Bethenny Frankel

Bethenny wants you to know the truth about the press and about her bidet.

on Apr 3, 20120

Hey everyone.

I hope my blog isn't too blah. My furry baby Cookie is at the hospital for bleeding. This isn't good for her because she has always suffered from a low platelet count, which means that bleeding is very bad for doggies. I dread putting her back on the strong chemo type drugs. Anyway, I'm praying.

Now on a lighter note. . .about the show.

The press: what can I say about them? In this business they are a necessary evil. Would I be even remotely close to where I am without them? Absolutely not. Did I used to dream of anyone caring enough to take a picture of me and now dread the very same thing at times? Yes! The thing is that I, perhaps like you, was very naïve. I actually thought that if it was printed, then it had to be true. The sad fact is that it isn't necessarily true at all, and you need to be educated consumers and know what sources to trust.

Even within the category of gossip magazines, very select magazines check their sources legally. The rest just quote any source they can find and say "a source" or "a friend." If they don't name a name, it probably is just hearsay. Anyway, I don't care what the press thinks about me, but I do care what you think.

62 comments
phillymonster
phillymonster

The reason you are not being helped as much as you should be with your therapist is because Jason doesn't go with you. He says it's all you but it's not. He needs a lot of help. He can't even talk to you so don't know if he would be able to talk with your therapist or not. Tell him he has to go with you and be willing to get help or I guess he can find his own life.

Dedicatedfan
Dedicatedfan

My dear Bethany, I just finished you latest book and I only wish I could come from a place of YES as sincerely as you have and do in your life. What a fantastic example to women who strive to live an authentic life. YOU GO GIRL!!! So sorry to hear of Cookie not being well.. she is your first baby and I will keep her in my heart and healthy good wishes. Thanks for all you do and share... you have made my very difficult life liveable through your example and inspirational words... Much geniuine Love, Dedicated fan

sarah
sarah

i'm truly shocked and saddened to see the venom some of these posts spew at you, Bethenney. you don't deserve it. the deep pain, which never goes away, from having grown up with an emotionally abusive mother is truly agonizing, and something i wish to god i could not relate to. so people, before you cavalierly fire off your nasty hateful barbs, stop for a moment and consider how you would feel if you were on the receiving end particularly if your life circumstances paralleled hers. Bethenney, i'm so happy for your success, i wish you continued success, and i admire your bravery. your therapy sessions are profoundly insightful and they always make me cry. keep on keeping on, girl!

mglove
mglove

For all the people who say tha Bethenny should get over her childhood already, please con't judge if you have never walked in her shoes. The abandonment and lack of love from a mother leaves a gaping hole in a person that is impossible to fill, and Bethenny was let down by both parents. I was abandoned, rejected and treated with contempt by my mother and at 46 years old it hurts me more now than at anytime in my life. When I was young and optimistic I was determined to not let it hinder me. I blocked it out as a sort of survival mechanism, but as I get older is harder and harder to ignore. Each time I'm disappointed, or hurt, or scared the gaing hole in the pit of my stomach where my mother's love should be just grows bigger and bigger. Nothing is ever going to fill up that space for as long as I live. I am fortunate to have had a loving and nuturing father, and that is the love that I reference whenever life is difficult or confusing. Bethenny does not even have that. For those of you who can't relate please don't judge.

cat tree
cat tree

Love the little Bryn. She is absolutely the cutest. B you are so cool and would be proud to have you as a friend. Couldn't be happier for Jason and you and the little babe. Good luck and hug that cookie for me.

Miss Manners
Miss Manners

New York Housewives betrayed your relationship with Ramona in such a good place until Bobbie's cancer freaked her out. Don't you need people that have her good attributes? Can't you forgive her bad negative side and give that friendship another go and remember nobody is perfect? You need someone who isn's a paid employee as a friend; someone on the same playing field. Therapists are for people with no real friends.

Dawn Flag
Dawn Flag

Bethenny - Love you, love your show. I am so proud and happy for your success. You deserve it after busting your butt to earn it. Now enjoy it. You could save a little $$$ on the psychiatrist by accepting your upbringing for what it was and moving on. You are not damaged! The people who raised you may be, but that is their problem.

I would also suggest that another step toward peace, happiness and sanity would be to immediately get rid of that twelve year old girl that calls himself your husband. "What about me? My parents? My feelings? My conrtibution?" "I don't have anywhere to sit." "Me, me, me, me, me....." He is a total ME-monster and will drain your energy/bank account/time every day of your life together. Trust me, I married one of these. Find someone who is more interested in you than himself, you will happier.

