I love the show Bethenny! Pleaseeee what brand our the gold rimmed sunglasses you wore with the pink tunic and pink hat. I love,love,love your style.
Well this week's episode was chock-full. The drive out to the Hamptons was absurd, as is everything in my life.
Dwayne is the newest addition to Team Skinnygirl, and he is very outspoken -- like many people in my life. He is a character and a riot, and let's just leave it at -- I'll never learn.
The conversation about Skinnygirl Lazy Lingerie (skinnygirlshapewear.com) was completely absurd, and I will always take humor over being appropriate.
I love Montauk so much. Having the freedom to run around with Bryn in the beautiful sun is something I cherish. We're building memories to last a lifetime.
I cannot believe that Jason and the girls weren't devastated about the raccoons. It would have ruined my weekend. I'd be institutionalized. I would have stopped, called animal rescue, and I would have been inconsolable.
I love the show Bethenny! Pleaseeee what brand our the gold rimmed sunglasses you wore with the pink tunic and pink hat. I love,love,love your style.
Hi Bethenny, I love the show, its one my favorite shows. I look forward to it every week. Love to see what you will be saying and also WEARING. I love your fashion sense. What tank tops do you wear? They seemed to be nice material, not too clingy. To me you seemed so down to earth and normal. Keep up the good work and enjoy your fruits of labor. Thanks Laura M
Hi Bethanny. I love your show but man, you poop me out. Take it from me, you need to SLOW DOWN and enjoy time with your baby and your husband. Those baby days will go quicker than a blink of an eye and you can't get them back. You go from one project to the next and you make my head spin. I am not a shrink but you always seem to be running from or running to something. Its like one more thing, one more thing, on and on. Relax and smell the roses; you won't be young forever with a young beautiful family. Take the time to enjoy. I would hate to see you end up alone but sometimes we force our own destinies and that scares me when I watch you. It scares me that you have always felt alone and that you are forcing the issue to be alone again. STOP IT!! talk to your shrink about it. We do have a tendency to repeat our behaviors whether we realize it or not. God Bless you and please, slow down!!!
I watch your show, but don'tknow how much longer I'll be watching. To me, you are a very hurt person who has just recently come into money and fame. You have a beautiful family and don't know what to do with it. Enjoy you baby, husband and your new found and well deserved wealth....there are so many terrible things out there...a lot of which I have seen. I would love to see you happy. If you can't be happy now with all you have achieved, then when will you be happy???? Take care.
I think Jason's parents are absolutely wonderful people and they love Bethenny very much but I think sometimes those around her, as well as the viewers, forget that Bethenny never had what Jason and his parents have, while growing up, or ever........... and she is still getting used to the in-law situation and the marriage situation, and I know it still hurts her sometimes to see Jason and his parents together because she is reminded of exactly that--- what she never had and you can't expect her to just totally embrace it and never have her issues over it.
I know you're afraid to get too close to your in-laws but you have to try for your husbands sake. Its very important to him. fake it if you have to. Lets face it .. blood is thicker than water and if you and Jason were to split up they will still be HIS parents and not yours. I do get the inside outside Jason thing. I too was married to a saint. I always felt like the bad guy. He could do no wrong in ANYONES eyes because he was perfect. NOT! He was a nice guy, but all those people who think he's a saint have never lived with him. I have never met a real life saint and don't think I ever will. but please try to get past all your demons. You are young and smart and successful. Please please enjoy this time in your life as it is the BEST time of your life. I'm 55 years old and when I look back at my 30's and 40's I wish I could live them over again. Those were my best years. Don't wait until you are an old lady to look back with regrets and time wasted on a unhappy childhood. Enjoy now! Now after all this typing lets see if this gets posted lol.
