Julie Plake

Julie discusses her decision to leave Team Bethenny, but how she'll still be part of the family.

on Apr 10, 20120

OK now everyone knows. I made a life decision, and that decision was to leave NYC and move back to Pittsburgh (my hometown).

Watching this episode was emotional for me, because my decision to leave was a difficult one. But as you can see from Bethenny and my reactions, it was the right decision. Moving back to Pittsburgh to be with my family and my boyfriend was always a thought that weighed on my mind.

I felt very strange having the conversation with Bethenny on the couch because I knew that it would be the end of an "era" and that things would never be the same. However, I will always be a part of Team B and part of their family. Bryn is my godchild and nothing is more special than that. I can't wait to visit NYC and spoil her all the time.

If you ask "how could you do this?" Remember, that I have worked for Bethenny for three years. She taught me important life lessons -- don't do things out of fear, follow your heart, and trust your gut. I listened to her and did exactly those things.

48 comments
TampaFan
TampaFan

Julie...truly wish you the best in your future endeavors. The fact that you even shared with Jason (on the boat in Mexico) that once you make a decision, you must stick to it. Honestly, Bethenney has so much on her plate and I do admire her success, but as her own therapist said, "WHY, must you keep adding on so many other projects", as she's having meltdowns with every new business venture, marital issues, the broken record "damaged" comments and Jason being perfect and overanalyzing, and making mountains out of molehills on a day to day basis....Hell, I would have lost my mind in that environment, so kudos to you. girl. Her answer is always (when she's defensive that noone gets her, Jason, her therapist, anyone in her line of fire) has to hear her say, "Hey, I was broke, depressed, and living with my dog wondering how I "would pay the rent". That's the story of millions of people, who've been there and done that and are STILL there. I did admire her being raw and real as she shared this with us viewers, her therapist that as a result of that, she now feels it caused her to be the workaholic, with major OCD and no matter how much money she has NOW, she's never going to stop. You simply chose to get off the merry go round and now focus on you and your journey...so good for you!!! May I also add, in the "finale" she cried too much in my opinion, but it seemed to be all about her, not so much about you. You looked relieved and happy and needed her support, and with her constant crying here and there, it was hard to watch. Tears of joy for YOU would have been nice. So with all that said, I truly wish you the very best Julie and I know you will have no regrets, just learning experiences and peaceful life stress free ahead of you. Your a doll and hope you settle down with your man and family and live happily ever after. So congrats and the best of luck.

JoAnn from New York State
JoAnn from New York State

Hi Julie, I will miss seeing you on the show! I'm so happy you made the decision to leave and go back home ... not for any reason regarding Bethenny ... but because you said "Yes" ... just like in Bethenny's book "A Place of Yes". You said "Yes" to going back home because you missed your family and your boyfriend. I'm sure it was a hard decision for you to make but I am so proud of you that you did it! Follow your dreams ... and I hope and pray they all come true! Again, I will miss you, Julie. Take care ... and keep blogging to let all of us know how you are doing! ~ JoAnn xoxo

FanFare57
FanFare57

I think it's great that you decided to live your own life out of Bethenny's World of Circus Maximus. You've earned your wings with your constancy. Best of LUCK to you in your future and whatever you pursue...

KLG
KLG

Julie - Bethenny will never find another "assistant" as loyal, competent, hard working, smart and kind as you've been these last 3 years. Sadly, she won't realize this until you're gone....but she'll never let on; her ego always comes first. You will be successful at whatever you do and a lot more happy without B trampling all over you. Huggs

jeasan54
jeasan54

You, are responsible for Bethenny's success.I hope you got a great severance package!

AlexinSTL
AlexinSTL

I sure hope you walked away with some Skinnygirl stock. You did so much of Bethenny's work for her and that should not go unrewarded...

newsforyou
newsforyou

I hope Bethenny had a go-away party for you. This is what my boss always does. You are an amazing woman. Bethenny can learn from you how to be at peace with herself and invest herself into making people around her happy. If i would have jason for a husband, for my own sake i would treat him with attemntion, love and kindness. You and Jason are a better couble then Jason and Betthenny. But then again, Bethenny can get alone woth with a person who walkes behinds her and you and Jason are this type of people. Good for you!

Introvert Like You
Introvert Like You

Julie, no doubt you, Bethenny, Jason, and Bryn will have a long, happy nonwork relationship, so it's a win-win for all. It would sure be fun to see what happens for you in Philly. Any chance Bravo would do a Julie Goes Home series/episodes so we can check in on you, or have you had enough reality TV? Best of luck, you earned it!

Kelly L.
Kelly L.