Susan Seaman
Susan Seaman

I enjoy the show but it is getting harder to watch. The marraige difficulties for two unique people are hard to witness. Bethanny needs a new therapist and Jason needs one too. It is obvious that he has lots of issues regarding the loss of his brother. He wants to be there for his parents who lost their son. Bethanny needs to support that but she has her own issues. Sad. Two people who want to love each other but are caught up in a whirlwind of tv, money and a big business. It is a lot for a new marriage to cope with, in addition to raising a child. Bethanny has the opportunity to be part of a family offering unconditional love but also has a strong desire to succeed at something she is good at. You two need to find a common ground between family and the business. A better therapist could help ya'll with that! Sue S.

daisygirl
daisygirl

Not fair to bash other bloggers. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

daisygirl
daisygirl

I love Berhenny and have seen every episode of Bethenny ever after and RHONY also. she has it all...a great business, great husband, great kid and more money than most but yet I see another episode where she is crying all the time. She is now 40 and needs to get over her childhood. I don't think that shrink is doing a bit of good. After having it all....she should not be so sad. She is a millionaire and needs to get a professional office and some professional staff. No way will Jackie be able to handle things.

I don't watch
I don't watch

I cannot believe you are willing to make money by contributing to this culture's punishing pressure on women to be thin. Diet alcohol and diet pills? Really? My only consolation is that you spent $5 million on an apartment with a big stupid pole right in the middle of the living room and without a closet big enough.

waverunner
waverunner

Bethany,

Don't even bother to read "lindaS" she obviously has no idea what she's talking about. You are the most real celeb on TV. You don't make excuses for yourself. You are what you see and that is soooooo refreshing in today's world of fakers like your old cohorts on RHONY. Now that was a group of BIG phonies! The "countless" use to make me sick. If I had been in your shoes I would have beat her silly. I am so happy that you have made such a success of your life and I believe that once things settle down for you that you will give back, hopefully to other young woman who have had horrible childhoods like yours. I can see you being a mentor to those woman and empower them to follow their dreams. With every blessing there is responsibility. Your blessing is so new you will find out what course your responsibility will take. You have started with Nick, your true caring of and for him comes through and shows your true character. Keep on being true to yourself and kudos for calling them as you see them!!!

Midwest Sandra
Midwest Sandra

Wow, Lynda S. I find it funny that your post is written with such a superior attitude, yet you broke the first rule of fair fighting. You do not name call, yet you did call Bethenny and her doctor both names. Books on emotional intelligence or if your a religious person the Bible might be of some help to show you how to opine without being aggressive. It just makes your behavior hateful. Notice I addressed your behavior and not you as a person. Another clue into emotional intelligence.

Bethenny, maybe these suggestions will help everyone including you understand how to handle someone who's behavior is aggressive.

Regards,

Sandra

too old for words
too old for words

Bethenny, I suggest you do not pay any attention to the negative people. Most of the negative people are jealous of you. You should be proud of your life and accomplishments. When my daughter was a teenager, the girls talked about her and I know how devastating that can be. I told her the same thing I am telling you. She was popular and I guess if you listen to everyone, she was pregnant 10 time during high school. It upset her so much, I just told her that she would have the last laugh in 9 months when she had not gained weight and there were no babies. I know none of that is has nothing to do with you. I am 67 years old and I wish I could sit down and talk to you like I do my own children. The one think I have learned with children, don't give advise unless they ask for it.

You seem to be doing everything right. Don't fix what is not broken.

margeviewer
margeviewer

Enjoy your life and your family! I love your show and you. You are so real. Remember life can change in a heartbeat as it has for me. I have been married for 32 years, and my husband just got diagnosed with stage 4 rectal cancer. We battling for our lives, he is all I have ever known and loved. I was married at 19. Date nights are very important to us, we go out every sat, and cruise around and have dinner. We talk and laugh,and listen to music. We have 3kids, our oldest we lost at 19, so enjoy your life and have fun!!! That's what we are doing now. Love our dogs too, giant schnauzer and maltese. hope cookie is well!

wuteverduh?
wuteverduh?

I AGREE with Lynda. YOU play 'victim' ALL d time to get sympathy votes and YOU pay people for positive blogs about you and skew/mess up emails of bloggers that really are straitshooters. U R manipulating and fawlmouth around ur brynn and treat ur henpeck man crap!!!

bootsie
bootsie

Bethenny, looks like Lynda3 need ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASSES wonder if she would say the same things about RACHEL RAY,OPRAH,MARTHA S TEWART , or any woman that has made it big if she could look in their homes and office.SO SAD SUCH UNJUSTIFED ANGER.Just occured to me this is probably not a woman,BETHENNY keep up the good work 10% of people want like you just think about the 90% that do .LOVE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY .

Caliente
Caliente

Sorry about Cokkie , hope she is feeling better now, Bethenny , you have achieved so much and have such a lovely family, that is a great tribute to you as a woman, you are a wife, a mother, a business on the roll, a creative force and a model for so many women that struggle with self doubt and the same issues that you have struggle with. Sometimes when I struggle with self doubt I think okay, this can be done but I have to make it happen, that is what I have learned from you, just work and fight to make it happen.

Tracie71
Tracie71

LindaS , while I do love Tabatha and like her show, you can't compare both women Tabatha doesn't have a reality show about her life, it is about her job, how much do you know about Tabatha's personal life? I know I know very little. The other difference is that Bethenny might be whiny at times but she buckles up and get things done or she wouldn't have achieved success at all. Bethenny is like many women, you have to say your peace and then get the work done, that how it usually happens, maybe you are perfect and never complain and take it in strides , that is your style and not hers, neither style is wrong but for you to assume that she should live her life according to the way you live yours is really pretencious. The simple fact that they allow you to post your opinion in her blog is something positive when we have so many others that modertae their blogs very heavily to avoid any negative comments. This only tells me that you rather focus on the negative side of things instead of the positive , so I am starting to wonder how perfect you really are.

jane lee
jane lee

Please dont stop your show on Bravo! I would watch your talk show, but I love the real life Bethanny antics. You would sleep with the tow guy!! Hysterical!

Charlene Miller
Charlene Miller

Prayers for cookie,I lost my lil dog of 14 years a few Weeks ago, they're such a big past of us and I hope she gets better soon.I think the best rule of thumb in life, is NEVER believe any thing 100% unless you hear it outta the horses mouth Love you guys!

KaraMomma
KaraMomma

How sweet of Bravo to filter out all the negative comments from viewers so you can feel better about yourself!! Good job, Bravo!

Deborah Boggs
Deborah Boggs

You are the best! My boyfriend turned me on to your show because he thinks you are great!! That daughter of yours..I could just squeeze her she is so adorable. I admire your tenacity, spunk, quick wittedness (ha ha is that a word?) and bravery. You are such an inspiration to me. Go for what you want and never hold back!!

LyndaS
LyndaS

You've often times stated, "We're not saving lives here." That's true. Your show represents a person who has been incredibly driven to "make a brand" and have a really BIG career to be financially secure. In addition, every whim, idea, thought has been microscopically examined. I'm not sure why viewers are so enthralled to a self centered, unwavering little brat who absolutely must have her way all the time. You whine, complain, cry everyday. You surround yourself with those that must agree with you OR suffer your wrath. You're like a human tornado, creating emotional havoc in your wake. The only positive aspects of your one dimensional show is the fame and fortune you've garnered. Conversely, in every show she has, Tabatha immensely improves the lives of those she helps. She transforms the down-on-their-luck folks into winners. Meanwhile, we aren't dragged into an endless sphere of self pitying bedlam. You really require a strong psychiatrist who enjoys a challenge and can handle you better than Popeye, the Sailor Man.

sheeshhhh
sheeshhhh

I think the fans watch your show to see the "real" you, and know the press is full of sh*t, so don't fret. Sorry about Cookie, hope she is ok. Glad Jill Z is out of your life, she's a leach. Glad you and that cute hubby are doing well. Not sure about Ellen though. She kinda rubs me the wrong way. I just get the feeling she's not so nice in "real" life.

HKviewer
HKviewer

Enjoyed your show once again! Best show on Bravo because it shows the ups and downs of life. You deserve all your success - do people forget you sat in Costco trying to peddle your wares, sold cupcakes in Whole Foods and didn't have a husband who gave you anything to start something. People who write hateful blogs or hateful gossip are just jealous. Hope the Cookie is feeling better!