Dear Bethenny, I am a 68 year old grandma and had a great mother and father, but they both die when I was a teenager. When my oldest daughter got marriage at 19 and her husband was 21 I was scare for her but, she was smart and told this is a 50/50 relationship. She like you was very successful.(by the way they been marry for 28 years)
When they got marry my son-in-law and I did not get along. One time I had to live with them after my grandson was born (8 years later) My son-in-law who told me one day to get the f*** out of his way. So I found a place a quickly as I could he came in one day and said if I closed the front door and the back door that's all the people I need to care about I look him straight in the eye and said I'm her mother and I'll be in her life until I die. Bethenny what I'm trying to say is Jason mother and father are as important to him are you are and wants them in his life. It's hard from him to try to let you understand when some one marry to some one with a close family you also marry the family. Things are much better now we all go to there house for Thanksgiving, birthdays anf Christmas. But, I spent alot of holidays crying because I was alone please be apart of Jason extened family because being a grandparent is much more rewarding than being a mother trust me I know God bless
Marriage is not easy but knowing that you love the person make it worth it. Everyone goes though the rocky year of getting there postion in the relationship. You guys were on your honeymoon stage right into baby stage. I don't care who you are things are going to be little rocky. I don't think that Jason is perfect and you are the crazy one. I am sure it is hard to live up to being perfect in the public eye. Could be why he one way in public and another way at home. I think what most people see in Jason is that he loves you. That is what makes him the perfect husband. With that being said that doesn't make him the perfect person. I feel most people wouldn't think he was perfect if he didn't have the love he has for you. Someone told me this once: A man in his eighty's who had been married 55 some odd years. Was ask how him and his wife stay married for so long? He said There were times I fell out of love with her and she would love me even more. Than there were time she fell out of love with me and I loved her more. than there were times we both were in love with each other but in all those times we both never stop loving each other. I took it as i will have times where I am madly in love with my husband and he will just love me than . Than it might change but in the whole scheme of things our true love deep down in side is alway there for each other. That is what you hold on to the most. The true love deep down inside. One last thing, I read some of these comments and it is sad to me how many people don't have love. I have to say that I have been married to my husband for 11 years with him for 18 years and we have had our arguements just like what I see on TV with you and Jason. Also to answer your question. Does Jason just not think about the arguement ever again. I don't know but I am pretty sure that God gave man that gift not too and the gift of felling a sleep at a minutes notice. While we review the whole arguement in our heads!!! I feel your pain when it come to that. Best Wishes
I thought I would take a look at the blog and see many comments along the lines of what I was thinking after seeing the show tonight...Cannot believe what I am reading.Doesn't anyone see that Bethany is "all out there" as she is and it appears that her husband is not...All supportive in front of the cameras and people, but in private, biting and hurtful? This is why him being the "perfect husband" is bothering her...not that she wouldn't love a "perfect husband", but because he is not being judged for who he really is, but she is.I would bet if he was shown dishing out the comments she saidhe did at the Heliport (that she would end up alone, etc) and he still had the same support, it would not be so hurtful. One thing confuses me...Jason planned an elaborate birthday party for you even though you told him it made you uncomfortable...you had to suck it up because it was his vision of what your birthday should be....You planned what your vision of a great birthday would be for him and it sounds like he enjoyed it, but he ripped you because you did not invite his parents, or because it was not what he wanted...Why didn't he have to suck it up? I am disappoined with people telling you to "get over it". We never "get over" tragedies in our lives, we just learn how to cope with them better as time goes on. Your feelings are normal...you should know that....
You crack me up. Be nice to Jason and Bryn, but not necessarily in that order, and be supernice to Bryn's grandparents and the sister you recently met. They deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, so put on your best facade for family. You know by now that us tv hounds don't want you at your best -- it wouldn't be as much fun!
Honestly, Bethenny if my husband needed to spend that much time with his parents I'd freak out. It's a bit too much. Next time don't ever plan a surprise for his birthday. Let him in on it all the way. In fact, let him have most of the planning control so you never get blamed again. I think Jason over reacted to his birthday party. He could have a birthday celebration with just his parents and you and Bryn. When we have birthday parties we do one with friends, one with family, one with other people. All people don't have to be invited to just one birthday party. Sorry for Jason's brother's death but that's not your burden to take on. If Jason and his parents are still grieving and now need to cling to you and Bryn thats not okay. They need to find a way to heal from that. Similarly though you need to heal from your issue with your parents. I think you were never close to your parents and so you have no frame of reference on how to be close to inlaws (as they represent parental figures to some degree too). It must now be learned. You absolutely don't have to get together with them every month - if Jason needs that, let him go visit them alone. That can be a bit much if they live far away also.
