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I have the sweetest, most caring, and supportive fans. It means so much to me that you worry about me and take the time to give me advice. I actually learn a lot from you.
The season is definitely funny and silly as always, but there is a serious undertone about my relationship, which has had its peaks and valleys. I love Jason and I adore my family, and, most importantly, I'm in it to win it. Relationships take work, and in my life, nothing comes easily. I'm the initiator and Jason is the escalator and this we have really worked on since the show filmed. Our arguments certainly aren't as heated and we listen and respect each other more.
As for the apartment renovation, I love being involved in every aspect of the construction and design, but what a pain it can be. Little did I know that I would be running another business. Most people don't communicate properly, and if you can be a good, clear, calm manager who can delegate then you will get very far.
Ellen Degeneres was right when she told me that this job would never finish on time. There is a hold up every week. And I'm moving to L.A. for the summer for the talk show on Fox. I hope we'll get to enjoy the apartment for at least one night.
Bethenny you are beautiful, smart and sooooo clever. You once said you didn't know if we could have it all. Well guess what Beth, you did it, You have it all. Follow you all the time on "E" in England, love you, respect you Go girl love Lori xxx
You GO girl. Hated to see the drama with Jason, but that's life and a marriage. Some good days, some bad. No one is perfect and men just aren't great at showing, let alone airing, their weaknesses. Can't wait to see the next episode. He tries so hard to include his parents, as he should, however, there comes a time when, as HE said last season, "you and Bryn are my family now."
Bethenny you are beautiful and smart. I understand the evolution of your relationship, I see my so much of how my marriage evolved in year two. My husband and I fought a lot, I went to counseling and eventually my husband came too. He learned to fight and I learned to hold back, after a few more years we fight less and make up quicker by better communication. I respect you and your business, but to be honest, I love the look of your website, but it can be hard to get around in it, too many hurdles sometimes. I hope it continues to evolve and improve. So looking forward to your new Skinnygirls, make sure it gets out to Walla Walla, WA, we have some of the best wines in the world after all. You should make a visit while you are on the West Coast!!
Bethenny, you have been so fun to get to know over the last few years. I've watched and cheered for your show, career and beautiful family. Just one piece of advice for you and Jason, don't argue with Bryn in your arms. The scene at the helicopter pad was really upsetting. Children retain everything. I know you're a great mother and love her so much, and I know Jason does too. But from someone who knows, there is nothing more terrifying to a child than hearing their parents fight. Best of luck and love to you all xx
Bethanny, I just wanted to let you know, that you are not alone going through all of the ups & downs w/your first few years of marriage. I've been married over 6 years and know the first year or so was by far the hardest. It get's so much easier and more FUN once you get over all of the major life changes. I brought 2 kids into our marriage... talk about stressful! it did get easier though as each month passed. Now things are better than ever. All change takes time, especially something as important as learning to be a happy, healthy family. Please don't ever think you're alone! We all have been there. Marriage & families are HARD. Just hang in there! Love your family! Work family included!
I felt for you on your 40th Birthday last year and now i feel for you all over again for his 40th. It's obvious you and Jason have different approaches to birthdays and it is obvious Jason insist that his is the NORMAL one therefore you must be wrong you must adapt You have to work it out. Your 40th birthday spoke volumes on the structure of the relationship and his inability to sometimes accept the differences and treat them with respect. I am Finally weighing in because it really weighed on me when i saw the torture you endured to please Jason and his parents last year
Center of attention is not for everyone and birthday attention is different than hosting attention. I hope Jason will understand it is ok not to make a big deal out of birthdays or you will just start dreading them. I hope he works on respecting rather than dissecting your differences .
I was not paid to say this but LUV you and You are right a lot - congrats on working on yourself through therapy . Hope Julie is hanging in there Love her and her quiet strength. Bonnie
I think if you cared for your family, you would leave all this reality stuff behind. Money is great, but it's not fun being an unhappy rich person. Time to turn the cameras off. I find myself looking away as though I'm about to witness a train wreck this season. I've enjoyed your journey and would hate to see it tragically end.
