The RHOA star defends Mama Joyce's honor—and has a few words for Wendy Williams.

Dec 9, 2013 - The Dish0

It's been an emotional few weeks for Kandi Burruss: she's been caught in the middle of a feud between her fiance Todd Tucker and her mother, Mama Joyce. Her mom hasn't been quite sure about his intentions to marry her daughter and it escalated into an all-out war on last night's episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta.

Kandi dropped by the Watch What Happens Live after the show and many viewers wanted to know just what was going on with her mother presently. Why hasn't Kandi laid down the law about Todd? And is Mama Joyce really afraid of Kandi's marriage because it will risk Kandi's financial support?

"My mother she can be fine without my help," says Kandi, adding that she isn't currently speaking with her mom. "But I feel like as her daughter it's my job to make sure she's good. She made sure I was good growing up; I'm going to make sure she's good. I don't care if she doesn't like my relationship, that's my mom." Kandi begun to fight back tears, but managed to defend her mother's honor. "I'm gonna make sure my mama's good...she can have whatever she wants, because that's my mama."

Many have wondered how Mama Joyce came to dislike Todd in the first place—and it seems as if Wendy Williams' opinions of Todd (she called him an opportunist) were a contributing factor. Last night, Kandi had a few choice words for the talk show host sharing her negative opinions of Todd.

"Last year, every week, Wendy was coming on saying negative things about my relationship with Todd and then my mom would come back, 'Yeah, Wendy said...' Every week, and I was like, I don't care what Wendy said...let's ask her about her past!"

At that point, guest Fantasia Barrino also chimed in: "You better preach, girl!"

What do you think about the ongoing feud with Kandi, Mama Joyce and Todd? Tell us in the comments.

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49 comments
happygirl8491
happygirl8491

Kandi, you go girl.  I appreciate how you don't care what your mother or people say, she is still going to have what she needs from you.

I wish you every happiness in your relationship with Todd, just keep people out of it.  Best Wishes!!!!!

b4real7
b4real7

That's why I love you Kandi.  You are for real about what you do and say.  That is your MOTHER and you show much LOVE to her.  We have a  right to LOVE who we love but MAMA brought us into this world and we only get ONE; and she will be there when no one else is.  It hurts when the man you love and your Mom don't see eye to eye but if they both love you, it will work out in time.  Stay TRUE TO YOURSELF and everything else will fall into place.  The new tune is the bomb and I know your play will also knock the socks off of everyone. YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!

miagibson28
miagibson28

her friends nene and cynthia also phadra are being very supportive to her kandi with all her family issues really with her mom.

miagibson28
miagibson28

and i feel so bad sorry for kandi that she dealing with really all these family issues. mama joyce her  mother is so rude mean being disrespectful to todd.

dldismuke
dldismuke

I would really like to know the shade of lipstick that Kandi is wearing. It looks great on her...I heard its Ri Ri Mack? Does anyone know?

dclayt1
dclayt1

I think Mama Joyce is afraid that when Kani marries  her man she will be left out.  Kani  needs to just sit your Mother down and tell her that she is  marrying Todd don't ask her, and if she is not please with that then tell her she does not have to come around and that you and your daughter will visit her.  I know you love your mother and you will take care of her, you just have to make her understand that.

picosoriano
picosoriano

Kandi is a daughter any mother would die for to have, grateful, successful, loving and would do anything for her mother, The problem is Joyce knows this and tries to use it every she can to live her (kandi) life for her in a very selfish self serving manner.  While Kandi is so considerate of Joyce , Joyce can only consider her opinions with no regard for Kanidi's happiness nor what makes Kandi happy. I can not stand to watch how manipulative she is, guilting her by using the "mother" card. Kandi I don't want  you to disrespect your mother BUT you need to be able put your put foot down and LIVE YOUR LIFE. as you see fit FOR YOU. LIfe does not come with guarantees, when u make a mistake it's yours not your mother's so  you can learn from it. if she doesn't want to be part of your life. IT IS HER DECISION, not yours , although I know she can turn  that around to look like you're the mean one , choosing  your life over her. well. DUH!! All she does is disrespect you, your friends your lover and your relationship. I mean who goes to her daughter''s wedding dress fitting and slums the whole wedding idea. Come on!! that's  really really mean!! . All the best Kandi I'm pretty sure there is more to this that meets the eye and you might. need help to sort this all out. with a third eye, like a therapist, A good one.. All the  best.