If you read this Bethenny or Julie a word of advice from someone who knows. Love yourself, Jason and Brynn. We take so many things for granted and don't realize our blessings. My grandson was kidnapped in my daughters car while she got money from the cash machine. We got him back after 18 hours but for that time everything else became pointless. Maybe you should take time off from sharing your life with us and live your life with your loved ones.
Dear Bethenny, I have liked you for so long. I am a fan. When you skated on the Skating with the stars I called in every week as many and as long as I could. I am so happy for the success that you have worked so hard for. I was so excited for your show. However; it it is to much of strain please give it up and dont sacrafice your marriage. I didn't like you talking bad about your husband on tv. If the marriage is falling apart then do it off the tv because B your fans truely do care about you.
Hi Bethanny! I always enjoyed you; from watching with Marth Stewart to the present. I was going through so much in my life back then; my mom died; my husband left me and i lost my job. You were very inspiring on The Apprentice edition on Martha Stewart; I like you on the Housewives of New York City and didn't appreciate how you were regarded at times. Watching you on the show with Jason and having your beautiful little girl; I feel so much a part of your life but not really because you don't know me! I just want to say that I hope you will give your marriage a chance; you both have been through alot as young people but you found one another for a reason. I love watching Jason looking at you and genuinely enjoying your sense of humor as we enjoy you on TV. You are very candid and witty and he just loves you and your daughter so much! Give it all a chance. For your own sake as well as your daughter's; give the relationship the chance it deserves. I always say that it's more about commitment and not emotions. He just seems like a committed individual and someone that really truly cares. It's not easy exposing your life to the world and yet he has been and I know it could all work itself out. His experience growing up with two parents that loved each other and loved him is what balances what you didn't have. It just seems like it was all meant to be so that you both can be there for one another. Be strong Bethenny !
It makes me sad to see fans/ viewers judging so harshly when they only see a well edited snaphop of reality. no one has the right to judge without walking in your shoes. You are entitled to feel pain from your childhood! Love you B!
How about chilling out and enjoy life? You don't need to work anymore. Having an office at home and being your husband's boss will ruin your marriage Guarantee!
It is not easy staying happily ever after. In fact it is just about the most difficult part of your lives. But the good part is that Jason really gets you as you he. Complain as much as you can, but realize how lucky you both are to have each other and your adorable daughter. Everyone married argues, but stop before the mean words start. Good luck!!
Bethenny you need to grow up. Your husband is a good person and very tolerant. You need real therapy with a great therapist. Not for a show only you might lose a great man.
Let us all, with our unsolicited marital advice, remember that this show is just that a "show." We see only a fraction of Bethenny's life and I am quite sure in their marriage neither Bethenny nor Jason are 100% guilty or innocent. Let's not judge any one person based on what we see for 1 hour a week.
Betheney Do not forget that your husband Jason did not have it easy either. He lost his brother at a very young age. I am sure that makes him treasure you and his family and Bryn now.
Please do the same. Take the advice you give in your own book and 'take it or leave it' and leave all that bad behind. Focus on today and all that you have in front of you and treasure it. Life is short, ask Jason and his parents.
I wonder if Bethenny even reads all of our comments? As far as the in-laws go, they need to be cut some slack--they have only one LIVING son, and he (and Bryn) is everything to them. Take it from me, my father in law verbally assualted me/calling me profanities, the Hoppies really aren't bad people, and if you can see them once every 6 weeks, it would help the overall family dynamic....you can even buy them a studio apartment in the city so that they can travel to you for the weekends (if travel, with a driver, is difficult for you), so they can see Bryn/Jason whenever they want to... And lay off of Jason, really. He will be gone, before you know it, if you keep us this stupidity.
