I hope it helps. I hope it makes you feel better. Sometimes it makes you feel worse, but in the end, it's the truth that really matters -- not whether it's right or wrong.
On a lighter note, we love Dr. Amadour. He is a caring, gentle man who has dedicated his practice to helping couples to have healthier relationships and argue in a more productive manner.
As I mentioned, your therapy hasn't really begun until your doctor has walked in on you in the bathroom.
I can't even describe the feeling I had when I got to see my baby that day. As a mommy who is there when my little girl wakes up every day, it was devastating to not arrive until hours later. This is the deepest love I've ever known. I just want to be there for her, for her to feel safe and to feel secure that I will never leave her. She is the most precious and sweet little pink strawberry cupcake with sprinkles that I have ever known. Being a family once again that day was a feeling relief that compares to none.
As far as the naysayers, bottom feeders, and haters that are so desperate for attention to say or even imagine that I would ever fake or make up a traumatic story like that, all I have to say is F the haters. Kandi Burruss from The Real housewives of Atlanta said it best: "I fly above all the haters."
Love your show, Bethenny... you and Jason are such a great couple! Yes, the boat trip put everything in perspective. Maybe it needed to happen this way....but sorry you have to endure the pain of it. Thanks to you and your family for giving us a glimpse into your life each week!
Great episode B - I loved seeing how strong u were and was VERY surprised to c what a weak man Jason is - he really is a spolied baby! I know - most men are BUT u deserve to b w a strong man! Not one who throws a fit bc his parents were not invited to his bday party! I know u are flawed BUT he should thank GOD everyday for everything u have given him!!!!
Bethenny, I have watched you through all the episodes of Real Housewives of New York and now with your own spin off reality show. I am thrilled for you and your family that you have this beautiful little girl, a wonderful, loving husband and a great career. Having said that, I also think, you have it all and yet you aren't happy, you focus on your past and all that hurt, which you cannot change. Live today and enjoy the present and your future. Currently, I may lose my home to foreclosure with the real estate market being so bad and that has been my husband's careeer for over 30 years. We have been married almost 36 years, we have 4 children and 11 grandchildren. We lost a grandson last year, he only lived 20 days and then he died. I see your successful life and yes, I have to say I am jealous that you do not have the financial worries that many do today. Yes, you have worked hard for that success. But please, stop complaining about your husband, and how hard you have to work on your marriage and how hard your life is, be grateful everyday for all the blessings in your life and that you don't have the day to day struggles that many of us have. If I had your financial security I would think life was perfect!
I'd like you to try something. Remember that feeling when you first saw Bryn on the dock and how you ran to her. How you felt the rest of the day, probably week, that you didn't want to be away from her. Imagine her at 10, 16, 20+ years old. That feeling doesn't really go away - it's different, not as intense, because you are not the care giver to the extent that you are when they are small, but you still want them in your life, and to be there for the "moments" that are special and see and hug them. That need for cuddling and hugging doesn't go away. Now think of Jason's mom - she feels that way about Jason. Try, try, try to give her more time with her "baby". He's your husband, but she still needs to be with her child and has that same pull, that same feeling, toward him. Try to give his parents a little more. They are not like your parents.
My husband is just like Jason...cherish him. You seem like you need someone (like me) to balance you out and Jason is the one. My husband seems like the perfect person and everyone loves him. He is going through a tough time and I love that I can be there for him. He is the one who is always there for me :) We are very lucky girls!
Bethany, it saddens me that you are creating this issue in your marriage. I can see it isn't going to work. We know Jason is not perfect! but, we know he's a good solid man that comes from a really great family with solid values. Why is it so hard to protect your husband? He only chose to be in the limelight because he loves you. Why do you want the world to so Badly see his flaws??? We know what a hard life you had, thats why we love you because you turned it around. YOU. Dont be so rough with you marriage, RELAX. PROTECT IT. NURTURE IT. Jason his aging, you can see the stress in his eyes. I guess money isn't everything. I hope you didn't make him sign a prenup after you made that money because I can honestly say that probably was not a good idea...that the gamble of true love. Its okay before marriage, but not during. what does that say about trust. How must Jason feel? I'm a honest person, if that was me I would see no trust and walk away.... Heartbroken of course.
