Shawn Rabideau

Shawn talks cake drama, being Bethenny's therapist, and his long-lost twin!

on Jul 2, 20100

 

As you know from our first meeting, Bethenny said she wanted classic New York, nothing foo-foo, nothing over the top, nothing with frills. She told me she wanted red flowers, tulips and roses. I always work hard to satisfy my clients wants and needs, but at the same time I weave in my personal style to create texture and movement so that there is something different at every angle. Weaving in your personal style is something all designers do whether you’re an architect, interior designer or painter. My concern however was that we didn’t see eye to eye on some of the planning elements, so would we see eye to eye on her flowers? The purpose of the demo is so the client can make adjustments and give input, so they ultimately have exactly what they want. This is the way any good event designer works and as a professional, I am no different. Let’s be honest, even the best designers aren’t mind readers!
When she arrived at the demo she was in a good mood and her eyes lit up when she saw the flowers. I thought to myself, "Phew, she likes it," and for the most part she did. She actually changed very little. She switched out the linen, removed the orchids from the table and requested I remove a few flowers and add in a few more tulips. Done, done, done and done…it was easy breezy, certainly nothing out of the ordinary.

What wasn't ordinary? I still had not met the groom. To be honest in the back of my head I was a bit surprised we had yet to be introduced, so I thought I would ask. I had no idea my role as planner and designer would soon turn into the role of therapist. Therapy sessions in the world of weddings are nothing new, but playing the role of Bethenny’s therapist was new, at least for me. Up until this point Bethenny and I weren’t cozy-cozy. We certainly weren’t doing each others hair and nails at night. But as I was listening to her I could tell she needed to vent; I could tell that our relationship had finally turned a corner. This was the moment that she finally trusted me. She trusted me enough to open up, and she trusted me enough to let me give my opinion. She and Jason needed to talk about the things she was feeling. I always say a person’s feelings are valid and hers certainly were. I had no issue listening to her, but she had to tell Jason what she was telling me, and she had to speak up before they walked down the aisle.

The week before the wedding came and went and it was time for me to do my final meeting with Bethenny (and it was nice to finally meet Jason). To ease her jitters I voluntarily reproduced the floral arrangement for her. It definitely put her at ease, she loved it! It was perfect!

What wasn’t perfect was that she was stuck on the damn cake! It had come to a point that I had to put my foot down. I had to convince her that I would not allow something she didn’t like at her wedding, period, end of discussion. At this point, although hesitant, I think she did trust me. Who obviously didn’t trust me? Cookie. After she bit me it was my time to exit and create a fabulous wedding!

Before I sign off, I have to address the buzz on the web regarding the fact that Tony "Buster Bluth" Hale and I look like we were separated at birth. When I first saw the "buzz" it was here on Bravotv.com, and to be honest I was a bit horrified as I thought there was only one "me." But as it turns out after looking at a few photos, we just might be separated at birth. I now think it’s funny and it no longer bothers me. I am not sure how Mr. Hale feels, but if you are out there somewhere and you’re ever in NYC, stop by, I’d love to see myself in person.

53 comments
Angela 36
Angela 36

Loved watching you!!! You have made Bethenny's show so much fun to watch.. Bravo PLEASE give this man his own show!!!!

Vi
Vi

Shawn- we all love you!!! - I would love to have you as my best friend - my planner of any of my parties and my advisor - I can't afford you and unfortunately I live in California - I am out of luck. I do look forward to seeing more of you -hopefully on Bethenny's show or HOW ABOUT - YOUR OWN SHOW - "Shawn's Creativity "(not nativity)LOL! - you critique/recommend/suggest etc other planners on how to get to be #1 like you!!!! You are great and funny - please stay around!!!! LOVE YOU.

Mayra Samalea
Mayra Samalea

Shawn you were fantastic last night in producing the most gorgeous wedding for Bethanny and Jason. Everything was that understated simple classic perfection that few people are able to create. When you positioned Bethany by the door you were so concerned that she look like a vision when the doors were opened. Well the doors open you had all of us in total awe of this beautiful Bride been releaved, Jason's expressionsof love for her were magical.