First off take it from me, it is tough being married to a saint. I was once and now am no longer. And for a long time afterward, I was the bad guy. But as time goes on, those who have experienced my ex the saint are seeing the same passive aggressive behavior that I did. And as much as I like you and Jason together, I see some passive aggressive behavior in him. What man calls out his wife in front of everyone. But then again I am older than you and a different generation. I appreciate you sharing your therapy sessions with us, I too go to therapy and think that it is really helpful to show what real life is all about. Yours is one of the few reality shows I care to watch because you show your strengths and your vulnerabilities. In fact, there are many times I wish I could work with you, to be with someone who really tells it like it is with compassion. Keep up the good work!
Bethenny, I understand what the others are saying in their posts, about how things feel so different this season. But, I don't think there is any one thing or one perosn to blame. I don't think you have really changed since the first episode of RHNY. As funny, smart, talented, and insightful as you are, you are so scared, anxious, needy, and desperate to be loved & wanted. The therapy is good and is making you think differently, which may help you to be okay with who you are and eventually act differently. I am a psychotherapsit and what I have seen Dr. Amador do so far is good stuff; he is a great match for you. Jason...I just adored him in the first season and in the wedding planning episodes, but something is not right this season with him. His parents are kind, good intentioned, but odd. He is very connected to them, and I understand why you don't want to spend every weekend with them. His connection to them seems odd also. We have not actually seen him say these words, but if he is actually telling you that "you don't know, you don't have family, you don't come from family" then that is terrible. Who would say that to someone, let alone someone they love and to someone they just made a "family" with? And knowing that subject is so raw for you....that is distrubing that he would say that to you. I have noticed how your eyes just light up, you get this smirk on your face, and you look like you are going to bust open when another man gives you a compliment....I saw it with Nick during the food crawl, I saw it with Max your old assistant many times, and I saw it with Dwayne your new driver in the car and right before your massage...sadly, I have never seen it with Jason. I will keep watching, because I can relate to you on many different levels, but I don't have that "Go Bethenny" cheer in my heart like I used to for many years...no judgment.
B- I hope you let the walls down soon- you will not be able to continue to be so abrasive to your husband and inlaws. Why would they put up with it? You have so much to be thankful for and yet you seem secretly repulsed by it.
You have so much money now- why are you so interested in taking over everything and always making others feel lesser than you? You are set- you have a great husband and wonderful in-laws and an adorable baby. Also plenty of cash. STOP acting so wounded by your past- everyone has stuff to deal with, you are not the only one. Dwelling on those things only puts a wedge between you and true happiness (this wedge will ruin your life). There is a theory that if you begin to act in a certain way, even if you don't feel it- that the actions will pave the way for the feelings to follow- you can overcome the mistreatment you experienced by treating everyone else well. Feel truly loved by truly loving others. Do you think there is something weak about accepting your in-laws? I think you are the luckiest girl out there- stop and enjoy your own life and get off this merry-go-round of being more successful than everyone else. You already are. EXCEPT when it comes to relationships. If you want to truly beat something- beat the monster inside of you that doesn't trust people- there are really people in this world that you CAN trust and you know 3 of them (4 if you count Bryn)- you married into the family and they have treated you so well. Please don't ignore this problem- try to visualize where you were 5 years ago. You may end up alone again if you don't recognize and fix (or put aside) your issues and treat your family- well all of them. God Bless you.
Bethenny, I'm sure that Jason really was thrilled with his birthday weekend. He probably came home and called his parents to tell them how great it was and they felt left out. (even though he saw them the day before) Allow me to give you some advice, that has helped me, let your in-laws in on things you are planning,even if they are not included. Sometimes it's enough just knowing what's planned. I find that has helped me.. you are a lovely, down to earth woman. Enjoy your husband, child(ren) and life. Circumstances can change on a dime.. if you were in a room with 10 people and you all through your problems on a table for grabs, you would be scurrying to get yours back. Be happy...