MeanDonnaJean
MeanDonnaJean

Now, I dunno how old Mama Joyce may be and I dunno a lick about your family's health history and/or quality of its gene pool but what I DO know is that lately Mama Joyce has been actin' a tad "off". Either that or else all this time, prior to these recent "outbursts" of hers, she's been one helluva great actress. My initial gut reaction to her recent behavior was, and still IS, that perhaps a trip to her PCP or neurologist/psychiatrist is in order. It seems like somethin'  in her "snapped". Due to generations of familial history & the personal experiences that went along with it I also know that sometimes dementia/alzheimers patients experience these types of medical issues. For yours & your family's sake, I certainly hope that is not the case, but it IS somethin' to think about. I wish y'all well.

Paradise1968
Paradise1968

Did I hear right or what ? Kandi and Todd were talking about mama Joyce. Mama Joyce complaining because their were no pictures of her in Kandi's home. Did Todd say you need to talk to your mom ? Pretty soon the whole house will have nothing but pictures of her in "our" house ? Really ? Todd, once again appear to be a nice enough guy. But.........Kandi will lose her relationship with her mother. This has tarnished their mother daughter relationship as it is already. I hear some people saying Mama Joyce may need to be put on medication. If that is the case..Kandi needs to take heed and try to get her mama fixed. If nothing is wrong in the head.... I still feel mama feels something is not right. Let the storm die down, Kandi. I love Mama Joyce. I don't think this is about Kandi's money for her Mama. Kandi as I stated before will always take care of her mother. Know matter what. Mother's have a gut feeling sometimes. Let's see if Mama Joyce is right here or not. This will take time obviously.   

conishkee
conishkee

Money...money...money...money -- MONEY!!  Good grief, in reading the blogs, the all mighty dollar appears to be the unanimous consensus of what Joyce feels threatened most about when it comes to Kandi's relationship with Todd and it's a crying shame.  Where's the unconditional motherly love?  For Joyce to allow herself to act out like some spoiled immature brat on national tv is downright sickening.  I truly believe that Joyce will not be happy until SHE drives Todd away and Kandi's all alone.  The only thing Joyce will say to Kandi if that should happen (and I hope it doesn't) is, "I'm so sorry, but maybe it's for the best."  However, inside Joyce would be smiling from ear to ear.  She's not concerned for Kandi's happiness AT ALL!  Carmen was right when she told Joyce that she was acting like a fool.  I totally agree!  My opinion of Joyce is that she is not a well woman, and I hope she seeks -- or Kandi guides her to seek help from a therapist in order to get herself together so that she can live her OWN life happily.  Joyce gives new meaning to the phrase "misery loves company", doesn't she?

Portann
Portann

Sorry Kandi. The truth is that your mama is one shoe short of a pair. In more ways than one. I am sorry that somewhere down the road you were taught that such inappropriate and hostile behavior was "motherly love." It is your choice to expose yourself to such ugly behavior. But you can't expect others to tolerate it just because you do. They have a right to set boundaries. Hopefully you will some day too. 

willowsage
willowsage

I feel VERY bad for you Kandi. I'm so sorry to say but your mom is an EVIL woman. Very, very, very mean and violent  old lady. She doesn't care a thing about you. All she cares about is your money and what you're gonna do for her. Cut that mean old lady off and see how fast she turns on you. And I would NEVER let my daughter around that crazy woman. You seem like such a great person, she does EVERYTHING she can to make sure you're not happy. I had to turn the show off cause I couldn't stand to see that only womans meaness any longer. Cut her out of your life and you and your daughter will finally have happiness.

