The late Ashley 'AJ' Jewell will be in tonight's episode - Andy Cohen explains why.

Oct 15, 2009 - The Dish0

 

Andy Cohen spilled some Real Housewives of Atlanta deets in his daily blog, so bail out now if you want to be spoiler-free for tonight's episode! In the following excerpt from his blog, Andy reveals some big news surrounding NeNe's Daddy drama, and explains why production decided not to cut Kandi's scenes with AJ:

Who gonna check me, boo? I have exactly two more weeks of ATL (finale is next Thursday) to bust that line out, so just give me that time and then you won't have to suffer through it.

Tonight's episode is heavy on two counts: NeNe meets her dad (which is incredible) and there's a big storyline with Kandi and AJ that's tough to watch in the shadow of AJ's passing. Some of you may wonder why we didn't completely cut the scenes out, but we felt that would be wrong for a number of reasons. First of all, it would've minimized his role in Kandi and her family's lives — when we taped the show a few months ago he was about to become her husband. It would've implied that somehow his actions or behavior was somehow negative — they weren't. We think you'll appreciate our decision when you see what transpires over the next two episodes, and we felt that keeping him was the most respectful to his memory and to his family.

 

You can read Andy's daily blog right here, and watch a sneak peek of tonight's all-new episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta below.

 

 

58 comments
China
China

O.M.G!!! Sweetest Kandi, I am so sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you and AJ's children. I know i can sit here and tell you a million and one things to comfort you but truth is nothing will at a time like this, but keep this in your heart and thoughts... at least AJ left with the comfort of having your mother made peace with him in mothers day, and letting him know that he was a good person, father, not to mention good enough to marry her daughter. "NO HARD FEELINGS".

LaDeene from Houston
LaDeene from Houston

I want to send my deepest sympathies to Kandi and her and AJ's families. My heart aches for you because of the loss and not having the support from your mom on your engagement. God bless you. I know there is not really anything that one could say that can take away the healing, but just know that there are fans that love you and are praying for you. Keep your hand in God's as you walk thru your journey.

Anita, WA.
Anita, WA.

Kandi, i am so sorry for your loss.I have loved watching you on the show.You are a very strong and wonderful person,and for that ,it will help you to get thru the sadness that you must feel right now.If I was there I would give you a great big hug.Hang in there.

From the former ATL chick
From the former ATL chick

This was a shock to see the end of the show an the memory to AJ, it just took us for a loop. As we watch we can only imagine how hard things must have been for u Kandi an his family. Our prayers, luv an open arms will be with u. We will never forget this date my 9th grandson was born on the 2nd of Oct. The Lord took AJ home an left us a lil angel in his place. God bless u,urs an AJ's family always.

nely
nely

kandi i feel so bad for you and have you in my prayers to give you strength.we are all curious as to how he passed, a young strong young man like he was.it's going to be a long journey and healing process for you and his family but you have thousands upon thousands of people that are praying for you dear child, may GOD BLESS YOU. nely

MDoyle
MDoyle

my heart goes out to Kandi and the family of AJ

fonda
fonda

could someone tell me what happened to AJ my heart goes out to kandi and all his family members i just love the show

Cat from OHIO
Cat from OHIO

Brava to BRAVO for airing the episode, as we all know we can't change the past- what's done is done! One can only hope that the healing process will be swift as there's a lot of raw emotion in the ATL!