DeeLynn
DeeLynn

I think you are doing a fantastic job juggling all that you do. Enjoy your good fortunes, you deserve it! " All Da Boats" (priceless)

lregan
lregan

Hi Bethenny,

Poor Cookie she is so wonderful she should have her own show, or at least a book. Just wanted to tell you, you are the best and I love the show. You have a great family hold on tight don't let the bad stuff in.

bigbethfan
bigbethfan

Love your Sangria! (YUM) It's the fisrt time the store has carried it and I couldn't wait to try it! Anyhow...don't let the haters knock you down! Talk to other big celeb's and they'll fill you in! Remeber no one is perfect! You have everything going for you. A handsome, wonderful hubby a beautful healthy little girl and you can pay the rent and then some! Although, I'll be so sad if Julie your (C.O.C.) leaves your side! She's such a dedicated, loyal worker! :o( My fingers are crossed her man moves to the big city! Your fans know what your made of B! We've got your back girlfriend! Pour yourself a skinny girl and enjoy life a little more!

Staceytoyou
Staceytoyou

I can't help it - I just love you. There is nothing I love more than someone who can laugh at themselves and doesn't take themself too seriously. You're amazing.

kica
kica

Yaaaay Bethanny!! I'm so happy for all of your success and you don't OWE anyone an apology or an explanation making to the top like you have. It's YOUR money, do whatcha wanna do. Let 'em kick rocks!

CT VIEWER
CT VIEWER

Bethenny, please do yourself and your family a favor and ignore the "news" about you in the press. Anyone with half a grain of intelligence knows not to believe anything the press has to say. This, sadly, goes for world events also. We live in a world where the minute you become successful, forces are there to take you down. It's sick. Don't defend yourself against something that doesn't matter. Be true to yourself and your family. They know who you really are. xo

Sherie
Sherie

Bethenny, first off, I hope Cookie is okay. I love my dog and it is hard when they are not well. Loved the episode this week. You and Jason seemed like you really were having a great time at the restaurant on date night. Glad you two are happy! Can't wait for your talk show. I love how quick witted you are and how open and honest you are. So glad you are partnering with Ellen. I just love her! You have a great family and I wish you all the best!

Kizzalish
Kizzalish

I have to say that I enjoy your show so much and also laugh out loud to the new ones and the re-runs! I think the dynamics of all of you is what makes it so funny! You saying whatever you think, the look of shock on Jasons face, and the smiles of Bryn...all so funny! I think it takes a special person to be your COC, but Julie is perfect for the job!!! She has such a sense of calm about her I think it makes it all work! I can't wiait to see the new place!!! Oh and PS, I don't believe for one second anything they rag mags print!!! Team Bethenny and Jason!!! XO

vallybutterfly
vallybutterfly

Dear Bethenny, Who cares what the press says. No one in their right mind would believe that crap. Regarding your bidet. My husband is from Italy so of course we have one. What most Americans don't know is, a bidet isn't just for cleaning our tushes, and cuchies. It's also great for soaking our feet. Watching RHONJ when the group goes to Italy. It cracked me up when the Guideses had no idea what a bidet was. They didnt even know how to pronounce "bidet" correctly. Than Joe says," no one uses those anymore." Made me wonder if they were truly Italian. Then we meet their family in Italy. I guarantee each one of their family members in Italy has a bidet.

Susie Q.
Susie Q.

Great show - I used to watch ALL the Bravo shows but I had to give them ALL up BUT yours - love it!!! I enjoyed watching u and Jason on date night - sexy! I hope Jason got lucky that night - he is just lucky to have u and Brynn! I am SO looking fwd to yiur new talk show.....take that Kelly and Jill!!! XOXOX

PS - I hope Cookie is getting better!!

Ande`
Ande`

Love the show, love you, love it all!! Keep it up! You rock!

FanFare57
FanFare57

Why address haters? How many could there be; 3? You have the world by the string and continue to focus on the minuscule negativity floating by. There's having humility and there's fishing for complements. I think you simply want constant affirmation from everyone to keep boosting your spirits. Knock it off. You have it all. Now act like it.

Shelia 101
Shelia 101

My 14 year old daughter says, "let the haters be your motivators". Like someone said, if a man had amassed the fortune and fame you have, no one would care. Much love to Cookie, I love that dawg!!!!

Go Get Em Bethenny!!!!!

patriciad13
patriciad13

I hope Cookie is going to be alright... Don't ever apologize for having money...you worked hard to earn it... It must hurt when people say bad things about you or your family...take deep breaths.... Your kindness towards Nick warms my heart... If I were 30 years younger I'd be stalking you for a job...lol

Enjoy your ride B...you inspire a lot of us minions out here :)