God Bless You for following your heart and showing the world what compassion can do for a family. Despite the sadness, the bond is stronger and the memories will remain forever. Bethany and Jason are wonderful, loving, compassionate people that ofcourse would understand. The media needs to portray more of that in todays society. For our kids have no role models left. Do I think Bethany pushes herself too hard and gives people an ideal that no one can live up to? Yes. But hopefully she will slow down, enjoy her life, remain in the spotlight in a positive way and learn how to love what she has. God bless and best of luck to you.

M.G.
M.G.

Congratulations Julie! You are in the starring role of the movie of your life and I am so happy that you are finally putting yourself and your needs first! You were an amazing assistant but I'm sure there are many things you are amazing at, it's up to you to prioritize what you want to spend time doing!

I think Bethenny said some things about you (about your nerves/energy) to make the difficult transition easier on her, so I wouldn't take it in a bad way (not that you are). But I found her comments kind of childish...she definitely has some growing to do.

Anyway, I'm so relieved for you! I had a demanding boss (she was an amazing person to be friends with, but extremely difficult/demanding to work for) and had to leave. It was not worth the stress! Good luck in all that you do!

kathy kaehler
kathy kaehler

Ok, am I the only one who is finding Bethenny annoying these days. I loved her in previous season,totally got how she had bad family life growing up etc etc but you know what, get over it. You can decide whether to be the victim the rest of your life or to decide to forget all that and be......happy!!!!! You have a nice guy as a husband,and you know Bethenny, your right we dont know the "inside Jason"but no guy is perfect. He seems like a decent man,perhaps having difficulty cutting ties from his parents, but being the only surviving child of his parents cant you get it.The fact that this season you even use a term "inside Jason" shows how you have changed. Maybe not for the better in that respect. Julie leaving is so sad, for her fans and for Bethenny and her family. In the long run it obviously is the best choice for her. I'm sure hope Bethenny will realizes she should stop always pushing those closest to her away...think about that ...Best of luck to you Julie you worked so hard at the job and was such a good friend to the whole Hoppy family...

Patricia Canapp-Copeland
Patricia Canapp-Copeland

Julie, Like everyone already stated, you are a sweetheart. The very best to you in your journey. However, it is painful to read some of the negative comments about Bethenny. We all are so different and at times have complex personalities. I hope viewers, business associates and friends value Bethenny for being who she is "all" the time. Everyone changes through out their life. Sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better. That's just part of our journey. Let's all join together wishing you, Bethenny and Jason nothing short of the very best forever; together!

diane  miller
diane miller

Best of Luck you are young you and need a life to. Bethenny seemed to understand you was dedicated to the family.I grew up in Pitssburgh and now live in ohio,you are going back to a good city and good people.

RHOPA
RHOPA

Best wishes Julie for a future filled with love, happiness and success. I'm a Pennsy girl myself. There's no place like home. Hugs.

Winkie
Winkie

Julie all the best to you. I know that God has wonderful plans for you and your future. Being a God-Mother myself, spoiling is the best part of being a God-Parent.

amy va
amy va

hope everything goes good for u in our new chapter of life! it is your time good luck!

Amanda.MI
Amanda.MI

Good luck to you Julie! You will surely be missed, but I wish you and your boyfriend all the best!!

Maureen F
Maureen F

I know the season is not over yet, but it's been a pleasure watching you on the show. I'm sure you won't miss the cameras too much. Watching you manage lives the way you did in such a low key manor was pretty incredible. Kudos! Best of luck in your future with your family.

bleedingB&G
bleedingB&G

May I just say, Welcome Home! I can't imagine how hard this decision was. I admire you for following your heart! Good Luck in ALL you do!

mickey baldanzi
mickey baldanzi

I will miss you a lot, Julie, but Bethenny, Jason and Bryn will miss you even more. Good luck, sweetie. Thanks for all the years you were on the show.

NoHausFrau
NoHausFrau

Julie,you were such a grounding force in Bethany's life I know you will be missed. However, you absolutely did the right thing following your heart. I wish only good things for you.

Josette Rice
Josette Rice

Julie, I am sooo going to miss u on the show. I can't even imagine how much the Hoppys will miss u. I wish u great happiness and joy!

Jeanine H.
Jeanine H.

Julie, all the best to you and your new phase in life. You've always reminded me of the first assistant I ever had, and she was as much a part of our family as anyone. When we moved to Austin, TX, we gave her a great severance package, but I was the one who cried...just as I did again watching you tell Bethenney.

Godspeed!

