Joy P. wrote:

Tamra, welcome to the show! You are a brave woman indeed. Ryan seems like a basically good kid with the usual streak of rebelliousness that many kids go through. He certainly loves and appreciates YOU! Of course, as viewers, all we have to go off is what we see and we do know editing can skew perceptions. However, editing or not, I have to say the way Simon spoke to Ryan during their "house rules" conversation was apalling. There was no love shown there, for sure. I cannot fathom how Simon thought it would be constructive to tell Ryan flat out that he did not want him there and he was responsible for past marital problems. That is never acceptable to tell any kid, regardless of past rebellions. Accountability is necessary, not Gestapo rule that is meted out in a cold, uncaring manner. Simon is the one who now needs some accountability, and I feel for you being caught in the middle of it all. Your marital issues are not Ryan's fault...he may be a catalyst but the marital issues belong to you & Simon. I wish you the very best!

posted on November 9, 2007 at 3:47 PM

Bill wrote:

WOW. I have to admit I am not a fan of the show. However, after seeing the newest addition, I have a season pass on my TIVO. You are a BEAUTIFUL woman!! I now fast-forward thru all the other parts of the show till I get to your stuff. A pleasure to watch.

Best of luck,
Bill

posted on November 9, 2007 at 5:27 PM

Tamara wrote:

Tamra,

My name is Tamara and not only are our names alike but I also have a son (age 20)from my first marriage and he and my second husband have always had conflict for basically the same reasons as your son and husband. My son has chosen to move out too due to his not wishing to follow our rules. Though sometimes I think my husband could be more unconditionally loving I guess it's a lot to ask of someone who is not the biological parent and has not been shown proper respect. I can see the stress this causes you and I truly feel for you because I have experiened it first hand. It's always up to us women to keep things together and walk a fine line. Continue loving your son unconditionally but do not inable his irresponsible behavior. It's his age and he'll wakeup sooner or later. I love you as the new addtion on the show!

posted on November 9, 2007 at 5:44 PM

Ryan D. wrote:

Hey I am a big fan of the show and you just might be the hottest housewife not just in Orange County but in America! I did have the opportunity to watch the first episode and it just seems like Simon doesn't really care for Ryan. I know how step parents can be and alot of times they can make differeneces in children. Plus the whole curfew thing and he is 21 is kind of crazy!!!!!

posted on November 9, 2007 at 7:19 PM

Kristine wrote:

all i have to say is that you need to let your son grow up. yes, i know you both have been very close and still are, but your husband pulled strings to get Ryan into that MBenz school. Ryan owes your husband and yourself the courtesy to at least try getting a job. i'm your son's age and my parents have told me its either i work and pay for all my bills or go to school living under their roof rent free with shelter, clothing and food. i choose going to school. its the least that i can do for my parents who have supported me all my life. its to go to school, graduate and reciprocate their generosity back to them. i have a bunch of friends around my age that mooch off their parents and do nothing all day. its disturbing. tell your son to grow up! be a man. because he owes you that much.

posted on November 9, 2007 at 11:48 PM

Quikstepper wrote:

Hiyu New Kid~~~

You seem like a cool new addition to the cast. I'm sure you will make the show as entertaining as the rest of the group.

Good luck with your son. I hope he's matured enough to take the fatherly advice he's being given. We never really appreciate adults at that age... in a few more years it will be a whole other story. There are so many young people out there that don't have half the chances your son & the other kids on the show get to have. I hope they ALL appreciate it.

Kudos for making the grade!!

posted on November 10, 2007 at 6:32 AM

kt wrote:

Hi! Hey, I love your brown couch/sectional - where did you get it? I have to have it. Thanks!
PS I love the show - I am totally hooked - and so is my husband!

posted on November 10, 2007 at 3:30 PM

Tammy wrote:

Hi Tamara,

I think it's awesome that you were there for you son even though you were so young when you had him. I was your age when I had my first child,a boy that will be 15 in a couple of weeks.

