In the Mix

Shawn discusses his anniversary with Michael, Bethenny and Jason's banter, and Max's boundary issues.

In last week's webisode Michael and I actually have a day off. We had been working for about three weeks straight planning and designing about three parties a week. We needed a day to catch up, just him and me. Of course I had to add more to our plate because I can rarely sit still. With Christmas fast approaching, I felt the need to give out our annual "Holiday Mix." It's gotten to the point that old clients and vendors beg for us to make this mix. . .it's a box full of gooey sugary goodness. By the time we receive the "thank you" email everyone tells us it's gone. It's really that good!

And as if we didn't have enough to do I thought it might be a good idea to not only plan our annual Christmas gathering, but also plan our eighth anniversary. Over the past eight years Michael and I have been through a lot together both personally and professionally. The road to this point in our life hasn't been an easy one. No one said it would be easy, and I know the road ahead won't always be filled with sunshine and fields of poppies. Life is short and I thought it would be great to entertain. Rarely do straight relationships make it to eight years, and in gay years it is like celebrating a 50th Anniversary! So why not plan it? Why not take on one more thing? It's something special, and hey. . .I am always up for a party!

Watching Michael and I banter back and forth makes me laugh because that's us. What you see is what you get. We bicker, we banter, and we laugh. We like to joke around with each other; we like to take jabs at each other. That's how we show we care. That's how we show our love.

I am pretty lucky that Michael had Schylar the day we met. . .or should I say Michael is pretty lucky that he had Schylar. Regardless the story is true, Schylar introduced us. . .it sounds strange, but meeting Michael and Schylar eight years ago is the best thing that ever happened to me! I'm a pretty lucky guy. Watching Bethenny and Jason banter back and forth is a familiar scene. They joke, they jab, and they care deeply for each other. . .you can tell. It's in their eyes and actions.

I hate to, and don't want to compare Bethenny and Jason to Michael and I, but watching I just couldn't help but notice the similarities. Michael is so much like Jason: he listens, he takes everything in before judging the situation, and he's a brilliant businessman. And like Bethenny I am the creative one, I'm the one with my name on the door, and I'm the one that can't wrap my head around some of the "business stuff." I am also the one who wants heads to roll. When I want answers I want answers now, not tomorrow. I have very little patience for mistakes and I just want to get the job done. For me there are no grey areas. No BS. . .watching them was a mirror of us. It was scary at how different, and yet how similar we are.

And don't even get me started with putting the toy together! I can't tell you how many times I have pushed Michael out of the way because he wasn't doing something correctly, or it wasn't the way I wanted, or worse, because he was too slow. I do that all the time…it's not a good quality. My lack of patience is going to get the better of me and our relationship some day. All I know is Michael has the patience of a saint.

While watching the past few episodes I've been curious as to what happened to Max. Every time Max's name comes up Bethenny gets uncomfortable. Well, the cat's out of the bag. . .

I have to say as an employer, I like to have a good time with my employees. Work is work, play is play. Often I take them out for a drink after a crazy day or week. We can let our hair down. If they ever need to chat I always lend an ear. Like my employees, I like to have a good time. However, at the end of the day I am their boss and that boundary has to remain. It seems Max forgot these boundaries. He crossed the line. It was an unfortunate mistake and there is no telling what Max's future holds with Bethenny.

Follow Your Heart

Julie reflects on her journey with Bethenny and where it will lead her next.

Everyone -- this was a pretty intense episode. I wanted to thank all of you for the positive thoughts and support throughout this whole journey. Working for Bethenny and creating an unbreakable bond with her family truly changed and molded me as a person, and has allowed me to take the next step of my life with confidence. You have all helped build Bethenny's empire and your constant support has allowed her to take the next step -- her talk show. Although I am not directly working for Bethenny anymore, I am supporting from a distance and keep very close to her and her family.

For those of you who have asked, I am extremely happy and living in my hometown of Pittsburgh since January. I recently got a job in PR and marketing and am looking forward to the next steps of my life. This experience has taught me many things, but the most important thing is to follow your heart and be thankful for everything that you have in life.