"It brings me great sadness to say that Jason and I are separating," she says.  

on Dec 23, 2012 - The Dish0

Bethenny Frankel Splits From Jason Hoppy

After much speculation and countless tabloid reports, Bethenny Frankel has confirmed that she and husband Jason Hoppy are now separated. 

In an statement released on Sunday, Bethenny said the following:

“It brings me great sadness to say that Jason and I are separating. This was an extremely difficult decision that as a woman and a mother, I have to accept as the best choice for our family ... We have love and respect for one another and will continue to amicably co-parent our daughter who is and will always remain our first priority," the statement continues. "This is an immensely painful and heartbreaking time for us." 

The two married in 2010 after meeting less than two years earlier while Bethenny was filming The Real Housewives of New York City. Their lives together were then documented in Bethenny Ever After, where every aspect of their lives -- including the struggles -- were fair game for the cameras. There was often a focus on whether combining business opportunities with their relationship would cause too much strain. 



Over the summer during her new talk show, Bethenny dismissed divorce rumors swirling at the time, saying: For those of you who don't know me, basically the press has said that Jason saw a divorce lawyer and that I saw a divorce lawyer and there's this whole big thing going on. The truth is, I put it all out there on my show ... If it's out there, I'll tell you. I'm in a good marriage, we have issues, we are not perfect, we work on it every day. We're committed."

64 comments
vkizer
vkizer

Jason is a hunk!!!

Littlesavedgirl
Littlesavedgirl

A promise is a promise, marriage is not about your own happiness but the happiness of your spouse. If people commit to one another in marriage and give up on it except for adultery they never committed in the first place. Marriage is about living for the other you marry, it is a selfless unity between two people. Divorce is a cop out to frequently used in our society, I'm disappointed in their lack of commitment to their daughter.

yolanda.allisonscoby
yolanda.allisonscoby

Bethenny does not know how to love or receive love her mother and father didn't give her love or show her how to love. I didn't think they would make it this long I remember he wanted to to his parents for Sunday dinner but she didn't want to spend time with them and they treated her like there daughter they never had and she was just so cold . Beth my girl get your life together because money won't keep you warm on cold New York night or have you back when you need that someone.

carps839
carps839

Bethenny is such a disappointment. With all her riches she still wants to disembowel Jason. She has absolutely no idea what it means to be family and I as willing to write that off but no more. She is set to crucify Jason and his parents for no other reason than MONEY. I will never forgive her for this. She is the poorest excuse for a human being.

rooneygrl
rooneygrl

 I'm very saddened to learn of your separation.  I know that what is portrayed on tv is only a fraction of what goes on in your life and while there was certainly tension and doubt as to the direction you would take as a couple and a family it was clear that there was a lot of love between you and a strong commitment to work through the differences to come to middle ground so that you both could thrive in the relationship.  I hope the future for you and Jason and of course Bryn is bright and promising. 

angelnoelle
angelnoelle

I didn't see this marriage lasting too long after seeing Jason continue to disrespect Bethany's feelings. He was so hurtful towards her and said such mean things. He tore her down but no one else seemed to get that. She is a very strong woman, but she made herself vulnerable and let him in and he was like a bull in a china shop. I commend Bethany for getting out of that marriage rather than allowing him to continue to treat her that way. I am poud of her to put an end to it and move on. She will find another man that is strong enough to hanle not just her success, but her strong personality and that will cherish when she shows him her vulnerable side and do nothing but shelter and protect that part of her. Bravo to you Bethany, you are a beautiful, amazing, strong woman. You've worked hard for everything you've earned and you deserve to enjoy it, not to be shamed for it. Hugs to you sweetie, I can't wait to see the next chapter of your life, and I hope you'll continue to let us watch it. You're honesty and openess is an inspiration to all strong women.

Aprilj32
Aprilj32

This is very upsetting to me I think Bethany and Jason are both good natured nice people. It's always sad to see a family break-up. Bethany I do think u have a lot of issues that u use humor to cover up but I hope u guys work things out!

lorain
lorain

Didn't think it would last this long altho I thought Jason was the type that could handle a high maintenance, me me me type gal.  He just couldn't take it anymore.  Sometimes I have to change channel when B goes off on a tangent.  Her voice and non stop chatter can cut right thru me.  And then comes the millions....they say money changes people.  I'm thinking that's a big part of it.  But the other part is the fact B has major issues from childhood.  Isn't it time to be over it and appreciate what's in front of you....i.e., a great husband and beautiful baby?  Keep beating that dead horse, Bethany!

chpope
chpope

Color me SURPRIZED not !!!!! It is sad because Jason appears to be a very nice person. Bethany on the other hand appears to be a very self centered I am all that person. She needs a new therpist because the one she has isnt doing the job. Bethany just how much $$$ is enough. How much is enough. that is the ? you need to ask yourself. I dont think I have ever seen you relax. So sad

