Bethenny Frankel

Bethenny discusses her fight with Jason and how much work she puts into their relationship.

on Mar 13, 20120

I have the sweetest, most caring, and supportive fans. It means so much to me that you worry about me and take the time to give me advice. I actually learn a lot from you.

The season is definitely funny and silly as always, but there is a serious undertone about my relationship, which has had its peaks and valleys. I love Jason and I adore my family, and, most importantly, I'm in it to win it. Relationships take work, and in my life, nothing comes easily. I'm the initiator and Jason is the escalator and this we have really worked on since the show filmed. Our arguments certainly aren't as heated and we listen and respect each other more.

As for the apartment renovation, I love being involved in every aspect of the construction and design, but what a pain it can be. Little did I know that I would be running another business. Most people don't communicate properly, and if you can be a good, clear, calm manager who can delegate then you will get very far.

Ellen Degeneres was right when she told me that this job would never finish on time. There is a hold up every week. And I'm moving to L.A. for the summer for the talk show on Fox. I hope we'll get to enjoy the apartment for at least one night.

151 comments
loriblue
loriblue

Bethenny you are beautiful, smart  and sooooo clever. You once said you didn't know if we could have it all. Well guess what Beth, you did it, You have  it all. Follow you all the time  on "E" in England, love you, respect you Go girl   love Lori  xxx

NotSoSkinnyGirl78
NotSoSkinnyGirl78

Watching this new season from Canada so I'm behind a bit. This episode was hard to watch because you'd been through such a hard time. I did find some comfort knowing I'm not alone going through my struggles. I'm also married to a man who seems perfect to the outside world but completely different to me. I could totally relate when you said you felt crazy because of everything going on between you two. Like you I went to therapy to fix me while he did nothing to work on his own issues. It's soooo hard!!! I'm soooooo grateful to you for sharing your struggles on your show. I feel a little less alone knowing I'm not the only one going through such a mess!!! Thank you soo much for sharing and sending you hugs and comfort.

on your side
on your side

Jason is cunning and manipulative and oh yes... mean. I think your sadness comes from realizing this. I hate to say this but I don't think you can work through this because he loves his role as the tortured husband and will not be willing to let it go. Shame though for him if he looses you, as he is mighty lucky to have you. If you look at him having YOUR ring reset every snide little comment was negative instead of going in and saying " please make this super special because Bethenny is picky but she deserves it". I don't really believe you think it is all your fault deep down I just think for now that is easier for you to cope with than that this is not going to work. It is just too soon for you to admit it is not worth trying but when you come around you will be free and be fine. Good luck my heart goes out to you. Think you are great

A Viewer Who Wants Your Best :-)
A Viewer Who Wants Your Best :-)

Bethanny,

Your coping mechanism is clearly that you shut the door on family because they hurt you so much through abandoning you, leaving you on your own as a child. It is now natural for you to shut out Jason's family because your coping mechanism for your life is still in place. Open your door wider and accept Jason's family in. Take down the coping mechanism for his family. Let them in. Turn the key - Bethanny. You are holding the cards when it comes to the health of your relationship - and it is the key to opening up to more relationship with a healthy, loving, set of inlaws that so desperatley want in. Can you stop thinking about your hurt for a little bit and think about how much you are hurting Jason and you are hurting Bryn's grandparents by your coping mechanism. Open up the door wider. Face your fear. Let yourself be uncomfortable in the love of people that know how to love. Don't remain comfortable - because your comfort zone shuts out family.

A Viewer Who Wants Your Best :-)
A Viewer Who Wants Your Best :-)

Hi Bethanny,

Not your fault at all but you don’t know experientially know what good family is. That is your disconnect with Jason who comes from a healthy family background. He wants to be involved with family. You are not comfortable with involving family as you don’t know what a good family is like and because you are not comfortable you push it away. Just like a normal Birthday celebration Jason tried to give you in the past - you freaked out and pushed it away - not because it was bad but because it brought up painful emotions but those are something you need to process through in order to become the healthy individual and mother that you so desperately want to be. However, you are sowing your issues of your dysfunctional family into Bryn. I praise you for not passing on abandonment from parents, alchoholism, etc. but there are other things that you are passing on to her from your disfunctional past - and you are passing on keeping family at arm's length. You surround yourself with co-workers you see everyday but are uncomfortable with having Jason's family more involved in your life than every 4 weeks. You are obviously HIGHLY uncomfortable with family but at the same time it is what you DESPERATELY crave but don't know how to have. You are good at facing fears in other areas. Face your fears and lack of comfort in the area of family and force yourself to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. By giving in to Jason on this one, he can let you experience healthy family as you follow his lead. On the note of Jason's 40th birthday, you didn’t know any better to include Jason’s parents in his birthday because you would never include yours. He is trying to teach you about family but you are rejecting his efforts and probably his digging into you is because he resents that you are doing that. He is right. You just need to realize the truth, face your fear, accept a loving family into your life and give that gift of family to your daughter Bryn. The gift that you never had and always longed for but now that it is in your arms, you are fighting it and running from it. I know you are a woman of truth – you just need to see the truth that is right in front of you. And yes you feel crappy, because being a relationship that causes you to face your deficit in the area of family makes you feel inadequate. Face your inadequacy, accept it, and humbly move on. Cheers Girl . Straight talk to a woman who talks straight. Love your show, Love your courage, Love your heart!!!