Evelyn, Sacramento, CaViewer
Evelyn, Sacramento, CaViewer

Kandi,Riley and family of A.J., I am so deeply sorry for the loss of A.J., and at such a young age. I know that you loved him dearly as he did you and that your pain seems practically unbearable right now. I know how hard it is to lose someone that you love so much. I lost the love of my life in 1996, we had a very loving relationship, we had been together since 1979, he helped raise my three children and then we found his twin daughters that had been abandoned at the age of 3 months by their mother in Hawaii and we raised them together we were a blended FAMILY. The kids all grown now, some your age, and some older, but we're still all together. My mother never approved of my husband, she had no reason not to, that was just my mother, and she definitely was against me raising the twins, fortunately my father had a good relationship with him and encouraged me raising the twins. My father passed in 1991, when my husband passed suddenly, I called my mother to tell her and all she said was well I can't say I'm sorry or even that it was possibly inevitable(??????), all I really wanted from her was to ask if I was Okay, or to say something to help lift me, I just neeeded her, instead I think that it just left a hole deeper in my heart than was already there. I still miss him everyday, with time has become easier, but he will always be in my heart, mind and spirit. My heart and prayers go out to you, I hope that everything is okay with you and your mother and that she is being the support that you so desperately need right now. From the very begginning when you came on the show I have adored you, you are the most loving, genuine, kind hearted, REAL person on the show. Your mother should never worry about any decisions that you make, she raised a wonderful person with all of the best qualities. I love you dearly Kandi and wish you all the best in all ways, always my prayers are with you and your family at this very, very difficult time. That is nothing in this world that I would rather do than to meet to and just sit, listen, talk and to be there for you. You are a PHENOMINAL WOMAN!!!!!!! God Bless you, Be With you and Protect you, may you feel the brush of Angel's Wings holding you. I was so shocked to find out A.J. passed, I just barely saw the episode that had the memorial tribute at the end of the show, I was totally shocked. No one has said, what happened? Just know that he's still with you and there will be little signs and you'll know.

eisha
eisha

omg kandi im so so sorry for you lost i wishing you in yours very weel durin this hard times stay strong in keep your head up you in your our in my prayers always

DE DE
DE DE

I AM DOLORES I AM ALSO SORRY FOR KANDI'S LOST KANDI IS BEAUTIFUL AND I WOULD BE HAPPY TO BE A FRIEND OF HERS SHE IS SO DOWN TO EARTH AND DOES NOT JUDGE PEOPLE BECAUSE OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK GOD BLESS U KANDI STAY STRONG

Ms Kweet from Rochester, NY
Ms Kweet from Rochester, NY

Andy, hats off to you for doing such an awsome job on your show!! To Kandi and her family..my heart and prayers go out to you/yours for the great loss experienced. May the spirit of "AJ" always be with you in a good way. Out of all of the ladies on ATL Housewives, I absolutly LOVE "you" the best because of your realness,, positive energy,, inner strength,, inner beauty,, on-going support of others,, enthusiasm,, and most of all: YOUR LOVING SPIRIT!! In spite of your success, you have NOT forgotten where you came from! I have yet to witness you tearing anyone down or demonastrating the image of a "hater" and you are always, always giving back..you inspire others by your encouraging words & actions. Please keep being who you are: A "dynamic sista" with a great deal of talent! Please don't EVER change! Wishing you much success..for YOU deserve NOTHING less!! Might I suggest a annual MEMORIAL Service be established in honor of AJ and to insure that his memory is always kept alive in the hearts of those who loved him. Blessings to you/yours.

Ms Kweet from Rochester, NY
Ms Kweet from Rochester, NY

Andy, hats off to you for doing such an awsome job on your show!! To Kandi and her family..my heart and prayers go out to you/yours for the great loss experienced. May the spirit of "AJ" always be with you in a good way. Out of all of the ladies on ATL Housewives, I absolutly LOVE "you" the best because of your realness,, positive energy,, inner strength,, inner beauty,, on-going support of others,, enthusiasm,, and most of all: YOUR LOVING SPIRIT!! In spite of your success, you have NOT forgotten where you came from! I have yet to witness you tearing anyone down or demonastrating the image of a "hater" and you are always, always giving back..you inspire others by your encouraging words & actions. Please keep being who you are: A "dynamic sista" with a great deal of talent! Please don't EVER change! Wishing you much success..for YOU deserve NOTHING less!! Might I suggest a annual MEMORIAL Service be established in honor of AJ and to insure that his memory is always kept alive in the hearts of those who loved him. Blessings to you/yours.