SOSOSO proud of you B - u obviously have had some very serious problems in the past AND I love that u r able to go to therapy for help! Marriage is hard - so glad u r not giving up! Alot of the problem seems to be Jason s parents - he wants to spend so much time w them (which is so sweet) BUT there is not that much time in the day! I am sure he feels guilt over his brother and wants to make them hoppy (lol) BUT he has to understand he has to put u and baby b FIRST! Life is tuff - count ur blesssings and good luck!
Oh Bethenny: Please don't become one of those women who gets everything she's every worked for and then complains about how hard things are. That would change my whole assessment of your strength sets. Okay-he's NOT perfect, I got it. Anyone who's been in a marriage for more than 10 minutes can tell you that no one's perfect and the ones who've been married for 24 can tell you it's not about perfect. You don't sign up "for better or worse" like that's a one time tick mark and then it's perfect. I know you get that but mutual respect and "fatal flaws" are what rule the day. If you look back just 4 years ago, you were in a completely different place. Now your rich, you're married and you've got a dolly of a girl. Enjoy what you're making without needing to "win" ... being a "right fighter" is not satisfying or healthy in the long run. "Being strong isn't about lifting weights; it's about having the wisdom and the patience to wait for the weight to lift." Whose behavior can you control? Really. If together as a whole you're better than the separate pieces of who you were...then keep talking and working to make the other person's life the very best you can. He's not responsible for making you "happy" and you're not responsible to make him "happy". We own happiness ourselves. Revel in what you've got and don't worry so much about what you don't or you will always be that little girl who wasn't good enough. d
I would like to say that I am a loyal fan and putting yourself and Jason into the spotlight cannot be easy, I think you are wonderful and I think he is too and I think you are BOTH wonderful parents to Bryn and how dare anyone say that you are not a good role model. That is ridiculous, we see you as a terrific boss, a calm to the point manager, your a good friend and you are always trying to better yourself, unfortunately the only thing I can come up with as far as anyone being negative towards you is jealousy. You worked for everythign you have now and people need to bash you. They will always find something to attack. Congratulations on your success and your beautiful family. I wish you all the best!
Get rid of the blond hairdresser and the brunette that talks bad about your husband. They are examples of people that you pay that tell you what you want to hear.
That brunette is toxic; how dare her sit there and repeatedly say that Jason is wrong. WTF
Bethanny, I really like your honesty. I can understand your frustrations, being in the public eye, having everyone judge you, being the unstable one and Jason looking like the perfect husband. I think by now you may realize, this was good for all of us. (your fans) It's what made us fall in love with Bethanny and Jason. No one is perfect and I can only imagine what struggles are behind closed doors. Even tho you've gone throw struggles in your second year, I know the 2 of you will make it. Both of you are smart, strong, successful people, that know communication is going to be the key to repair on all fronts of your marriage. I trust that with this being the last season, things will get better. I can't wait to see your daytime talk show!
Jason appears to accept you for who you are and you seem to do the same to a point and with contingencies. It is painfully clear that Jason feels the need to overcompensate for the loss of his brother in his relationship with his parents. This is his "thing" and accepting it and moving forward would cut through all this crap. Your perseveration over this issue must be exhausting mentally.
Bethenny, You have to understand that ALL marriage 's take work. My husband &I were highschool sweethearts,really junior high. Anyway we have been married for 36 years in April. I was 3 month's pregnant when we got married. We have 2 daughters & 2 grand kids. Where we don't have the chaos of running several businesses we are for the most part a one income blue collar family. Our oldest daughter has chrones disease & our youngest daughter is severely autistic. There is a little sign on our front door that says "Welcome to the nut house." On my refrigerator the sign says "Excuse me, which level of hell is this?" Got to keep the sense of humor. Anyway we still have our good times and bad. We both get tired and stressed, taking care of our youngest daughter full time can take it out of me. So I understand how you can feel like you are being pulled in all direction's. You have to understand that men are never wrong and it's NEVER their fault:-) even when they say their sorry they usually follow tthat with a BUT! You guy's have a connection and a beautiful baby, so you have to work on it and work on it everyday.