Debbie Hengy
Debbie Hengy

I always til this day have nothing nice to say cause of her ways of taking to her Hubby.. I would like to have seen a whole (diff) way of the show of her being nice to her hubby and acting like it too... that what realy had me stop watching her I could not take her manners any more ..who talk to someone that they love and on TV no less that way I would have left her long time ago...Money or no Money! thats what did them in ...plus her way of taking to him and about him..

Veronica C
Veronica C

Bethenny,

You are the best reality TV there is! I love you! You are an awesome mom and business woman! You are doing it all! You are determined and strongwilled an so incredibly direct. But you can't take it if someone like Jason gives it back just a little. You get so sensitive and takes things so personal. IT's going to destroy the best thing in your life. I wish you the best. We all have things to work on. Just own up to it.

Mary Anne
Mary Anne

Bethanny, I think the best comment was that you should start seeing another therapist who is not televised at the same time you see Doctor Almador. It is interesting how the balance of power changes after you are married. You start out feeling like I am so lucky to have you and then it changes to he is so lucky to have me. You need a therapist that gives you another perspective. Love yo and the fam.

susan darling
susan darling

Hi Bethenny, From what I have seen, Jason seems like a great guy. The trouble is that he may feel like he must protect his parents and feels responsible for their happiness, because of his brothers death. He may not realize his role in this, but it certainly puts the pressure on him and you. I did a similar thing-crazy but true. It is tough because you each have a totally different experience of whatever "normal" means.

Lottie Jane
Lottie Jane

I wish you all the best, really I do, and I've enjoyed watching your shows but I think I'm at the end of the line now. You seem to be sabotaging all that's good in your life and either pushing away or provoking Jason -- who loves you more than anything. You asked that Jason take 50percent responsibility for the problems in your relationship but all he seems to be asking is for you to INCLUDE his parents in your lives on a regular basis. I really don't see what the drama or issue is with this? Some of us, who have had to WORK to make their in-laws like and accept them them (far less love them!) would be thrilled to have parents-in-law who loved their daughter in law simply because she is loved by their son. Get over yourself a little, be kinder to Jason and allow yourself to enjoy your life. I like and admire you but don't want to listen to your sharp comments (ridiculing Jason) and obsessing anymore. Wishing you the best!

HW Fan 123
HW Fan 123

Bethany,

I think you're a sweet person, but your core issue is that your value $$$$ way more than relationships... you're kind to your employees, business associates and fans because in your mind they're part of the means of helping you making money... so you're kind and nice to them.

You don't value Jason and his family because in your eyes they don't bring you $$$. How wrong you're, and how wrong that you're not valuing the important relationships in your life...other than money... the very basic secure foundation of every human being, and how you fail to see the emotional stability they can bring to you that your own parents never could give to you. You're like a Fido chasing it's own tail for happiness only to find out that happiness is chasing you while you're running away from it.

Think about it Bethany... Jason and his parents are not your enemies... stop hating them... stop trashing Jason every chance you get... stop being the victim... you're your own worst enemy... work it!

TMann23057
TMann23057

Bethenny, I love your show. I can see by the posts that you have gotten a lot of advise. I just want to add my two cents. I have been married for 24 years and I am 43 years old. Marriage is daily work, but at the end of the day it is very rewarding. It has ups and downs constantly, you will see what I mean when your daughter becomes a teen. Enjoy this wonderful years because both of you need to be there for that beautiful little girl. She will appreciate it. I have two boys and I could not have done or have what we have without my better half. People also think he is a saint but I know better. Is one of those things that you eventually accept. Anyway, I can only tell you not to sweat the small stuff. We are so mean to our spouses sometimes and we have to communicate, the key is communication and let it all out, most of our fights over the year have been miscommunications. Also, it is best not to involve friends and family because they are bias. There will be times that you want to kill him and leave him but you have to give it a few hours, days and you will see that if you love each other everything can be workout. Leave the pass behind and do not beat a dead horse, let it be. Again, love your show. Take care.