Christe1
Christe1

Wow... I guess I saw things much differently then many viewers here. I NEVER liked Jason, I thought he was an opportunist. He was always confronting her and trying to own half her company she built when they needed time to develop still. They got married so fast because she was pregnant, but that doesn't change the fact that they needed more time to build some trust. His main agenda was getting ahold of what would benefit him financially if they split and  I hope she didn't cave in and do it.

jennifer.o
jennifer.o

Who didn't see this coming?  Bethenny is committed to her career and now that she has her talk show I'm sure that is her #1 priority.  Eh, whatever.  Doesn't affect me at all. 

plumber22
plumber22

This broke my heart. My husband and I were at the grocery store and he pointed to the magazine it was on the front, I said I am praying that this was not true....now reading this really upsets me so much, they are both at fault but this is no reason to place blame, we really have to make sure Bryn is ok and I am sure she will be well taken care of. We wish them all the best.

nicohaakin
nicohaakin

Going off of how the final season of Bethenny Ever After ended, this separation was inevitable.

 

Bethenny has a laser-beam focus on career.  For a short time, she shared some of that energy to grow a relationship with Jason.  After Bryn was born, all that extra energy not devoted to career shifted from Jason to Bryn.   With all that she devoted to business, what room was there to nurture the marriage?  

 

Jason is from a WASP upbringing and values traditional roles.  His mistake was choosing a career woman whose success was inevitable.  It was obvious (and painful to watch) that he felt like a "kept man" and he felt that it should have been he who was so successful and the breadwinner of the family.  It was unfair to both of them that he chose a successful woman but deep down inside wanted a REAL housewife and not a "real" housewife.  It is never a good idea to enter into a relationship expecting the person to change to appease their partner's insecurities about themselves.

 

Had each of them been honest with themselves from the beginning I don't think they'd have even gotten married because they want different things in life.  Bethenny values career success over relationships and Jason values tradition and gender roles ingrained in him from his upbringing.  You can love someone completely but if you're not looking in the same direction, you'll eventually grow apart.

 

Sorry to hear this news today Jason and Bethenny but I'm happy for Bryn that she will no longer be around constant bickering, arguing, and fighting between each of you pointing the finger at each other to blame. The carriage has turned into a pumpkin.  Bravo to both of you for acknowledging and accepting the painful truth (not an easy thing to do for anyone, let alone in the public eye).  I wish you and your family the best as you pick up the pieces and move forward in the best interest of your daughter, Bryn.

Charlestonfan
Charlestonfan

Sooooo sad! I really hoped for THE happy ending!

Kessi
Kessi

I have never been able to understand why, particularly at such a sensitive time as this, people feel the need to be so hurtful and negative. I am twice divorced. I know how selfish, short sighted, destructive parents can pulverise your future relationship path. I fully appreciate how difficult just staying above water and being a survivor is. Bethanny has done so much more than that. She really does have so much to be proud of. I get Bethanny, I really do. I do not know her personally but I have complete faith in the fact she is real and honest. Marriage fails because of incompatibility it is that simple. It is not the time to look for someone to blame it is the time to heal and consolidate whatever is good. It is not the time to look for negativity - it is the time to recognise in those around you what good they do because you will need that in the future to help you be a parent. Turn away from all that is bad and destructive and turn towards that which is constructive. Kids should not grow up in sham marriages. Grown ups have to go an extra mile to juggle things so it benefits the kids in such a way they did not notice you were working so hard on it. Never tell your kids how much you are doing/sacrificing/hurting for their benefit - even when they are being little brats (love em lol). Have a couple of besties that you confide in who you can bitch to your hearts content with and know that they will never pass on to anyone - choose those couple of people very, very carefully. You have to vent but you have to vent in a safe place cos you dont want your kids to know what you are saying  - some of the stuff you might change your mind about in the future lol so you dont want it in the press either. This is long so I will leave some space for other people to post. I wish I knew Bethanny cos I could help her enormously but I hope, hope, hope that she has someone close who will help her keep it real and help her heal and find peace. Kids make all the difference....it is bittersweet at times but they help to keep you focussed on what really matters. God bless you, Bethanny and I pray it works out well for you :-)

kathy.minetcady
kathy.minetcady

I think Jason was kinda mean at times I dont think he could handle all her fame.He knew what she as all about when they got married.

 

 

MichaelRecruits
MichaelRecruits

Very sad - They both seem like great people. I hope they can make it work for them to still be friends whatever is best for Brynn.

jenniferhardy08@cox.net
jenniferhardy08@cox.net

Really sad to hear this news. Betheny, please let go of your baggage and let Jason into your heart and breathe.

donna_1
donna_1

doesn't surprise me.  I knew she was going to blow it!

 

whodatjo1
whodatjo1

Divorce does happen, that's a real reality. Just do what is right for your child.

reginae
reginae

So sorry to hear the sad news. I wish the best for baby Brynn and I hope B&J can be friends for her and keep things peaceful.

bpster
bpster

So sorry to read this......even more sorry that people respond with such anger I don't get it.....Who benefits from this....no one!! I don't wish divorce on anyone. Blessing for the new year Bethany!!

