Build your career, then plan a wedding she says.

Nov 17, 2011 - The Dish

Kandi Burruss of the Real Housewives of Atlanta
When it comes to relationships, Kandi Burruss believes in focusing more on the labor and less on the love.

"One thing I do tell women is, until you are married, you cannot put the man before your business," the Real Housewives of Atlanta star adamantly says to Essence. "I feel like a lot of times men are more successful than us because they always put their stuff first. If we're all caught up in a dude… we're going to do everything so we can keep catering to this man and slack off in our business. Guys tell us, 'Look, baby, I gotta get this money,' and we understand. Well, ladies, you gotta take that same type of mentality, and he just has to understand that you gotta do what you gotta do and that you'll be back."

Luckily for Kandi, this strategy's proving to be a success. The sexpert is currently seeing someone – although viewers won't be seeing him on RHOA any time soon. "He and I met or started dating at the end of taping, so I wasn't going to put him on the show. And I don't know if I would ever want to focus on another relationship on TV again," she tells the magazine. "Honestly, I feel like it puts unnecessary pressure on a relationship when you're dating on camera."

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