WTG!
Tammy

posted on November 10, 2007 at 5:46 PM

Rolawn wrote:

I love the show, and the new addition, its kind of refreshing, to see the show be so real, I'm sure many viewers can relate to the dynamic of relationships and at the end of the day your just like us, can't wait to see what happens this season!

posted on November 10, 2007 at 7:03 PM

monique wrote:

i can totally relate to your situation with your oldest child. i'm currently having the same issues but my (male) child from a previous relationship is 14. but you are doing the right thing by preparing your child instead of attempting to change your husband. i'm always being accused of letting my child run over us. but this is not his child, he doesn't feel the same way i feel about this child, my mate entered our life when my child had already developed the major of his personality. i have raised this child from birth and he knows my likes and dislikes and can not be expected to learn this other person in my life in only a couple of years. i said all of that to say i understand and respect what you are doing to protect your child. because so many children are abused ( not saying your husband is like that) verbally, physically and/or mentally as a result women not being aware of the other child's feelings. continue to create a space for your child and talk to him about coping with others and their opinions, it's hard to be the peace maker.
truly yours,
i got respect for you

posted on November 10, 2007 at 11:34 PM

Kelly wrote:

Hi Tamra,

I have to say I'm looking forward to seeing you on the show. Looks like you're stuck in the middle with Ryan and Simon. I hope Ryan grows up and starts taking responsibility for his life. Just in the tiny bit I've seen, Ryan has a lot of resentment and a severe lack of focus in his life. I don't think moving him back in the house with you and Simon was a good idea. He doesn't seem to have any boundaries or respect for you or Simon (as many of the kids on the show don't of their parents). Does he even know what he wants to be when he grows up? Maybe a better approach would be to find a life coach to help him find out who he is and what he wants out of life.

As for your relationship with Simon, if you don't agree with his parenting style, why have kids with him? You both need to be on the same page if you expect to raise your kids successfully.

I hope it all works out for you and your family but I don't know - seems like a recipe for disaster already.

posted on November 11, 2007 at 3:01 PM

MamaBecky wrote:

I welcome Tamra to the show. I have watched the show since the beginning and I must admit that I had a lot of reservations about Tamra. Her comment "I'm the hottest housewife in Orange County," was a major turn off. However, I gave Tamra a chance and I am indeed intrigued. Tamra is a good role model for many women. As a former single mother, she married a really good man this time that is also a good strong role model for her son. Although she now has a lavish lifestyle, she aspires to do something with herself, sell real estate.

I am from a completely differently background from all of the Housewives, but the drama in each of their lives makes them real and identifiable with those not as affluent.

posted on November 11, 2007 at 8:01 PM

Glojo wrote:

Hello, I just wanted to say that I think your husband is doing the right thing by laying out the rules!!

G

posted on November 11, 2007 at 9:06 PM

kl wrote:

Tamra,

Best wishes on joining the show. I think Ryan is good looking but if he got rid of a few tattoos he would look better, i.e. the one visible on his arm, in particular.

Simon, I think has the right idea about tough love but is a little harsh. Simon should let Ryan live there and save up some money; afterall, he is only in his early 20's.

Ryan should have some sort of curfew: Not come home past 12:00-1:00 a.m. on the weekends, should work or go to college during the week, and be in the house by 10:00 p.m. during the week (unless he is working late nights) and no drugs out of respect for the family.

