Her tip: "Fake it until you make it."

on Jan 10, 2012 - The Dish0

Kyle Richards of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills
Finding your happily-ever-after may require a bit of acting, The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills' Kyle Richards tells singles looking for love.

"Have confidence and be independent," the Life Is Not A Reality Show author tells Huffington Post about the ideal manhunt MO. "So many girls say, 'Well I don't feel that way.' I say, 'You can fake it. Fake it until you make it. You can fake that you have confidence and eventually it will come to you.'"

Then, after Cupid swings by and drops off a marriage certificate at your door, it's time to play by a new set of rules. "One of the things I tell my friends is to never put yourself down in front of your husband," Mauricio's love says. Those love handles? What love handles? "He doesn't see the flaws we see. You have to project an air of confidence and always be sparkling, fun and outgoing. Don't feel that once you're married the job is done... you have to keep working at it."

Any other last-minute pointers, Kyle? "I think it's really important to be your husband's biggest fan. I want my husband to feel that no one's going to treat him as good as me."

Do you agree with Kyle’s love laws? Start a Tweet Battle, and make your case.

13 comments
Boim
Boim

I don’t like fake peolpe who pretend they are something that they are not or pretend their life is perfect. For me, peolpe have to be real and honest about their life, their business. We can smell fake and authenticity is the only way to go. I beliive peolpe who are authentic will do better in business that aren’t.

Elaine M.
Elaine M.

I totally agree with you there Kyle! I am my hubby's biggest fan and supporter and he is mine! I'd kill for the man! We have been married for almost 30 wonderful years!!! Best wishes to you and your hubby!

Gel
Gel

I agree with Kyle nobody wants to be around negativity all the time. Your home is the escape it should be the one place where you can be in the bubble. As for faking it I think she is talking about confidence in eachother and yourself with that person.

haewon
haewon

The last thing I will take kyle's advice it will tiring to fake living with your husband...Faking is old asian gesia ways

LIZZY18
LIZZY18

Faking it and making an effort are two very different things.. Faking it is exhaustive and draining and does nothing to self motivate one.

Making an effort is rewarding, fulfilling and honest. I would not thank someone who "faked" with me... but totally adore people who make the effort!

So... I strongly disagree with this advice but am thankful it apparently works for them.

lulumay
lulumay

Kyle, that is true about being your husband's biggest fan. That speaks volumes to a husband! I have been married almost 30 years and the longer I am married, the more I realize how my husband loves it when I encourage him and support him. I also love it when he supports and encourages me. Love and respect on both sides is crucial! It is the thing that makes a marriage work.

I-told-you-so
I-told-you-so

In other words, do not be yourself. Is this really healthy advice to pass on to young women who were not born with your natural attributes? Everything is easier for the beautiful.

CervecerChic
CervecerChic

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KYLE - all the best for you this year!!!!!

Marge E.
Marge E.

Kyle, I would advise you to spend more time with your husband and concentrating on him and less time worrying about your sister. You enable her. Let her sink or swim and quit trying to save her all the time. You shortchanged Mauricio on his birthday by making a big scene with Kim. You should have ignored her. Cut off the air and out goes the fire. Quit feeding it. All the calling and texting. She is who she is and probably will never change so work on YOUR priorities. Listen to Lisa, great wisdom there. She was right on with her suggestions.

bev Manecke
bev Manecke

I am here to say.my husband is my very bff.we just celebrated our 30 year ann.in dec.we were high school sweethearts.we married at 17 and 18.we had are boys at 18 and 19.we are now only 47 and 48.i think men tend to get left out.every hoilday is just not about the ladies.make your man feel important.i have had a good life.i am blessed.keep your marriage strong.god husband then children.ladies we would of never had the children with out the men.dads are just as important as moms!laugh alot !have fun.40 something is fav.god bless your family to every one reading.bev!

Suzannea1
Suzannea1

Landing and keeping a husband. Really?

Nellie
Nellie

Hi Kyle my grandmother use to say: "a women makes a man". I took it seriously and I can say it really worked for me. I've been married for nearly 30 years, close friends and relatives would say we would'nt last not even a year. Keep doing what you are doing. About Kim, it's her choice let her have the experience, I really hope it turns out well. You keep achieving your goals and having sucess. I'm looking forward on reading your book. Blessings!

Katie32404
Katie32404

Kyle is my fav HW! There is nothing you have to fake Kyle! But you are right, on days when I don't feel well , I can fake myself into feeling better and when I do, I look better. It is a trick I live with ever day suffering with MS so I know it works! I won't give up and let life get me down and I know that I look great and get mistaken for 20 years my younger even suffering with this horrible disease. I would love to meet you girls, I so look forward to you girls every week! Katie