Hi B Love the interaction between the interior decorators and the architect. Whew! Lots of type As in that room. I am beginning to understand your issues with everyone seeing Jason as perfect. I'm married to one of those men, too. It can be challenging.....and resent can build. Jason has his flaws and he likes to poke at you. He doesn't know when to stop and you are not the only instigator...he instigates, too. I know he is a great guy, be he is lucky to have you. Brynn....possibly cutest kid ever...except for my two girls.
WOW! Get a grip girl! It took you years to finally succeed with your skinny girl products and it'll take a lifetime to succeed in a marriage. i really liked you in the housewives and last year but now you're beginning to sound selfish and self-serving. You're a tough wise cracker but it looks as though you can't take what you're dishing out. i think you're talking too much about your certain personal problems you're having with your husband. You pride yourself about being so honest, but you need to learn the honesty should not always be expressed for the sake of harmony in a relationship. There are things that should be worked out privately. It does look as though you and husband love each other and your precious baby so do the work on you and wait for him to catch up. Good luck!
It has been fun to watch your life unfold these past many years on TV. Your fans are indeed rooting for you to be successful in work, but more importantly in love with both family and friends. Treasure both and please, please don't forget to take the time to enjoy it all.
Bethenny, I can't sleep either due to everything on my mind. But I learned to CONSCIOUSLY put it out of my head. Please - think of something else. It takes awhile but you can do it.
Funny enough, my best most relaxing thoughts are running through my head a movie or show I saw that day or evening. Just lay there & play the scenes in your head.
And funniest - your show - if I replay your show or other Bravo shows in my head - I am asleep in no time. If you feel anxious - you're probably drifting to some problem or something you have to do. Make yourself stop & go back to the show.
Bethany, It is sooooo refreshing to see someone so real and honest on reality TV. I love all the shows but you have something so special it is great to watch at the end of my day. I can really relate to you and all you have gone through...you truly are such an inspiration. You admit your faults and accept what life has to offer you. So lovely to see your journey through life..and all the ups and downs that we all can learn through. You are such a wonderful role model for women of all ages. Knowing you can do anything with hard work and dedication is very uplifting. You have such a beautiful family and group of friends...always keep them close to you and never change. You are beautiful just the way you are!!!
I have always been a fan and especially when you were on RHONY. I appreciate your wit and your drive to be a successful businesswoman. I hope you and Jason have moved on and that you both watch these episodes to see where you BOTH make mistakes. Never forget that the Hoppys lost a son...now that you have Bryn, you must understand the depth of that grief. Jason lost a brother and this is something you will never fully grasp. His desire to include his parents partially springs from his wanting to have them share in his joy and partially because of his memory of the devastation they faced. You should have included them in his birthday celebration. If he blindsided you with criticism because you didn't...that was wrong. The things you have said Jason says to you must have been taken out of context. I can never imagine his saying that "you will end up alone", unless you had provoked him into it. That doesn't excuse it, but it might provide an explanation. It looks as if Jason goes on the boat trip after all, but you almost destroyed the whole thing by saying you couldn't move on without an apology. That was social blackmail and very uncalled for.
If someone apologizes, but continues to do the same thing over and over then they are not sorry.
Jason has to deal with his envy of your success, the loss of his brother and his guilt regarding making up for the loss of his brother by being super great son.
Stop beating yourself Bethenny. Right now he has more issues than you.
How do you balance everything? your therapist said you couldn't keep going at the like you were doing? have found ways to find balance? I also wanted to say congrats on your upcoming show.
Bethany ... instead of beginning our blog about how much you love your fans, how about starting with how much you love your husband and your family???!! Girl, get your priorities in line!!!!
Bethenny, You know that Julie doesn't like confrontation, and yet you do exactly that to her, regarding her personal life, infront of the cameras and right before a meeting?!?! I can't believe that Julie has been nothing but a loyal work horse to you, all these years. She didn't deserve that. Shame on you. YOu are not about empowring others, only empowering yourself--you need to make sure that she will stick with you, after all these years/hard work?!?! Uch. disgusting.