Bethenny,You said it best know one knows what goes on behind closed doors .For Jason to keep pushing his parents on you that you should love them the same way that he does he had 40 yrs you had 2yrs he should just let it happen you are not the type to sit under your parents he is, so he should reconize that you like to be alone when you have free time with your baby and him and he likes a party .You have a great family so enjoy it please don't let anyone change you we love you just as you are.SO CUTE ON ANDERSON
nothing more to say than i love you and i love what you have to offer. You keep being you and "flying high". you are blessed and only you will ever know how truly blessed you are, well you adn Bryn, and now Jason. XOXO love hard, fight hard, adn fight even harder for what you love.
Kim M fl
wow what a trip that must of been, I know the feeling I have been in a similar situation and it is so frustrating being at the mercy of something out of your control. You said it best though, it helps you figure out what's important in life, the material things come and go but in the end it's being with those you love, cherish all those memories. take care
How did I miss you not inviting Jason's parents to his bday??? Anywho, THAT was not a wise move. You may want to consider and then act on the fact that Jason had a very different home life than you. Please accept that and embrace then into your life.
I loved this episode. It made me cry when in ten years Jason wants to be married to you. And again I laughed when you got off the ship and kissed the sidewalk.
Bethenny this is the best episode to date! My only wish is that it aired 2 years earlier..maybe I could have saved my marriage. Keep on fighting for yours! I'm pulling for you and Jason!
love, love, LOVE your show. i even learned something new through your therapy. you have a good man and a beautiful daughter. JELLY!
Bethenny, I am going through something right now so I don't have time to write as much as I do but the only thing I want to know is why is Jason growing a beard? He doesn't look as neat as he used to, he looks better without the beard. Anyway I will try to write more tomorrow. Love, love, love you. Bryn is getting so big and she is adorable. Take care.
So glad you survived the trip. I have motion sickness also and I really felt for poor Jason. You were very considerate of him when he was trying to cook supper.
Glammy is trouble. You can see her practically lick her lips when she starts to try and question you about how things went with the doctor (when Jason got up to go put Bryn to bed for her nap).
Suggestion: confide in your friends not the help. She shouldn't have her nose in her employer's marriage. It's none of her freaking business. Julie's one thing, she has been with you before Jason. Just sayin'.
Hope this posts. This is the best show on Bravo. I sit still for a whole hour which I never do for other shows. Bethenny, thanks for showing an honest real hour. If you are not a boat person, then what happened to you would be really scary. No land and just water is scary. People who work for coast guard, towing companies or boat people love the water and only when the boat is on the bottom of the ocean do they get scared. But you and Jason had ever right to be worried and scared. To all the haters ( yes, Jill and Kelly followers that is you), a successful business's person with a new baby and husband doesn't need to stage anything so stop being jealous. Best of luck Bethenny and ignore the idiots (a.k.a. Haters).
Love you, Love you, Love you! I get such a kick out of watching you on your show or the talk shows...You are so real! You and Jason have created the nuclear family that your parents were unable to do....embrace your inlaws because they did too and have what you WANT with your husband and beautiful baby girl!
Bethenny...do you think for a moment that there will be a day where bryn birthday will be cherished more by people other then you and Jason? Do you think friends comming to her birthday whe she is grown will have this deep feeling of acomplishment and love and joy that you will feel? And you did not evem raise her yet. Wait for sicnesses, brkone heart, you need-to-be-her-shrink for tough times, school, college, entertaining her friends, taking her and her friends on vocation, homework, first phone, first car, worry about her driving a car, first failed grade, first everything. Live through all of it. Then who do you think will be the best for Bryn to selebrate her birthday with? will anybody in her surounding cherish it more then you will? Ho, yes, then she her potenshial life partner will surprise her with a party and you will be left out. Ouch. Nothing hurst more. My son and duaghter forgot my birthday. They both grown ups and i went through montains rasing them. All kinds of things, being in the hiospital when my son was only 3 motnhs old and afraid i am going to loose him, so many trouiblesome things in their life. I weathered them all. And then my own kids forgot to pick up the phone and call me. My cousing from all over the world called me...everybody but my own kids. They finaly rememebred a week later. At least they remembered. What if Bryn will forget about you on your birthday?