But I already wrote to Bethany that my best laughs last night came from you Shawn, from calling Cookie, Cujo, the flowers for Cookie were so big and your crack about Cookie not been a rotweiler, but she bites like one. Of course the bucket was especial. But I think that you and Bethanny were twins separated at birth! I want to see a recurring role for you in Bethany getting married? Keeping my fingers crossed for return apearances!!!

twoile
twoile

GREAT work, beautifully done...hope U R ready 4 an influx of clients after this show. Yea I agree U could carry a show & it would B full of creative juices & lots of fun. Best of luck!!!!!

Cindy20
Cindy20

You're too funny Shawn!! You need your own show on Bravo! Good luck to you! =)

DanaS
DanaS

Long time viewer, 1st time blog commenter BUT I just had to take a moment to congratulate you! Shawn -- you and your crew did a FANTASTIC JOB, and I hope the exposure brings you more success than even you can imagine :)

And I've never tried Red Velvet cake, but it's on my Bucket List now! haha

iztastic
iztastic

Shawn, you are a SAINT! I can't believe the amount of time and sweat you've put into this wedding. Which bakery did Bethenny want the cake originally from? Not to discredit Pink Cake Box, but that must have been one great tasting Red Velvet Cake!

Sherree
Sherree

I love you Shawn you are the best! You are so entertaining, love your facial expressions. What a sweetheart, wish you were my friend.

trishiepie
trishiepie

Hi: That was the most beautiful wedding I have ever seen. You made a little girl's dream come true, there Mr. R. Kudos. Your interpretation of B's dream, she said it herself, was better. do you twitter? I'd follow you!

carolanna
carolanna

please give this man his own show he is a hoot

Slim
Slim

Shawn,

You are the BEST and the reason I watched! I hope you could get your own show :)

Post me PLEASE
Post me PLEASE

Shawn, my heart goes out to you. After all you've gone through for the wedding - there will certainly be a very special place in Heaven reserved just for you!

nansea
nansea

God bless you for taking on this wedding venture! Hopefully, all goes well and B&J appreciate all your hard work!

Big question, why didn't the baker give you a a sample of the cake to take to Bethenny to try? I would have wanted one to save my butt if it wasn't right? Guess it didn't matter because no other bakery could do it???

joanjetson
joanjetson

The first thing I thought when I saw you on the show was "It's Buster Bluthe." So funny how alike you all look. Agree with the other comments regarding bring B a cupcake to taste. You seem to have planned a great day for Bethenny & Jason though.

Heather from Texas
Heather from Texas

OMG, what is so funny about you looking like Tony Hale is, my boyfriend and I (who reluctantly watches B Getting Married) watched the movie The Goods this past weekend and we both said "that's the wedding planner" as Tony was in it. Hilarious!!! He doesn't do the thing w/the eyebrow that you do! You rock, you've done a lot to ease B and yes, she's a little maniac putting a wedding together in a month while she's 7 mos preggers - BUT for anyone who's been in the wave of those hormones, they get it. You've done an amazing job and obviously, this is amazing PR for you!

Cybrcookie
Cybrcookie

NO WAY!!!! You are much better looking than Hale!

perdidokeymom
perdidokeymom

As I was watching the show, all I kept thinking was, take Bethenny a cupcake from the bakery and let her taste it herself. I thought it strange that it never seemed to occur to you.

Barb in California
Barb in California

Shawn:

I remember you from "Who's Wedding Is It Anyway?" You are hilarious. I laughed so hard when you called Cookie Cujo and you don't like the "bioch," I scared the kids. You and Bethenny's interaction is very entertaining.

CynthiaKnight
CynthiaKnight

Shawn my boy.. do not let ANYONE talk to you the way Bethany sometimes does "I'll rip your b___s off" what was that about. You should have asked her then and there to zip her gab once and for all. She is a faboulus girl with a venomous tounge.. Make her curb it in your presence.