Ms. E
Ms. E

Sad you are leaving the show, but you were more than a co-worker you are a friend and family member to them. The heart felt tears from Jason and Bethany were very sincere. You were there from the beginning you encouraged her marriage and supported her during difficult business endeavors and that is more than an assistant. Cookie will miss you the most unlike the wedding and baby shower planner LOL. Seriously, you had a great run on Bravo and it was nice to see you develop on screen into a very independent woman who has decided to take life at its fingertip. You will be missed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Washington
Washington

Julie,

I am very, very, very (oh, did I say VERY) happy that you made the decision to move on with your life. We all can see how much you did for Bethany. I never believed anything I hear and never trusted anyone, but I do honestly believe that Bethany will miss you more than she knows. I can't understand for the life of me how anyone can put up with a person like that. She praises you in one breath, and beats you down in the next all followed by her double-wide jaw smile! Don't get me wrong, I'm not a hater or anything. I totally can see how or why you would have wanted to be around Bethany in the beginning because she is very likeable or should I say "was"! She has changed in so many ways which is a good thing, but she has become the person who walks in the room, everyone must look at her and listen to what she has to say. She includes people in her life as family members, then . . . when she's tired of them, she will kick them out with some "wide-jaw smile and comment to make her look great"!!! Dr. Amador looks like he need to lay on the couch and sleep while she speaks! America knows how these doctors and lawyers work, they will say whatever your bucks want them to say (especially on tv)! She needs a real shrink who have never met her and tell them to watch her show one time and they will be able to diagnose her while smoking crack! Julie, I hope you have a wonderful life. No matter if there's a ring waiting for you or not in Pittsburgh, just don't go work for someone with same-like personal traits as Bethany's. That girl is a GONER!! I can remember her first visit to Jason's family's house and watching her lay down on the couch like she was royalty . . . oh and when she appeared on that tv talk show (I forget the show), but she layed on the couch in the greenroom as if that was the only rest she ever got in her life. She was acting as if she was a superstar to her inlaws! No wonder she didn't have anyone else to ask to be Bryn's godmother. I don't even think she understands what "godmother" really means. She made you a part of her family like she did to Gina. Then after she got tired of Gina, she started making fun of her food in the refrigerator, how long she spent in the bathroom. Then she kicked her out after she embarrassed her in her church. And Bethany thinks nothing of it!!! That's how she roll!!! I applaud you 100 and ten percent (like Lou F - Celeb. Appr) (lol) for leaving that rich, psychotic, damaged, screwed up individual. She's funny alright - but not like she thinks! Oh, this is about you - - - Julie, I think you are a fantastic person and you are probably the best person who holds it all in for your own pride and dignity. You rock! Don't be surprised if being Bryn's godmother doesn't fade away - that's because Bethany really doesn't have any idea that making someone a Godmother means they are really in the family now and she can't just kick you out when she wants to but then again, the way she rolls, you just never know. Good luck in your future but beware of employers who are interested in making you a part of their family. Family is not staff unless it is a family formed business with real family (husband, wife, sister, brother, daughter, son, etc., but not a total stranger). She doesn't get it! But I can see that you do! Hugs and Kisses!

Chantalle
Chantalle

Wishing you all the best in this exiting but scary (hey--that's just normal!) new phase of your life. I totally understand why you made this choice, Julie, and applaud your courage and faith in your future! Stay strong, stay true to yourself, and don't ever let the naysayers get you down. They haven't walked a mile in your high heels! Go for it, and know there are people on Team Julie rooting for YOU!

KC Lapiana
KC Lapiana

I am happy your coming to Pitts burgh, if your interested i have an interesting job offer for you that may suit your talents and qualifications

Lovesalot
Lovesalot

I'm thinking....................a Julie spin off!? Aren't you Bravo!

A.giokas
A.giokas

Julie, I wish nothing but the best for you. I hope that you continue to be a part of the Skinny Girl Family in some fashion. It must have been terribly hard to be away from your loved ones for so long. It's brave to walk down the path of the unknown. It's for selfish reasons we your fans don't want you to go. You have captured our hearts just like Bethenny. Enjoy your new adventure.

jg24
jg24

Julie - I wish you the best. You were such a grounding force in Bethenny's life and you will be missed. But girl, you don't agree to move and change your life unless he puts a ring on it first!

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Good that you are getting out of there. We had someone come into our lives with borderline personality disorder. When the stress came, the I love you's I hate you's became worse. A parent had the same disorder. They push people away and it is hard to help them. I hope you will read up on this and fully understand how people with this behave. We are sad that they left our family, we tried our best to love them and help them. But in their illness they tend to dismiss people and walk away. It takes a while to put the pieces together to figure out why they say their parent is awful , their last boyfriend awful..etc. But my friend that is one of the best therapists in Pittsburgh met this person and explained to me what was going on. There is no cure, but their is treatment for it. Most refuse. Good luck with your future and remember don't believe what you are told. I met the Dad of this one and she said he was horrible and he certainly was not..far from it indeed.