Wow break out the wine Bethenny...I hope you take all the haters with a grain of salt! Really who are they to comment and judge, while they hide behind an email. None of us really know you, it's not like we are neighbours or friends. We tune in every Monday and watch you bare your soul, then go on with our own lives. I think it is a brave thing to put your life on tv for everyone to see. I hope and pray that your rocky road with Jason smoothes out and you guys become stronger and more connected. Learn to love each other for all the faults and strengths. You have only known each other for a short time and have been through a lot...falling in love,baby,marriage.....The best advice I have received for a great relationship is to take life one day at a time,sometimes even taking one minute a time. Stop and take a breath to save yourself. No one is perfect and that is okay, we were made different for a reason. I hope you are in a good place and would love it to see you laugh and smile and truly hope you have more good days than bad.
Takes two to tango so I am not here to say it is all on you. I do agree with another viewer who said maybe life without cameras or therapy without cameras may be an alternative. You clearly do not need the money so try and find a way to slow down. You may even be able to sustain a second pregnancy if you did that. Get an office away from your home. You have the money to do this. Most of us do not. Your home is sacred. I had an an aunt and Uncle who sustained a 25 year marriage until they started a lucrative home business. It was the end of that marriage thought she ended up with a crapload of money. You have a great man, not a perfect one. But a good guy, wonderful in-laws. I am in a 17 year marriage with in laws from hell and a husband who is much more imperfect than Jason, but we agree on the big things. Do we bicker about stupid things? Of course, that is what people do, but if you can agree on the important things then you have a chance. Good luck to you.
Bethenny, I have watched you for a long time on RHONY and now on your own show. You are to be commended for the hard work you have done with your relationships and in realizing your own self-esteem. You have built your shinnygirl business from your own creativity and much hard work and your viewers are proud to see you rise up as a smart businesswoman and wife and mother. Your business has grown with your husband's help, and your self-worth has grown as well. Lately, in season 3 (with other viewers), I sense an undercurrent in your bluntness and jabs to those around you. It almost seems as though you are testing those you love and who love you to see if they will really stick around even when you are hurtful. Yes, your bluntness may get you laughs, but its not really funny and not respectful of those you love. Your family is, after all, your safe harbour and is worthy of your protection. You have "come a long way, baby" -- please look at what is important in your life. Step back Bethenny and realize your true blessings. We enjoy you and the antics of your family and extended family. But, we don't need the raunchy pokes at those you love.
hello bethenny, i used to think you were ok during the housewives and your 1st season of bethenny ever after but i have to say that i've become a huge fan of yours after reading your "a place of yes" book and now with your 2nd season. you are becoming a lot more self aware and i love that. i love that youre surrounded by women like hoda, who is hilarious. i think you're doing a lot for women in showing us that we can seek happiness by knowing ourselves and being kind to ourselves.
Jason & Bethenny,
Marriage is tough sometimes it's 40/60 rarely is it 50/50. My simple recommendation for survival is Live, Laugh, Love.
Bethenny what else can I say that hasn't been said, like the other fans I love you very much; love the uniqueness and neurotic and wittiness of who you are"I totally love it". I know we're commenting on things that happen 6 months ago so I don't know were you are at this point; but I hope you were able to sort things out. My wife not to bashed her has some personality traits that are very cancerous that is sarcasism. It's a poison and it will leave who's ever at the onother end feeling like in disbelieve of the comment towards them. This kind of stuff tends to pushed love ones away. So my wife has pushed me away and my two daughters also because she feels she is perfect and everyone can kiss her ass. Not with good people that love you, not ever. So just be aware of the damage you are causing by being sarcastic.
Bethany, Bethany, Bethany. I like you so much and you have so much going for you. Yet it isn't enough. It is unfortunate that life gave you the awful parents that you had, but it was truly their loss that they didn't recognize the wonderful gift that they had. Please don't let them define your life. And just because people comment on how wonderful they perceive Jason to be does not mean that therefore you aren't, or that you are a bad person. You remind me of me. You seem to like to argue. I don't think that Jason does. When I was your age I would get worked up over nothing and you seem to be doing the same. Jason said pick your battles, but you seem like you want to battle everything. I pray that you don't wear Jason out. You have a wonderful daughter and a good husband. Relax and smell the roses. Being right, just for the sake of being right isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Focus on your family and count your blessings daily. You don't want to be a single mommy. Brynn deserves more than that. God bless.