PennyA
PennyA

I love you and think you need your own show!

Kathi From Michigan
Kathi From Michigan

Shawn, I think you are great! I think you look a lot like the Scotish actor Alan Cumming (that is a compliment). A younger version anyway!!

Aice
Aice

The Cake! Can't Wait to see this darn CAKE!!!! Ha!

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Dear Shawn, for all the abuse you had to put up with I hope your company gets a lot of quality business. I felt sorry for you having to walk behind Betthenny in the restaurant past the kitchen. Really Shawn she got the TV wedding she deserved. Looking absurb in a white gown with no family there to straighten the gown. That is what happens when you are mean to people. The only one with class was you and only you. As a Mom we all dream of our Daughter's wedding day. There was nothing special here. You did the best you could considering the client. This was about making a wedding that people would talk about, not something sacred. It was a farce to say the least.

Long Island !!! 
Long Island !!! 

:) I'm smiling now. Thank you for putting up your photo:)

I do hope we see more of you after the wedding!

Florida Gal
Florida Gal

Shawn

So glad to know that you made it through all the wedding planning with your 'giblets' still intact! You were very real, very professional and incredibly witty in your blog.

Patty K
Patty K

You are the cutest thing ever, you have a great attitude, great taste and endless patience with stressed out clients. Judging from the preview video clips on this site, you did a great job! The decor was exquisite...the lighting, the chairs, the flowers...wow.

Really Rosie
Really Rosie

I love your facial expressions when B makes her witty remarks.

Nicky B.
Nicky B.

Shawn you are extremely funny. When you said Cookie turned into Cujo I think I laughed the rest of the night. You were very sweet for listening to Bethenny when she was venting. I can't wait to see the Wedding episode because I already know you did a fabulous job.

DJ
DJ

Shawn, you are so funny on the show, and I love your scenes with Bethenny. I hope you will continue with the series.

Endie
Endie

Bless your heart Tony, I mean Shawn. You must have the patience of 10 saints to deal with B and her demands. I bet she really kept you on your A game, because you seem so nervous about disappointing her at all times.

Jill G from HS
Jill G from HS

I have known Shawn for several years and I can attest that he has not changed his look for purpose of the show. He looks exactly the same as when we were in high school.

On a different note, Shawn...you are hilarious and such a great addition to the show. I have been watching the "Housewives" since it started and you are by far my favorite "extra" out of all the shows. I agree with another post that you definitely need to get your own show! I would DVR you like no one's business so I could rewind all your funny anecdotes.

Austin Single Housemom
Austin Single Housemom

Shawn,you are hilarious, patient and thoughtful, too! How many planners would help the bride pee in an ice bucket?!! It was so sweet when you brought the cotton candy to Bethenny to announce that you'd secured the Four Seasons for her dream wedding. You helped her through a very emotional whirlwind (pregnacy hormones, writing a book, getting married, etc. etc.) with grace and humor which most certainly endeared you to her and led her to be vunerable in sharing her feelings. Just listening sometimes calms nerves and with all she had going on (does she ever slow down?) you were there to help in an unexpected role. One thing more...I agree with "A Viewer" in wondering why you didn't take a sample of the cake for Bethenny to try? I can't wait to see the whole wedding on the next episode. Kudos to you, hope you stay around!!

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Dear Shawn, You are lowering your standards by putting up with verbal abuse. Gays have had enough obstacles and you are allowing Bethenny to treat you with no respect at all. This is not funny, it is heartbreaking for all the gays that are willing to take abuse for money.When she made the comment about your "dick" your should have put her in her place. The cause just took a giant step backward in the name of ratings. She would have never made that comment to a straight male. SHe thinks because you are gay, she can abuse you...and that is awful to see.

Nicoley
Nicoley

You're the reason I watch; you basically run the show (sorry Bethenny).