First of all, I love your show and you! You have shown everyone that money does NOT buy happiness. I hope that you find the peace that you so deserve.
One question, you were so happy to see Bryn, and said you would stay with her all day, but then we see you and Jason out eating alone? How come? was she down for a nap? I am all for "couple time" but you went on and on about her staying with you all day.....just confused by that!
1. No inviting Jason’s parents to his birthday, and believe that is O.K.? It is great that he has a close relationship with his parents. If he is a good son, he is a good husband and a good father. 2. Jason is no perfect but, he is an honest good man. 3. It is odd to see Bethenny working so hard to show her husband imperfections. 4. Bethenny is fixating on the past.
Have always loved you, and love watching your shows. You keep things real and in perspective. Someone once told me that everyone has "crap" (other word was used obviously, but wasn't sure if I could curse on a blog). Why are you going to leave this "crap" to go to someone else's "crap" In the end it's all "crap"! No marriage is perfect! Lots of love to all of you!!
Bethenny, I think you are awesome. You make me laugh! However, it pains me greatly to see you and Jason fighting. You have all of the money in the world, a great husband and baby. What could possibly be so bad? When things get bad, go on vacation, take a break, you can!!! I understand that you want to work, work, work, but you got it made lady. Enjoy the ride!!!!!
It isn't so much that Jason is perfect he is perfect for you. Believe me people say all the time how perfect my husband is,at first I was like are you high? What does that make me? It makes me married to someone perfect for me, and so are you.
Bethenny, I wonder if you should take a breather from creating more businesses. You need to concentrate on your little girl who will be little for such a small amt of time. Enjoy your marriage. Go on vacations with only Jason and Bryn with no staff or business. They need to be reassured that they are number 1st your life.
Bethenny, re-read Coleen Greer's post above over and over; don't make your own problems nor script your life to keep revealing your past pains. You need to let stuff go, realize you're not perfect. Be nicer to yourself; you are good, you are kind, you are loved - by God. Everything else is a piece of cake. Lighten up and enjoy. Patricia
love, love you and Jason. I see both sides. Jason does need to stop pushing his parents on you. You include them when you are together. He should be happy about that. Let the past go......that is what is in the way of you truly being happy. I too am in the same situation you two are, but we made it work. you and Jason are good together.
Bethenny i know how you feel about your little girl been there and done it. But please make sure you keep Jason in the loop because if not he will leave you when the children grow up. I know from experience after 20yrs of marriage. good luck to you and Jason you have a very pretty family. And Brynn is just the cutest. just a viewer
Dear Bethenny, I have been one of your biggest fans for a very long time. When I watched Jill go after you, I couldn't stand it. In fact, when she would come on the screen, I would either mute her or change the station till I felt she was off. I couldn't stand the way she treated you. Now hear me out. I am not a hater. But, I do hate the way you talk about Jason, his family, and am watching the show less and less. You had a terrible childhood. You wanted a family so so much. You get one and then complain about it. It's almost as if you enjoy the comfort of your past. Maybe I'm reading too much into it but right now, I don't like you very much. I'm Trying to but when I try to watch the show.....I get so irritated with you, I turn it off. I didn't watch last night's episode. I did read many of the comments here and realized I did the right thing not watching. Good luck to you, Bethenny. Jason......good luck to you as well. Maybe you see more in B than we do. Maybe editing is showing more bad and not enough good. I just think you, Jason, deserve better. I think your parents do as well. Right now, I don't think your marriage will last. I REALLY hope I'm wrong. Make me wrong. Please make me wrong.
If you don't care about what the haters say (about you), then why do you care what people say about Jason? If they think he is wonderful, let them think that~ I am the Jason in my marriage, and my husband negates every compliment I receive from people. I have lost alot of confidence since I have been with him because he hates for me to get any attention or positive strokes from other people. He always says " You don't know her like I do", and it cuts me like a knife. The one person I would love to be loved by is the same one who seems to hate it that other people love me so much. Let Jason enjoy the good things people think. He probably needs it.