Wow! What a difference a year makes! Bethenny, "doing" this show will be your undoing. Quit while you're ahead and stop this reality show--a sad show that you're putting on for all of us. Get your life back on track and give the things that matter most your full attention--mainly your marriage. I'm actually embarrassed for you this year. It's as if you think we'll like you more if you "shock" us with your bad behavior...have you forgotten how that backfired for Jill Z.? Your viewing audience is very smart--we're loyal to a point and then it's just too hard to watch you self-destruct.
you are so great and so is jason but why do you want to be known as "the girl who's parents didn't want her" get past it. don't be known for that cause that's how people are starting to see you . not for skinny girl or rhony or just being a funny girl. you are now known for "oh uno that girl who's parents didn't want her" get past it, get over it . your mum was 20 years old when she had you she was young, silly, selfish and nieve and he prob picked the wrong man (your father) some people aren't meant to be parents. some people don't know how to love. your not one of those people. GET OVER IT
I have found that the year or so after having a first child is an extremely hard adjustment period and major power struggles ensue especially if a person already struggles with codependant behavior or has had issues with control in their past. I have also noticed that some men struggle with their ego when a child joins the family because he will never have that same bond that a child has with their mother and they don't have that mother intuition. Some men even struggle with feelings of inadequacy which sometimes triggers defense mechanisms and passive aggressiveness. I found that if one person in the marriage is getting therapy it is very beneficial for their spouse to go as well even if it is for the purpose of strengthening the marriage bond. There are different types of therapy that don't involve analysing but involve focusing on the future and changing communication or how time is spent together to icrease communication and family bonding. Red flags come up for me when I here someone is afraid of being analysed. People tend to not want to look at themselves out of protection of their ego they do not want to acknowledge their faults it is easier for them to project all fault onto their partner. For a marriage to work both spouses need to be accountable for their behaviors and contributions into any problems and solutions that may occur. I would hope that someday they both would get therapy together because everyone has issues that can be improved. I think that with just Bethenny attending therapy it will continue to inforce in jason's head that she is the one with the problems and whenever an issue comes up she is the one that needs to change her behavior. Bethenny might want to do some research on dealing with Narcissistic defense mechanisms
I was very upset by this past episode. I thought you and Jason were so great together and now you seem to be wanting to ruin your marriage. Get all those people out of your life. Have your office separate from your home. Treat Jason with love and respect before he goes running. I really loved season one and two. You have a wonderful sense of humor and I enjoyed watching you all. But now? It's like a 3 ring circus with everyone privy to every little thing about your lives. If this continues then i would say you will have lost a viewer.
First of all, I have followed you from the beginning and you were always my fav. I love your outspoken nature and think you're hilarious. However, it has really saddened me to watch your marriage self-destruct. You need to let your past make you better, not bitter. I had a similar childhood as you...I never had a family or anyone that cared about me. Trust me, I was a wreck for a long time. However, I've had to move on. I've never forgiven my parents and I don't speak with them or have any sort of a relationship with them, but I have moved on with my life. It has been such a blessing to be welcomed into my husband's family. I finally know what it is like to have a family and am so grateful for them. I am not going to say that Jason is perfect because nobody is. But, it does really sadden me to see the relationship you have with his parents. They seem like the most geniune people and you can truly see the love they have for your daughter and you. However, you seem to push them off and don't want to let them in. It really must be heartbreaking for them.
It really looks like you are on the verge of a breakdown. I hope that you are able to slow down and really invest in your marriage and family (including Jason's parents).
