Saved by the Bell

Max talks about his first day on the job as Bethenny's new assistant!


When I applied for the job to be Bethenny's new assistant, I felt I was way out of my element and outside my comfort zone. I knew I’d be working on things and with people I’d never been around before. I played football at Syracuse University, I eat like a pig, and I hang with the bros. The world of healthy recipes, low calorie alcohol, and women’s fashion wasn’t exactly my bag, baby. But these new aspects of the job really excited me, as I take a lot of pride in being thrown into unfamiliar waters and finding a way to swim. I never watched Real Housewives, so I didn’t really know much about Bethenny. I did my homework about who she is and the various businesses she’s involved in, which I think gave me a huge edge because I wasn’t just some fan of 'Bethenny from The Real Housewives of New York.' I was a hungry kid looking for a job.

My interview certainly began interestingly. She thought I was hot and I thought I should have gotten a haircut. She asked if I sleep around and I wondered what my sexual promiscuity (or lack thereof) had to do with my capabilities as an assistant. I started to think I was being interviewed for something much different than becoming her assistant.

I understood Jason’s reservations about not wanting some straight, fresh out of college kid working for Bethenny. My meeting with him wasn’t intimidating, however, I understood his need to be firm in laying the ground rules and addressing some things.

When Bethenny asked if I think about sex non-stop, the first thing I did was look at Jason before looking back to Bethenny. It was literally my fourth minute on the job ... let's just say I believe I answered appropriately.

Fist pounds are a staple in the bro community, and this is something Bethenny will have to get used to. I think Jason realized the upside of having me around - he would get a piece of his manhood back, something I’m sure he’d been missing as a result of being around Julie, Bethenny, Cookie, and Skinnygirl Margaritas all the time.



Meeting Chuck was my first insight into Bethenny’s social scene. Chuck asked, "What straight man in the world would want to work for Bethenny?" Hey, it’s a gay man’s job, but someone’s gotta do it. I don’t know what word Chuck used to describe me or even how to spell it, but he was right. My hair looks like I’m on my way to Seaside Heights to try to bang Snooki.

I had only been on the job with Bethenny for a few days, but I felt good about how things were going. But I also knew I was in for one hell of an unpredictable, wild ride as Bethenny Frankel's new assistant.

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Only Time Will Tell

Shawn talks about his journey with Bethenny, and thanks his family, friends, and fans for their support!

It is so hard to believe this journey with Bethenny, Jason, Bryn, Julie, Max and yes, Cookie is coming to an end! When I take a journey (such as this one) I always try to reflect back and look at the bigger picture. I like to assess what I did right, what I did wrong, how I can improve and how I can grow. Working with Bethenny on her wedding took me out of my comfort level and pushed me to work the hardest I ever have. It made me stronger as a person and as a business man. She taught me so many lessons and things that I can't even begin to list them all. There were many ups and there many downs. And there were many "oh s*@t" moments …but from each one I learned a lesson.

When I was working with Bethenny on the baby shower she was a different person, but so was I. I had confidence; I know that sounds self-righteous, but you have to understand it took me 35 long years to get to the point I am today and to be as confident as I am today. Working on her wedding brought me further to the point of "I can do it."

When Erica and I were unwrapping the cake for the baby shower, I was getting the sweats thinking it would be smashed. Something in my gut told me something would be wrong with the cake. And there was. I was fearful I would disappoint Bethenny! Listen, the cake came from a bakery in California (one of Bethenny's favorites) and the overnight carrier was not kind to it. When I pulled the lid off, I mortified that the top had been smashed and little Bryn's face had been ripped off. She was like "Baby of the Opera." So I mustered up the confidence to fix the cake. This was for sure one instance where I did let them see me sweat. But with Erica's help I pulled it together and fixed the cake and Bethenny was never the wiser. I guess that's what I'm talking about. I'm not a pastry chef, but I had the confidence (and watched plenty of cooking shows) to know what to do next.

Seeing Bethenny walk into the baby shower as relaxed as she was, was reward enough for me. She was calm knowing the shower would be fabulous, once again she trusted me. She was able to sit, relax and visit with her friends. It was great to see her like this. This is a woman who isn't able to sit and enjoy a quiet moment because she is always on the go. Which is exactly why she chose Spa Chakra on 5th! There is no better place to have a baby shower than at a spa. It was the perfect! She loved it, said I did a good job and that's all that matters! A client for life? Who knows…only time will tell.

People always ask if Bethenny and I are friends. You don't become friends over night. You both mutually have to open up and trust each other. You have to work at it, it's a relationship and all relationships require work equally from each party. After working on her wedding and now her baby shower I definitely think that we have a mutual understanding of each other. I know what she likes and what she doesn't like. And I think in turn she pushes my limits. She wants a fabulous party (and of course I want to plan one), but I think she also wants me to be the best that I can be. After all it benefits both of us. The more I grow, the better person I become and the better events I design and plan. And it all takes confidence to do so.

It did take confidence to do what I did for Bethenny, but it also took the love and support of my family and friends. My parents have always been super supportive and have never doubted my abilities and have always encouraged me to do what makes me happy. My sister has always been there for me when I have good news or bad or if I just need a shoulder to cry on. And my brother-in-law and nieces, although they don't always say much, have stood by me in my ventures 100%! Then there are my friends - there are too many to count, but their excitement, love and endless support helped push me further to reaching my goals. And then there is Michael, my partner in life and the love of my life; words can't describe the support he has given me. He truly is my driving force. To each and every one of these people, thank you and I love you!

And finally there is all of you, thank you for watching me grow, thank you for your (very honest) comments and thank you for watching my journey. I appreciate all your love and support!

I am not sad to see this journey end, only happy at what awaits me in the future. Until that chapter begins I wish you all the best and cheers!

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