Let's just say you may not have staged the event, but you certainly exaggerated it. Dr. Amador was in contact with authorities, and you were never lost at sea. The time you had to spend at sea was waiting for an escort into Nantucket Island. Nobody was panicking because there was nothing to panic about. I understand it was aggravating, inconvenient and exhausting, but it was never the big deal that you made it seem in the press during the filming. As a parent, and Bryn being the greatest love you have ever known, you should realize that love does not end at age 40 or ever. Jason hoping for a closer relationship between you and his parents is not unreasonable, but actually quite wonderful. His parents appear to be lovely people, who have lost one son, and are very close with their son; a feeling he shares. The fact that causes arguments with your husband is actually quite puzzling, particularly because you didn't have that relationship with your parents. I don't think you are damaged, but I do think you are quite selfish. You want it to be all about you and your brand and your fame. I am sure that Jason is not perfect, as no one is. I am also sure that neither one of you is right all of the time. However, I really do commend the love and respect that he has for his parents, and could only strive to have that relationship with my four children even when they are forty years old. I would hope that you as well, would hope to have that kind of relationship with Bryn throughout your lifetime. I think that it is shameful of you to have so much contention for their relationship with Jason, and it is such a source of your arguments. I do not believe you are sincere in your love of Jason, because if you were, a loving family would not be an issue. How hard this must be for Jason's parents, when all they want to do is share their love with you, their son and their granddaughter. Their patience with the situation is amazing. I doubt you would be as kind or understanding or patient with Bryn's spouse, if they behaved like you do. Just something to think about.
Marieg says it best....
Submitted by Marieg on March 20, 2012..
Bethany, it saddens me that you are creating this issue in your marriage. I can see it isn't going to work. We know Jason is not perfect! but, we know he's a good solid man that comes from a really great family with solid values. Why is it so hard to protect your husband? He only chose to be in the limelight because he loves you. Why do you want the world to so Badly see his flaws??? We know what a hard life you had, thats why we love you because you turned it around. YOU. Dont be so rough with you marriage, RELAX. PROTECT IT. NURTURE IT. Jason his aging, you can see the stress in his eyes. I guess money isn't everything. I hope you didn't make him sign a prenup after you made that money because I can honestly say that probably was not a good idea...that the gamble of true love. Its okay before marriage, but not during. what does that say about trust. How must Jason feel? I'm a honest person, if that was me I would see no trust and walk away.... Heartbroken of course. .
Love the show, you, Jason, Bryn, the Hoppys' and your staff. I just wanted you to know that I purchased 4 bottles of Skinnygirl maragritas, they were awful. The company you sold your Brand to told me that there is nothing wrong with the product as they test it & said "thank you for your input" or some such nonsense. I will not be purchasing any more products from SkinngGirl again, and you can thank Beam Global Spirits & Wine for that.
Please get off this show. Put everything you have into living in the moment and enjoying the family you have. This is too stressful for you both. Please...prioritize your family first. Jason is a good guy. You are both fried.
I was soooo happy to see how you and Jason worked together on the boat trip. It is clear how much you two love each other and your willingness to work on things. Dr. Amador did a great job on the trip with Jason who was resistant to "being analyzed".. he gently and naturally gave his therapuetic input and insights about your dynamics as a couple. For those who doubted the authenticity of the lost at sea incident.. ridiculous.. that's only based on jealously to suggest that it was planned. I cannot even imagine how you felt worrying about being reunited with Bryn, a million things must have run through your head. She is precious and it warms my heart watching you and Jason with her.
I appreciate that you allow us into your life with such openness, honestly and vulnerability. It must be difficult for you to watch at times but it really helps others to see a realistic portrayal of married life and the work goes into it.
LOVE your humor, your quick whit makes me laugh so hard!!
It's hard for people who haven't had the same upgringing with supprotive parents to understand Jason's bond with his. Add to that that thety have lost child and it increases immensly. I can totally understand why you don't "need" to spend as much time with them as Jason does. It's very hard to feel accepted intoi that dynamic, no matter how welcoming and genuine they are.
I think everyone,including Jason,is making too big a deal out of his parents not being on the birthday trip. I'm sorry but at 40 and married with a child there is a time when you,do things,yes even birthdays,with your family and not your parents to establish new traditions,your own traditions and memories. Some keep telling Bethanny not to complain about Jason,but I really think Jason needs to let it go he is the one pushing her to be different that the person he married. Move past and move forward.
