The recently separated star opens up to Ellen about her recent divorce.

on Jan 9, 2013 - The Dish0

Bethenny Frankel Talks Divorce on Ellen
For the first time since announcing their separation and filing for divorce, Bethenny Frankel is opening up about her split from husband Jason Hoppy in an emotional interview with Ellen DeGeneres.

During the chat with her pal that's scheduled to air on Wednesday, Bethenny speaks out about her current mindstate and how she's handling the tough situation, saying that as much as she wants to keep things private, she knows because of her public persona that her fans want to know what's going on. "I can’t just only be on reality TV and show everything when it’s fairy princess, fairytale and then not take my hits when I have to ... I’ve kind of had the best worst year ever … it’s the highs and the lows," she said during the interview.

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Then, Bethenny got introspective, admitting to Ellen: "I feel like a failure ... I really put it out there. I wanted the fairytale. I thought I had it," she said, choking back tears.

B admits she moved so quickly with the divorce because she "wanted to rip the Band-Aid off so it could start to heal," saying that despite her tough girl exterior, she's currently "scared" and knows she's seen as a role model to some of her fans. With that knowledge, Bethenny takes a sense of responsibility, telling Ellen: "This is an important time, because it’s about what I do next. How I handle myself now with grace, with dignity. This is the time now that matters."

30 comments
missmamawattt
missmamawattt

I love Bethenny, and Ellen. Divorce is painful; Grace and Dignity is PRICELESS; having an empire such as Bethenny's; COMMENDABLE (not because she did it, but THE WAY she did it).

carolsoto444
carolsoto444

I think people come to their own conclusion about other peoples lives,when they really don't know anything at all what has gone on to lead to divorce.Which is so personal to anyone.

The only thing I have to say is I feel for Bethenny.  Stay strong and try to keep positive good friends around! At first your so sad ...then the anger will come and then the healing will begin!

 

God Bless

erie70@verizon.net
erie70@verizon.net

I think that you ran to divorce to quick. So many people do that today, its sad. Of course your gonna have problems, every body does,but, why run to divorce? You married him for a reason, didnt you? Work your problems out and if you cant, try again. Then if nothing can change, divorce. B, if thats the case dont ever get married again. Noone has a soul mate,we are able to choose who we marry and you chose Jason, as he did you, so work it out. You we're in love and friends at one point, get back to that and start again. Blaming things, situations, or people is not the answer either. Bryn should be the motivation for it. Ps. I didnt see the show today so im just stating my opinion on the divorce by itself.

jolee1965
jolee1965

I have a feeling she only touched on what she was really experiencing with Jason and that was his sharp tongue and brutal words. But that seems to come off like he was a man desperate and lashed out. He might live in NYC but he seem to have small town needs. Bethenny your a strong woman and that takes a special breed of man because im a very strong woman or live wire so to speak and its taken 22 yrs for my husband to deal with my ways. Good luck and keep that chin up... 

onaadams
onaadams

I was a big fan of Bethenny and Jason.  I wonder what really happened?  On the TMZ  website today, it says Bethenny is demanding child support, medical, dental, etc. for both she and Bryn.  What?  To me, I interpreted this as a "bitter Bethenny'.  

kinakinafofina
kinakinafofina

as someone whose been through divorce, its really really difficult, there is still love their clearly and listen its not about whose at fault for this divorce, its about how we move on and grow up and learn from these mistakes, i think bethany is extremely strong and smart and i think all these negative comments from all these people stem from personal insecurities and its about time people stop talking and start listening!

apriltalocco
apriltalocco

Why is everyone being so mean? You can speak your opinion in a nicer fashion. You don't know what she's going through, even if you've been through a divorce. Have some compassion because everyone's journey and struggles are different. Oh, and, you may not like the way she treated Jason, (which I don't understand) but he didn't treat her too nicely from what I saw!

tamyena
tamyena

Oh Bethenny, I am so, so sorry that both you and Jason are going through all of this.  Ellen is right, nobody out there knows what really goes on at home, and nobody has the right to pass judgement upon another until you walk a mile in their shoes.  Just know, that I have always loved watching you on whatever show you were on, you are just so real and just so you, not fake, at least to me anyways.  I will continue following you wherever this life takes you and pray for only good things to happen.  Just be true to yourself and treat others how you want to be treated, and you will always be good and come out on top.  You do have a lot of true friends who love and understand you.  Keep the faith, girl!!  And, just shut out all the negativity and negative remarks made to you, Jason and the whole family.  Love you!!

tami.seitz
tami.seitz

Don't believe she'll find a better more tolerant man than her husband. Didn't seem like she gave it a chance. Poor daughter.

Nikki_Chikki
Nikki_Chikki

uh no lady, twas the time you were married that mattered most how you handled things . Not a fan of how she treated Jason

melto9
melto9

Bethanny would not have made the deal for Skinnygirl if not for Jason jumping in and helping- that co. was a mess. She will never find a man that adores her like him. She was ALWAYS disrespectful to his parents. I used to love her. Good luck to him and she better share that money with him at least.

mtfagan
mtfagan

Slow the F down Bethenny.  Yes, you filed too quickly for divorce.  Let yourself feel all the emotions and live it and hopefully work through it.  You're a millionaire and you don' t have to work ever again, just be that.  You've had your 15 hours of fame, now move on with your life.

resolute2012
resolute2012

Bethenny, I believe you truly are suffering and feel like a failure.  I felt the same way when my marriage of 15 yrs broke up.  I still had 3 children, under the age of 10 and I was scared to death.  My weight dropped down to 95 lbs in 3 months going through that trauma, all my fears and worries came closing down on me and the fact that my ex-husband re-married just a few days after the divorce was final only compounded my misery.  Guess what, life does go on and I made it.  All i wanted from my ex was child support which I felt he owed them, and for him to be able to see and be an active part of their lives. To be their dad and be there for them.  All the rest (dental, medical, life insurance) I handled all that myself mainly because I did not want ANYTHING for myself from him and knew I could take care of my kids financially without him.  I believe also you feel like a failure because you are now losing much of your "adoring fan" support.  You're appearing very unreasonable, selfish and self-serving in your ridiculous demands from Jason. Let all the money crap go and concentrate on Jason being a daddy to your adorable little girl.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

Personally, I think Bethanny wanted to beat soon to be ex to the punch so she had the upperhand.  It is sad when marriages end but neither of them ever seemed happy with each other.

