Thank you Andy!!! My only child is gay. He's 26 and has a wonderful relationship with a great guy, and I'm so proud of him. I was raised to believe homosexuals were 'sinners' and would 'go to hell', and not to associate with them. You can imagine my shock when my son revealed he was gay, when he was 16. I did alot of research thinking he needed help, a psychiatrist, a minister, etc. It was an ignorant, cruel, and terrible response, but it was what I had been taught. After reading tons of books on the subject, I realized he wasn't choosing to be gay, that it was just a part of who he is. Then the 'mama bear' came out in me, and from that point on I have been a gay advocate. I even switched from being a lifelone Republican to a Democrat during the 2004 election in which the Republicans were using the whole gay marriage debate to scare people. Remember that? Anyway, to all who are feeling alone and ashamed, you have nothing to be ashamed about. You are perfect, your life will get better and you will be ok, and those of us who understand and have done our homework, we applaud your bravery, and suffer hurt along with you. Reach out to online support groups, like GLAAD.org to help you through the rough parts. Remember that some people (including family) can be ignorant and try to cling on to the things they were taught. This is changing, but meanwhile please know that I'm so so sorry you have to deal with the cruel behavior that currently exists in some circles. Stay away from those circles; keep your mind and heart safe from that noise. And thank you so much, Andy, for speaking up like this. You're THE BEST!!!