Best time/place to air differences with your man is in the car - while he is driving. Men feel safe when they think they are in control and behind the wheel, controlling something, so if you need to get to the bottom of your differences, next time try it out while he is driving - you will be pleasantly surprised. Then, too, it's all about timing, which after years of being together, you'll learn to master.
OK Jason I have to be on Bethanny's side...the parents don't have to be invited. And it is OK for you to go to your parents without her. You are a grown man and you are their son and they need to get over it now that you are married. Appreciate what was done for you and be grateful you have a family now. It is hard to leave and cleave but you are the head of a new household. I am sure your parents said, "It would have been nice to be invited" well they weren't and you went earlier to visit so they could do with you what they wanted. It is hard to find a balance but you seem to want it all one sided and Bethanny is always trying to put something on her side of the scale where your parents out weigh her non-family affairs.
Hi, Bethenny! I love you and Jason and find it painful to watch when you have a serious disagreement. But, I guess that's really part of marriage, isn't it? And it's tougher still when one partner achieves great success and recognition. You're both fabulous people and I'm sure you and your family will get through the adversity with grace and style!
my dear Bethenny, life is full of ups & downs & i'm sure you knew that before marring your husband!!! Please dont listen to the negetives & keep living your life with your husband & your baby...Its not easy to be a "MOM" & "WIFE"...so whats happining with you my dear its so normal. Please dont analyze everything & just live & love every moment of it. Life is to short, so try to enjoy your family as much as you can, cuz you dont know if they will be there tomorrow...
**BETHENNY!!** I cannot begin to tell you how many similarities I see with my marriage and yours! I swear you are a clone of me and Jason is one of my husband, we have the exact same arguments and feelings and reactions to every situation in our marriage that you two do. My husband is a social butterfly, I need my space and alone time in my home, and we argue over how much is the right amount to have people over and who should compromise more. He is an eternal college student always looking for the party, and I am an adult who wants my home and space to be quiet. And I always get the rap of being the bad guy and get blamed for all our issues and arguments when everyone knows it takes two to tango. He has the appearance of being "perfect" to outsiders who only see the one side of him and I get pinned as the crazy one.
Anyway, the 2nd year of marriage is so hard! But if you decide that you will never give up, then it WILL work. But it will be just that, work. I am in my 3rd year of marriage but we have been together for 11 years. We still have to work at it every day but we choose to work at it instead of giving up. Sometimes the banter and arguing is so exhausting...but that is how our personalities are. We're both stubborn smart asses who always want our way and always think we're right, so we are going to butt heads. But that's life. And when other people say that we bicker too much we just laugh and point out how incredibly boring life would be if we had married clones of ourselves and agreed on every single thing and never had an argument or difference of opinion. What would we even talk about?? Anyway, I love you and see so much of you in me and love to watch you, your family, your work life and your show. It makes me feel normal and not crazy because I can say See, Bethenny says that too!!
t seems like the main problem is that Bethenny knows she must change and adapt and learn to be in a marriage, while Jason doesn't seem to be making the same effort.
Perhaps because he got such great fan reaction, and considers himself to be "normal" and Bethenny to be the one that must change (be more like him.)
Very few guys handle the wife making more money well, some can, but Jason seems pretty traditional. Frankly, with his brother's death, he, possibly for good reasons, is SUPER attached to mommy and daddy, and he expects Bethenny to be the same way with his parents. That dig about not having his parents at his birthday? He KNEW she would feel, once again, like she failed him, that whatever she does it's still not quite good enough. His behavior screams "I am normal, you are not, you change, you see a therapist, I am perfect as I am, don't need no stinking therapy, just get with my (normal) program and change for me!"
He's bugging me. He married a woman that was very upfront about who she is and what life she likes, and now seems to be doing that thing where one partner views the other as a "fix me up" rather than an equal. He's allowed to be pissed, for example that Bethenny doesn't want to spend every weekend with his mother and father, but when she is pissed or hurt, or if he thinks something may damage his "perfect" TV image? He walks away angry.
IF Jason learns that Bethenny is not the ONLY one who needs to compromise I think it could work for them. Will he though? Hard to tell. So far, it doesn't seem like it.
