The newlywed hints she did it to get back at her frenemy.

on Aug 22, 2013 - The Dish0

When Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Barney and husband Eddie Judge walked down the aisle in June, Heather Dubrow and Vicki Gunvalson served as bridesmaids.

It likely won't surprise fans that Gretchen Rossi was not asked to join the wedding party—the two have long had their ups-and-downs. But in a new interview with TV Guide, Tamra is speaking for the first time about why she didn't ask Gretchen to be a bridesmaid.

See Tamra and Eddie's Engagement Photos

"We started in a bad place and then tried to put the past behind us, but she isolated herself," Tamra says of her relationship with Gretchen. Tamra may have also taken offense to not being included in a big moment in Gretchen's life. "She didn’t invite any of us when she proposed to Slade [Smiley], so why would I put her in my wedding?," says Tamra, adding of the snub, "She had no answers and tried to sugarcoat everything."

It seems Tamra, who planned her elaborate wedding in just five weeks, was only focused on the ceremony going smoothly. "I didn’t even realize how stressed-out I was! But on the actual day, I was so calm—just at ease and peaceful."

Tamra's OC Wedding premieres Sept. 2 at 8/7c on Bravo.

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88 comments
kFrone
kFrone

Gretchen is the lucky one - to not be tainted with this train wreck.

 

golfcar48
golfcar48

I liked you this year until you started hanging out with Vicki again.  You two together are poison apples.  You keep hanging out with her and you won't be married for long.  You say Gretchen lies all the time...ae you kidding me?  I think you need to look closer at your friend Vicki.  That woman tells more lies then she can remember.  Shame on her and shame on you for enabling her bad behaviour.  Grow up!

nwfoghornleghorn
nwfoghornleghorn

Why would Gretchen even want to be in Tamra's wedding.  She should count herself lucky.  Tamra has no friendship loyalty.  She hops from friend to friend depending on who meets her needs at the time...when she's friends with Vicki she trash talks Gretchen.  When she's not getting along with Vicki she turns to Gretchen for a friend.  When Vicki throws several hissy fits at Tamra until Tamra forgives her...then Tamra ditches Gretchen at the bachlorette party that Gretchen took the time & care to plan for her.  That's not what I call a friend.  I would never speak to Tamra again....or I would "isolate myself from her", as Tamra calls it.

Tamra is not a friend.

JennAnderson
JennAnderson

Also Bravo to Brianna for standing her ground, she is definitely my kind of girl.  Say it with a no holds bar attitude.  She may need to help her mom get there. Brooks is gross...

sharij
sharij

Time for Icky Vicky, Tamara and Lydia to bid us all farewell!

Apple12
Apple12

You were better off staying friends with Gretchen, she brings out the nicer person in you. I used to really like Vicky but she acts like a spoiled child when she can't have her way. She is always saying one thing but does the complete opposite. She teased you about the bracelet with Gretchen but then had to out do you and buy you a bigger/ better one.. Hello, is she were a true friend she would let it go because if I remember correctly, you bought it for Gretchen. A true friend would have said "what a nice gesture" and move on.

rudy90210
rudy90210

Bravo please class up the sad state this show is in. OC is represented with some of the worst liars, fame hungry and trashy,,, folks, Ive seen on the HW shows, and it just won't do! They are seriously getting transparent in juvenile proportions. I'm sure these old gals are plotting out their shenanigans as I type right now,,, and they just aren't good enough at it. Sometimes I think I'm watching the worst screwball comedy/tragedy ever made!

KitchenAmmy
KitchenAmmy

Tamra, is it hard to eat with two faces?

MangoBeach
MangoBeach

I can't stand you on the show...why would I watch your wedding!!??

0815
0815

WOW....reading the previous posts makes it pretty clear most people liked you when you were friends with Gretchen and do not like you very much now that you have stabbed her in the back and reignited your friendship with Vicki. If you don't wake up Tamra and change your ways, I think it is pretty obvious you along with Vicki may bring this series right down the tube!  I am sure there are some "truly nice" ladies living in the "OC" that would love to take your places.  It ought to be interesting to see how viewers tune in to watch you wedding show...gee and Gretchen is the only one criticized for doing something elaborate for television...amazing...how's that glass house your living in Tamra? 

tallwvguy
tallwvguy

Tamra, you are my favorite!!!  I just love you!!!  I hope you and Eddie are happy together!!