I am disturbed by the commenters who seem to imply that just because Bethenny is famous and rich, she's not allowed to complain or have problems. I have no doubt in my mind that Bethenny appreciates her life and that she worked extremely hard (and without the support of her first family) to achieve what she has. Achieving goals doesn't mean people stop having problems or anxiety - in some cases, it can create even more (look at some of the young celebs out there!). It also becomes that much more difficult to identify the root of the problem, which can make it more difficult to overcome. While I can certainly empathize with those (like me) who haven't yet achieved their goals, who have lost loved ones, or who are struggling in this economy, I also try to be compassionate toward anyone struggling with personal problems - no matter how rich and famous. Keep "flying above," B.
Love your show! You are so funny! You are so successful and hard-working. Maybe you could just relax a bit, take the next step slowly. Have fewer people around. Enjoy your time with Jason and Brynn. You have already "made it" and can leave it at that. Jason's parents love unconditionally, it's obvious. Let them in. Spend time with them. You can only reap the benefits! Let go of your past and it will happen. I wish only the best for you, Jason and Brynn.
Bethenny I love your show and I think its wonderful how you let us all in on your life. That can't be easy. You and Jason are doing a wonderful job raising your daughter and just being a great couple and great parents!! Yes fly above all the haters!! They don't mean anything!!
I know you're not perfect but I completely understand where you come from with Jason. It really annoys me when he acts so perfect in front of everyone else, but then has no problem being mean when it is just you. My husband also can be mean at times, but in front of my parents, friends, coworkers, etc. he is just lovely. I love him to death but cannot stand it when people think he is perfect when he is NOT!!! And then they get upset with ME for giving him a "hard time" about something. It is very aggravating. I have a strong personality like you so sometimes it comes across as me not beng fair to him but that's only because people are only seeing one side of the story.
PS: I am almost 17 weeks pregnant with my first (!!) and already love my baby to death so I can understand why you were so sad and worried about Bryn when you were at sea.
Bethenny, Viewers should follow show more closely. Jason had been with his parents just a day or two BEFORE his birthday. Bethenny set up the golf trip with his friend as it was something he wanted. He even said afterwards how terrific it was and then did a 180 and complained that she should have invited his parents. Parents can not be at EVERY occasion, accept that and move on. He and Bryn saw them together just before. That is expecting too much. Jason has guilt issues about his brother. And is over dependent on his parents. Bethenny named the daughter after the brother and has made TREMENDOUS progress. Jason has his own issues and would benefit from more therapy. Bethenny is doing HER work and he needs to do his too. Telling her she is damaged is not going to help. How hurtful that is. He may also be bipolar which would explain the sudden turnabout in his behavior. No one is perfect. Bethenny has come a loooooooong way.
I stopped watching the show as it was so hard to watch the drama that Bethenny created week after week. I find it so disrespectful to watch her constantly disrespect her husband in public. She'll look back on these days and wonder how she ended up just like her parents that she hates.
I've been following you since the RHONY and just loved your spin-offs. Watching your show used to be the TV highlight of my week, but I must admit that your constant complaining and bickering has gotten old. I know that we don't know what is going on behind closed doors with your family life, but the part that we do get to see is just not that interesting anymore. It's the same old complaining about your childhood and trying to one-up yourself with clever and vulgar remarks. Quit trying so hard to get attention. It doesn't even seem real anymore. Just enjoy your family!
Love the show. I think it is really funny that people keep bringing up how hard you are on Jason. This June I will be happily married to my husband 16 years. The first three were the hardest years of my adult life. We got married late and I was 32 when we got married. Marriage is work and most people starting out do not realize this until they are smack into the middle of it. Then add a child and you have a whole new dimension of work. As long as you are both able to lay your heads down at the end of the day and laugh, then you will both make it. One thing I have learned through experience is to make sure that you work as hard on your marriage as you do on your parenting skills. The best thing you and Jason can give Bryn is a happy healthy marriage with all of the ups and downs. Then she will be able to pick a great spouse when it is her time. She is such a doll and all I can see is pure Joy when both you and Jason are loving on her. Enjoy the ride!! It goes by so fast. Mi