Mona Martin
Mona Martin

It is getting harder and harder to watch the calculating manipulation on your part. You said in your post "I'm in it to win it." The viewers can see what it is you want to win! You want the world to love YOU and you will take down anyone that stands in the way of this! Congratulations B, you showed us that Jason is NOT "Mr. Perfect". You have managed to manipulate him so badly that the guy doesn't stand a chance. You pay a therapist to tell you what YOU need to hear and I am sure if he is watching the show, he feels played! So calculating as you sit in therapy and slam your husband, all the while, building yourself up as Mother Theresa! You win Bethenny! Do you feel good about yourself! You tell the world that you are damaged, you tell the world that you feel bad about yourself and then you turn on your husband. He needs to run for the hills and never look back! Stand down and look within, take responsibility for your actions and stop blaming the world for who you are.

Indy Anna
Indy Anna

I completely understand you, Bethenny. I was married for 52 years to a verbal abuser. Yes, I t hink Jason is on the track to becomming one and you are nipping it in t he bud. Unlike you, I lost me for awhile. He even insisted I lose my nickname and go by my first name, which no one ever used. I have studied verbal abuse, lived with it for 52 years, went to therapy (which he thought was silly, not unlike Jason). It starts out soon after marriage and escalates slowly until the nasty jabs come in public and are humiliating. I often wondered why this man married me, since I also was, in his eyes, such a mess. I didn't even fill his critera in looks. Good for you, Bethenny....don't sit by and let it happen to you. It starts out small then grows into something hateful and horrible. Jason needs to face his demons straight on. This "I'm only teasing, I do it because I love her" is nothing more than a crock of S#%t.

Margaret Elaine
Margaret Elaine

Bethenney, Allow yourself to be happy, put others before you, forgive the past, your "work" will not be holding your hand when times are bad, give up control on the small stuff and pinch yourself everyday that you have a beautiful family. You are writing your life story, it won't be perfect, there will be lots of editing. So laugh through the ups and downs, make it fun, a little crazy and love love love your family (all of your family), it will be a great book.

Linda Howard
Linda Howard

You and Jason have been through huge changes in your lives in the past two years. Even though they were good changes, that still puts you way up there on the stress level chart and any stress in your is always magnified when it is played out in a public arena the way yours is. Just keep this in mind so that you will have more compassion for both Jason and yourself when the tension starts to build up again. I have a very high stress life and even I can see how much you're dealing with and it's a lot in a very short time. And I'm wondering if Jason isn't sort of feeling the same way you are as far as feeling a little unworthy in the relationship. It appears that way at times. Maybe that's what causes him to want to run back to his parents where he felt more secure and there was unconditional love and no cameras.

I think the best thing in any marriage is when each partner creates a 'safe place' for each other to be in. It's something everyone needs in this very crazy and pressure-packed world. My unsolicited advice to you, although I have no credentials to give it other than many years of life experience is to praise him all you can (when it's sincere) to convince both you and him that there is no need for anyone to feel inadequate and for the two of you to get away from time-to-time in a place where there are no cameras. The world is tempting you now with all these new glitzy opportunities but it is the marriage that will give you the stability to deal with all of them and make all the work worthwhile in the end so don't let it go by the wayside if possible. I think you both have a strong desire to make the marriage work and it will. Just don't let the stress and the egos get in the way.

Twiggsmom
Twiggsmom

bethenny, I have watched you from the beginning...ms apprentice and on...I have cheered you on but it may be time for me to let you go. you are determined to implode. you constantly whine about the negative impact your dysfunctional childhood has had on you yet you want your husband to give up a normal relationship with his parents!!! I don't get it...you seem jealous of the fact that he has people in his life who love him...you are a selfish woman who is unwilling to leave the past. I pray for Jason and bryn.

Lisse
Lisse

Go see an attorney and set up an estate plan for the benefit of your daughter in the event of another horrific boat trip/plane flight/sky-diving experience/shark-dive (lol) etc.

Btw--I agree with your decision to sell SkinnyGirl and don't think you're a sell-out. No rational person would refuse to deal with the big boys of liquor, but not only that, actually be recognized by them as a savvy businesswoman sporting a marketable, lucrative product. Cheers!

brattie88
brattie88

i hope Bethany gets to read this... BETHANY I LOVE LOVE the way you are... i liked you right off the bat when you were on housewives of nyc once you got your own show i stopped watching that show because honestly it was not the same.. i love how honest you are and your facial expressions are awesome.. i enjoy your sarcastic remarks are some of the best and so on que with everything.. and your baby is so adorable. im sorry to hear you miscarried i hope that you and Jason are blessed with another sometime soon. i hope bravo keeps you all going for years.. this is one show i truly enjoy and have a great laugh. i love when that one guy called you benjamin franklin.. sounds the same.. bravo you have a winner with bethany honestly keep her on the air forever.. much love.,,

Nurse Carolyn
Nurse Carolyn

Bethenny, My darling husband and I have the same dynamic as you and your husband. I'm the kook, he's normal.Except we are much older than you two. Let me just say, I feel protective of you, because our childhoods parallel. I'm not going to write any negative comment, or act as though I know the feel of your shoes. The drive to change what our childhood dealt us, empowers us to refuse to repeat history. The need to see that our babies won't have to live as we did, well, it makes us better women, wives and mothers. I am so proud of you, going to counseling, making the effort to ensure Bryn has happiness, and happiness with and for Jason, as well. I feel optimism for the two of you. God Bless.