Angela Johnson
Angela Johnson

I'm so sorry to hear about AJ's death and can't explain the feeling of losing a loved one but everything will be alright because GOD says so. He will put people in our lives for a brief moment for experience and reasons that we don't have a clue about until later, how much later I don't know but may he bless all that has endured a loss. Khandi our prayers are going up above for you and your family. Please be strong because you know that he loved you against all odds, and you know what he would say and that might be what we all would say if we had last words, "BE STRONG". Love ANGIE and family

celee
celee

I heard yall are doing a D.C. show.Why don't you go to where the REAL HOUSEWIVES are DALLAS! Everything is bigger in Texas check books, drama, bling, cars. Think about I think it would be a GREAT show. None of the other housewives got nothing on Texas!!!!!!!!!

cindy in la
cindy in la

Sorry 4 what happend kandi I wish you and his family the best

Brianna Kuenzler
Brianna Kuenzler

My questions is why was NeNe still wearing the tag to her shirt/dress in tonights show??? Did she plan on returning it?

evie santiago
evie santiago

andy.i feel so sadden by the loss of kandi's fiancee. i feel her mom should of just been happy for her daughter. life is so short.

salina
salina

wow!!!!!!i hope kandi is taking it ok i hope her the best

dbyrd
dbyrd

I really feel bad for Kandi,she was already caught in the middle of feeling like she had to choose between her fiancee and her mother.Now this happens,I can imagine how she feels,my prayers go out to her & Aj's family.

She seems like a really good and down to earth person and had much respect for her mother & her fiancee.

I Felt like her mother should've gave Aj a chance because you can't judge a book by it's cover or go off of someones background, because people do change.

So,you are in my prayers Kandi& I hope you feel better real soon.

Renita B.
Renita B.

Andy.... I love watching Live by Bravo!!!! And could you do me a favor. PLEASE STOP PLAYING TARDY FOR THE PARTY OH OH OH1!!!!

EmmaRid
EmmaRid

Tonite's episode is heavy. I just want to hug Nene! How can her father be that cold! that cold. He did not even stand up to greet her with some affection or even have some class to meet her at a descent place instead of the roadside. I almost want to cry. Is that what fatherhood has been reduced to?

Yvonne from Indiana
Yvonne from Indiana

I am so happy for Ne Ne for you see I have recently revealed my son's true father to him after 22yrs. I have many reasons why i chose to do this. I have seen how one can heal on both sides of the family. My thoughts and prayers are with her during her long journey!

nehaneiahowell
nehaneiahowell

I was sadden by the hearing of AJ death.I always agreed with their relationship I liked the couple but my question is for Kandi how is your mother taking this whole situation,what is her feelings now. By watching tonights show really hurted me to see that Kandi is trying to bring peace between the two.It's heart-broken really.

mz kiki
mz kiki

well first i would like to send my prayers to a.j and kandi family. next i would like to know how kandi mom feels at this time is she still bitter or has reality hit that life is to short to hold grudges

Colleen from South Jersey
Colleen from South Jersey

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of AJ! What a blow to Kandi and her family. I just lost my father 2 months ago and I know how it feels to lose someone that you love so much. My heart and prayers go out to Kandi and her family, not to mention AJ's children. There is nothing better than a father's love!

HOUSEWIVES FAN
HOUSEWIVES FAN

I LOVE THE HOUSEWIVES OF ATL AND I WILL MISS AJ VERY MUCH AND MY HEART GOES OUT TO KANDI AND THE FAMILY, BUT WHAT WAS THE CAUSE OF HIS UNTIMELY DEATH? ALSO, I BELIEVE IT WAS A GOOD IDEA TO SHOW THE EPISODE OF KANDI AND AJ CAUSE THEY ARE VERY MUCH A PART OF THE HOUSEWIVES OF ATLANTA. LOOKING FORWARD TO THE SEASON FINALE.

sb from lancaster, sc
sb from lancaster, sc

First I just want to give my deepest sympathy to Kandi I am very saden by the death of her fiance' AJ girl I was rooten for u girl. But I just wanted to no how you are holden up girl? I am one of your biggest fans since them excape days girl you no what i'm talken bout.But I do wish you and your child as well as AJ kids the best in the world on your healing process. Keep your head up girl with love sb.

cute toes
cute toes

I was truly sad at watching tonight's show with AJ and Kandi. What can we expect in the future as far as him being gone. I am praying for his family and for Kandi and her mom because I know that had to hurt with all the problems they were dealing with in their relationship. Let's just pray for his family and having to deal a real reality.