EmySmith09871
EmySmith09871

I don't think her friend had the right to ask her momma what she was doing "there" at the shop!  It is a family event - but, with that said if Kandi invited her - then her friend could attend.  I do think Momma Joyce needs to keep it private between herself and her daughter how she feels- just let her know and move on.  But, with that said - I also have 1 (ONE) daughter and I remember when my sister, her future mother-in-law and I went to see her try on some wedding dresses - I respected the fact that it was HER day!  These are suppose to be wonderful memories!  When Kandi said this was her first time doing this - it really hurt me as a mom to see her suffer when it was suppose to be special very significant day for her.  Thanks Kandi - You said it just like it is!!! I love the respect you have for your momma!  Ain't nobody can tell you NOT to LOVE or DO for your momma!  WORD! You got ONE MOMMA and when she's gone she gone!  As a Latino mom I know how momma Joyce feels for her daughter!  I can also respect that - and with that said Momma Joyce -  put it in God's hands and be happy for your daughter!  She is the one that matters:  Right!  Because, at the end of the day - as parents - we watch out for them - but, ultimately one day - they have to watch out for themselves and their future generations!

TinaDesiree1
TinaDesiree1

I get that often time these clips are sliced and diced to give real good t.v.  but I watch this show with my mother and we were appalled at Kandi's mother's behavior.  Kandi, you should always look out for mom but at what cost is it going to be that you get that your mother is manipulating her emotionally.  As a mother and parent we should want whats best for our children and at the end of the day when they become grown their choices are their own.  Joyce is horrible and has been horrible to the men in your life and now to your best friend who she at one point considered a daughter...Kandi you have learned to check out from the situation which is  not healthy.  Your mother took her shoe of because she was asked a legitimate question....why are you hear if it isn't to support your daughter?  On that day she doesn't deserve your respect ... she needs to know that your love her and care about he opinion to an extent but that is it.  The way she is behaving it would appear that she doesn't trust you to be the daughter she raised you to be...I hope you find peace and happiness out of this ordeal.

Ceci2468
Ceci2468

And I think that Mama Joyce's coming back to Kandi and saying "Well, Wendy said...." is just Joyce's way of manipulating Kandi. Do you really think that Mama Joyce cares what Wendy is saying???

leona.williams.737
leona.williams.737

I think that yes Mama Joyce is very over protected of Kandi, but what mother wouldn't be......Also Mamas can feel, and sense things that we can't.  I'M JUST SAYING

Notdesperate
Notdesperate

Khandi of course sticking for your mom because she raised you and gave you of the things a mothers does. I think they are talking about her behavior its very disrespectful and to watch an older lady behave in this manner is sad

nyjeri
nyjeri

Kandi you are handling the situation correctly. As you stated "Thats your mama" and she has always been there for you regardless , so yes, love her in spite of her short comings. Tod is your choice and that should be respected but at times thru life we must look further then what we see or hear from a person. I am an mom of adult "kids" too, like mama Joyce but I have a few kids, lol they take turns receiving my wrath, LOL im just joking. I mind my business unless asked and then they hear just whats on my mind. But getting old and feeling alone is no joke so maybe mama Joyce is simply feeling rather alone.. look further then what you hear her say. JMHO. ps. I can tell one lill thing about mama Joyce, she raised a grt.  daugther.      

dladson1
dladson1

In all honesty, Mama Joyce has gone too far. Kandi take care of your mother but don't allow this drama to split your relationship up with Todd or take away from your mom. This is all going to blow over soon. The bottom line is what is her real feelings? The issues that she deals with on the inside are now on the outside and for the world to see. Maybe this is all necessary so you can start to look at it differently. She has had one successful relationship in her life and that is you. Anything that comes in between that (so she feels) is a problem. Find out why? But do that off camera!

msnanabaileyis62@yahoo.com
msnanabaileyis62@yahoo.com

As a mom of two daughters, I was appalled at Kandi's mom for the way that she acted! As a mature woman (and I pray that she is a Christian), she shouldn't have resorted to a 'ghetto mom' mentality! I can understand her wanting more for her daughter but at 'what cost'? If her daughter is happy, cut the apron strings and let her go! Rely on what you have taught her and have more confidence that you taught her well! If Kandi don't 'break this cycle of aggression', she may find hersel doing the very same thing to her own daughter.