I think having a liberal not too strict attitude is the more successful way to get a kid to do their best.

kl

posted on November 12, 2007 at 12:11 AM

Mel wrote:

I'm sure it's tough being in the middle with Ryan and Simon.Looking forward to getting to know you!Tamara what is your secret to looking so good after kids? I turn 40 this year and look nothing like you, LOL!

posted on November 12, 2007 at 12:56 AM

jackie wrote:

hits so close to home! i was the same way with my stepdad but like you said as i got older i learned to appreciate him more. we have a super relationship now and we talk all the time, im glad it worked out that way too, i was sooo tired of being the center of my moms frustration and when me and my stepdad would fight him and my mom would fight and it was just such an uncomfy situation for all of us..
good luck.
jackio

posted on November 12, 2007 at 1:06 AM

Sheri from Boca wrote:

Hi Tamra,
You are beautiful and by FAR the prettiest housewife on the show, I'm sure the others(except Jeanna and Tammy) are jealous. You are in a totally different league. Welcome to the cast, I look forward to seeing more of your stories and I wish the best of luck to you with your family situation

posted on November 12, 2007 at 10:31 AM

Jimi wrote:

Guess I'll be the first.. lol

I'm not to sure how I feel about you being added to the line up... lol Although I am glad Jo is gone. She just wasn't mature enough for the show. At times she seemed more like one of the children.

I was wondering though, are you the first housewife to actually be from CA ?

I'll continue watching and get to know you better and blog to you later.

Happy 40th!!

Jimi In Virginia Beach, VA

posted on November 12, 2007 at 12:38 PM

Donna wrote:

Tamra,
You and your family are a nice addition to the show. From what I see, Simon is right to set limits with Ryan, talk out the living arrangements and get him on the path of adulthood and independant living.

posted on November 12, 2007 at 5:35 PM

Linda wrote:

Hi Tamra, I first thought you were going to be difficult and conceited when they showed the previews, but after watching the show you seem down to earth and to be a loving mother. I am glad, can't judge a book by it's cover. Welcome to the show!!

posted on November 12, 2007 at 6:26 PM

Willie wrote:

Welcome to the show! You are truly hot! I know Ryan caught it from his friend having a mom that looks as good as you do! I won't miss an episode!

posted on November 12, 2007 at 8:37 PM

Eve Freie wrote:

Simon needs to seem like he atleast cares about Ryan..What was the contract.. its not like Ryan is buying a car...Simon needs to realize that Ryan is his son too.

posted on November 12, 2007 at 9:59 PM

matthew wrote:

tamra, tamra, tamra. you are the most beautiful woman i have ever seen. you actually have a personality too. would it be permissable if i had an innocent crush on you? too late. don't worry, i'm terrified of women.
tell your husband to try wearing shirts from at least the 90's. those lacoste shirts look like he wore them in 8th grade. sorry, my jealousy is coming out. i'll go back to my miserable boring life now. at least i'm not bitter.

posted on November 13, 2007 at 8:49 PM

Cindi wrote:

Welcome to the show! I love this show! I am a military wife and have always said we need a show like this! Love your husband he is right on target with your son. Its hard as a mother the tough love but this is exactly what he needs Good job!! I am so happy to see you working and starting a career! I am a mother of 4 and have also always raised kids to but I am also ready to get back! Good luck on the show!!

posted on November 13, 2007 at 11:14 PM

Candee wrote:

Hello Tamara,
The show is great! You add something special with your confidence and strength. I was wondering if you could tell me what style and name of the Harley, Ryan was riding in the last epsiode. I love to ride!
I just love the way you took control of the discussion with Ryan when he was moving back in. We all wonder at times if we are doing things right as a parent.

posted on November 14, 2007 at 8:50 AM

toni j wrote:

hey, I'm a remarried mom with a 14 year old son. I think that when you sat your 21 year old down to have the "rules of the house talk" you should have been involved. My husband and I don't alway agree on reering our children (we have a 9 year old daughter together), but we do agree on is uniformity. You have to be present to be involved. Much love to you girl, I hope you can see through the MEAN OLE STEP DAD clause!

posted on November 16, 2007 at 12:33 AM

Frank wrote:

What did Simon do to his Road King to make it a "$40K custom Harley"? I hope they include more of your riding adventures. You're a nice addition to the show.

posted on November 16, 2007 at 8:10 AM

Pam Bonds wrote:

Tamra,
My hubby and I are huge fans of the show. Welcome:) I feel that I must say something about Simon and your son. After watching the first few shows, we think that Simon is 100% justified in everything that he is doing with your son. You all have young children and I think a curfew is absolutely necessary. And whether or not Ryan likes the rules he is living in you and Simon's home.

