"...Whether it’s me or my mom..., we could have walked away," says the Married to Medicine star.

on Apr 23, 2013 - The Dish0


It takes a big person to take responsibility for something especially when that something involves hair being yanked... hard. And Mariah is taking the rap for her knock-down, drag-out tussle with Toya on Married to Medicine.

“I handled that situation poorly,” Mariah told Sister 2 Sister. “I do think I should take all the responsibility for that because whether it’s me or my mom..., we could have walked away.”

According to Mariah, the altercation started because she had heard that Toya had over-shared some of Mariah’s personal information, namely that Mariah's husband adopted her daughter and raised her, even though he isn’t her biological father. Unfortunately, they were both attending the same party which Mariah felt compelled to attend as she was co-hosting and presenting her hubby with a brand new car.

Toya approached Mariah, made a comment about her mom, touched her hair and that’s when the melee erupted.

“I handled that situation poorly,” she admitted. “I do think I should take all the responsibility for that because whether it’s me or my mom…, we could have walked away.”

“It did start with me. Everything started with me. She doesn’t know any better…. I was upset. I should have just not went to the party, and I could have really, truly prevented all of that.”

Of course Toya remembers the event a little bit differently. In her Bravotv.com blog she wrote, “I acted in self-defense! As you can see in the episode, I asked Mariah to be respectful and not touch me, but matters still got elevated.” 

At least both Mariah and Toya can agree that this never should have happened and they both acted poorly. Who do you think started it?

 

43 comments
kmeachem
kmeachem

This show is  ratched! 

Phatbombreloaded
Phatbombreloaded

Mariah I respect your decision to take responsibility for the fight but a fight does take two. It was very rude to pull you away from your conversation with the mess and when is toughing someone's hair offensive? Toya needs to take some responsibility for the fight also.

CarmenE
CarmenE

Toya was with out a doubt the one that started it.  Any one with eye sight can clearly see that.  Tonight which was the last show, showed us just how evil Kari and Toya are.  I really wish they would be taken off the show.  All the poles Bravo has taken have proven that the majority of viewers do not like Toya or Kari. 

nowbefair
nowbefair

The tape shows that Toya was angry about Mariah's Mother and refused to wait until another day, after things calmed down a bit, to talk to Mariah.  She interrupted Mariah while she was speaking to the guests, touching Mariah's hair the whole time. She went on to talk about Marah's Mom, but Mariah told Toya that Toya looked to pretty to discuss something negative and touched Toya's hair to accentuate the complement she'd just given Toya. Despite the fact that Toya touched Mariah's hair just moments earlier, Toya took offense to Mariah's now touching HER hair (which tells us she meant it as an offense when she did it to Mariah). Toya then THROWS her drink at Mariah, only then did Mariah hit Toya with her bag and the fight ensued. Everybody took Toya's side because she got the worst of the fight and because they were upset that Mariah arrived so late (which was rude, but it showed that as Mariah said when her sister first told her about Toya's comments 'I don't even want to go to that party and see Toya') so she obviously really didn't want to be there. Also earlier at the party Mariah rudely called the doctor (that took Toya to the bathroom to treat her wounds) by the wrong name. So she (the Dr) was peeved with Mariah too, which explains her siding with Toya for a long time.  But now that Mariah received an apology and said she accepted it, she should NOT allow her Mother to keep stirring the pot. We have ALL spilled the beans or repeated something we should not have. Forgiveness is an act that benefits the forgiver, holding on to anger can make you physically ill. Forgiveness doesn't mean that the person that hurt you was right in any way, but just allows YOU to keep it moving, thereby opening the way for God to 'forgive us our trespasses.'

bell02
bell02

Mariah I think you have taken a step that needed to be taken. Toya was not sincere everyone could see that, she has a lot of hate in her or is it a lot of jelous I don't know, but you just have to let people like that go, there's no help for her and after seening Eugene with the guys I see he is not much better. Alden is not ready to put all the bull  s**t behind. The man is hurt and I don't think it is all about his daughter, don't the guys get it this man know the trash these men have been saying about you and him, but now they think they can have a come to Jesus meeting over a glass of liquor and make everthing alright.

I think you did the right thing to tell your daughter to ask Mrs Toya why she could not attend the party, I say that because she ask you why you'll was not going to Mrs Toya party so why not let her ask. Toya did'nt like it because she did'nt have a nice and reasonable answer to give to the child.

