Meeting Baby Bryn
Shawn talks about baby shower planning and reflects on how motherhood has changed Bethenny.
The first moments of this week's episode had me crying! Could the moment of Bethenny telling Jason's parents the baby's name be any more beautiful? I am trying to put it into words which I am never short of and I actually can't. What an amazing way to honor Jason's brother! Giving Carol and Bob a granddaughter is one thing, honoring the baby with their lost son's name is a priceless, beautiful gift. I can't believe I am going to say this, but that moment…it kind of blows the wedding out of the water! And, I'm OK with that.
I've always heard having a baby changes a person. Nothing could be more accurate when it comes to Bethenny. As Jason said she is so nurturing, kind and sweet now that she has baby Bryn. And I think the birth of Bryn has made Jason much more caring and protective. The reality of the situation is it's not just Jason and Bethenny anymore. There's a baby involved that is so innocent, tiny and beautiful.
I was lucky enough to find all this out first hand! Shortly after Bryn's birth I received an email from Bethenny asking if I would like to help plan and design the baby shower. I was like, are you kidding me?! Did the planets and stars align and I wasn't told? Seriously?! This could mean only one thing…I regained Bethenny's trust! Let's face it, after threats of ripping my anatomy apart and coming way to close to certain parts of her anatomy, I think we finally understood each other. She understood my style and I understood her expectations. And planning this baby shower would be no different than planning the wedding, all the same expectations would apply.
Going over to see Bethenny (and Cookie) I was no longer nervous like I was when planning the wedding. OK, that's not entirely true. I would be lying if I said otherwise. I wasn't nervous to see Bethenny or Bryn. I was however, nervous to see Cookie. I'm not sure what it is, but that dog terrifies every piece of my being! I thought bringing a little treat would help…it did, for 2.5 seconds. In Cookie's mind she was probably like, "Thanks for the treat…Sucker!" In my mind I was like…progress. Hell, only time will tell with that one. Bring a treat when entering and leave quietly while exiting and no one gets hurt.
It was so great to see Bethenny! She was indeed a different person, much more gentle, real, and less guarded. She had changed and it was so beautiful to see her and Bryn together. All the threats, all the sweats and all the tears leading up to the wedding no longer mattered. What mattered was Bryn. You have to understand when my nieces were Bryn's age I was away at college. I never had the honor of being the uncle that was there to see them grow, take their first step, lose their first tooth. I got home to visit when I could and the memories I have are amazing, but I missed that time with "my girls." So holding Bryn brought all that back to me. I wanted to savor that moment because all the wedding business (and the baby shower) suddenly all washed away. It was at that moment I realized what was important. It wasn't décor, it wasn't music and it certainly wasn't Red Velvet Cake. It was Bryn, so sweet and innocent. That's what mattered. I think like Bethenny and Jason, my priorities in life shifted a bit. And just as a side note - that little girl has killer legs - she is definitely her mommy's daughter!
So while I was planning, Max was entertaining us with his crazy situations all over again. One situation he asked for and another he didn't. When it comes to dating I'm lucky to be so far out the loop! I am happily with my partner of almost eight years. So I have no idea what is involved when asking someone out and I wouldn't even know where to begin. What I do know is that it should never be that awkward and the last time I checked the "wing man" (I never had one back in the day) didn't ask the person you like out for you. It was pretty uncomfortable to watch, but at the same time pretty darn cute. I truly do believe that Max is just so innocent that these situations are new to him. Experiencing them on TV is even more difficult. So if you had ask me what I thought, I would say under the circumstances he did a great job. Not A+, but not a C- either…he did a great job. Who knows someday he'll look back and laugh on this situation.
Now the meeting with Bethenny, Max and Robert Verdi, I have no comment on that. I actually do, but my mother always told me, "If you have nothing nice to say about someone, don’t say it." What I will say is that I was happy to see Max stand up for himself and Bethenny defended Max. Let's just leave it at that…anything more and it will be a couple of "queens" slinging mud at each other. Pretty guys, ugly story!
Bethenny certainly has her hands full with Bryn and her career. Seeing her as a mom makes me shake my head in amazement…how does she continue to do the things she does, how does she balance everything she's doing and still find the time to spend with Jason and Bryn? How does she not snap? I don't know and I don't think any of us know.
What I do know is that I truly wish her all the best…to her, my mom, my sister and all the moms out there, I raise my glass (of Skinnygirl Margarita) and say "You're fabulous"!