"I fought for full custody of my son," he explains.

on Jul 10, 2012 - The Dish0

Slade Smiley

Slade Smiley has some words of his own for Tamra Barney, Vicki Gunvalson, and anyone else who's fired daggers in his direction.

"The most disheartening was obviously the whole ‘deadbeat dad' accusation," Slade, the longtime squeeze of Real Housewives of Orange County's Gretchen Rossi, shares with Wetpaint. "That was the hardest on me, because I had full-custody of my kids, and I fought for full custody of my son."

Slade's son Grayson suffers from diffuse fibrillary astrocytoma and a brain tumor, and once the economy took a nose dive, Slade explains that he could no longer keep up with the 11-year-old's mounting medical bills and his previously set child support. He's filed for reduction of support and says, "I was ordered to pay almost $4,000 a month, which means the first $8,000 I make, half goes to taxes, half goes to support. So I'd have to be making 20 to 30 grand a month to keep up with that type of order. And I just don't have that type of job anymore."

Now trying his hand at radio hosting, Slade admits the negative "deadbeat" buzz was just another blow to his pocket. "It affected my ability to earn for my son. A lot of my contracts, they got cancelled. So by those girls, using me as content, and making those accusations, they literally hurt my ability to earn for my son. If they were so concerned about him, why would you make such public accusations? If you want to help, do a charity event. Come and ask me what the truth really is. How can we all work together to help him and kids like him?"

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6 comments
ElkSong
ElkSong

Slade, this is my humble opinion - not that you asked...but...

I think that the 'real' you needs to come out now. When you were making all of that money, it was hard to see that difficult times were coming. Hindsight is 20-20, and we all could have learned to set more $ back for our kids, in times of trouble, instead of driving the latest car, and having a huge home (filled with uneeded crap). No one needs that much space or stuff.

That being said, I think you are a good dad that really loves his child, and you're not getting a fair shake.

Gretchen just doesn't seem to be 'the one' for you.She's way too independant and opinionated (which isn't a bad thing! but she's too much for you, and it depresses you).

You need someone who is sweet, kind, and not so ...elevated. Just a down-to-earth girl, who is good to your son, and can be a partner in your life, someone that will help you through the hard times, and vice versa.

Slade, you want someone to walk side by side with you through this life...not 3 feet in front, and you don't want someone who is 3 feet behind that you control.

Shake off the 'rich boy' shackles, the ego, and stand up! Become the caring man that is just behind that facade - you can do it right now. Good luck and Godspeed!

HousewifeinNH
HousewifeinNH

If the women were that damaging to you, why would you associate yourself with the show at all? And how do you feel about Gretchen becoming friends with the woman who did the most damage with what she said about you?  It's hard for me to feel bad for someone who doesn't know enough to take his hand out of a flame. 

NeutronBomb
NeutronBomb

We love you Slade and support you all the way! The viewers are smart enough to do our own research and know the truth...no matter what Vicki screeches!

RuthAnne
RuthAnne

Slade,

 

I remember the first season of the housewives when you were with Joe (Thank God You Got Rid Of Her. Sorry) You were fantastic with your children. I honestly believe if you were with a better woman at the time things probably would have worked out better.

 

I never thought you were a dead beat dad. To me a Dead Beat dad is someone who doesn't even try or care if they pay for their children. Honestly I believe Vicky truly meant her nasty words. Because she is jealous of what you and gretchen have together.

 

However, I know Tamra said horrible things aswell but I trully believe she has always liked gretchen but, was not able to befriend her because of Vicky. I think it is great that now that Tamra and Simon are divorced she now seems to have a strength not even Vicky can scare her out of. That is why I am so happy she had the courage to go to Gretchen and appologize

this year.

 

I only hope that this means you will get you apology soon and then maybe they will all do charities for you.  In all honesty you should ask your fans to help with charitable events I'm

sure a lot of us would love to help.

 

I wish You, Gretchen, and your Children the best of luck

 

Ruth

lily1234
lily1234

Slade,

Your girlfriend is also not being very supportive why in the world woud Gretchen become friends with someone like Tamra after she caused you so much finacial loss.  If someone did such a thing to my husband I would never become friendly with her/him. show or no show.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

I've said the same thing all along Slade. Your son even if protected has read or heard that mess to. My point was, here's a sick boy who loves his Father and these women are saying,"He don't want to take care of you". It's awful! I also commented everywhere for people to watch early seasons of OC. Your boys were with you a lot and only fusses we saw you have with then girlfriend was because if it didn't include doing things with or for the children you didn't have it. It's clear how much you love your children! Always has been to those who looked at facts!