Mariah I know you and your mother are close I love that, I'm a mother myself, but don't let her lead you to keep up s**t that can be put to the side and move on. You will never forget what she did but what good will it do to keep it going in a negative way and have to be with a person as often as you guys are. It's not about being the bigger person it's so hard to have such bad feeling about a person. It's not really hurting Toya she loves to make you look like you can't hold it, sweetie it's hurting you. It's so much easy to pray and let go and let God, you will feel a whole lot better.

GeeMom
GeeMom

Wow!  Where do you find some of these women?  Jackie and Simone are the only ones that remotely act like adults.  Unbelievable!  These women do not represent well.  It's a good thing no one gets to see the doctors personal lives - who would visit these doctors?  Yikes. 

charnorm
charnorm

Marriah, Toya is responsible for the fight, however, you women are supposed to represent doctors, and the wives has as much importance as far as appearance as they do. I am shocked at the behavior of all of you women who have money. As the song goes "Money can't buy you class", it has done nothing for you women. I thought the RHOA was a bad representation of black women or women in general in Atlanta, but you women are even worse because you are supposed know better. What is going on in Atlanta? Is everyone selling their reputations to be on a reality show? 

Back to Toya: Toya has an agenda, and that is to separate you from the other women. She wants to come across as being the injured person, making you look back. She contacted the other ladies ahead of you so she gave the impression that she was the bigger person. You ladies need to conduct yourselves with more dignity and class.

Marriah, it is okay to be on this show, however, you have a husband and you represent him in the public. Your behavior is not classy, and you should be ashamed of yourself to allow another woman to force your hand like that.

jcka1990
jcka1990

I don't see how it could be any clearer- Mariah handled the situation horribly!! How easy would it have been to have a conversation with Toya prior to the party, during the party, or even after regarding the ALLEGATIONS of Toya spreading rumors rather then passive aggressively act out. A whole two episodes later and Toya STILL doesn't know why Mariah is so upset. Does Mariah think she's a mind reader? And even if I had felt any sympathy towards Mariah, the way she handled everything after (particularly her crude treatment of her so called friend Kari) the incident cemented in my mind that she's a petty, prideful, and spiteful woman. Toya is a graceful woman who attempted to make amends. Mariah should learn some etiquette from this lovely lady!

peaches-S
peaches-S

Toya started the whole thing and fighting and gossiping is so wrong in every since of the act. And Karl is suspect - she gets everything so wrong she needs to check herself and her life and her friends she is so lost. its a shame someone get her some help please....

SharmagneW
SharmagneW

After reviewing the show again, it is perfectly clear that Toya initiated the confrontation.  She walks up and interrupts Mariah talking to another couple; then, starts talking smack about Mariah's mother in front of this couple.  Toya should have kept that conversation for another day.  Yes, Mariah could have walked away.  However, Toya should have never approached her in that manner.

tatsu.love
tatsu.love

I'm reading everyone comment. Yes Mariah and Toya was wrong for fighting at the party. But Toya should had her mouth shut for being disrespectful and she should had came to Mariah after the party or the next day to discuss about her mom. That was Toya fault she know what she was doing she like to start drama since the beginning of the show when she was starting with Quad. Toya don't know how to shut up and leave things alone but want to look like the victim. When Mariah consider her as a best friend told her her secret Toya open her mouth to people. I understand Mariah completely. Even though that Toya started the drama Mariah took full responsibility so i respect her for that.

cree324
cree324

Professional wives shouldn't have that level of immaturity within themselves. There's a level of respect and self worth that comes along with being a prominent member of a society neither of these wives reveal that level.  Mariah sister shouldn't have initiated that conversation regarding what she overheard in the salon; first of all did you actually hear Toya say anything regarding the baby? Women talk trash and lie when you are in a public eye. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that a baby was born prior to marriage...really!  Mommy Trudy should have stayed out of the limelight and let Mariah handle the situation.  Mommy Trudy your actions were ugly. I'm a brown Registered Nurse BSN and I can informed you ladies including Quad maybe you need to take a look at what you are displaying across the world and revise your actions.  Medicine is a serving profession and sometimes we, as medical professionals have to bite our tongue and do what's best for others.  I would love to lash out occasionally but it doesn't reflect who I am as a medical professional. You ladies are envy in the community so put your aggression towards positivity attributes.

