What's the best piece of advice you've ever gotten?
The best advice I have ever gotten was from my grandmother, who told me to "be true to yourself and always follow your dreams." She also would say, "if you have a good heart, it will shine through."
Between filming the show and being married when would you write the book? Did you have a favorite place to do it?
I wrote it very late at night from 10pm – 2am after the kids and Joe went to bed. I would nestle in the corner of my couch in the living room. It would be my quiet time to sit and write the book with no distractions.
What's one bad habit or tic that annoys you about Joe, and what's the one thing about you that annoys him?
I hate how Joe holds a grudge for a week when we don’t see eye-to-eye. I’m the type that likes to let it out and then let it go shortly after. Joe would probably say that I always take on too many things and then get stressed out and when I am stressed out that annoys him.
What are your and Joe's favorite things to do together when you don't have the kids?
Believe it or not having a low key night is what we love. We love to grab something quick at a restaurant and check out a movie. Friday nights we spend as a family with the kids and Saturdays we designate as date night.
Besides your husband who would you say you're closest to on the show?
Do the kids count? LOL. Actually, I would have to say Kathy. I spent a lot of time with her well before the show and we live our lives with the same values. It’s always been very easy to get along with Kathy. She was one of the first family members Joe introduced me to and I adore her.
Do you have a nanny or other help besides your hubby that help you on a day to day basis with the housework or kids?
No I don’t have a nanny or housekeeper to help me on a day-to-day basis. I try my hardest to leave the kids with my family when we have an appearance or event. I'm very hands on with my children and it's hard for me to leave them with anyone. I am blessed that my mom, sisters and my aunt are always able to help us. When they aren't, we do have a babysitter that also helps out especially when we are filming the show.
Creed! I love Scott Stapp’s voice. It just goes right through me.
Do you ever sing to Joe when you guys are at home?
All the time and especially when we are in the car. Joe and the kids actually know every word to all of my songs. We love music in our house.
What made you decide to write a book about marriage when you have only been married for eight years?
9 years actually and I think you need to create a solid foundation early on in your marriage or you won't make it 20 years. People always came up to us and wanted to know how Joe and I keep a fun, playful and flirty marriage. So we decided to share the tips and advice of what works for us. We had a lot of fun writing this book and shared the story of how we met, what tips truly work for us and why we are still as crazy about each other as when we first started dating. Writing the book for me was also a way to share more of how I grew up and became the wife, mother and person I am today. It’s something that I am proud to share with my fans and my kids someday.
Melissa, Currently I am reading your book. I find it to be honest, sincere and very sweet. The love you share is rare at best but so pleasant to read about. Your difficult memories must have been hard to write about, but I remember the episode where you asked your mother and your aunt's permission to include them in the book. Good Luck with your book and your music career.
Quote from Melissa, "That rule doesn't apply to family, you have to be more forgiving and let things go". So Melissa, forgive your sister in law for being a gossip and move on!!!
You claim to know how to 'fight right' with your spouse, but how about your other family members? You have gone over the top carrying on the feud w/ Teresa, and your husband right in the ring with you. You act like a grade schooler "who said that about me?", "who told you that?", "she likes to talk behind my back" , "I am going to find out who started that rumor", ect... Mature and secure people know how to ignore immature behaviour of others, thier reputation is not based on gossip, it is based on them keeping thier mouth shut, and minding thier own business. Even if Bravo paid you for your script, you should be ashamed of yourself.
wow,,,,,,i cant stand Melissa,,,shes a want to be,,,,,,ur sing sucks,,,,,,ur husband is a disgusting little wimp,,,,Melissa u wouldn't be here if it wasn't for u whining to get on the show,,,,allm u housewives should try to get a real job,,,,jaqualine,theresa,caroline,kathy, u all need a real job,,,,,same with Melissa !
OMG... all of her answers center around her... and she really gives no answers to the Questions...BRAVO come on .. take out the trash... Melissa and Joe have had way too much air time...I would rather watch paint dry
I guess she would. It's her book about her life with Joe. Who else would she talk about!