Tracey in Texas
Tracey in Texas

You and I have very similiar childhood backgrounds so I understand the pain and the scars. You are doing your best and I commend you for working on yourself. Jason should give you way more credit than he does in the relationship. I am sure you have come along way. I find it cruel that he would use your background against you. Also, I don't understand the deal with his parents. His insistence on including them all the time is irritating. I mean, come on. That would drive me crazy. They seem like nice people, but really? Shouldn't holidays be enough?

BeAuthentic
BeAuthentic

Bethenny, You were my fave of the RH franchise and I was thrilled when you got off of crazy island and got your own shows. Sadly,the criticism I see of you must just come with the territory, and I am sorry that people feel the need to spew venom in some of their remarks. No venom here, love. I admire you and your authenticity. I am not a subscriber to believing that you have changed. You and Jason are under the microscope since so much of your life is aired, but what I love is that the good, the bad, AND the ugly is aired. You are keeping it real. The ones so quick to judge and criticize you have never considered that we ALL have moments throughout our day, in our business, and in our relationships where we all can be crass, or harsh, or hurtful to others. It's not filmed and not aired, but it doesn't mean we don't have them. I love that those moments are not edited out. Your great wit and tender moments are also aired and I love those so much also. None of our lives are all wit and tender though, so thank you for not pretending that yours is that way. I personally can relate to so much about you with exception to your insurmountable success, your rocking body, your massive wealth, and the fact that you are a city girl, and I am not. Other than all that, we are like twins! Seriously though, I had a very much less than perfect childhood, as a victim of sexual and physical abuse by a step father for years, being sent off to a girl's home, and raising a younger brother and sister that my mother kicked out in their early teens. I do not have a relationship with my mother either. I would never be comfortable with weekly, or even monthly visits to a spouses family either. I can appreciate a spouse loving their family and being close. I get teary eyed on any father/daughter touching scene- but it would take me a long time, maybe years, if ever, to increase my comfort level with meshing my life with the family of my spouse on some consistant schedule. If there were no expectation for you to be on some schedule of regularity then I believe that as great as his parent's seem to be, one day, they may very well become the family to you that you once wished you had. You probably had reached a place where you thought you did not need that now. But it may become the biggest blessing you didn't want. I'm a conservative. I work with teens in a minsitry. I have to be a role model and a mentor and therefore I must filter. I love that you don't have to filter and you don't. I love that you go to therapy and air it. You are working on yourself. You are trying to grow as a person- that's something I do regularly and I believe the day we stop trying to grow as a person is the day we should be buried. What else is there? It's about the journey. Authenticity is so rare today. You are truly authentic. I hope you won't let the toxic chatter affect you being you on camera. Because there are many of us that love you just the way you are.

Gianna69
Gianna69

I had to post to you one thing. I knew, knew you were going to run and pick up your daughter after she was put down for a nap. She called Mama and you ran. I don't care what I ever watch you do on your show from now on, you are wonderful. I do the same thing and I don't care what anyone says. Babies can not cry crocodile tears, they do not manipulate. They feel. And so do you. You have made a fan out of me. Never stop going with your heart. You have turned out to be a wonderful Mother. Bravo...

maril
maril

Bethenny, your husband is wrong . Maybe he should just go live with mom and dad. It is rediculous for a grown man to keep bawling about his parent all the time. Let grand ma and grand ma come sit with your dauter one weekend of the month while you and Jason have date weekend...Its good for everyone. He need to be the good partner he set out to be. most of all he needs to be your friend.

richard d. ross
richard d. ross

I've always been a big fan of Bethenny, but no longer. She's now such a constant critic, complainer and nag. She treats Jason so badly. She announced to the audience that neither one liked each other, as if she spoke for both of them. She didn't even ask him, if that was true for him. She's like so many who write, produce, direct and star in their own life plays and everyone else in their life is a subordinate and must do exactly what their told or they're castigated or dismissed. If I was Jason, I would have left Bethenny already. She lives as if she's always right. I won't watch the show anymore because there's so little joy and happiness in it. She's become too self-involved and so many around her reinforce her self-centered life style. I wish her well but have little hope for her.