Erin Small
Erin Small

Good luck in the next chapter of you're life. I have never missed an episode of Bethany and I was great to see you mature and come into your own as a young woman. Go Steelers :)

barb keene
barb keene

Great episode and so happy to see you are coming home. Once a 'burgh girl...always a 'burgh girl. We bleed black -n- gold. Much success and love to you.

authmn
authmn

Just want to welcome you back to Pittsburgh (every one comes back). Best of luck in your new life.

Vieweress
Vieweress

I guess I don't get it. If you were in China, I suppose it would be easier for me to understand. I can't help but feel you might be the kind of person who runs from success by sabotaging herself. I do that, sometimes.

You will be missed. Good Luck!

Marge E.
Marge E.

Julie, I think to make such a life changing decision I would have wanted a ring on my finger. You are giving up a terrific job, being with Bryn and Bethenny and Jason without a firm commitment on your boyfriend's part. Pittsburgh may be great but it is a burg while you live in NY with a fantastic job. Just sayin' I would want something substantial because you may find you can't go home again. Hate to see you stuck there and boyfriend doesn't follow through. Wish you the best but be sure.

NYBravo
NYBravo

Hey I am from Pittsburgh too and now live in NY...My dad still owns his own company in the Burgh and since you are such an intelligent hard working person, let me know if you need ajob once you get home (Although I am sure you will have no problem landing one!) Best wishes and as they always say you can take the girl out of Pittsburgh, but you cant take the Pittsburgh out of the girl. XO

jpw
jpw

Noooooooooooo!

cat tree
cat tree

We all love you and will miss you. Best and luck and happiness in your future.

donna from new mexico
donna from new mexico

You will be missed. I feel you are the glue that held a lot of things together. I'm sure B will need some time to get used to not having you there and Jason and Bryn also. Good luck with your move and your boyfriend.

Grants Pass Gal
Grants Pass Gal

WOW JULIE! We are going to miss seeing you in every episode and can only imagine how much you will be missed at "Team B" headquarters! May all your hopes and dreams come true, even better and brighter than you have ever imagined. May your life be filled with happiness and love because that is what you deserve!

JenDeGe
JenDeGe

Good luck to you on your journey! I too am from Pittsburgh, and now live in Columbus. I love going back home to visit, but it's only 3 hours of travel for me. I constantly think about moving back there. I think when you are born in Pittsburgh, your heart is always there....so I completely understand why you made your decision. Plus, we have the Steelers and the Penguins (I'll even throw in the Pirates for fun) - and you can't beat that! Good luck to you!

Chicalika
Chicalika

Julie, I was the one that said you didn't look good a couple of weeks ago... You looked radiant (and I am not talkng about the photo shoot--which, yes, you looke amazing!!!!). YOu looked happy and relieved, like a weight has been lifted off of you...and you also look like you lost some weight? (maybe knowing that you were leaving made you re-prioritize what is important?? YOU, and not Bethenny) Either way, I am happy for you---happy that you are FINALLY putting yourself and YOUR needs first! And, um...what is this Mexican vacation all about--you girls will be working there too, like the Montauk weekend??? (sigh) Thats not a genuine vacation or a treat. Oh well....such is Bethenny. Good luck to you, and I know that you will do just fine in life....and yes, I will miss seeing you on bravo!

Susie Q.
Susie Q.

WOW - so proud/happy w ur decision!!! I know it must have been hard! I wish you good luck and happiness!

Indy Anna
Indy Anna

I left Pittsburgh over 50 years ago as a young bride. I too, will never "get over" that wonderful town. It isn't the biggest town, it is the greatest town. It took a lot of courage for you to leave Bethenny, but at some time in our lives that can't be all we have. The fact that you can see your future is not as #1 gal to Bethenny is good for your family and yourself. Good luck in all you do. You'll miss the excitement and rushing around for a while but eventually the quietness will be wonderful.

bootsie
bootsie

Julie,You made the right decision for your future everybody change jobs from time to time just because Bethenny's life looks so exciting we don't consider it a job but it is, you did a wonderful job taking care of Bethenny and Bryn, some of us were sad to see Gina leave, but life goes on you have to do whats best for your family can't wait for you to have a godbrother for Bryn,LOL kidding take your time.

Anne LH
Anne LH

Julie, I am proud of you for making the choice to do what's right for you - even though you could have continued in your role with B. I just went through something similar last year and endured lots of "how could you's" so I definitely relate. It's a brave choice and I love to see you following your heart! As a fellow western PA native, I can understand your loyalty and wish to come back. Go Steelers!