The Queen
The Queen

I think it is awsome that AJ's part was not cut out the episode, as long as it was o.k. with Kandi. Meaning it was not merely away to boost ratings tonight. I really don't see the big deal with the use of bitch by Kim, although a lot of women may not;I have girls who we sometimes refer to each other as bitch and others who don't.

william torres
william torres

kandi,never loose your faith on god,this another way in ourlifes to grow,i know ur a strong woman ,everything always happend for areason,aj will be looking out for you,u r one of my favorie housewife,ur the most sweetees.......be strong aj,and god will be always with you,willie

Monika's
Monika's

What happened to Aj? I never herd what happened.... I feel for Candie, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love Monika

missthang09
missthang09

It also had me teared up about aj and seeing him on tv knowing that he is now gone to be with our father! My prayers go all to Kandi his kids and family!

jsgurl09
jsgurl09

can u plz tell me what happen to kandi's fiance aj

chelle
chelle

Im glad they didnt cut the sense out cause its reminds u who he was....

Jaclyn from San Antonio, TX
Jaclyn from San Antonio, TX

i cannot believe the loss of Kandi's fiance, AJ. total shock and express my condolences to his family, children, and mostly to Kandi who seemed really in love with him. :(

chindo babe
chindo babe

I was truly shocked to hear about the news about AJ. I'm just wondering, how did he pass away?

dedicated watcher; AL
dedicated watcher; AL

I am shocked and my very saddened by Kandi's fiance'. They both seemed so in love and really deserved a happy ending. My heart goes out to her and all of the family members and friends in this heart breaking tragedy. God Bless!!!

Deborah Perrian, Fairlawn, Ohio
Deborah Perrian, Fairlawn, Ohio

Kandi, Im saddened by the personal loss to u, ur family & his family. God as a reason.

*I definitely would like to know what is the reaction of ur mother now that this has happened to u?

Stay strong in faith, as you & all of the children involved will keep his memory an honor among you all.

**Kandi, unfortuately and fortuately this tragedy in ur life will help you as you pursue ur music career. U will be stronger and a more emotional singer as AJ will be a part of ur spirit. I truly wish you the best, Sista!!

Mz wynn
Mz wynn

i am truly sadden by the passing of Aj and i send out my prayers and my heart to the family i will continue to pray for you all even though he is in a better place just know that you will see him again.

gone too soon but never forgotten always in our hearts God Bless You All

Mz Wynn
Mz Wynn

i am truly sadden by the passing of Aj and i send out my prayers and my heart to the family i will continue to pray for you all even though he is in a better place just know that you will see him again.

gone too soon but never forgotten always in our hearts God Bless You All

Mz Wynn
Mz Wynn

i am truly sadden by the passing of Aj and i send out my prayers and my heart to the family i will continue to pray for you all even though he is in a better place just know that you will see him again.

gone too soon but never forgotten always in our hearts God Bless You All

Rena from Tampa,fl
Rena from Tampa,fl

Ne-Ne i understand where you coming from i never knew my father the man that i though was my father wasnt and my mom dint rise me neither my grandmother did and i hurts sometime because i ask why but god has made us out to be pretty young womens and we can get though this it will take time but time heals all, all things and kandi am so sorry about your lost may god be with you and your family and his family to.

angeandre4
angeandre4

It was the right thing to air the show as it was prior to AJ's death. I was sadden by his untimely and unfortunate death. My heart goes out to his family and his kids.

Kyra
Kyra

I am truly sorry to Kandi about AJ passing away so sudden. I just recently had my fiance pass away August 13, and I am currently six and a half months pregnant with his only child. I know how hard it is to wake up in the morning wishing the one you love will come walking through the door and how every little thing reminds you of him, but he is in God's hands safe and sound. He will always be there everyday helping you get through, and the memories you have shared will never be forgotten. You WILL meet again!

E'Verne Pyfrom
E'Verne Pyfrom

It's really sad to hear about Kandi's fiance'; It just teaches us to appreciate & luv our love ones while they're her. I just hope her mom would realize w/in her that she raised an intelligent beautiful daughter who seems to be a strong independent woman capable of making a good choice. Even if she doesnt everyone makes a mistake & I just hope it doesn't cause any remorse.

My deepest sympathy:{