Heartbroken
Heartbroken

The greatest gift you can give is love. What you show bryn is what she will be. If you show her complete and full love to others, she will show it also. If you show her family and extended family comes before anything else, that is what she will show you when she marries and has children of her own.

We are all made by all the people and circumstances of our lives. Some of the best parts of my grown children are what their grandparents made them.

NYJenn
NYJenn

Bethenny...You have a beautiful family! Don't scare Jason away..please. He is a KEEPER!

DietSnappleLady
DietSnappleLady

The majority of the comments from people here are right on. I don't know if this is helpful to Bethenny, but here goes. Bethenny IS the one who is wrong, and denial isnt helping her. Bethenny will never progress until she OWNS her horrible behavior toward Jason and his parents. It's OK to be wrong. It's not OK to deny it and hold on to it. Change it.

What she has done is rip out half of Jason's heart, by relegating his parents to a cubbyhole in his life. They arent friends that "visit". They are HIM. He is THEM. They are as much an integral part of Jason as Bryn is to Bethenny. Bethenny won't even open an actual office because she wont leave Bryn. Well, hello. I sure hope Bryns husband doesnt limit Bethenny to a day or two once a month or once a quarter.

Her therapist MUST speak to her in a way that she can hear, which means hecannot tell her what she doesnt want to hear. Julie is her employee. Of course she says what Bethenny wants to hear.

viewer1278
viewer1278

Bethenny, buck up and go visit Jason's parents once a month, then twice a month. That's his problem! Jason, buck up and get off Bethenny's back, she is who she is, and you knew this, that's what attracted you to her. The haters that blew this sailing show with the doc out of proportion you should be ashamed that you could be so jealous of Jason, Bethenny and little Bryn. For Gosh sakes be happy for them the are adorable!

Lisa Vance
Lisa Vance

YOU have NOT changed Bethenny! Jason has. He used to take such great care of you and it's so painful to see him now. He really used to understand that under the strong woman was also the vulnerable girl who needed his love so much. He really knew how to love that girl. Jason, I hope you find that man again. I just don't get what he wants???? You to move in with his parents?!? It's so crazy. They are wonderful people and you are lucky to have great in-laws but ,geesh, come on Jason. You married HIM. And all the things he loved about you is now what he seems to be aggravated with. It's so disillusioning. If Jason went to the dark side what can we girls have to hope for?

nana5
nana5

Bethany, I do believe that Jason can say some very harsh things and at times he seems unreasonable, however, so do you. I k now that you are stressed and have a lot on your plate but you cant honestly think that Jason is going to sit around quietly and take all your digs at him without saying something. I do not believe that his parents needed to be invited to his "BOYS" golf party, it would have been nice though if you would have had a small family gathering for his birthday. I also think that Jason is a little bit of a Mommys boy and is quite spoiled and he shows it. He is resentful of your success but he shouldnt ask you change and you shouldnt ask him to either.

As for your office being in your home, you should move it to another location. You need to separate business from home. Plus dont talk so much to your staff about your personal life with Jason. I sure that he doesnt like that.

Another thing, is that your language and the things you talk about is just not lady like. You are the face of a large successful company and you talk worse than a trucker. As much as I love watching you, I cringe everytime you talk about your and Jason's private parts and cuss. You dont need to talk like that to have fans. Its not attractive. You worked hard and made your business number 1 now its time to Make you family your NUMBER 1 priority because if you dont then you will not have that family and little Bryn will be living in two separate homes with divorced parents. Make time for the family. Good Luck.

Laine
Laine

looove you Bethenny!!!!