I am such a huge Bethenny fan from when she was on Martha's show. As a viewer, I want you to cherish this time with Bryn and the life you have been blessed with yet it appears you are in self sabatoge mode since you don't feel worthy of all you have. Hopefully in time you will have processed the reality of your current situation and not feel the need to constantly point out where you came from and how hard you worked to get where you are. I was surprised how in this blog you state how much you enjoyed this episode when in appears that you are instigating Jason any opportunity you get and so highly critical and sensitive of every work he speaks.
Bethenny, This show is the one that I look forward to the most on Bravo.
Something's so off this season...it's odd how things have changed. Whatever is so wrong in the communication dept between you and Jason, I truly hope is turned around. I honestly enjoyed your love affair together. I found it honest, sincere and so sweet. Your daughter is just precious and so happy. I do wish you both the best. You admit you're your own worst enemy and no, Jason isn't perfect. Nobody is...that's what makes marriage feel like "work" at times. If it's as important/special to both of you, like it was last year, you'll both do the work to repair these bumps. Almost everyone has them. It's a team effort to mend them. Best wishes. I really loved watching when you were happier!!!
Bethany, I have watched all the shows you have been on since the beginning. I am not someone who posts comments, but after watching yourr last show I felt sad for you and Jason. You have more money than will ever need.You have proved yourself to everyone. Why are you still running around leading such a hectic life? why even do this show and open your lives to the public. Why not stop and appreciate the life you have. You can both do things that you want together. You need to make peace with your upbringing. Maybe try getting a new therapist, and not taping the appointments. I am sorry to tell you that you will be divorced soon if you do not get your act together.It is more important for your daughter and husband to think you are wonderful for yourself, then a bunch of nameless..faceless viewers. Jason had a normal upbringing, and you now have the ability to belong to a real family. I am sure his parents would love to treat you like a daughter. I have been married for 42 years and have raised 2 children. My husband and I are still in love and crazy for each other. also, stop being surrounded by people all the time. You better read all the other emails and see the light.
You and Jason remind me of me and my hubby, so I wanted to share a great bits of marriage advice, which actually came from my father-in-law, who btw failed miserably in his marriage. He told us to never bad-mouth, bicker or correct each other in company. I'm pretty opinionated, sassy, and I try to be witty, so I was instantly offended by his suggestion and didn't speak to him for months. Now that I've been married for 15 years, I realize my father-in-law was right (grr), and although it makes my husband and I appear incredibly boring and entirely co-dependent, I've realized when a couple fights in public, people either feel like they are in an awkward TMI situation, or they judge and pick sides. Sometimes they do all of the above. It's human nature. Your marriage becomes fodder, and in the long run you start to feel like people are either on your team or his team. The other benefit of playing nicey-nice in the public eye is it lets both of you save face. What a comfort it know your spouse has your back, even when you say something totally stupid or wrong. When he's in the wrong, you present yourself as the kind of person who is able to be chill. Of course, I'm not talking about when a spouse says something despicable, I just mean you keep jabs, poking-at-the-holes-in-the-story, and anger at bay until you are alone and you can fight fairly in privacy. Because, that is what is at the heart of this bit of wisdom — respect and privacy. You and Jason are brilliant together (As am I and my husband, whom I alternatively adore and want to kick in the ass. I'm tooting my horn, b/c we both came from seriously effed-up families). The frustrations and aggravations of a new marriage, new partnership and new parenthood all at once are ridiculously intense. Trial by fire — I can't help but believe you two are going to be brilliant in the long run. Fighting fairly (a skill similar to learning how to use the table saw without cutting off all of your digits) is totally key, and it can only be done in private, where you can say what needs to be said. In public, you have to put on a face, but at home you can tell him off and he can do the same to you. Same goes for fighting around your kiddos. You can spar around kids, but keep the hurtful, harsh stuff for the marriage cone of silence. I realize sharing this little bit of marriage wisdom totally torpedoes my most favorite night of TV.
you have every right to be bitter about your childhood; that pain isn't going away any time soon. no one has the right to judge you untill they have walked in your shoes. I love you and the way you have put yourself out there. Healing takes a long time... been there I am 8 years older....