Bravo come on get over the feud! Melissa is a pain in the arse. So conceited and really not that good looking. Love her husband though. He's a good looking man. Reminds me of one of my cousins.
So melissa get over yourself. You can't sing and your book...,i didn't read it but how do you give advice when you've not been married that long?
Why did Joe call his workers the N WORD when he sat down with Chris?
Most people know Moulan is ITALIAN for N you know the rest. If you rewind and listen you can here him say it.
I can't believe Bravo didn't cut it they tried to but didn't succeed. PEOPLE LISTEN CAREFUL to that scene.
Sometimes, you can't have it all. Being a POP Singer and raising 3 kids... you said it yourself, your kids come first... and the demands of that type of fame are too high... it's great you can sing.. and that you cut a record or two... just leave it at that. Be careful.. you see what happens when you get famous and when you declare your love for the world to see.... odds are something will fall apart. I thing you guys (you and Joe) are great.. I am not a big fan of Teresa's and her day is coming.. I would hate to see the same thing happen to you. Just enjoy your husband and kids and all that you are blessed with. Don't push it any further..... make your $$.. put it away for a rainy day and enjoy your life!!
Oh my. If you did not get along with Teresa, then why did you go on the Show? Just to cause more trouble. There is always a troublemaker in every family. THAT IS YOU!!!
Now I understand why this "book" is so unreadable. You were writing it in the middle of the night. How you got someone to publish this nonsense is truly amazing. Your grammar is all of the place. And to top it all, you can't even keep your stories straight. Maybe you should of gotten help from Teresa on how to have best selling books.
With all due respect, "should HAVE gotten" is the correct way, instead of "should OF gotten".
"We had a lot of fun writing this book and shared the story of how we met, what tips truly work for us and why we are still as crazy about each other as when we first started dating." Notice the "We" wrote the book. In her interviews, Melissa talks about how "SHE" called Joe & that he fixed her dinner - now, we find out it was Joe who called her & he bought "take-out". And "amazing" that her house never gets dirty or that she is a whiz at cleaning a McMansion & has time to take care of 3 kids, have a singing career, photo shoots & still film RHONJ. And nice that all of her family take care of her kids, yet she ripped Teresa apart for letting Teresa's mother help her. Now that she glosses over how she & Joe actually met. Forgot all about "Lookers"?
Nannies, housekeepers, groundskeepers, PA (personal assistants), home management services, accountants, dry cleaning and laundry services,hired body trainers and exercise trainers, floral services that deliver fresh flowers regularly, hired personal shoppers, cooks, dieticians. bittersweet, do you really think Joe changes oil and cleans and vacums all thier vehicles, do you think Joe drives the lawn tractor around the yard to mow yard and pick up leaves and trims trees and hedges regularly, do you think Melissa cleans the entire house alone (and trains her kids to clean), and fixes all meals from scratch, puts her own make up on and does her own hair and nails regularly, do you think she picks her own flowers for around the house, washes all her windows?? For real...NOT!
You mean Bravos burning questions.
Can't think of two people who have questions for Teresa's sister in law.
Other than Bravo's post, there are plenty of folks who loves her and the others. I love how Teresa fans take the time to post just to be mean and nasty to the others. As if you knew everyone personally!
"As if you knew everyone personally!"
If you read what I actually wrote it says, "Can't think of two people who have questions for Teresa's sister in law."
Meaning "I". I do not know of two people who have questions for Teresa's sister in law.
Sorry if that was confusing to you. Glad to clear it up. :-)
I'm glad you loves her and the others. Feel free to post what and whenever you like *as you do.*
@Robinlynn @MeganNYC hey robin, do you know Melissa personally or are YOU Melissa? Hmmmm?
I wonder now that you have bookings every nite with your book signings and tv appearances if you have a little empathy For Teresa and the grueling schedule she's had for the last four years. I also notice you have no appearances to sing. Have you decided to give up on that.