I think that you and Simon need to get on the same page and you should support your husband even if you do not agree totally with his parenting approach.

Pam, Baltimore MD

posted on November 17, 2007 at 7:00 PM

Genevieve wrote:

Tamra, you may be new to the show but I think you are the greatest housewive out of all the housewives. You seem like a great person and I think turning 40 years old does not mean that you are old and not beautiful, because you are beautiful and I hope you can solve your conflicts with Ryan and Simon!

posted on November 19, 2007 at 9:40 PM

Denise wrote:

Tami, I think you are a great mother. You made the right decision to keep your child at such an early age . He is a great kid. He just needs a little discipline here and there. He will straighten out in time. You did a fine job raising him on your own for a while. He might have a little resentment towards your husband. He was the only man in your life until you remarried. Your husband might be a little jealous of the relationship you have with him because you share a very tight bond. You are his mother, you never tossed him aside for a man like some women do. You deserve all the happiness. Glad to see you married well later on in life also.

posted on November 20, 2007 at 11:35 PM

Sarah wrote:

Hi Tamra,
I work for the manufacturer that produced the cute tank top with the wings you wore in one of the last episodes. We have more where that came from. Please contact me so we can discuss giving you and other cast memebers some of our other great designs.

posted on November 26, 2007 at 11:18 AM

Julianne wrote:

Way to go joining the Adventure Bootcamp in the latest episode!
I love how the other two have been at it for about 6 weeks and a still struggling, and you show up and don't even break a sweat!
Just be sure you don't get a pantry raid by the trainer, John Spencer Ellis!!

posted on November 28, 2007 at 5:25 PM

Michelle wrote:

I'm shaking my head...

I'm sure Tamara's husband isn't the harsh step-dad he's perceived to be. He's apparently raised this young man for approx. 15 years (according to family photos). I'm sure he's doing what any other father would do...trying to teach his son to be responsible, to have a job, and be a man.

Nothing wrong with that.

posted on November 29, 2007 at 12:18 AM

Shiela wrote:

Hi Tamra, I'm the gal calling herself "Racing Wives" on myspace. My husband just retired from NASCAR (NEXTEL CUP) and now works for a shop that is featured on HotRod TV and Overhaulin with Chip Foose. I really enjoy the show and getting a glimpse of your lifestyle, a lifestyle that has literally been a fleeting possibility while in racing --- meaning we almost "had it all" and sponsorships fell through. I still have it all, though::: gorgeous hubby and kids, a place to live and DREAMS. My husband and I have extremely high ambitions and watching you and the other OC ladies gives me a lot of motivation! Come visit me on myspace if you have some time (you have just added me as a friend today). I'd love to get your input on the articles I've added (articles for women and moms). God Bless!!

~Shiela J.

posted on December 1, 2007 at 2:52 PM

kimberly wrote:

hi tamra i wish you a happy 40th birthday. my twin sister and i turn 40 july 16th. i am nervous. are you?

posted on December 5, 2007 at 3:17 PM

Tammy wrote:

I just started watching the show when a marathon was on Bravo. I think your a great audition! I love how your facing 40, I'm getting close myself and I want to look great!!.
Looking forward to watching!!!
Happy holidays!

posted on December 11, 2007 at 6:51 PM

Nicole wrote:

Hi Tamera i was just thinking how I am much like you in away. I mean because i am 21 and I have two kids but I am making the best of it, I am in college getting my bbacholers degree in crimnal justice, so i want to become an FBI agent. but I like that you have joined the cast and I wish I could meet you. you seem very cool and like the type of people I like to hangout with. But I just relate to you, but its so cool that your on here congrads. I hope you can write me back sometime.

posted on December 12, 2007 at 12:14 AM

Anna wrote:

