With technology comes convenience, and that means people have less time for things, mainly dating.
One dating expert tells Personal Space that’s she’s trying to get people back on track by convincing them that dating will lead to love—not the apps you downloaded for a hot hookup.
“Dating has not been lost, its been compromised,” says Rori Sassoon, who runs the matchmaking site Platinum Poire. “We have been consumed with technology and social media and that instant gratification factor. Swipe right, swipe left, nobody has a conversation anymore. You can Google anything and everything, nothing is a surprise. Technology has made us myopic.”
Rori explains that if you are looking for a real, lasting love, like most people are, messages are getting lost when you’re not putting in face time.
“If dating is your priority, you have to date. The ability to read a person on a date and create excitement and create emotional and sexual tension is an art,” she says. “And it’s been compromised. I want to be able to bring dating back in fashion.”
People in their 40’s know how to go on a date, she says, since they didn’t grow up their whole lives with all the technological advances we have today.
“People now just get so stressed out to go on a date, but the more texting you do, the more problems you’ll have with communicating,” she says. “You need to be able to not text a person, not email. Call them and develop a rapport. You can hear the person’s tone.”
Speaking face to face and putting your phones away is key, and that people don’t often take the time to do that, because they feel too busy.
“You make an investment of time. If we make it a priority it isn’t dead, we all want to be in a relationship,” Rori says, adding, “and a date is fun.
There are so many fun things to do.”
She uses Gigi Hadid and her boyfriend Zayn Malik as an example of a couple who gets it, saying the duo is often spotted out at dinner together.
Another couple who keeps a religious date night is Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, who are always spotted together post-dinner in Los Angeles.
“They’re showing you they are spending time together and that’s what romance is all about,” Rori says. “Also, when you’re with someone and you see how they treat people, it speaks so much about a person’s manner.”
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