Shawn Rabideau

Shawn comments on Bethenny's breakdown and the importance of a good support system.

on Apr 15, 2011

Between watching my webisode this week and watching this episode of Bethenny Ever After, both came back to one thing -- family.

In the webisode my sister came to visit Michael and I for our eighth anniversary. I was super excited because she hadn't been to NYC in over two years, and the last trip was with the entire family, our parents, her kids, and husband. This time it was just her, and I was looking forward to some quality time where we could catch up on each other's lives. It's not that we don't see each other during holidays or in between, but we both lead very busy and very different lives. She's a mom to two beautiful teenage girls and a wife to a fabulous guy. Between the four of them, they are running from this sports practice, that dance recital, or to a school meeting. And Michael and I are usually busy planning events, going out to dinner with clients, or attending industry cocktail parties. As a result we don't speak very much. . .and it's not for wanting to, it's just we get wrapped up in our own lives that are miles apart.

My sister and I grew up in a typical small town middle class American family. We were super lucky we had two parents that loved us and gave us everything they could. And although we fought (what siblings don't?), we loved each other and as the years passed we grew closer. We became friends. My mother and father used to say, "When we're gone, it just going to be the two of you," and that's something we've never forgotten.

My sister and I joke that she is garage sales, nachos, and beer, and I'm Barney's, caviar, and champagne -- and nothing could be more accurate! Getting our nails done that day was exactly what I needed. I needed to reconnect, touch base, laugh, cry, and get back in touch with my family. I hate to think of the day when my parents are gone, but when that day comes I know even though we are different, I will still have my sister and a friend -- and someone I can get my nails done with.