Trying to Stay Calm

Julie talks liquor signings, finding the perfect wedding gift, and her heartfelt toast!

 

It is getting CLOSER and CLOSER to the wedding day, and you can tell that everyone is on edge. I was just trying to stay organized, keep Bethenny on schedule and be very calm about everything.

However, even with all of the wedding planning and baby planning, Bethenny still had a business to run, and the liquor signing you see in this week's episode is just one part of the biz. I have been to many appearances with Bethenny, but the liquor signing was the first of its kind. She is usually signing books! When we arrived, I could not believe how packed it was. Bethenny really shines at these types of events. Her witty and funny comments were a real crowd-pleaser, and she stayed to sign every last bottle. I think that Max had it right when he did the impression of Bethenny. Sometimes you can't win to lose with her. If he would have gotten a girls number she would have complained and yet when he did not, she questioned him. I try to always be all about business at work, so I glad Max tried to take that approach at this appearance.

I remember the moment where Bethenny had the idea to get Jason the Romero Britto painting. I was in the office and she screamed to me from her bedroom that she had the perfect wedding gift for Jason. I am sure that I was typing emails and listening out of one ear, but when she came in and explained the story about the painting to me, I knew that Jason would love it. I was happy that Bethenny had found such a personal and touching gift for him. Sometimes it is so tough to think of a gift for the person you love.

Am I scared for Shawn and the cake situation? Yes. I know the wrath of Bethenny. The cake better be PERFECT!

I am so lucky that Bethenny wants me to be such a part of the important days in her life. The bridal shower at Bagatelle in New York was SO much fun. It was great to be around all of the important women in Bethenny's life and have them all let loose and have a good time. I loved dancing, eating and chatting with the girls, and not (really) having to think about work. Although all of my friends will disagree, saying that I am "always working."

 

 

Balancing my professional relationship and personal relationship with Bethenny and her family is the most challenging part of my job. I strive to stay focused on Bethenny's business, while amidst her everyday personal life. Sometimes when you spend all your time in someone's apartment and are involved so heavily in their personal and professional life it can be very difficult, but I have tried to master that balancing act. Although as you will see, in emotional, personal moments I get choked up and come to terms with truly being a part of their family.

The rehearsal luncheon at Abe & Arthurs was a blast. When I was there it hit me that the weekend we had been planning for so meticulously was here. I like to tell Bethenny how I knew as soon as I met Jason that they would end up together. My toast was very impromptu and came from the heart. I feel like the little sister sometimes and they make me really feel like a part of their family. Jason and Bethenny really do make each other better and they both have been forever CHANGED by each other.

Only Time Will Tell

Shawn talks about his journey with Bethenny, and thanks his family, friends, and fans for their support!

It is so hard to believe this journey with Bethenny, Jason, Bryn, Julie, Max and yes, Cookie is coming to an end! When I take a journey (such as this one) I always try to reflect back and look at the bigger picture. I like to assess what I did right, what I did wrong, how I can improve and how I can grow. Working with Bethenny on her wedding took me out of my comfort level and pushed me to work the hardest I ever have. It made me stronger as a person and as a business man. She taught me so many lessons and things that I can't even begin to list them all. There were many ups and there many downs. And there were many "oh s*@t" moments …but from each one I learned a lesson.

When I was working with Bethenny on the baby shower she was a different person, but so was I. I had confidence; I know that sounds self-righteous, but you have to understand it took me 35 long years to get to the point I am today and to be as confident as I am today. Working on her wedding brought me further to the point of "I can do it."

When Erica and I were unwrapping the cake for the baby shower, I was getting the sweats thinking it would be smashed. Something in my gut told me something would be wrong with the cake. And there was. I was fearful I would disappoint Bethenny! Listen, the cake came from a bakery in California (one of Bethenny's favorites) and the overnight carrier was not kind to it. When I pulled the lid off, I mortified that the top had been smashed and little Bryn's face had been ripped off. She was like "Baby of the Opera." So I mustered up the confidence to fix the cake. This was for sure one instance where I did let them see me sweat. But with Erica's help I pulled it together and fixed the cake and Bethenny was never the wiser. I guess that's what I'm talking about. I'm not a pastry chef, but I had the confidence (and watched plenty of cooking shows) to know what to do next.

Seeing Bethenny walk into the baby shower as relaxed as she was, was reward enough for me. She was calm knowing the shower would be fabulous, once again she trusted me. She was able to sit, relax and visit with her friends. It was great to see her like this. This is a woman who isn't able to sit and enjoy a quiet moment because she is always on the go. Which is exactly why she chose Spa Chakra on 5th! There is no better place to have a baby shower than at a spa. It was the perfect! She loved it, said I did a good job and that's all that matters! A client for life? Who knows…only time will tell.

People always ask if Bethenny and I are friends. You don't become friends over night. You both mutually have to open up and trust each other. You have to work at it, it's a relationship and all relationships require work equally from each party. After working on her wedding and now her baby shower I definitely think that we have a mutual understanding of each other. I know what she likes and what she doesn't like. And I think in turn she pushes my limits. She wants a fabulous party (and of course I want to plan one), but I think she also wants me to be the best that I can be. After all it benefits both of us. The more I grow, the better person I become and the better events I design and plan. And it all takes confidence to do so.

It did take confidence to do what I did for Bethenny, but it also took the love and support of my family and friends. My parents have always been super supportive and have never doubted my abilities and have always encouraged me to do what makes me happy. My sister has always been there for me when I have good news or bad or if I just need a shoulder to cry on. And my brother-in-law and nieces, although they don't always say much, have stood by me in my ventures 100%! Then there are my friends - there are too many to count, but their excitement, love and endless support helped push me further to reaching my goals. And then there is Michael, my partner in life and the love of my life; words can't describe the support he has given me. He truly is my driving force. To each and every one of these people, thank you and I love you!

And finally there is all of you, thank you for watching me grow, thank you for your (very honest) comments and thank you for watching my journey. I appreciate all your love and support!

I am not sad to see this journey end, only happy at what awaits me in the future. Until that chapter begins I wish you all the best and cheers!