DanSteadman
DanSteadman

Wow, what a terribly judgemental comment Abqblondie just made. If I was judging, I'd say he or she is a cowardly anonymous bitch. 

linda.d.verdier
linda.d.verdier

Sorry Bethennay but you didn't give your marriage a chance. You want it all now. You want it your way. You act about as old as your daughter.  You never had any intention of making a life with Jason.  He is better off witthout you. Give him custody of Bryn. He's the adult.

Abqblondie
Abqblondie

Bethany has been sabotaging her marriage from day one. She's a nut job. I feel sorry for Jason and her in laws, but most of all I feel sorry for Bree.  She has no chance of growing up normal with Bethany for a mother. Bethany is a self absorbed narcissist. Does she really think that "normal" people go to therapists. They don't, they live their lives thinking of how thy can please the people they love and how to make enough money to survive. Grow up Bethany. it's not all about you.

macnmac
macnmac

The always tell women not to try to change men they cannot. Well same goes for men too --don't try to change women. Jason tried exactly that. Once they married Jason became a different person--he became very cruel with his comments to Bethenny--constantly criticized and put her down. He made his parents an issue--dumped his survivors guilt on her. The parents and Bethenny was fine--Jason was not. Jason became unbearably verbal abusive and it was terrible to sit and watch. Wanted his wife to be his doormat.

 

Besides you know what they say--if it sounds too good to be true it usually is. And Jason was that. Also how do we not  know that Jason purposely sought Bethenny out to be on tv.  Clearly he did not appear to be sincere in his affections once they married. Maybe now he can go back to Pa and live in his parents basement and find a girl of his dreams back in that town. I hope Beth had a prenup and I bet she did not. She believed in him too much.

leftonthird3
leftonthird3

 @erie70@verizon.net Easy to comment on divorce but if you don't know what the problems are then you can't conclude anything. I believe in marriage and working things out but sometimes it just doesn't work. That's life.

Mizzurah2
Mizzurah2

 @onaadams Bitter Bethenny or greed - I -can't have-enough-money Bethenny?  Jill Zarin may have been right all along!

Rockione
Rockione

@onaadams I've seen Bethenny getting a LOT of flack for the child support thing. There are many reasons that is ridiculous. Who ever gets custody (unless they agree to a 50/50 split WILL get child support- regardless of any income disparity. The rules generally state that the child is entitled to the financial support that s/he would have received has the parents stayed together. Most states have a cap around 20% (it varies tho) of the non primary caregivers income to ensure the same standard of living FOR the child. Any business person will tell you that you go into negotiations with your highest requests, knowing you will compromise and meet somewhere in the middle. When dissolving a marriage you are essentially dissolving a company at that point- two entities legally bound together which no longer wish to be together. Which is exactly what B has done; If she did get full custody, it would (generally) be Jason's responsibility for insurance for Baby B. and provide insurance (again, generally). I don't like Bethenny much, but I can see the merits of taking the strongest position in the beginning, Jason likely has too. My mother didnt do this when divorcing my father, she just wanted out, so agreed to basically nothing. Despite the fact that he made much, much more money when I was in my teens then he did when i was 3 (when the amt was set). Had she gone after him again, my child support would have doubled and my life would have been easier because my mom was a single parent who worked her ass off to make ends meet and wasn't around enough for either of us and my dad was around maybe twice a year.

mhip
mhip

 @apriltalocco Um, some people are mean because she put herself on and her family on reality television and opened herself up to any and all criticism anyone wants to make. She also profited from it. As for Jason, he only became, from what we saw, not so nice after she cut off his manhood, screamed at him constantly, and berated his parents on a regular basis. That's why everyone is being so "mean". I call it being real.

Coulton
Coulton

 @apriltalocco

 If people would spend more time looking at their own lives and less time making nasty comments about other and people they dont know this world would be a much happier peaceful place.....

Mizzurah2
Mizzurah2

 @DanSteadman Who isn't anonymous here?  List your name, address, and phone number with your comment - then you won't be the anonymous one!

leftonthird3
leftonthird3

 @Abqblondie Lil Ms. Perfect! If you knew her personally It might be a legit comment BUT you don't. You have a right to your opinion but do you know how you sound? No one's perfect so stop acting like you are. Try living your life by one of the golden rules, "If you don't have anything good to say, then don't." (esp. when you don't know the facts). AND children are off limits.

NYFreckIes
NYFreckIes

@Abqblondie of course normal people go to therapy! Its abnormal people that don't seek help and shoot up public places or go on social media sites and belittle others in order to feel better about themselves. Bethenny, please don't feel you have to be a role model....nobody on television is a role model. Its teachers, parents, our military and those who volunteer that are role models. Be a role model to your daughter and the friends and family that love you and you love. All the other stuff and negative stuff...is just that. Just because someone says something, it doesn't make it so.

chance543
chance543

@Abqblondie Wow, that was judgmental. "normal" people can go to therapists. It's sad that to get mental help you immediately label them as not normal.