Ladies, forget Lemonade, your high-powered attitude is blocking you from finding love.
So says matchmaker Kristi Price, who believes women are wrong when they think their position of power intimidates men.
“I hear it all the time ‘I can't find a man because I intimidate men,’” she says. “Believe me, I know this because I used to say it until I realized that all men, including successful, powerful business men and Alpha males, aren’t all intimidated by me.”
But we're willing to listen.
Kristi is speaking from experience, and says she was actually making excuses for pushing men away. It was her actions, not her intimidation factor, that were turning men off.
“They just couldn't wait for the date to be over so they could cut and run,” she says, adding that she finally figured out the formula to turning men on.
“Many accomplished women forget how to turn the career driven, executive woman off and let the vulnerable, feminine woman shine through on a date and in a relationship,” she explains. “Why can this be a problem? Men ultimately still want to feel like the protector/hunter. They desire to help a damsel in distress once in a while.”
It’s an old school theory, but Kristin says it’s as simple as to having your guy change a light bulb, or hold you when you are sad.
“They want a woman who can be silly, vulnerable, attentive and loving. A woman who needs them. Yes, I said it....need,” she says. “If you want a relationship, then you need to want to love someone else and be loved, share your happy times, heartaches and compliment each other by bringing cool things to the table to teach and experience with each other.”
The bottom line, Kristin says, is that if we are telling men that we are completely independent, don't need a man, tell them how to run their business and life, talk about how accomplished and successful we are in business, don't appreciate what he brings to the table, he's going to lose interest quickly.
“Ladies, it's amazing how far we have come and the outstanding accomplishments we have all attained in our lives. We should be proud and own our accomplishments. Let's just not forget the vulnerable, little girl inside us who wants prince charming to ride in on his horse and give us that huge kiss to snap us out of our workaholic, me focused slumber and remind us there is more to life then just the daily grind,” she says. “Don't get me wrong, you don’t need to lose your successful, edgy flare and act needy. You just need to be open to receiving sometimes and balance your executive side with your softer girly side.”
Certainly a controversial view in this day and age, all genders and sexual preferences considered. But hey, we think she's just saying put down the walls, don't be tough as nails all the time. Let him change the lightbulb. Who wants to do that anyway?
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