Momma Joyce, you shamed mothers all over the US for acting the way that you did! You actually did hurt your daughter's self-esteem! Now, she is 'torned' between the choices she is struggling with. It's okay to voice your opinion(s), just do it in a loving, graceful, and dignified way. It's just not okay to become controlling, irrational, and threatening. Unless you have viable, strong proof of Kandi's fiance and Kandi's best friend, stop making accusations. Make sure you have dates, time, and reliable confidantes BEFORE you throw out accusations. It DOES seem that you don't want your daughter to be happy! If this is not your intentions, then take a step back and put it ALL in God's hands! He most definietly will know what to do!

dannielle.meadows
dannielle.meadows

Kandi...we get it...that's your mom...by NO means should you ever disrespect or not be there for your mom....HOWEVER as a grown behind woman with a child of YOUR OWN you need to set boundaries with your mom b/c she is totally and completely out of pocket.  Wrong is wrong no matter how you slice it and IF you continue to allow her to sabotage your relationships...it will be you, your mama and her 2 miserable sisters 10 yrs from now all sitting around a card table playing bridge or whatever it is that old womens (yes, womens) play and drinking whatever brown juice she drinks that has her cutting a complete monkey on national television...IJS

Cassie1939
Cassie1939

Kandi continue to protect your mother as long as you do what you feel is right for you.  So what, maybe Todd is an

opportunist he better be.  He saw a nice girl who has the tricks in the bedroom, a boss, and a wealthy woman he

better take this opportunity because it may not come around again.  As long as he is kind to you and continues to have

a career with you and separate from you there is nothing wrong.  Nothing is promised to last forever but you enjoy this

ride, live for today tomorrow is not promised to no one.  Have you all seen Kandi in action this chick is not very forgiving you cross her and she may be done with you forever you better take notes her ex group mates, her ex co workers on her Kandi Coated Nights.  Todd is the one who better watch out.  Kandi will be just fine, trust in that.

tmickey
tmickey

Kandi, I love the fact that your mother is in your life, however you have to follow your heart.  Remember that she could not stand AJ until she realized that he made you happy at the time.  Just be you but sometimes you have to allow your mother to know how you feel in a respectable manner.  It is your life and you have to consider how Todd will affect you and Riley not your mother and extended family.  Do what is best for you but I think you two look great together and he compliments you.  Remember he was very productive before you two started dating

Thenewmrs2013
Thenewmrs2013

All I have to say is I would never allow my mother to come on a show and act a clown at 70 yrs old. I would hope & pray my mother would never disrespect me and I will never disrespect her. Some things should be done in private. I feel sorry for Todd. He should've left long ago.

lexigo
lexigo

Kandi, Todd its a keeper. Stop siding with your mom. Step up and defend him. 

Paradise1968
Paradise1968

Kandi, I have watched you and your mama for quite sometime. Your mother obviously is feeling VERY uneasy

with you and Todd. I believe she has a mother's instinct. Please wait. Your Aunt's and some friends are questioing

this relationship. Continue with Todd. Just put off the wedding for another year OR maybe two years. Fotr some reason I believe mama is right. I don't trust your girlfriend, Carmon. She is asking you to choose between you and your mama. Not !  

shebugg
shebugg

The problem "Mama Joyce" has with Todd is very transparent.  It is called GREED!    Her gravey train took on another passenger and she doesn't like it.  Your behavior is disgraceful.  You are not fooling anyone. 

charlie@company
charlie@company

Love Khandi to death & admire her as a talented & successful business woman & artist, but she & Mama Joyce need to enter into therapy to try & break the cycle of this dysfunctional relationship that they have had for years & learn to set some boundaries. Khandi......you are no longer a little girl & no mother who loves her child unconditionally would do what Mama Joyce is doing to you right now. Not only is she disrespecting Todd & Carmon, but she is disrespecting you & hurting you!!!! If you truly love Todd & feels that he is the real deal.....then you will stop fighting w/Mama Joyce & move-on w/Todd, but if not......that only tells us that you yourself are on the fence about this man!!!!

