Shawn Rabideau

Bethenny's wedding planner talks about the stress of planning the perfect event in four weeks!

on Jun 30, 2010


After watching last week's episode of Bethenny Getting Married? all I could think of was saving my family jewels. With one week into planning, the stress was already beginning to take its toll on me. That coupled with the fact that Bethenny was beginning to turn into the ever-feared Bridezilla!

I've said it before that I can do a lot of things, but I can't move mountains and I can't make things just magically happen. If I could do that I would be retired on an island and we would never be having this discussion. I think Bethenny thought that I should have the entire wedding planned after our first meeting. And you have no idea how hard I busted my butt after that first meeting to get vendors lined up. Most were either booked or not willing to work on a Sunday (being their only day off). I begged and called in every possible favor I could. But by the time I saw Bethenny at the hair salon for her trial I still didn't have confirmation on most of the vendors. Time was ticking and so was Bethenny's patience. And who can blame a bride to be with just three weeks until her wedding? She was getting nervous the wedding details wouldn't get pulled together. I knew they would, but convincing her was another story. She wasn't willing to give up control and nothing I could say would change that.

When it came to her hair trial at the salon I sensed Bethenny wasn't having a good day and that she couldn't shake it. Boy, was I right. She was very dismissive and quite frankly acted as if she didn't want me there. She lashed out at me and began to suck the life out of me just like a Dementor from Harry Potter! By the time I left that day I was drained both mentally and physically. The worst part was that the journey of planning her wedding in four short weeks had just begun! Honestly, I wasn't sure if I should continue ... I am pretty nice person and getting beat up wasn't something I signed up for. After thinking about it, I was bound and determined not to give up. I was going to plan her wedding and plan it to the point where it would blow her socks off!

You have no idea how hard I worked to get the Four Seasons to say "yes." How I made that happen will forever remain a secret (to both you and I). To be honest I don't know if they said yes because I called 20 times a day or if it was the fact that I was willing to do ANYTHING and made that perfectly clear! (Even sleep with Julian. Every time I think of that I puke in my mouth a bit...)