Thanks for continuing to make me smile, Patricia

martihere4theparti
martihere4theparti

The media is your business, as the internet and blogs are also a form of "press". Your show is on TV and your products are advertised in the media and the press. Skinny Girl has advertisements in the press. Your show IS an advertisement and it is press, too, as reality TV. We are all smart consumers and as long as you stay true and positive your products will sell, including the advertisers who sponsor your show on Bravo TV. But when you divert the focus to "the haters", etc., you are wasting precious advertising dollars. Who cares about haters? Karma will take care of them. People who hate are unhappy with their own life and just project it on those they envy. Basic psychology. If I was you I would take the money and run, and become a philanthropic non-profit CEO. Spend your extra dollars not on expensive shoes, but on sponsoring a scholarship fund for underprivileged women from broken homes. Just one example of how you can turn the haters on themselves. You will feel better about your money if it goes to a good cause. Karma gives back to those who give. Hate begets hate and a generous soul begets a fulfilled life. You seem conflicted at the core because you have discovered money does not buy happiness. Live a simple life with simple belongings, give to others and you will find a joy you have never known. Try it, and you will see. Peace.

elaine58
elaine58

Bethenny, you could keep me entertained 24/7. The only negative thing I could say about you is you aren't on 7 days a week. So put your big girl panties on and kick ass. Those saying things that are just down right lies aren't worth worrying about and are only jealous. I can only see you becoming even more successful in the future so let them talk and while they do, you and Jason keep walking past them, all the way to the bank!!!!!!

flobe
flobe

Great Show Bethenny....

ViewerInChgo
ViewerInChgo

Hi: Just read online blog for "moms" and the writer of it showed photos of you, Jason and the baby recently. Then she wrote that the bloggers, photographers used the one photo out of thousands to make up a story line. You should read it. Great explanation of how a story is created and how they twist an image to fit their negative stories. What surprises me is that some people automatically believe this stuff just because of the photo! Plus I thought whoever wrote about you and Jason breaking up on the day of your 2nd wedding anniversary and that it was picked up by every gossipmonger in the US is just sick. You guys know who you are ... geezzzz ... must have been a really slow news day. Girl, you need not explain your life to any of us.

I hope Cookie is alright and on the road to recovery. Poor baby! Good luck and good health to all.

Just a fan
Just a fan

Hi Bethenny, Your true fans will always dismiss the nonsense people write to sell a story. Thank you for your sincerity. It comes right through in your blog. Thanks for taking the time to write it. Hopefully Julie, or whoever reads these, will relay the positive messages to you. I hope your bff Cookie is ok, our thoughts are with you. I admire you :) Best of luck with your Fox show.

BeAuthentic
BeAuthentic

Hi Bethenny! First of all, healing thoughts and prayers for Cookie!!! I haven't read any of the negative reports about you and only know of them from you talking about them, but as far as the boat trip being a farce, that's hilarious. When I saw the previews for that episode, I thought for sure that the "we don't have a working GPS" was going to just be your therapist setting you and Jason up with a metaphor for a relationship without direction! HA! Boy was I wrong! I think it's crazy to think that a self respecting therapist would allow a fake story that depicts all that truly went wrong. He was clearly embarrassed that all of this was happening,'[ and unfortunately, there was no "I'm just kidding. We really do have a working GPS, but I just wanted you to see the correlation of having no direction in your marriage is as dangerous as no GPS out at sea." But, there was no AH HA moment. Just plenty of nausea for Jason, exhaustion for a workaholic wife, business woman, and mother, and discomfort for a well meaning therapist, ! lol. I felt for you all!!! I enjoy you. I love your candor and your unfiltered view of everything. You are refreshing.

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

OK Bethany, You have great gifts of talent, brains and beauty! Now a family too. How is your spiritual life? Ignore the tabloids and the haters. We do. I don't believe a thing in those rags! But, people have to make money, so, like parasites, they make a living off of others. Just remember that if you were nothing, you would not be in the papers. Some people call them to get in! You don't have to because you are popular, interesting and happening! See, Ellen came to you! That's huge! Hold on tight and ride this ride for all it's worth. People want to see you and hear what you have to say. So sorry for Cookie. IN my prayers!

Tracie71
Tracie71

Bethenny love your show, you are right some reporters are not reporters, they are just bloggers or professional gossipers , you go girl!!

Dawn DeMarco-Book
Dawn DeMarco-Book

I really enjoy watching your show Bethenny! You are a breath of fresh air and incredibly witty and funny. As for all the negative stuff being said, I say go after them. It is ridiculous that people say whatever they want that isn't true and have no ramifcations against them. I never believe what I see on line, always go to the source! Can't wait for you show, congrats!!! Ellen is an amazing woman.

realitypatty
realitypatty

you and you alone earned your money. no excuses,no explanations. No one would question a man! Keep on being you.