In my webisode last week, I was in the throes of planning Bethenny's 40th birthday party when I received a call from Julie asking if Max could come assist me. Julie explained that there had been a fall out between Bethenny and Max; but she didn't go into further detail. Bethenny and Julie needed a favor, Max needed a second chance, and I needed an extra set of hands…and with only three weeks to plan the birthday party I said sure. It was a win-win for everyone.
I only knew Max from the few times he and I interacted while planning Bethenny and Jason's wedding. Other than that I didn't know too much about him: what were his abilities, and what were his weaknesses? Quite frankly, and no offense, I didn't have time to worry. The one thing I don't do is set people up for failure. If you don't know how to do something I will help you, show you, and guide you. However, as an adult you just have to ask. If you don't ask, then I will assume you know what you're doing or you will quickly learn. Party planning isn't rocket science, but you have to have an eye for detail. I wasn't sure if Max did. And I was really curious why he was no longer with Bethenny.
When I was going over my expectations with Max, I think I was pretty fair and direct. I didn't sugarcoat anything, and Meagan reinforced how I am and how I operate. So when I gave Max the list of things I needed help with I was expecting questions. I gave him two, if not three, opportunities. When he had no questions I was a little concerned. But he's an adult, and I figured when the time came he would reach out. . .
Planning Bethenny's 40th Birthday was so much different than planning her wedding. To start off with, Bethenny was completely hands off. In the past I've planned at least 20, if not more, 40th birthdays and everyone has been an all out blast with shirtless boys, crazy entertainment, and over the top décor. That's what the clients wanted, that was my frame of reference.
I'm not going to lie, I was a bit nervous. I was getting absolutely no direction from Bethenny. I was going on a spit and a prayer. Apparently my stilt-walking and shirtless boys-serving ideas were a bit much for Bethenny. . .I had her confused for the Big Gay Circus that was coming to town. By the time I finished giving her my ideas she had me sweating like a w---e in church, and I needed a cocktail. STAT! We hugged it out, and all was good.
You did a great job w/ the party and crazy Bethenny, but why start the story about Max not to finish it..? Seems similar to Bethenny's explanation of why he got fired. None. So we're left to believe he wasn't given an adequate chance and got criticized for nothing.
where was the party venue? i can see that it's the meatpacking district of the city, but couldn't make out the venue sign.
kudos, shawn! looking forward to more of your work. do you have a website?
I think I know the answer to that question. Max didn't have any questions. He should have. Unless of course Max knows everything. If that were the case he'd still be working for Bethenny. I would work for Shaun for free, if his business was in San Francisco where I'm a 40 minute train ride away . The knowledge I would gain working for his company would be priceless. Shaun, find some interns who will work for free.
You did a fabulous job planning the birthday party. I hope Bethenny appreciated everything you did for her once she got past the tears and nonsense. I really believe she owes you and everyone involved in coordinating the party an apology. I think she takes people for granted. Shawn, it's time for you to get your own show; I would watch religiously.
you & cookie!
shawn, i missed seeing your interaction with cookie on last week's episode & this week's! i think the two of you have a love/hate relationship ... then again, i think cook has a love/hate relationship with everyone ... lol.
and, i agree with Irvinegirl's inquiry. what transpired with the birthday party planning & max's help? all you did was give us a teaser, but it sounds like you were disappointed with his work product, or lack thereof.
please spill the beans ...
Shawn...you did an absolutely beautiful, outstanding job planning Bethenny's party. You have nothing to feel bad about! And I am positive Bethenny was very grateful and appreciative of what you did for her. Growing up in a very dysfunctional family is extremely hard to overcome...never mind the fact that you then have to share what should be your special day with a woman that gave birth to you...then just forgot you. Please do not take Bethenny's reactions personally. You rock!!
Love you and love your relationship with Bethenny! The party looked beautiful but what was up with that Roman Candle Ugly Cake??? Hope you help plan Bryn's first birthday party.
what is the purple vodka drink that shawn and bethenny have at her birthday tasting!?!?!? btw love you!
AAAccckkk birthday's are worse than weddings because you get one EVERY year! I happen to be one of the unlucky people that have a New Year's Eve birthday. Celebrations were never much fun no matter what age/year it was. You can never just go out for dinner without eating at lunchtime or having a room full of drunken strangers sing to you a half dozen times and it is certainly never "my special day," it belongs to the world ...
I have friends, relatives ,and one son, that can't get enough of telling the world it is their birthday and expecting so much from it. I never understood all the hoopla. Clearly, you planned a nice event, things just didn't follow along as planned. You must have been horrified. It is especially tough when the scenario is one that you have little control over, and those cameras just keep rolling. It makes my "special day" seem easy. Haha! Keep up the good work. It'll be nice to see someone roll with it, learn from it and move on.
You can't make other people happy- no one can. The party looked very nice and she chose drama. You are fun to watch and watching you made me happy.
Oh my goodness! I just looked your company up and discovered you went to MU! I work as a teacher just down the street and am from around Columbia. I love how you deal with Bethenny! She is an awesome person and I am glad you know how to "handle" her! The events you have done on the show are great and your website is fabulous also!
Shawn-You are one of the reasons Bethanny's show is so popular. Thank goodness she got out of that screaming gangfight of the NY Housewives. Her show has great characters like you and Jeana and Jason and her girlfriends and gay friends and that adorable Bryn. You all are so fun to watch. Thanks!
LOVE, LOVE,LOVE,YOU I think the reason gay men get Bethenny and don't have a thin skin about her comments is because most gay men have gone threw a lot of emotional issues so they get her.THANK YOU
The cake was the tension breaker - I loved it and laughed until I cried when the cake came out lit-up-like-the-fourth-of-July!!! Both Jason and Bethenny's faces were priceless... Hilarious and fun! Great job and beautiful party!
Loooove you! I look forward to your blogs - so descript and so funny! Bravo needs to give you your own show...on the TV, not my laptop!
You do your best......wish you could plan my birthday (everybody always forgets I have one!!). Bethenny has a great therapist, a marvelous husband, and great friends like you......maybe someday she will learn to relax and enjoy them more ---- and let the hurts of the past go. Celebrating a birthday means we are alive to celebrate one more year -- and I am 70!!! Too many people die too young, so those of us who are more fortunate should apprecate each and every day, both the good and the not so good days. We love you, Shawn.
I love you so much! I love how you handle Bethenny's craziness with grace and charm! I swear you are hilarious and I hope you get your own show. If you ever need an assistant, call me!! :)