Oh, and Jason? You are FORTY years old, if you want mommy and daddy on your birthday? INVITE THEM.
Bethenny you are a very funny, smart and compassionate person. I think you and Jason will make it. I was married to my husband for 33 years, it takes time to get through all the issues that come up along the way, don't take every little thing too seriously. My husband was a wonderful husband, father and grandfather and also my best friend. We had many wonderful times together,don't waste time fighting. He passed away suddenly 5 years ago at the young age of 54 and I would give anything to have him back with me. Enjoy the moment. Take care.
Hi Girl, I totally understand being married to the "perfect" husband. I have had my friends and family tell me that my husband is so perfect that any problems MUST have been my fault. He is not perfect at home he is a pest and he will pick and tease ALL the time. It is funny to him but in my mind it is mean and it drives me nutts. I hate it and when I blow up I look like the crazy lady foaming at the mouth.
I agree with you Bethany, the chiropractic visit was like it was taking out of a SNL skit. So funny!
I love all of you, Bethany, Jason and Julie. And of course the rest of the wonderful people that work for you. Not to forget Bryn, what a sweet little girl. Love her.
Seeing the fight in your car while the helicopter is waiting was very intense, then it skipped to the next episode when you where both on that sailboat. Jason was really listening to your doc. and I think, like Julie said in not so many words, "this could be a good thing".
Hello Bethenny, I am enjoying the show and you and Bryn are so sweet together. You and Jason will get through this. You are a lot like me stop trying so hard. Be yourself and enjoy your husband. Losing a child is the hardest thing a parent can go through! When a prarent goes through it, God it either can have a family fall apart or get stronger. Jason is feeling frustrated because he love his parents and yes there is that guilt he feels because he has to be there for his parents. My advice offer his parents to be a part of you! They really love you but they feel they have to walk on egg shells around you. I see in their eyes that they don't understand the lack of parenting you receive from your parents because what they see is a fun loving young woman who really love their son and their granddaughter and I'm still trying to understand who would not love you and adore you as a child I think they did but just didn't know how to show it. I know you are very busy but once a month not Bryn or Jason but you and Jason mother have a lunch date and go shopping, I think when you let her get to know you and let her talk about her decease son and share with you why she is so protective of Jason you understand why she feel the way she does mother to mother. I think you will understand and the both of you will have that just you and her. She is a beautiful lady and you are a beautiful lady also, you got a lot of heart and I think once you can seperate your life from your staff I think you and Jason will get along better. That is a problem also, you need them to be your staff and that is it. It is very easy to pull them in as part of the family but set boundaries and don't cross them. Love the show and your family! Be yourself the woman your husband love and enjoy being with! I think you are the perfect wife, mother and Jason is just that husband who is a great catch but you are the perfect one. Bethenny I live in South Carolina and can not find Skinny Girl! Enjoy, Love and have Fun!
My wife is a huge fan of yours and is also a chiropractor. If you want a good "crackin" then visit us in Seattle :). We'll also treat you to some Starbucks!
Bethanny, I've seen this tactic before. Jason feeling insecure about the unknown overnight session with your Dr. started a fight hoping it would get him out of going. He probably felt called out on his behavior in front of the world and instead of owning it he made it seem like you were crazy and walked away. I know how you feel about always being the bad guy. NO ONE KNOWS what it's like to be in your marriage but you and Jason. I truly admire your candidness and wish you both all the best. On a lighter note just tried the Skinnygirl Cosmo, WOW , loved it!
March 12th Episode: Stacy the hairdresser is not supportive of your relationship with Jason. When you seemed done venting she kept moving back to it. Why? I think she has an agenda, perhaps she has a thing for your man. She was leaning away from you while talking to you which means she is separating herself from you while she's egging this on. Your people should not be criticizing your husband and egging you on. You seemed uncomfortable with her near the conversation that she kept going on and on. She seemed gleeful to keep it going on. Watch it. Follow your gut Bethenny. I would not trust her with any relationship advice or around Jason. Really. Stick with the people who really support the relationship, which is supporting you.
Also, she's a hairdresser so why did her hair look like a ratsnest in the back? Just saying...
