Oh boy. Thank you , Gwyneth.
In between vaginal steams, cupping, and sucking down gallons of goat’s milk, the actress posts an interview with psychoanalyst Paul Joannides, PsyD, on everything, yes everything, (straight) couples need to know about anal sex.
Two important questions are raised:
“When did heterosexual anal start to become a thing?” and…wait for it…”What should we be telling our kids about anal?”
I don’t know, maybe nothing? Or maybe take them to the ice cream store and drop a load of derrier-related knowledge on their tiny little brains in between bites of delicious sprinkles.
"I don't see anal being at the top of most parents' 'should talk to our kids about' lists," PsyD Paul says.
Some gems from the story. Put down your fork if you are eating.
The doctor in the story recommends that couples dedicate a few weeks to having the couple thoroughly talk through the act before attempting it.
"Make sure you and your partner have great sexual communication, trust, and that you both want to do it, as opposed to one trying to pressure the other, or not wanting to do it but doing it because you are afraid your partner will find someone else who will," he says.
Yes, make sure you’re both on board. There are good surprises (a necklace!) and bad surprises (above.)
There is also advice on exactly how to do the above if you are game, like “If it doesn't feel good when it's happening, stop."
To his credit, Paul Joannides, Psy.D., is an expert in the area, having written a comprehensive book on sexuality, The Guide to Getting it On! which is used in sex-ed courses across the country.
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