The public opinion on Anthony Weiner is pretty clear—his career is in the can, his marriage seened to be crumbling, yet he keeps messing up.
His wife, on the other hand, is a gem. Human Abedin, 40, is stunning, smart, successful, and stylish. She’s a doting mom and a loyal employee. So what is wrong with her when it comes to the weak spot for her husband? He’s publicly embarrassed her countless times; his gross behavior has actually been well documented in Weiner, in which Huma looks consistently miserable throughout, trying to make sense of her husband’s endless sexting and his “Carlos Danger” alter-ego.
So why is she giving their marriage another shot?
On Sunday, the New York Post reported that Huma, who finally separated from the former congressman in August, one day after the paper reported that he had sent yet another explicit photo to a woman, this one with his toddler son asleep beside him, is now giving the marriage yet another try.
“Huma has been working hard on her relationship with Anthony,” said a source close to the Abedin family. “He has been spending 80 to 90 percent of his time at the [Irving Place apartment] they share . . . If there is a disagreement, he goes to his mother’s apartment in Brooklyn. Both [his and her] families are hoping they will reconcile.”
Another source tells the paper that the split was due to pressure from Hillary's camp to dump him when she was running for president.
To put into perspective how insane it is that Huma keeps taking Weiner back, here is a brief history of the former congressman disrespecting his wife:
May 2011—he accidentally tweets out a photo of his erect penis in boxer briefs that he apparently meant to send privately to a college student. He denies it, two more pictures are released, he resigns from office.
He ran for New York City mayor in 2013 but was derailed when more pictures and sexts came out, revealing he operated online under the alias “Carlos Danger.”
As Huma did her job as Hillary’s most trusted advisor, more sexts were uncovered, one to a 15-year-old girl. The FBI got involved and his laptop was seized, bringing Hillary’s momentum to a halt while he was investigated.
Weiner completed outpatient therapy for sex addiction last fall, and has been going to therapy.
“A lot of [their] friends believe this is an illness, that he is sick,” the source tells the NYP. But “Huma takes it into consideration that there’s been no affair, or physical contact that anybody is aware of. He never met [the women].”
There have been additional complications lately, with parents at the school their 5-year-old son, Jordan, attends complaining that Weiner is there sometimes to pick him up.
“Parents were very concerned . . . They didn’t want [Anthony] to be on the playground,” said the friend.
Now, Weiner does not show up for school drop-off or pick-up.
So why does this accomplished, beautiful woman stay with this toxic guy?
Relationship Expert Fran Greene and author of the upcoming Dating Again with Courage and Confidence: The Five-Step Plan to Revitalize your Love Life after Heartbreak, Breakup, or Divorce says there's got to be something in it that's positive for Huma.
"Without being judgmental, I think that there is such a strong desire on anybody in a marriage to want to make it work. There is always a thread in a marriage that is a reflection on you, no matter how outrageous the behavior of your partner is," Fran says.
"We feel we can change, control, our own destiny even if it means competley redoing the person we are with."
There is obviously a connection between them, Fran adds, saying that Huma likely beieves she can "fix" her husband and the set of problems that are his.
"The betrayal you feel, the infideilty, the shame, the deceit, you can bury those feelings and start to think you can fix it," Fran says. "To accept what is going on, you feel out of control and helpless and angry and it takes soul searching and confidence to accept it and make a choice, like with a sex addict."
Second, they have a child, and "people get divorced for less serious reasons," says Fran.
"Bottom line, you've worked so hard to not give up you don't want to," she says. "Does it make her life easier to stay? It almost gives you permission to live your life however you want because you've been wronged. You can hold it over their head."
There could also be a professional arrangement of sorts.
"Could it be money, lifestyle, could be an agreement until the child graduates high school. She is making a choice she's getting something," Fran says.
And finally, being alone and starting over is repulsive to some women, Fran explains.
"You know how to deal with the horror of what you're living with, you have no idea of living with the horror out there."
The devil you know.
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