Model Tess Holiday Posts Raw Instagram Photo Crying Over Her Working Mom Dilemma

She was exhausted and real and decided to share it with the world. 

Plus sized model Tess Holliday’s Instagram is normally filled with pics of her on modeling shoots happy pictures of her fiancé and two sons.

But she decided to get real with a recent selfie taken after a rough, sleepless night with her 8-month-old son, Bowie. Tess looks tired, and tearful, and is clearly exhausted form being a working mom.

This is the reality of being a mom. I've been up since 3 am, & every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up. He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it. Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today. I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest. My confidence has taken a blow with this birth & it wasn't until this morning I realized why. The pressure of "looking good" for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it? How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren't letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled? Yes, I chose a career based on my looks & I'm the first one to say that beauty isn't what should drive you, it's certainly not what motivates me. As a working mom in an industry that's as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion? Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn't let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry? Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else. #effyourbeautystandards #workingmoms #disruptperfectmomsyndrome

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The size-22 beauty wrote a lengthy caption explaining the photo:

“This is the reality of being a mom. I've been up since 3 a.m., and every time I get Bowie to sleep and try to lay him down, he wakes up. He is teething and has no clue I have to work today. I’ve been crying for nearly two hours, and I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest.”

Tess, 31, welcomed her second son June 6, continued:

“The pressure of ‘looking good’ for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding and total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin and to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed … how do you do it?

My oldest son was ahead of the trend with his natural freckles 😂💘👌🏻

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“Yes, I chose a career based on my looks and I'm the first one to say that beauty isn't what should drive you, it's certainly not what motivates me. Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10 percent because your kids wouldn't let you sleep and you want to hide under your covers and cry? Not many.”

The picture has now gone viral, with more than 68,000 likes in less than 24 hours.

Thousands of fellow moms left supportive comments, with one writing: “You’re my inspiration. Being a mom myself is hard sometimes.

“Sending you love and strength. From one mother to another,” wrote another.

Another wrote: Wow Tess! Sending you strength and encouragement today! Sometimes we forget that you are a human too! Tupac said it best Keep your Head up!”

“This is one of your most beautiful photos. The exquisite rawness of being a working mom... and you're owning it,” said another supporter.

“This post is everything. I'm a working mom too and it's the hardest thing in the world. When you aren't tired at work from no sleep, you're feeling guilty being away from them. I look in the mirror and see the aging: dark circle, crows feet, sullen and blemished skin. But when they smile and laugh and give you a hug, you forget the sleepless nights, tears and most of all... the aging face. Thank you for being so honest and open.”

Tess has been engaged to Australian artist Nick Holliday for three years (and adopted his name in 2015).

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