You and Jason remind me of me and my hubby, so I wanted to share a great bits of marriage advice, which actually came from my father-in-law, who btw failed miserably in his marriage. He told us to never bad-mouth, bicker or correct each other in company. I'm pretty opinionated, sassy, and I try to be witty, so I was instantly offended by his suggestion and didn't speak to him for months. Now that I've been married for 15 years, I realize my father-in-law was right (grr), and although it makes my husband and I appear incredibly boring and entirely co-dependent, I've realized when a couple fights in public, people either feel like they are in an awkward TMI situation, or they judge and pick sides. Sometimes they do all of the above. It's human nature. Your marriage becomes fodder, and in the long run you start to feel like people are either on your team or his team. The other benefit of playing nicey-nice in the public eye is it lets both of you save face. What a comfort it know your spouse has your back, even when you say something totally stupid or wrong. When he's in the wrong, you present yourself as the kind of person who is able to be chill. Of course, I'm not talking about when a spouse says something despicable, I just mean you keep jabs, poking-at-the-holes-in-the-story, and anger at bay until you are alone and you can fight fairly in privacy. Because, that is what is at the heart of this bit of wisdom — respect and privacy. You and Jason are brilliant together (As am I and my husband, whom I alternatively adore and want to kick in the ass. I'm tooting my horn, b/c we both came from seriously effed-up families). The frustrations and aggravations of a new marriage, new partnership and new parenthood all at once are ridiculously intense. Trial by fire — I can't help but believe you two are going to be brilliant in the long run. Fighting fairly (a skill similar to learning how to use the table saw without cutting off all of your digits) is totally key, and it can only be done in private, where you can say what needs to be said. In public, you have to put on a face, but at home you can tell him off and he can do the same to you. Same goes for fighting around your kiddos. You can spar around kids, but keep the hurtful, harsh stuff for the marriage cone of silence. I realize sharing this little bit of marriage wisdom totally torpedoes my most favorite night of TV. You guys are worth it!
You poor Bethenny you will lose Jason...and finish alone with your money...so sad how you turn out...
I think you are fabulous and have loved watching you since The Real Housewives of New York, however, I became really concerned for you and your family after watching Monday's episode. I am divorced so I know what I am talking about. I, like you, am outspoken and wisecracking. I hurt my ex husband pretty bad, basically pushed him away; I see that in you. I don't know if you don't feel worthy....it seems like self-sabotage. My grandparents raised me after my mother left me and went off to college. I totally related to you when you were role-playing with your therapist; the comment about "throwing a little girl away"; I get it. Anyway, I love you but I fear that pretty soon we will see you and Jason's divorcing, then I'll have to stop watching because it would be too heartbreaking. Please started reading the Dalai Lama or something....reign it in and lose some control, most of all learn to love yourself before it's too late. Best of luck.
Love the show and love how real you are. I would hate having my life played back to me 6 months later. Good lord! I think anyone would. Just the crap I've done today alone would make me cringe! You are a brave woman. You and Jason actually seem perfect together to me. I see all the people bashing your relationship above. Most people bicker just like you. I don't know one couple that doesn't. I don't know you or Jason personally but on the show it seemed to show that Jason knew exactly who and how you were before you married him and vice versa. I think you have a really cute family and I wish you all the best.
What are you doing with Jason? If he is the good guy, it doesn't mean that you are the bad guy. Why are you pushing so hard? No need for that. Chill a bit. Take a deep breath. Fear of being with someone is fear of losing that person actually.
I teared up when Jason carried Cookie high over his head to shore..that was just so damn cute!!! He knows that's your first baby!!
wow, I have read the post from others and think they don't listen to Jason's words. He talks soft and quiet, but he is very passive-aggressive, controlling, and insulting to Bethenny. Just because he isn't loud like her doesn't mean he is being so nice. Give her a break, she bends over to share everything she has worked for with him and include him in everything. She shows him love, without loosing her own personality. I do not trust him and I am the only person I have ever heard say, I don't like him! I also wondered if he is gay, just sayin.