you are regarding family because he comes from such a close-knit and loving family, if a bit co-dependent. I have friends whom aren't close to their family/have issues with family and they have problems with my love for my family. We weren't always close but we are a lot older now and the past is the past. There are children and grandchildren and raising them with love and a large extended family is the most important thing. God bless you and your family!
Bethenny love you ! You are an inspiration - LOVE your honesty . Give Nick a little break while on your foodie fest - you are a wonder woman and it's tough to keep up w/ u , I'm sure . You are so blessed and WORK for it !! Thank you , Jason and Bryn for letting us peek into your life ! Julie - you rock !!!
Hey, are you kidding, you should always feature on the top ten of anyone's best dressed list, with or without help you always look fantastic! I kind of felt your frustration when you were trying to explain to Jason about what is a "normal" family. I rarely see mine (in person), everybody is very busy with work and traveling, etc, and we just don't get together at holidays. But, for some reason, none of us think we are strange or abnormal. We all still love and care for each other. I know Jason is really an "only" child, and wants to include his lovely parents (who wouldn't) but I wonder if his parents spent so much time with their parents? He is a very kind man for not wanting to hurt their feelings, I have seen the opposite so many times. Your doing a great job, and I love seeing your show. What you did for Julie was fantastic, she is very valuable to you, and its great to see you acknowledging that.
PS You handled the issue of Jasons horrid jeans very tactfully! LOL!
Bethenny, Love the show, adore you, Jason, Bryn and the whole lot. My husband (who is a man's man and it cracks me up that he watches the show with me) and I laugh out loud at your comments, observations, interactions, etc... You and Jason remind me of my husband and me so much it is uncanny. I bet plenty of women tell you that, which is why you are so successful, we can relate to you. Albeit none of us look like you & have your body, however, our struggles our similar, perhaps on different levels, nonetheless the balancing act proves to be a losing battle for all. Looking forward to the rest of the season, love the Skinnygirl Margaritas, take care of you!
Bethenny: I know it's challenging when you have inlaws to add to a new marriage. Take it from me, stand your ground on how much time you want to spend with Jason's parents. (I think once a month is perfect.) Too much inlaw time can eventually be suffocating. Every couple has to find the "right" amount. Love the show!!
Bethenny! I love your show, I love your little family, and love how we feellike we are part of it. I can remember when I first had my daughter a couple of years ago.......I was almost territorial about who could spend time with her and for how long.......I think I had anxiety over someone thinking they could do a better job then I could with her. I too am a career woman and knew that I wanted both motherhood and a career and felt that i was being judged to some dgree by my in-laws for this reason. Because of this deep-seeded insecurity, I wanted to limited or control if you will, how much they were with her so as not to confuse them on my ability to be successful at both. 2 years later, I realize that I was being silly and projecting my feeling of self-doubt on everyone else. The best thing you can do is utlize the people that will treat Bryn as good as you do. It will get easier as time goes on.....I think letting Jason take Bryn on a day trip to Hazelton is a great way to boost his confidence, give him and Bryn time with the family and give you time to breath. It makes everyone happy and makes you better at everything else you do. Rest assured.......you will be so happy to have grandma and grandpa in Hazelton......even if it is every 2 weeks! LOVE THE SHOW!
Bethenny you are amazing! I'm a 28 yr old stay -at -home wife and mommy with three kids and you are just what I need at the end of my day which is filled with pampers, bottles, bibs, toys, demands & needs that are rarely mine :) I love that you use honesty and humor for everything it's very refreshing! I just got a bottle of the Skinny Girl Margarita and loved it! I've been looking forever and just found it in my little town. It will be my gifts this year to all my girls. Love your books! Congradulations on your tiny little gift Bryn (my nick name by the way) and your amazing Husband!! Hold on to him Bethenny good men and a family man is hard to find! Your in-laws are wonderful and it's obvious everything will work out. Bless you all!!
LOVE Julie!!! What a sweetie!! Her and Max are cute togther..hmmmmm Best wishes!!
Bethenny, I love your show! I have enjoyed seeing your authenticity and how you have changed over the past year, and I think Jason has a lot to do with that. He is certainly the perfect man for you. You have a terrific husband, a beautiful daughter, supportive friends, and a new family that loves you. Who would not be changed by all this goodness? Congratulations on all of it, and I will be watching with interest how things unfold this season!
Bethenny, I love your show & you! I am a balls to wall girl myself & married the most laid back guy ever! We have been married for 22 years & he has taught me so much without breaking me which I am extremely grateful for! As far as the in-laws go...just invest in it what you have to and love them for giving you a great guy! If you aren't inclined to go with him every time he needs to go, then let him take the baby & go! They will appreciate it and it will relieve you from the pressure of feeling as though you have to! Everyone wins! Took me years to realize this but once I did...Wow! What a difference! Best of Luck babe! Keep on keeping on :)
First, I looovvvee the show and can relate to u on a bunch of different levels. Thank u for being an inspiration. I am also newly married and we also had a baby a couple of months ago, (a son, Leo Michael) so balancing it all is the hardest job I've ever had, but I wouldn't trade it in for the world. I just wanted to tell you that I understand where u are coming from with relation to the in-laws (who really do look like a daughter-in-laws dream) that I, unlike u, have the complete opposite kind of in-laws, the ones that could care less about their new grandson, unfortunately. In their defense, they live in New Hampshire and we are in Long Island, but they have yet to make a trip to see our son or call to see how he is doing. I guess, I just want to tell you that while I can only imagine how overwhelming it is to have people that want to b there all the time, please try to see it from the other side & imagine what it would b like if they didn't want to see your daughter - it would b very hard and hurtful. Thank god for my mom bc it's the only grandparent Leo has to show him love & affection as well as help my husband and I when we need a couple hours to ourselves. I'm not trying to preach to you, just want u to know how lucky you are. Best wishes & Bryn is absolutely beautiful! Congrats! Can't wait to see the show next week!
Bethenny! I love love love your show!!! I loved you on the housewives too...anyway what I want to know is how the hell did you get so skinny again so soon after Bryn? My daughter is almost 2 and I am still struggling to get a flat tummy. You look awesome and I wish I had your body!
Bethanny, I do think you are a witty, vivacious and beautiful woman. That being said I also undserstand how different you and Jason are and how you both grew up. I know you battle with going to his parents home for what you think is a lot of time there. I agree you have your own self created family, however Jason's parents want nothing more than time. Time with the grandparents for Bryn, I believe is vital, and these relationships become the foundation of who we become. I can't imagine nicer and more genuine people to have my child around. These moments are the most important and although it is a change for you and different from your upbringing maybe time will help you to embrace it a little more. That doesn't mean give up time for just the 3 of you, just understanding the unconditional love Jason's parents have and the pure place they are coming from! Lots of luck and love from Jensen Beach, Fl!!