How to Write a Maid of Honor or Best Man Toast In Under 30 Minutes

You don't need to spend hours on the right words when you know what to include. 

When you’re tapped with the honor of raising a glass of champagne in the air and rambling off two or three minutes worth of cheers to the happy couple, while a couple hundred of their most cherished friends and family listen on, you may find yourself struggling with a stubborn case of writer’s block.

The pressure to put together a Maid of Honor or Best Man toast that will keep the crowd laughing and leave no one wanting to take a snooze on their empty entree plate is something that could leave anyone at a total loss of words.  Whether or not you’ve been given a year or even three months to jot the most loveable and laughable words about your friend, you may find that the process is cutting into way too much of your free time and having you wake up drenched in sweat in the middle of the night. 

You don't have to be Chris Rock. Writing your toast is easier than you think as long as you don’t overthink or overspend your precious time trying to put together a laugh out loud masterpiece. Just follow these four steps and you’ll find yourself writing a cheers worthy speech in under 30 minutes.

1.  Start with how you met your friend

Spend the first thirty seconds of your speech introducing yourself and how you met the person you’re representing (either the bride or the groom). Keep this part simple and just describe the age, location and first impression you had of them. 

2.  Continue on to why you're still friends

The info people want to hear the most is why you’re still friends with this person? Most people in our lives come and go. But you’re standing up there, at their wedding, with an honor that shows your loyalty in the friendship department.  Chances are there’s a funny story you can share, a unforgettable moment where they were there for you when nobody else was, or even a couple of adjectives you can ramble off as to why you look up to them more than anybody else in your life. 

3.  Move on to their partner

Talk about the person who has won over their heart. When did you meet them? What was your first impression? Share your “ah-ha” moment when you knew that they were the perfect match for each other. 

4.  Give a send off

Spend your last thirty seconds giving your final wishes to the couple. You can intermix some sappy comments, like how you wish them a lifetime of happiness, love and adventure, with some funny ones too, perhaps on how you wish them endless amounts of cold brew and Crossfit classes that they can crush together.


When you sit down to write your speech, try to avoid wanting to write down every single detail and memory that you have with the couple. Guests are eager to go back to the open bar and the dance floor, and chances are you are too. Stick with these four simple sections and set the timer on your phone to buzz when you’ve hit thirty minutes. By that mark, you should have the exact speech masterpiece that you always wanted. 

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