NurseinVA
NurseinVA

OH, Bethenny and Jason! NO....you two need to get it together. Please don't do this, please! If I can beg as a stranger, think how little Bryn's heart is going to feel! I was always convinced that as much as you showed on TV, that what the real problem was, was not being shown. You absolutely need to do whatever, sell whatever, move to wherever....oh don't do this--make it! Become overcomers! I have heard amazing marital outcomes that no one dreamed could happen--but they all came from God. Have you both tried GOD? Call this marital expert pastor on TV,.....Pastor Jimmy Evans....he and his wife have the best message and counsel on the earth! Look him up online and calll the man!

InvisiblePen
InvisiblePen

The reality show caused issues that would not have been there. Should have ran off with this guy as fast as you could without looking back! I honestly think a huge part of the issue is that you didn't feel good enough for him and those are some hard feelings to shake. Very sad to see this happen.

2nikkicody
2nikkicody

So sad for you, Jason & Bryn. I know this will be a tough holiday for all of you. Hang in there - time does heal all wounds.

CandyWander
CandyWander

I trully hate to hear this. I love how you guys juggled your whirlwind lifestyle.  I do hope the bless for you both and Bryn.  If you guys need counseling, I would love to assist.  But Beth, you would have to be willing to listen.  You are very head strong.  And your therapist is too soft on you.

mommy2boys
mommy2boys

I dont think anyone that watched their show is surprised. Hopefully they can work it out.

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

This is hardly a surprise, as sad as splitting up can be it seemed to be very much documented in her show.  Well hopefully they will do what's best for the baby, even if that includes divorcing (toxic relationships are just as damaging to children...they witness everything).

salsa56
salsa56

She does reality TV. She should get help from Iyanla Vanzant and drop that shrink she was seeing. Her success came so fast. I'd hate to think it could have contributed to the demise of their relationship. Once at the top, when you can't get any higher, she'll long for someone special to share love and the joy of life. It's the one area in her life that is still lacking filled now only with friends. It's who she showed us she was on her reality TV show. She's a strong successful kind hearted person and has been inspiring to a lot of young women, but she still has a vulnerable side and I really thought Jason would be the one to be her rock. I am so sad for them both cause I had such great faith they would be the ones to beat the odds. I wish them both the very best.

zumba2013
zumba2013

 @carps839 leave her alone you dont know NOTHING about her. she can do better then him he is UGLY.

zumba2013
zumba2013

i hope they dont. on vacation he ask for a divorce what an ASS

zumba2013
zumba2013

YOU YOU YOU TYPE GIRL YOU MUST LIKE STUIPED UGLY MEN. TO EACH ITS OWN.

carlody
carlody

I feel the same way. Her voice is irritating and everything is about her. I'm surprised he stayed with her this long. .

zumba2013
zumba2013

YOU SAID THAT WORD RIGHT APPEARS TO BE NICE. THATS WHY I SAY NO ONE KNOWS WHAT HAPPEN IN THEIR MARRIAGE.LEAVE IT ALONE PEOPLE GET A LIFE.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@jennifer.o I read her "talk show" bombed? I haven't watched her show at all. I find her to be so annoying

Kessi
Kessi

Arrrggg so sorry I spelt the name wrong several times Bethenny :-)

lexusny
lexusny

@donna_1 I agree. She has a lot of issues that she should have dealt with way before she married Jason. I don't think Jason was mean to her. He was patient thats for sure. I hated how she treated his parents. They were so sweet. They adored Bryn,

bpster
bpster

 @whateverUsay Domineering? Would you say that to a man? You just set back women 100 years.....How sad is that!!!

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@zumba2013 are you 15? To each his own is right and we all can post what we think. I think she's selfish and rotten. One of those poor me type people. Mommy and daddy didnt like me wha wha, now husband was mean to me wha wha. I couldn't even imagine the crap he's put up with being normal and nice. She stayed pissed because the man loved his parents for gods sake.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@zumba2013 you are extremely rude and immature. Go to bed already as you should.

mhutch79
mhutch79

 @Jade333  @DawnfromMinneapolis   Exactly!  Neither one are saints and it takes 2 to make marriage work or fail.  But Jason is not completely faultless.  He continually dismissed her feelings by saying she was crazy whenever she would try to discuss things.  And he said it IN FRONT of Bryn.  Yes, she was a baby but still.  Also, he did seem to want her to make all the changes in the marriage.  It did seem like Bethenny was the one completely bending over backwards to resolve her issues and make things work.  You can only do that so much before you realize you just can't anymore without the other person meeting you half way.  

 

I hope they can resolve their issues and make it work.  

 

 

rooneygrl
rooneygrl

 @artemis2  @somershousewife  @nicohaakin  Jason and his family are Catholic. In the episode when Bethenny ask Julie to be Bryn's godmother she mentions that one of the factors, though not the primary one is that like Jason, Julie is Catholic.  Betenny's stepfather is Jewish hence her Jewish connections. It is correct that she is not practicing Judaism.