RACH78
RACH78

YOU ARE SUCH A SMART BUSINESS WOMAN. I ADMIRE YOU BECAUSE YOU REMIND ME ALOT OF MYSELF & MY MOTHER (SHE'S WHERE I GET IT FROM OF COURSE)..YOU ARE FUNNY & SARCASTIC, & I THINK YOU DESERVE A HAPPY HOME LIFE. MARRIAGE DEFINATLEY DOES TAKE WORK. BUT DONT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. JUST KNOW THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY-- YOU ARE NOT ALONE (MY HUSBAND CAN ANNOY ME BEYOND BELIEF) BUT WE ARE HAPPY IN OUR OWN WEIRD WAY. JUST KNOWING HES HERE- IM GOOD. BUT WE DONT SIT & TALK ALL THE TIME OR BE IN THE SAME ROOM ALL DAY. JUST KNOWING I HAVE MY KIDS, & THEIR FATHER & WE ARE A FAMILY..I FEEL COMPLETE. SO HOWEVER YOU FIND YOUR COMFORT (& U WILL) MAKE IT YOUR OWN..& DONT WORRY IF ITS NOT THE SUPER TRADITIONAL WAY EVERY ONE ELSE DOES THINGS. THATS MY BEST ADVICE. YOU WILL FIND YOUR WAY. I HAVE LEARNED FROM EXPERIENCE, THAT I AM MUCH MORE SECURE & HAPPY JUST HAVING MY FAMILY TOGETHER RATHER THAN APART. & I DONT SWEAT HAVING THE PERFECT MARRIAGE. JUST BEING GOOD TO EACH OTHER IS IMPORTANT. & I SAY IF YOU HAVE A MAN WHO DOSENT CHEAT ON YOU, HURT YOU OR TREAT YOU WRONG, & HE IS A GOOD DAD & TRULY LOVES YOU- THEN ANYTHING ELSE CAN BE FIXED. IF YOU HAVE THOSE THINGS- YOU HAVE WHAT MOST WOMEN DO NOT. NOTHING IS PERFECT OR EVER WILL BE. I THINK EVERYONE FEELS IN THE BACK OF THEIR HEAD THAT THEY COULD MAYBE BE A LITTLE HAPPIER...BUT THATS USUALLY US WOMEN BEIN NEVER SATISFIED. SO I'VE LEARNED TO BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE & NOT FOREVER WANTING MORE. ENJOY ALL YOUR BLESSINGS (THE WONDERFUL THINGS YOU HAVE GOT ENVOLVED IN THAT ALLOW YOU TO LIVE ABOVE AVERAGE), & YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABY. ~HUGS & KISSES - RACH

wileyckat
wileyckat

Bethenny I love your show and I love you. I hope so much you have a successful marriage. I also am in my second year of marriage and did get married late in life (39 3/4) and it's challenging. Your set in your ways and it's not always easy allowing someone in your space, your life and in your head but it takes work and compromise. PLEASE STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP! I think your doing great and sweeties it's not all you. I think Jason is a great guy but my Lord he needs to cut the apron strings. He's married now and his "Family" is you and baby Bren, not so much his mommie and daddy. Gen. 2:24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. He needs to find a balance just as you have. As a woman it's so important to build those speacial memories with the love of your life and your child. It's nothing wrong with wanting those private moments, WITHOUT his parents all the time and he needs to get over himself. I think your so right he could benefit from therapy too because he needs to know why he can't poop without his parents around all the time. Thank God mine are in laws are over 300 miles away :-)...your going to be fine, I'm pulling for you.

Maursy
Maursy

WOW Im reading all these blog posts and all us fans certainly have opinions..I have a feeling that you do truly read these Bethanny so I would just like to add my 2 cents...I get why some of these comments are harsh and alot of what people are saying is true..to a point..BUT...what I think people dont realize is a lot of the very traits you are being called out on are the very traits that got you where you are today...AND your scars from your childhood are very deep. I had wonderful parents whom I am still very close to, and they are super involved in my life and my kids life, but They also have a life too. They take off for FLA every winter, they travel, they have a full and busy social life. I dont need to include them, or they me, in EVERYTHING!! I had a small family party for my 40th and then a BIG BLOWOUT with my friends..there are no hard and fast rules..Bethenny I do think you include them alot and they are nice people, Im sure they understand how busy you are. However, I do get scared and I do CRINGE sometimes watching you and Jason...I feel its two sided, both of you, at times, push each others buttons..but it is kinda hard to watch, esp in front of the baby...be careful there...those arguments are the little cracks that begin to break down the foundation...and then you wake up one day and all you feel is anger and resentment..TRUST ME I know, I too am an alpha female, and I am the funny one...and I often couldnt resist going for the joke, often at my husbands expense...Im divorced now 8 yrs and we barely speak even though we have 3 kids..its ugly and awful and heartbreaking and you certainly do not want to end up there. BETHENNY just breathe...just relax... set aside time EVERY DAY to just be with Jason and Bryn....The world will go on even if you take a break...and also get your thyroid thoroughly checked out..you seem to have an overactive one...xo MAZEL

Maggie's Mom
Maggie's Mom

When someone keeps hammering at you all the time, you react. I'm sure if Jason treated you that badly, you'd react too. All you do is trash the man. You are so over the top jealous that people like him that you can't stand it. You obviously want to paint a bad picture of him so you can try to convince people that it's not you - it is you! How can you love someone (or say you do) and do those awful thinkgs to them? Don't you think he sees the shows? How much do you think he is supposed to take? You're the one throwing your marriage away. No one would be able to keep up with all your snarky moods. You say you wanted a family, etc. - you know have a great one - good husband, great daughter, in-laws who care - and you resent it and constantly insult and deman them. You're proviing Ramona right - remember what she said to you on the walk across Brooklyn Bridge about how you'd screw things up and lose Jason - well, you're well on your way to proving all she said as true. Do you even get how badly you look. No one gets a pass at all the vile things you say and excuse themselves by saying "it's just me." That doesn't work. No one has to be your victim and you don't want to get that. You did hte same thing with Jill - used her, attacked her and then spit her out. I'm sure she is better off without you - Jason will be too.