 

 

oscarsmaman
oscarsmaman

Two hours late to a party in their honor? And positively reveling in their rudeness, they didn't appear to consider apologizing! And then, Mariah's mother picking a fight with Toya, behaving in such an ugly way.... What's even more incredible is how Mariah belligerently asserted that she could do whatever she wanted at Kari's house, as if a party thrown in her and her husband's honor gave her the deed to the place. Dear god, a more textbook case of money-minus-class, I've never seen before on Bravo...And that's saying quite a bit.

RR74
RR74

I stand that you run in certain circles and have to keep the peace with these women. If I were you however, I would stay away from the toxic class conscious British and the materialistic Toya. Only being concerned about what things on the outside is truly the tragedy of what I have seen about your show.

pyin
pyin

I don't see that Mariah is actually taking responsibility. I would like to know where this "confession" is coming from. When Toya was talking to Mariah she was non-confrontational and was trying to explain what happened with Mariah's mom. Toya gently pushed Mariah's hair back. That was totally different from Mariah (drunk Mariah) got up in Toya's face and started grabbing at her hair, and pushing Toya back. She was coming at Toya and Toya had nowhere else to go as Mariah had backed her up against the wall. Mariah threw the first punch and slap and Toya  THEN threw her drink in Mariah's face. But Mariah really does need to take FULL responsibility.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

Shame on you for discussing an innocent child's paternity at a salon.  It was disgusting.

bellatjhouse
bellatjhouse

I also have to disagree with Mariah saying she would never do that to another because since watching the show almost all of them have gossiped and that's the same thing Toya allegedly did. Gossip hurts! And ya'll, life is not about "the coins" and who has more than who but for the record the party was a joint venture that was paid for jointly! And I do agree that if you are a host you should not be late and you should help prepare. I like Mariah but I hope she does not let "coins" and trying to be Queen B totally alter her personality. That's not what life is about. If it was such a secret though, why did ya'll bring it up on the show, now we all know and Lauren has a bigger chance of being told now. Kudos to Dr. Aydin for adopting her. Need more men like that in the world!

bellatjhouse
bellatjhouse

I am glad Mariah did finally take responsibility. I understand that she was upset about Toya's ALLEGED overshare because at the time all she had to go on was salon gossip, and I was taught believe nothing you hear and only half of what you see. But I feel they all need to be completely truthful, Toya did not disrespect her first she was verbally attacked by her mom and she at the time did not know what was going on and even Dr. Simone said she would have snapped on Ms. Lucie but she did not. Shouldn't she get points for that.And Mariah was flipping Toya's hair not the other way around.When Mariah and her mom came in they were being disrespectful and ugly to everyone, Kari and Dr. Simone included because of what was on their minds and it seemed they were trying to start altercations. I kind of had to do a double take that in the end Mariah, her sister, her mom and even Quad all had a hand in jumping Toya, Ms. Lucie even hitting her in the head while she was being held- Whatever happened to fair fighting if you must fight??

Fluff
Fluff

It took u a minute, but am glad to hear the remorse. Everyone has done something they are not proud of, but unfortunately for you, it was done on national tv. Live and learn. Xoxoxo

toni.wilson.319452
toni.wilson.319452

You go! I like you...stay true to yourself. The truth was seen across America.

brownsuga21
brownsuga21

Great and i'm proud of you as i have always been for taking responsibility for this mess that transpired. Keep being strong and God's continued blessing on you and your family

 

nicole.lea.509
nicole.lea.509

I am happy to see Mariah take responsibility for that travesty, and she is right, she should have walked away, even as Toya should not have initiated that conversation as well. To be fair to Toya, she had no idea that Mariah was in fact upset with her at that time, and was primed for battle, although I don't believe that Mariah intended to start a war that night ... it's just that her emotions were primed for something like that to happen.

 

It takes a strong person to publicly admit they are wrong, so I respect Mariah for that, and hopes that she feels redeemed in her responsibility for what transpired.

valasar
valasar

I really feel Toya was out of line. I also believe that Dr.simone, Kari, and Toya were all stirring the pot. Mariah does not have any friends on the show other than Quad.

judy@london
judy@london

I think Toya started it,especially when she threw her drink in Mariah's face.Very few people would just walk away after that,but I love Mariah and I think it's great that she's being the bigger person.

