Only Time Will Tell

Shawn talks about his journey with Bethenny, and thanks his family, friends, and fans for their support!

It is so hard to believe this journey with Bethenny, Jason, Bryn, Julie, Max and yes, Cookie is coming to an end! When I take a journey (such as this one) I always try to reflect back and look at the bigger picture. I like to assess what I did right, what I did wrong, how I can improve and how I can grow. Working with Bethenny on her wedding took me out of my comfort level and pushed me to work the hardest I ever have. It made me stronger as a person and as a business man. She taught me so many lessons and things that I can't even begin to list them all. There were many ups and there many downs. And there were many "oh s*@t" moments …but from each one I learned a lesson.

When I was working with Bethenny on the baby shower she was a different person, but so was I. I had confidence; I know that sounds self-righteous, but you have to understand it took me 35 long years to get to the point I am today and to be as confident as I am today. Working on her wedding brought me further to the point of "I can do it."

When Erica and I were unwrapping the cake for the baby shower, I was getting the sweats thinking it would be smashed. Something in my gut told me something would be wrong with the cake. And there was. I was fearful I would disappoint Bethenny! Listen, the cake came from a bakery in California (one of Bethenny's favorites) and the overnight carrier was not kind to it. When I pulled the lid off, I mortified that the top had been smashed and little Bryn's face had been ripped off. She was like "Baby of the Opera." So I mustered up the confidence to fix the cake. This was for sure one instance where I did let them see me sweat. But with Erica's help I pulled it together and fixed the cake and Bethenny was never the wiser. I guess that's what I'm talking about. I'm not a pastry chef, but I had the confidence (and watched plenty of cooking shows) to know what to do next.

Seeing Bethenny walk into the baby shower as relaxed as she was, was reward enough for me. She was calm knowing the shower would be fabulous, once again she trusted me. She was able to sit, relax and visit with her friends. It was great to see her like this. This is a woman who isn't able to sit and enjoy a quiet moment because she is always on the go. Which is exactly why she chose Spa Chakra on 5th! There is no better place to have a baby shower than at a spa. It was the perfect! She loved it, said I did a good job and that's all that matters! A client for life? Who knows…only time will tell.

People always ask if Bethenny and I are friends. You don't become friends over night. You both mutually have to open up and trust each other. You have to work at it, it's a relationship and all relationships require work equally from each party. After working on her wedding and now her baby shower I definitely think that we have a mutual understanding of each other. I know what she likes and what she doesn't like. And I think in turn she pushes my limits. She wants a fabulous party (and of course I want to plan one), but I think she also wants me to be the best that I can be. After all it benefits both of us. The more I grow, the better person I become and the better events I design and plan. And it all takes confidence to do so.

It did take confidence to do what I did for Bethenny, but it also took the love and support of my family and friends. My parents have always been super supportive and have never doubted my abilities and have always encouraged me to do what makes me happy. My sister has always been there for me when I have good news or bad or if I just need a shoulder to cry on. And my brother-in-law and nieces, although they don't always say much, have stood by me in my ventures 100%! Then there are my friends - there are too many to count, but their excitement, love and endless support helped push me further to reaching my goals. And then there is Michael, my partner in life and the love of my life; words can't describe the support he has given me. He truly is my driving force. To each and every one of these people, thank you and I love you!

And finally there is all of you, thank you for watching me grow, thank you for your (very honest) comments and thank you for watching my journey. I appreciate all your love and support!

I am not sad to see this journey end, only happy at what awaits me in the future. Until that chapter begins I wish you all the best and cheers!

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Summing It All Up

Max talks baby clothes shopping, stealing a massage spot, back rubs, and bros.


OK, OK I know what you’re thinking… I just jumped in front of everyone and got on the massage table. It certainly looks like I did, however, I didn't. The woman who was organizing the massages asked if I wanted to get one and after asking if there was a waiting list, she told me there was and put me at the end. So, when my name was called I thought the people ahead of me had already gone. I would never purposely cut in front of Bethenny's guests.

Shopping for Bryn’s clothing was fun. In terms of the practicality of me being there, I don’t know if I served much purpose as "baby clothing consultant." But I guess Bethenny wanted me there to help keep the situation light and fun because it was her first time shopping for Bryn and didn’t want it to be stressful.

I was so pumped to go to Montauk! I’d never been out to the Hamptons area before and was excited to see what all the praise was about. Plus, everyone in the apartment looked ready to get out of the city for a bit.

I know Bethenny was goofing on me because I was so amped up about the football game, but hey, it was the manliest thing I’ve done in my five months with Bethenny. All day long I shop for underwear, pack panties, and build cribs so I’m definitely jacked up to play some football! Julie is a baller, that’s all I’m going to say. She bleeds that Pittsburgh Steeler black and gold so I knew she wasn’t messing around when the whistle blew and the game started.

Guys can rub lotion on other guys’ backs and be totally straight! Jason was just being a bro. I certainly could have asked Bethenny but I’d rather not freak her out.

My experience working for Bethenny has been a learning process for me. I was in vulnerable and awkward positions most of the time, however, I feel good about my determination in finding a way to get the job done. I know I didn’t always make the right decision, but they were all correctable mistakes and come with the territory of being the new guy. Many of the things I experienced while working for Bethenny, such as the wedding and the birth of Bryn, were things I have never been around before. But like Coach Robinson always told us before every game, "You need to get comfortable being uncomfortable." It's probably the most important sentence anyone's ever preached to me and it fit perfectly with my role under Bethenny.

I got to meet dozens of wonderful people in Bethenny and Jason’s life, too. Wherever I go afterwards I will be a better employee and more importantly, a better person. I’ve grown to love Bethenny, Jason, Julie, and Bryn and consider them my second family. Back in that chilly February night when I first met Bethenny who knew it would have lead to all this? I’m so lucky I got the opportunity and grateful for all the positives that came out of it.

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