mutton
mutton

first of all  kandi i love u and all the things that u do but there comes a time 

when u need to lay the law down not being disrespectful to your mom or anything but let her know

that its your life and she need to back down because if not u may loose todd with the way she is talking about him and putting him down and for the matter of fact she is talking about u too and thats wrong because lastnight the guy that was at your wedding dress fitting said i remember kandi being a littltle on the tomboy side and he was shocked that u wanted to try on wedding dresses but i mention that because mama joyce said she not going to wear it anyway thats not nothing for a mother to say when her daughter is trying on a wedding dress  mama joyce is wrong kandi  and it makes todd feel bad because he love u  but there's tention between you'll because he think that u dont want to say nothing to mama joyce and u kinda laugh it off we all understand that,s your mama but she defintely over stepped her bounds in your relationship i had a close relationship with my mom too she's gone now but right is right  go back to what riley told u sometimetime u have to cut the apron string with mama's too i dont want u to loose what makes u happy but if u dont be careful thats whats going to happen todd wants to makeup with your mom but u need to defend him a little bit as well put a stop to it soon.

mbyrcan
mbyrcan

I have to say this. I felt so bad for Kandi last night on WWHL! I could see she is struggling witth the Todd / Mama battle. However, saying that she doesn't care what others have to say... hmmm. You had better start caring, especially if it's odd thats speaking. You are NEVER going to be able to have a healthy relasionship with anyone, including yor mother if you don't put her in her place.  I think your Mom is terrified of losing control to someone else and is trying any means neccesary to keep others out. Kandi..love your mom, take care of your mom, but you got to let her know it is your life.

jogamble
jogamble

Maybe if mama Joyce get a man, she can stay out of Kandi's business she is totally wrong in every aspect of the situation. Is she afraid her money is gonna be hurt does she want to keep Kandi to herself and watch over Kandi's money. I think she and Todd are a good match this is the happiest she been even with her other ex-fiancee who got killed. Kandi is in love Joyce let her go she is no fool expect when it come to you, you're forcing her to make a choice between you and Todd. If she's smart she'll marry Todd have their baby and keep it moving. 

Thatgirl23
Thatgirl23

Last nights WWHL was weird.  First, the only reason people have so much to say about Kandi or Fantasia is because they put all of their business out there for every one to see.  Second, Mama Joyce is out of line. Kandi is almost 40 years old.  Not only is she disrespectful to her daughter, but to the people that Kandi loves.  So in my opinion Kandi looked stupid sitting there crying.  I agree, run Todd.  Kandi will never stand up for you.

 

Fantasia sounded stupid and I can't figure out why she was even on the show.  

 

 

 

gidgi22
gidgi22

I think Kandi's Mother is being very selfish and GREEDY....I think it's ridiculous that Kandi lets her mother do this to her , it really is inappropriate behavior.....Clearly, All the Mother is worried about is Money she is grosser than Todd anyday....Your daughtres in love nbe happy for her she is not a dumb ass and gonna let some guy run away with  all Momma's money ...This is clearly about the mother and its selfish

myopinion2755
myopinion2755

Good for Kandi for supporting her mom with the web and twitter people. However, it is time for Kandi's mom to back down. She has said her piece and now she should let Kandi live her life. It will be very hard to rebuild this family (Todd and the 2 daughters) if this continues.

 

By the way this can not be sitting very well with Todd's family. Show some respect for the future family member who will have to relive this crazy mess via YouTube and in their personal lives..

with Kandi

 

I agree about Wendy.Her husband stepped out on her big time. Sure you have Hot topics but do people's personal crisis have to have your personal opinion everyday. State your gossip and move on.

 

Good luck Todd and Kandi.

Momma Joyce, let your baby girl have her life on her terms. She's got your back.

 

** other relatives at the wedding dress venue... sit down!

TXAAJ
TXAAJ

Bless your heart Kandi! I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with but respect you so much for being there for your Mama. Having said that, you deserve to be happy too & your Mama is stealing that away from you. I have always liked your Mama in previous years but I am concerned about her behavior now. Has she been in and had a complete medical check up lately? This kind of mean erratic behavior can be an indication of something going on with her medically. So I hope you will get her in & get a complete check up! As a Mom of 4 grown sons, I think you have the right to be respected also. My youngest son has really disrespected me in the last few years; at 1 point he didn't speak to me at all. So I know how it feels to have someone you love do this to you. And I also know what real disrespect is! I promise you that if you were to truly speak up & tell her how you feel & that this type of behavior is not acceptable you would not be disrespecting her. She is pulling all the joy out of your life & that's not right! Kandi, telling her how you feel is not disrespectful & insisting she stop is not disrespectful! So that's my 2 cents & though I know you have said you ignore all the comments made, I hope you will get her in for a complete check up! God bless you hon & I hope things are better now!