T.E.
T.E.

Try an Ostiopathic Dr.for your headaches, and your whole body will feel better. Look into it, those Dr.s are amazing

Grants Pass Gal
Grants Pass Gal

Oh dear! I am glad you say you and Jason are doing better in your blog. I hope you choose to make your new apartment more of a home, leaving the majority of your families living spaces off limits to the camera's. And please please PLEASE Bethenny, make peace with the fact that your in-laws are now a part of your life and let them be a close part of you and your daughter's daily life. Your family is what is most important Bethenny....not us fans...not your business....family first!

Foonda
Foonda

Bethenny: You have an intelligent audience. Hopefully you're are reading and heeding much of what is being said...THEY ALL CAN'T BE WRONG!

Foonda
Foonda

Couldn't agree with you more as well, "Ilovetom". Also, very well written!

Ilovetom
Ilovetom

You are a character on a tv show, so it's hard to make out where the drama lines really are, but here's my take: Your success so far with the business has required non-stop self absorption and self centeredness, and I suspect you believe that the minute you put the gimme gimme gimme gun down, you will fail. Your husband is growing resentful and once that starts it is hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube. your selfcenteredness is stunning. Most successful people whose personality are their brand think they have to be this way. in the beginning, sure, but you can't do this forever, it's a ticket to madness. Plus anybody watching these shows can see that the psycho bitches get all the attention and lots of tv time. Your first season was such a departure, but your producers are falling into the housewife trap and it's going to do a number on your head and your marriage if you let your personal drama be exploited; how does this not get ugly between you? It's crazy, you have to come up with a plan for boundaries. And think of your in-laws like he thinks of your photo shoots. these are valued things and need to be mutually respected, it's hallowed ground. I have always hated my inlaws but I knew he loved his parents. I think he's a little out of proportion with his insistence that they be included in everything but that is part of his baggage, so if he has to deal with yours.. then you have to give there...everybody wants to shrink your head, and i'm sure none of us know the damage, but we all have our share, trust me. Some of us don't obsess out loud all day, and others do. You are a little mean to him, funny, but no self respecting male puts up with that for long, enjoy your life

kahala
kahala

My only comment is that you seem to be running yourself ragged; never stopping to slow down and enjoy much of anything. You've proved yourself by now, showed 'em all that Bethenny can do it. Time to stop trying to prove anything to anybody and start a new future for yourself, Jason and that adorable little Bryn. Be careful with Jason, he's a strong man and a sensitive one and your mouth sometimes goes too far and you say too much. Keep pushing and you will definitely push him away and out of your life. Good luck, I like you (I don't love you though) and sometimes you get on my nerves.

Oldernwiser
Oldernwiser

Dear Bethany,

Loved th show the year you got married and were pregant. Having the baby, launching skinny girl etc. However as time goes by, it's geting hard to watch you, not noticing that life, whatever stage you are in, is the journey that is to be enjoyed that counts, not the destination. You seem to have so many goals, which is great, but you seem so wound up about finishing them, that you are not enjoying the process. When the goal at hand is over, it seems like you are satisfied less than five minutes, and then you need to move on to working on the next goal. Like you have to keep moving and doing or you will have to be with just your own thoughts. Not thoughts about getting a boyfiend, husband, wedding, baby, buyer for skinnygirl, construction of new apt., just your own thoughts and be. As for the counseling, obviously your shrink is famous amd well known and there are many hours we don't see you with him, but it does appear he "yes's" you. The show makes him and his practice more famous. He is not going to say, you are driven, a perfectionist, and a bit confrontational, maybe take a look at why, your past, your upbringing. You know about it but don't make any changes in spite of it. Listen, you are right about Jason signing on for what you wanted in your life before you married, a big carreer etc. I think you forget, or just don't see because it's not part of your make up, that he is laid back, a family guy, very close to his parents...you knew that before you married. That wasn't going to stop being imporatant to him because you got marriied and had a baby. He's not perfect, and your worry about that is truly unhealthy for you both. I don't think he is jealous or intimidated by "your" success, which I might add it his too. There would not have been a show, "Bethany is still not getting married", "Bethany is not having a baby", . I think Jason was a bigger part of that than you see. Maybe you would have launched skinny girl for 200mil without the show, but the show gave the brand and you a great deal of exposure. Without Jason, no show. He also seemed to do business negotioating for you in that. I sometimes hope the show is scripted and not real. Please don't think of him as somthing you achieved and don't have to give so much attention too anymore. A guy from a close family is going to want a close family, not so many assitants and camera crew etc. Did you learn anything from John and Kate plus 8. I don't want to run on, please , for the sake of everyone rooting for you guys, in hopes that there is love after love, try to cut back on your demands, you can't warm up to, and have more children with a TV show, or clothing line etc. You have your success, money, take a little break. I think he may feel your carrer and businesses are more important than he and family are eventhough you say it is not. If he has resentment of your bsuinesses it probably because it pulls you away from his idea of family . The birthday for him, he was wrong to bring it up late at night, but in the future and in general, whatever holiday or big occasion is coming up, just invite his parents. It's really not a big deal. Your shrink is wrong, and just because you go to therapy does not mean you are better at the relationship than Jason is now. Go to another shrink, alone, off camera, nobody famous, preferably a woman, and RELAX , enjoy your life, smell the flowers, spend entire days with your baby,spend time alone with jason, go away together, for a few weeks. I will not watch " Bethany is getting Divorced.