Tamara,
I do not hear very much being mentioned about Ryan's bio dad...is he active in Ryan's life at all? In any case, you are lucky to have a man that married you and your child. It is such a shame children today do not realize how lucky they are to have parents who actually care, even step parents. Maybe one day Ryan will mature enough to realize that... Also, it strikes me as strange that Ryan would think that he does not have to start at the bottom of the ladder and work his way up... unless you are exceptional nothing is ever easy... I happen to think we are all exceptional...but you still must remain grounded.
Best of luck to you and your family....
Anna

posted on December 22, 2007 at 10:20 AM

Kathy wrote:

Tamra..love the show..your comment however about being the hottest housewife is kind of a vain thing to say...but after watching. I do think you are awesome. Simon appears cold to Ryan..and I see Ryan as an insecure boy who wants his mother's approval and attention..I think he feels threatened by the other man in your life..and I think Ryan is experiencing a little jealousy over his siblings..having it all, maybe the things he didn't get as a child. I did Love Simon's brief emotional display when he was talking about you raising Ryan so young!! We need to see more of Simon's sensitive side....thanks!

posted on December 23, 2007 at 9:35 AM

Nicolas wrote:

Dear Tamra:
I'm in Washington DC I love the show.
You are my favorite Housewife, the sexiest of all.
I have a lot of respect for you to take care of your problems.
I can't wait for more shows with you.
If you come down to DC let me know.
If I have a wife I would like to be just like you smart and sexy.
Take Care
Nicolas

posted on December 24, 2007 at 3:36 PM

Adrienne wrote:

I am a huge fan... but I has to be said, are you trully friends?? because if you were.. you shouldn't back stab each other. be honest with each other.
By the way your hubbie is a HOTTIE =)

posted on December 31, 2007 at 4:46 AM

Monica wrote:

Im sorry, but I don't see why you are on the show, it looks like you are living a middle class life. Your house is nice(average) but not like the rest of the gals. Maybe you will change that when you sell more real estate. Your pretty, but Quinn is also pretty for her age. The comment about her was not nice. I am 36 years old and look like I am in my twenties,and have a boyfriend of 5 years 8 years younger than me. Quinn is just having fun!

posted on January 2, 2008 at 1:58 AM

Sheri wrote:

Hello! I just wanted to say that I admire you! I watch every episode and the one that you are introduced on struck me. I am 22 and although I do not have any kids, I am struggling. I have had many health problems and am in major debt but I am planning on going back to school once I'm healthy to be a teacher. I admire you because you did have to raise a child on your own and I'm sure that wasnt easy being so young. I think it's amazing that you have built yourself up in your business and I really look up to you for your courage and drive to do better!!

posted on January 2, 2008 at 2:10 PM

darrick wrote:

here comes trouble. mark my words

posted on January 17, 2008 at 11:58 PM

adrianna wrote:

Hi Tamra, I am in west Van up here in canada. While i apprecaite you bringin up your son is hard work (my close friend had a son at 17 but hes 16 now and his step dad loves him BUT like all the other bloggers respect has to play a role on BOTH sides. but mostly ryans. hes a lucky kid and hes abusing (from what we can see) his privalges. and a curfew at 21 o come one!!!
I was watching an episode where you took your clients out for lunch.. while great of you too do that some of your remearks ( your boobs being your best marketing tool) was a little tacky and clearly made the lady at the table uncomfortable. i would be pissed if my realtor behaved that way. not professionsl io know it was a lunch type atmosphere but you should still maintain some professionalism. I too work in real estateand yes its hard when your in a relaxed atmosphere and i real my remarks in before the exit my mouth. I wouldnt want to lose a client over it. Jealousy is not the problem i have. otherwise your a joy to watch. good job on you. dont brag too much about kicking jeana's ass.not a classe move my husband thought you were 22 i said no 4o he thought your behavior in front of clients was wrong and slightly inmature..

posted on March 19, 2008 at 7:12 PM