Stacy the hairdresser (and the brunette): She's not supportive of your relationship with Jason. When you seemed done venting she kept moving back to it. Why? I think she has an agenda, perhaps she has a thing for your man. She was leaning away from you while talking to you which means she is separating herself from you while she's egging this on. She seemed gleeful that you were having a problem. Your people should not be criticizing your husband to egg you on. You seemed uncomfortable with her near the end of the shoot. Follow your gut Bethenny. I would not trust her with any relationship advice. I think she'd jump him if she had the chance, and doesn't want you to work things out and have a successful marriage.
Your husband had a loving family before he met you. You had loving friends before you met him. Why is it ok to include your friends in your life but not for Jason to include his parents? That's the way it comes across to me, Bethenny. I'm worried for your little girl losing her family foundation. AGain! Don't do to her what your parents did to you! A loving family is what Jason is offering. Why do you belittle it yet at the same time you want it? Does Jason tell you that you spend too much time with your friends? I doubt it. The same should hold true with his folks. Honey, I'm worried.
Why must you always be right. Your willingness to throw daggers for the sake of being right is hurtful. You may win the fight , but you lose a lot of trust and cannot erase the damage that you done. Who cares if the world loves Jason, now it is your mission to prove us all wrong, and in the end lose the thing you love the most. Wake up girl
i have a bit of advice for you. Working at home is fantastic, but you need seperation. your office shud be a seperate room, seperate entrance. You need to learn how to shut down and enjoy life. children grow up so fast. it's great that you have julie and assistance working for you that you can consider them family, but they are not family, they need seperation also, so that they can live their lives. sometimes too much is just that, too much. Julie is acting like she is gettin stressed, she prolly feels that she MUST be at your place all the time, because you never shut down. get a pad of paper and pen, be responsible and keep track of it, you are a big girl. I have been a fan of yours since your RHONY days. good to see that you have the success that you have worked very hard for. looking forward to the talk show this summer. I work from home, hopefully, you will be on in my part of the US around my lunch or break times. Best of luck to you in all endevores, and to you and Jason. (marriage is like a job also)
It seems like Jason has a need to be superior to you in some way. He seems to place this need before your feelings. It also looked as though you waited to confront him until the cameras were there. It seemed as though you wanted this story about the birthday to be on camera since there was no footage of it. I have to wonder if you are doing to him what you accused Jill of attempting to do to you. Putting your family first may mean that you get the cameras out of your life.
Bethenny~~ I soooo love you & I love this show! You're a such a good Mom/Wife. After watching and I think we all can say>>>we all have issues. I totally think Jason owes you an apology & I'm hoping after watching the episode that he realize his wrong. Yes, his parents probably should have been invited, but now you know =). I think you so rock & I just love you. I can't wait for your talk show. I'm so happy & so proud of you. I wish nothing but the best for you & your beautiful family
I watched and felt so bad for you and Jason I have been married for 5yrs and we've definitely had our battles. I can totally relate to what you were going through we had a similar problem I always felt like everything was my fault too. I was always anxious and moody it wasn't good. But I went and got help and I feel like I got my life back and my mind straight. So right on to you both trying to work on things and be happy. I know I don't know you but I feel connected to your family every time I watch the show. It's nice to see you being real and raw and no staging of situations. So I hope that you have continued success in everything you do.
You are so fake, please look around the world do something for somebody different than you,,, you have a family be thankful
Yr show is great. Shows the lows and highs of life. Fame and money bring a lot of pressure with it and people need to realize it isn't all glory. Your show is so relatable -best hour on tv. Even this past one though it was hard to watch. Everyone has issues, including Jason, and we all have to deal with them, past and present. Bethenny thanks for keeping it real. Great show. Best of luck.
Bethenny, I totally got what you were doing when you said, "stop. no. I'm not going forward" until we nip this in the bud. You and Jason are finding your boundries and footing and catching disrespect early on is only going to make things smoother in the long term. Awesome tool you found in your self-respecting toolbox. Success as all that wonderful abundance aside, your relationship with Jason is a priority and I know you get it. It doesn't happen over night. Hopefully you're getting time alone to let air and levity into the relationship.