TexasLadyViewer
TexasLadyViewer

Bethenny - I am with the writers you say your office should be somewhere other than your home,. Your home should be a family atmosphere for the three of you, and your personal feelings, etc, kept within those private boundaries. Your home should be a place you come home to relax and enjoy your "private" time. Presently, with all your staffers your place is chaos....and Jason isn't given the priority there he deserves. You need to put your damaged childhood behind you and work harder on being a mature adult, cherishing your little family of three, and working to better your relationship with Jason's parents, who seem to love you. You have a harsh mouth, and at present it seems you are selfish ....is this what making big money means to you? No matter how much money Jason earns, at this point I would consider him a more well-rounded successul invididual than you. If you aren't careful, he will get fed up with it all. You are wound way too tight...it is exhausting watching you!! And please, no more revealing "personal" information about your sex life etc. National TV is not the place for that.....it is DISRESPECTFUL to your partner. What if he did the same???

weberer1
weberer1

Bethenny- I have loved you since you were on the Martha Stewart apprentice-like show. You are motivated and inspired. I understand your intense personality since I am wired in a similar way. To understand you is to love you. Your love for Jason, and his for you, is evident on the show. Know that you have long-time fans out there who adore your sharp humor and committment to making a life for yourself that you could only dream of as a young girl. Enjoy every minute of your beautiful life and know that so many of us are pulling for you and love that you've chosen to include us in your journey. Much love and respect.

Viewer
Viewer

Your family should come first. Jason's family second. As relationships age, new issues arise especially when a child is added to the mix. Business cannot become your life. Turn it off at the same time every day & spend the rest of your evening with your family. Take a night once a week & go for an overnight with Jason. Fall in love again. You didn't want a birthday party, but apparently Jason did. Treat him how you wish to be treated. Love your show.

heidi1168
heidi1168

I love your show and think you are amazing! what you have done is incredible! I do believe that you have always wanted to have money and be successful. You probably started thinking about branding and your name and idea when you were on Martha Stewart Apprentice. I mean Martha is amazing at branding and putting a commercial within a commercial using her magazine and show. I don't blame you for wanting that .. and I see you having that ! I don't blame you for taking an opportunity that has come your way to make that happen. Good for you ! HOWEVER... using your own words " check yourself before you reck yourself". That sentence applies with relationships just as much as you intended it to with food. From the outside you seem to have it all. Obviously there are things that need to be worked on with your marriage.. but honestly I see Jason as the one who needs to work on them. He is clearly sad for the loss of a brother and guilty about it and trying to be there for his parents. They are adorable also and bring so much love to your life. But he is the one that needs to see a therapist and get some issues resolved. He married you.. a motivated business person who is also on national television..not a farm girl from Ohio ! Good luck to both of you and much happiness and love !

StrungNY
StrungNY

When I met you in the Hampton's you and Jason were so kind. I gave you a tassel necklace and asked you to wear it on an episode and you said you would. Never did I imagine that you would remember. Well thank you Bethany, you gave me a thrill! Yet another reason to love you.

shared success
shared success

During therapy, you stated that there was a problem due to the fact that you had enormous success and Jason had not. I can appreciate your sentiment but I would hope that you see Skinny Girl success as something that you and Jason achieved together. At least thats how it seemed on television. he seemed very involved in the business dealings.

Also, if you do think or imply that Skinny Girl is you alone and does not include Jason, then your comment "the house that Skinny Girl bought" while true, may hurt him.

You have brilliant success and you should feel truly proud. And hopefully you recognize Jason for the contributions he made as well.

Thank you.