Prior to the site visit with Bethenny I had heard rumors she had limited family. However, I didn’t know to what extent. So often a client comes through my door and I have to ask if they a product of divorce, or if a parent has passed. As a planner, these questions are never easy. You're sitting with a client discussing what should be a very happy event and then I have to bring down the mood with difficult questions. Why do I have to ask these things? Because there are so many things that are related to family when it comes to weddings. Who will walk you down the aisle? Will you have the father/daughter or mother/son dance? Will dad be giving the champagne toast? As a planner, I also like to incorporate personal tidbits to make the occasion more special, such as using heirlooms like a brooch in the bouquet, or a father’s handkerchief in a boutonniere or pocket square.
Yes, Bethenny did mention that she had "no family." Was it that she was orphaned and literally had no family or was it that she just didn't talk to her family? Very often one person's definition is different than yours. So when I asked if she had heirlooms, that was obviously another strike. In my mind, just because you don't have family doesn't mean you don't have heirlooms. How was I to know she had no heirlooms? How was I to know she wanted to forget her past? Perhaps it was none of my business and I should have let sleeping dogs lie. However, my job as a planner is to make a client's wedding as personal as possible.
When we left the loft Bethenny wanted to take me to the Four Seasons because she felt I just wasn't getting it. It's not that I wasn't getting it, it was that I had previously called the Four Seasons and found out that they only do one wedding a weekend and that Saturday was already booked. They said they might be able to work something out for Sunday ... "might" being the key word. Julian was clear he would make no promises.
When we walked into the Four Seasons it was obvious Bethenny had her mind made up, she wanted only one thing and that was to get married at The Four Seasons Restaurant. She was not taking no for an answer. That meeting was one of the most uncomfortable meetings I have had in my professional career. You clearly see the stress and the uncomfortableness all over my face. She was adamant she had to have the restaurant no matter what the cost, no matter what I had to do to get it. I think there was even chatter that I should sleep with Julian. For me, that was NOT an option!
With the time crunch of finding a venue and with all cards laid on the table I was no longer coming from the school of yes. I was being honest when I said I would see what I could do, but I made no promises. However, after our visit it was clear I had to make this happen and it was clear that if I didn't she would "rip my balls off."
Shawn, I think you are great, I LMAO when you called Cookie Kujo! You have the patience of a saint, Betheny is a hard task master but you have been more than up for the challenge and have handled yourself really well, most people would have had a serious melt down with all that you have in front of you.Some of your facial expressions are hysterical, I think you and Betheny compliment each other perfectly you both have a similiar sense of humor and I sure when all the madness is over you will be great friends.
Shawn you are funny, gracious, and a class act! I would definitely watch a wedding planner show with you at the center!
I agree with lilee and Britishladyj. You handle yourself well under some really difficult circumstances, and you pull it off. I cracked up when you said Cookie, I hate that bi--. I love animals, and I don't think you hate cookie, but she is testing you on screen in front of millions. She'll get use to you. Next time bring Cookie a surprise.
Shawn you are a soldier and i bet Bethenny would agree you already had and idea of who she is very raw and straight to the point and theirs no way you could BS her if you watch the housewifes you knew that going in i think when you tried to agree that you knew about the cotton candy all hell broke loose you lost her trust and it went down hill from there however all is fair and love in war i think thats how they say that however you pulled it off you remained so professional u remained sane and you did all you could to make your client happy the world saw that and i think you may have to start hiring some help because everyone will be calling you now i love you on the show and i can see you having your on wedding spin off kinda like Martha Stewart good luck with all your endeavors im sure this isnt the last we will here of Mr Shawn Rabideau HAVE A FAB~YOU~LOUS REST OF THE DAY
I recently left medical school to follow my passion for planning, coordinating, and producing events. What advice do you have for someone trying to break into the industry?
SHAWN YOU ARE TERRIFIC! YOUR PROFESSIONAL, ORGANIZED, CREATIVE AND YES, BETHENNY MET HER MATCH. WHEN SHE APPEARED TO BE SHORT, NO WAY SHOULD THAT BE A REFLECTION ON YOU. YOU WERE ALWAYS SUPPORTIVE AND KUDOS, WHAT A BEAUTIFUL WEDDING!!!
IN YOUR DEFENSE THE TIME LIMIT WAS NUTS! YOU WERE ALWAYS SHARP, PREPARED, OVERTLY CALM AND ENJOYABLE. I HOPE MANY DOORS HAVE OPENED FOR YOU. YOU DESERVE THE VERY BEST AND IT IS OBVIOUS HOW HARD YOU WORKED. I'M SURE YOUR FUTURE IS SECURED WITH YOUR WELL EARNED COMPETENCE AND EXPOSURE.
ALL THE BEST IN YOUR FUTURE ENDEAVOURS!
Shawn, Just wanted to say that you were phenomenal on the show. Some of the faces and comments you made had me laughing until tears rolled down my face. You have a wonderful personality. The job you did was magnificent and I hope we get to see more of you. A fan, B