1Tazzy_Rhetta
1Tazzy_Rhetta

I'm glad that Khandi stands up and defend her mom but I'm also worried about Khandi and Todds relationship. I hope You stand up and fight for your relationship with Todd when it comes to her mom. It will be hard but it must be done if she wants to be happy. Mama Joyce seems to be the type of woman who is strong and has created a stronger version of herself through Khandi. I'm rooting for your happiness Khandi because you deserve it!!! Take that step so your relationship with Todd doesn't fail! If you need help, I'm sure Steve Harvey could help you!

Paradise1968
Paradise1968

 @willowsage You are so wrong to say that Kandi's mom is EVIL. That is a very nasty statement. Not even Kandi would appreciate that comment. I believe it's called love for her daughter. Concern. Fear that someone may hurt her daughter. Their is a fear in Mama Joyce's eye's. Let's all see how this unfolds. But, I wish only the best for the entire family.  

Diniva
Diniva

 @leona.williams.737 I think the only thing that Mama Joyce feels and senses are that when Kandi marries Todd, he may not let her take advantage of Kandi anymore.  I'll bet the aunts feel the same, too.  I wouldn't doubt if Kandi's helping them as well.  She's so generous and sweet, they all probably use her to the hilt. If what Kandi says is true, that Mama Joyce can do fine without her help, then why is Mama Joyce so worried about possibly being cut out of the pie?  She said it herself.

Paradise1968
Paradise1968

Didn't Carmon state something about choosing, OR she was gonna have to leave as she did want Mama Joyce talking to her disrespectfully.  

conishkee
conishkee

 @Paradise1968

 No, Carmen DID NOT ask Kandi to choose between her and her mother.  She basically stated that she had to make a choice to stand up for herself and defend the situation (and Todd) before it got worse!!

nycchar
nycchar

@shebugg For all I wrote above....you are right....above all else...its Kandi's mother that is the greedy one....she points the finger at everyone else trying to get at Kandi's money....but I have never seen a more vindictive, greedy, insenced, controlling, insecure, lonley, manless, living in the shadows of her daughter...mother. the Sad fact is that EVERYBODY SEES THIS BUT KANDI. She's going to be a very lonely and alone, young lady.

SimplyT
SimplyT

 @mutton

 You need an English calss ASAP!.  Sorry boo.

caycaye
caycaye

 @mbyrcan I really think you are right, that Joyce has a "control" issue.  I wonder why some people feel the need to be controlling?  SMH....sorry for Kandi...

jacklebee0404
jacklebee0404

 @TXAAJ

 I totally agree with your remarks.  Respect is not due to the elderly or our parents, and it isn't just issued out you do have to earn it.  I too liked Mama Joyce and how she tried to help the girls in previous seasons, but this season she has nothing on the biggest drama queens on the show.

I liked what Kandi's daughter said several shows ago she's on the right track.  She stated that it was between Kandi and Todd and how they felt, no one else.  You can tell Kandi and Todd loves each other and how she wants to start a new family.  Mama Joyce can't do that for her.  I'm surprise a mother would be tuning in on the things that Mama J does, we know that the material things can't bring you true happiness, I would think that you being self sufficient helps you to be truly able to find love.  I was so hurt at what she said about his ring.  Have we gone from what the symbol of the ring is for what it truly means.  Bu I am sure that you know all this Kandi and I don't think that Todd would still be around if he didn't know that you loved him.  Mama Joyce if you are getting a Bravo check for this season I am sorry it is not worth how you are coming across as a mother.  Kandi do you plan to emulate your mother with your own daughter, Think About It!! 

 

caycaye
caycaye

 @nycchar  @shebugg I really don't know if Joyce is greedy, even thought that certainly IS how it appears.  Perhaps Joyce is in the same old rut of enjoying "controlling" her daughter.  Obviously this is a pattern for Joyce, and Kandi has been "settled in" to her "role" for so long, maybe Kandi and Joyce don't realize the problem and how to make a necessary change.  Family therapy really seems in order to me!