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Ahoy mateys. This week Bethenny navigated the stormy seas of relationships and also helicopter pads. Let's recap shall we?
Give Him a Lift
Ever busy, Bethenny's at a photo shoot with her good pals Jake and Stacy. It's Christmas themed, which is super adorable. And so like all the Christmases I've ever been to, the photographer instructs Jake to kneel in front of a plate of holiday muffins (normal yuletide behavior). During this interlude, Jake admits that he’s a "Jewish Six Feet" which means 5'10" without lifts. I didn't know actual humans wore lifts outside of movie sets and. . .theater sets? But if it's working for Jake, have at it. As a short woman, I know the power a couple of inches of heels can give you, and I support him reaching for the stars --
albeit with a little assistance.
Sadly, it wasn't all holiday treats, Bethenny is dealing with birthday backlash from Jason, and trying to keep things together for their impending boat ride. She's worried about everything that happened, but ensure if Jason's even still thinking about it. And besides that there's décor drama.
Bethenny is inching ever closer to homeless as the renovation on her new apartment has not yet begun. The Gomez Girls haven't responded to the architects requests and so work is at a standstill. Bethenny had to play "Renovation Ref," which is a fairly unfun role, even as far as referees go.
After discussing the chairs Brooke and Jason have tossed from NYC windows, Jason calls in to lay the smackdown. Unfortunately things were semi-settled at this juncture, and it makes the situation even more bungled. . . then Marc arrives and it's even more awky. Thankfully Bethenny is super decisive. Hippo painting here. Bar somewhere. Bathroom just like this. Done, done, done. Looks like all is back on track.
I love Bethenny, she's very raw, honest and in some ways very twisted. Sometimes she's twisted in a funny LOL way and sometimes she's twisted in a sad dark way. I understand that about her it's not so uncommon nor is she "damage" Bethenny you're just human like the rest of us and Jason needs to really make an effort to accept you for who you are not who he would like you to be. Often times "first" marriages are ruined because we all expect so much from eachother to the point of being unreasonable and close minded. Jason you need to evolve from a small town boy into a sophisticated intelligent man who doesn't hit below the belt when arguing and stop name calling. Being called damage is "horrible", hurtful and mean. Did you ever consider that your parents don't need to be invovled in everything you do with your family. The more you try and push your parents on Bethenny the more she will resent it. Bethenny hang in there, things are bad right now but not hopeless!
Much love, hope and peace...
Bethenny is right when she says that it's hard that Jason is considered 'perfect' and that everything is her fault.
Jason and his parents are obviously still hurting over the loss of his brother. I have never seen a grown man so concerned with fitting in time for his parents. It's lovely and considerate, but not every weekend or event needs to include them.
Why did they need to be included in his 40th birthday weekend? Did they call him and suggest meeting for lunch or dinner? Did they celebrate with him before or after?
No one is perfect, and the fact that Jason wants to fight with Bethenny and then pretend that everything is fine shows his immaturity.
I hope they are getting consoling either together or separately.
BTW, 'rip me' is short for 'ripped me a new one' or 'ripped me a new a@@#$%^&'. As in, the person was so violently angry and yelled so vehemently that their words physically ripped you a new orifice in your body. It's pretty common terminology in the Midwest...
To the editor: why doesn't Jason have a blog. I think it's because he doesn't want to expose himself to possible criticism. Jason seems to have carefully orchestrated his public image by making sure he doesn't get into fights when the cameras are rolling. When Bethenny said he said she was damaged I was appalled. If my husband ever said that to me (and I have had a difficult childhood), I would find it almost unforgivable. And when Jason said the therapist was being paid by Bethenny to tell her what she wants to hear, he just sounded so ignorant. I've been to numerous therapists and none of them just say whatever the patients wants to hear. Jason sounds ignorant. Honestly like many viewers it sounds like Jason is trying to compensate for his brother's absence in his parents' lives. Unfortunately he's asking Bethenny to do the same without directing explaining all this. Jason, a 40 year old man shouldn't need to see his parents as often as you do. If you simply want to, still something is amiss. You don't seem to have cut the umbilical cord completely. And when a wife plans a surprise birthday party for you with friends, why on earth would parents be invited? The appropriate thing to do with parents is to go out to dinner with them separately. Why keep bashing your wife after she went through so much trouble for planning a lovely surprise for you? You're right, honey, you're not as perfect as you seem.
I'm from the Midwest. We value and respect our parents no matter what our age. Even if we are 40. We know that our folks won't be around forever and want to include them when we can and when they are here. It doesn't mean we need to cut the cord from our folks. Jason is a good guy who treats his folks right. Leave him alone.