Powell
Powell

Shawn, You are so funny. You most definitely have dealt with some demanding celebs, but I am sure that even though Bethenny has wanted things HER way, you have not had celebs that you can laugh with about the things they want THEIR way like you can B. You understood her sensitivity and wacky humor so quickly. I don't think any other event planner could have done what you did. Congrats to you.

dAWNETTE DUNKLEY
dAWNETTE DUNKLEY

you are a great addition to this show, thanks for looking out for our girl B!

cili
cili

You need your own show.

Estella from New Orleans
Estella from New Orleans

This whole "twin" thing is so convenient. I still believe Bethenny killed Shawn and the whole cover-up is now a full blown conspiracy with a lookalike stand in. Lets see how Tony....I mean Shawn's next event goes.

shawn fan!
shawn fan!

OMG Shawn! Just googled Tony Hale... it's uncanny! When I saw his pictures I thought, wait a minute... is this Shawn pretending to look like Tony? You guys could be twins for real!!! I've never seen anyone who wasn't related look so identical! You two don't just "resemble" each other or look similar, you look IDENTICAL!! Kinda crazy! I wonder if God ran out of versions of faces and we all have a "twin" somewhere in the world! LOL

Houston TX
Houston TX

Shawn, I love the fact that no matter what the challenge you dive in and do what it takes to make the bride happy. You are so understanding of B's hormones, book deadlines, wedding pressure of under a month and all the other work on B's plate. Although I'm sure you felt like you were in a war zone ~ as beauitful as the wedding turned out, as perfect as you made their day and you pulled it all off in the 4 weeks I'm sure your business will be booming! You do deserve a Purple Heart for your efforts but made a great friend with Bethenny, what could be better!

A Viewer
A Viewer

I'm wondering why you didn't bring a sample of the cake that you tried back to B. in NY so she could try? Then the whole cake issue would have been done? Am I missing something here?

Angie Rivers
Angie Rivers

I wish I had you as my wedding planner when I got married. I think you did a great job.

MrsBunny
MrsBunny

I thought you handled yourself really well through this journey. You should be proud of yourself.

beanie in STL
beanie in STL

Shawn... am VERY impressed (and amused) with how you and Bethenny "interact." It's nice to see a working relationship from start to finish. With a little over a month to pull off B's wedding... ESPECIALLY HER WEDDING... from what we're seeing so far, maybe you ARE a majician.

I loved the first scene w/ you two (you LIED!!!) and she caught you!!! But you held your own (and you're cute!) but even with the UPS and DOWNS (extremes) it was really "human" and nice to just listen to B... that's how she operates... she trusts you with the little stuff... if you can handle that... game on!!!

Congrats and hope this opportunity adds to your success!!!

KitKatP
KitKatP

lol...you get better each episode. I am amazed how you kept your cool.. but the eye rolling was priceless!

I think you deserve every nickel you make and I think you are a very lucky man to have such a fabulous career!!!

Long Island !!! 
Long Island !!! 

You are so hilarious, I love your very expressive eyes.

They tell how you're feeling. Hilarious. Please, Shawn, post your photo up there with your blog. And keep blogging.

We definitely need a photo of you.

p.s. Glad you got to keep your fuzzy grapes and banana, too:P

red velvet
red velvet

You are sooo funny!!!! Loved watching you on Bethenny's show. I'm glad Bethenny did not rip your dick off!!!

Viewer from CA
Viewer from CA

Shawn, you add so much fun and interest to an already great reality show. Your masterful skills in dealing with a difficult client are fascinating to observe. (Please don't get me wrong. I love Bethenny.) You'd be an amazing instructor for people who want to learn how to work successfully in any type of high-pressure, service industry. How did you pull this wedding together in just four weeks? You are a miracle worker, to say the least! So glad that you are on the show!

tcupit
tcupit

I think Bethenny struck gold with you! You are perfect for her and I loved your blog. You have the same wit and sense of humor that she does. I hope you stick around on the show(maybe plan some other events-Bryns' 1st birthday party?). Love ya!