You’ve made a bunch of resolutions for the New Year: Eat right. Score that promotion at work. Make sure your sex life is poppin’. If you don’t have a significant other, that could mean a whole lot of time before you score another Big O. But why wait? Doing it for yourself can make the rest of your life even happier.
There are plenty of celebrities out there who are taking it solo, and they’re not afraid to share their self-love with the world. Miley Cyrus got down and dirty during a Snapchat conversation for her Interview magazine cover in 2015. The “We Can't Stop” singer was down on all fours in nothing but a scant pair of panties, and her hands were doing all the talking.
At the 2015 MTV Awards, always outspoken comedian Amy Schumer explained (in Amy Schumer style) what happens when she watches Magic Mike XXL: “at least two of my fingers disappear."
“There are three main components to loving yourself better, those are physically, emotionally and intellectually. And all three of those things work hand and hand with one another,” shares Tristan Weedmark, We-Vibe’s Global Passion Ambassador. “Physically, the easiest way to love yourself is to literally love yourself, and that’s during masturbation.”
If you have hang-ups about self-pleasure, Tristan says to let them go in 2017. “Give yourself permission to put it on your calendar and do it more,” she suggests.
If you are partnered up, Tristan suggests taking your self-love to the next level by offering your significant other a blueprint to your happiness. “A lot of women don’t give adequate direction, and unfortunately, our partners aren’t mind readers. If you know what you like, and you’re not getting it, let yourself be vocal.”
Emotionally, Tristan advises that we learn to love our bodies more so we “can feel sexual and sexy, and not hide our bodies, because every body is beautiful. Coming to accept that is going to help us be more sexual with ourselves and confident.”
She also says get rid of any sex hang-ups by talking candidly with your partner or friends. “As great as sex is, it’s also very funny, so we might as well celebrate that.”
Lastly, Tristan says focus on new experiences to stimulate your intellect. “We can do this by learning something new about ourselves through different masturbation techniques like G-spot stimulation,” she shares. “When you learn something new about yourself or your partner, it facilities a better environment for experimenting and trying new things, and for finding new levels of sexual happiness and pleasure.”
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