Rebecca535
Rebecca535

Who cares?  Grown women do not act like that in public, period - married, single, gay straight, pink or blue.  It was embarassing.

Mrs_Baisden
Mrs_Baisden

 @jcka1990 Toya was trying to make amends.  While "Both" women were wrong, Toya is not without blame.   Mariah's mother could have said something at a better time and the same goes for Toya.  She approached Mariah while she was talking to guests, she didn't even know that Mariah was mad at her.

peaches-S
peaches-S

 @SharmagneW  I totally agree with you after watching it and rewinding it , it is perfectly clear Toya started fight and hit Mariah first and threw her glass at her, and yes she went over to Mariah and confronted her first about her mother after she had already done the unthinkable and gossiped about her daughter, which she know was disrespectful and out of line . Toya  is a total drama queen.

peaches-S
peaches-S

 @oscarsmaman really it was a birthday party.....yes i agree Mariah mother was wrong for hitting toya in the head. no i dont feel Mariah was wrong for defending herself , after toya hit her, no they should have not been fighting but it happen. and  i am sorry should have been said . and accepted and move on, but none of that happen.  

jerry.roberts.33
jerry.roberts.33

i agree with oscarsmaman, two hours late at her husbands party and then she had no excuse as to why. she didnt even return kari's phone calls nor come to help out. Mariah's mother was truly in the wrong. are these women really doctors wives WOW. it shows how some of the women on this show didnt come from a good up bringing. IJS!!!

jerry.roberts.33
jerry.roberts.33

Well as Doctor Jackie said and i quote " if you dont want your business told, then dont tell your business"

peaches-S
peaches-S

 @bellatjhouse if  you look back at other shows she's flipped toya hair before...but pass that Toya started with Mariah because of what Mariah's  mom said to her, she was going over to Mariah and check her on it. toya the drama queen.

peaches-S
peaches-S

 @Fluff Now its Toya the drama queen turn to make it right.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @brownsuga21 Does she take responsibility for speaking of an innocent child's paternity at a salon?  It was vile and disgusting.  She needs to get off her high horse.  Shame on any adult that drags in / gossips about a child. 

pyin
pyin

 @nicole.lea.509

 Remember , Mariah and husband spent two hours drivinground in a Limo getting drunk!! No apology for being so rudely late. 2 hours is not fashionable, it's classless and rude.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @Rebecca535 The most vile and irrevocable damage was done by an adult to an innocent child by discussing Mariah's child, Lauren at a salon.

TXAAJ
TXAAJ

@peaches-S @bellatjhouse Seems to me she was the one gossiping about her on child first!

kimkat1
kimkat1

 @MizzouTraveler  @Rebecca535

 First of all, who does that, NOT TELLING YOUR OWN CHILD THAT THIS MAN IS NOT YOUR FATHER, THE CHILD IS NOW 10, SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN TOLD THE LITTLE GIRL, IT is absolutely ludicrous!!!  Mariah SHOULD HAVE TOLD THE CHILD IN THE VERY BEGINNING, AS SOON AS THE CHILD COULD SPEAK!  I believe Mariah had no intention on telling her daughter the truth, it shows you what type of character Mariah has.  And also to the comments posted prior to mines, Toya did not admit it, she apologized because she didn't mean any malicious intent about talking about the so-called secret at the salon.  But she DID NOT ADMIT to informing everyone about the secret at the salon, those are two different things, talking about it and telling everyone about it is 2 different situations!

TXAAJ
TXAAJ

@MizzouTraveler @jcka1990 Toya admitted telling her hairdresser at her home not at the salon. If it was such a big secret, why did everyone else seem to know it already? Then too, why was Mariah running around telling everyone herself which she clearly did or, again, why did everyone else already know? Mariah showed up to the party gunning for a fight. The only reason she is admitting blame is to stay on the show which is probably the main reason she made such a big deal out of it anyway. Really, explain to me how adults knowing this "big secret" means her daughter will find out anyway? Do you run home & tell your children whatever gossip you hear? Besides, there is nothing wrong with being adopted & her daughter should be taught this. The person who appears to possibly be ashamed of it is Mariah!

christine.young
christine.young

I really think you mind your business! How dear you judge her on her family issues? I guess that is why she is married to medicine and you are not!