JudyMcGoo
JudyMcGoo

Tamra, you are mean and ugly through and through ... you attempted to reinvent yourself this season with your fake tears of ..."oh this is why I was so mean, but here is my new leaf"... guess what, the other side of the leaf is just as mean and ugly.  MEAN GIRL.  Pa-lease if you weren't on this show, your husband wouldn't be near you -- pass those tums this way ;(

drakey
drakey

Really, it took her that long FIVE weeks! since it's number 3 she should practically be a pro!

Maria72753
Maria72753

Anyone have a Tums?    Rolaids?    Help a lady, will ya?

 

drakey
drakey

Click like if you ARE gonna watch the "Wedding Special"

Lubby
Lubby

I hope by Bravo making this show, that means you're off the Real housewives now? I'm down to Gretchen now, the rest need to be recast. Won't be watching your third wedding, just not a fan. 

erica8123
erica8123

5 weeks to plan your wedding!?  How long were you engaged for?  Since you hadn't set the date immediately that must prove your engagement was all for TV

resolute2012
resolute2012

I think the real reason Tamra didn't ask Gretchen to be a bridesmaid is because Gretchen is so much younger and prettier that standing at the altar she would have stolen the show from the bride as people would have been looking more at Gretchen than Tamra.  She chose Vicki because there's no competition in the age and looks department with Vicki standing there.

callie88
callie88

Tamra, how can you and Vicki say Gretchen's engagement was all about being on TV?  Wasn't your engagement televised on an episode last year?  And what about your wedding, is that not also going to be televised?  I am not a fan of Gretchen but what you did, leaving her out of your wedding party for spite was pure middle school, evil, mean girl stuff.  All I have to say to you is grow up!!!!

 

beachy11
beachy11

Oh please...both Gretchen's engagement and Tamra's wedding are all about being on television.  Tamra's sniping and Gretchen's whining are all to drum up ratings and drama.  I think to make a third wedding such a big deal is in poor taste, but due to the fact that Slade makes me nauseous, I would much rather watch Tamra marry Eddie than anything with Gretchen and Slade.

 

Julieknows
Julieknows

What a very immature thing to do as usual. You really don't deserve a friend like Gretchen anyway. Soon enough you will be helping Vicki up stairs and to chew her food. Nothing about you is nice. Only when you were friends with Gretchen did you start to become a beautiful human being. Some people just chose to be the mean girls in school because of jealousy and a small percent never grow out of it. Welcome to the club, I think Vicki is the chairman. Good Luck with your new marriage, Im very glad Eddie brings some of the good out of you and hopefully you can keep him when the rest of you starts looking your age like your hands. Mean girls should know how to take it to right? Just checking.

bellaswiss
bellaswiss

Oh Tamra!  I have watched you since you first appeared on the show.  You have made some pretty strange life choices, but I feel you are really not giving Gretchen the benefit of the doubt.  As it appears on the show, she has been there for you and has your best interest at heart.  You all seem to be so hard on each other instead of being in each others' corners.  Life is too short.  I hope you can embrace each others' good points, forgive each others' faults  and include each other in things.  Be real, not fake.  Accusing Gretchen of amping up her proposal for the cameras is ridiculous.  Aren't you the one who had her proposal filmed?  Aren't you the one who went wedding dress shopping on the show?  Promoted you wine business and fitness center on the show?  Aren't you the one who is having her wedding televised?  People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. 

angela.trucchi
angela.trucchi

When Gretchen first appeared on the scene of the OC, I admit, I didnt want to like her for a few reasons. Sounds silly but its the truth. After everything that happened with Jeff and the things people were saying about Gretchen and her agenda,supposed boyfriend behind Jeffs back,etc etc. I just was not a fan of hers. But, these two past seasons i have found her to be one of my favs. I really like her.and I feel she has been treated so badly and used. When you are pretty and sweet,fun etc,, women can be so insecure to be around you and just pick on your flaws and mistakes you have made instead of acknowledging all of your positives. Gretchen.....be selective with whom you are friends with. 

HousewifeinNH
HousewifeinNH

In reference to what you said about Gretchen's engagement, would your wedding be as elaborate as it is if the camera's weren't on you?  Damn, you're getting a whole entire show out of the deal, yet you accuse Gretchen of being "fake" about her engagement when she only got an episode out of it.  You're all a bunch of screwballs with you at the head of it.

piperbeau
piperbeau

Tamra I'm freaking loving you these days! I finally think your keeping it one hundred! Gretchen to me has always been a phony! I had her pegged season one! I don't find her to be a very honest person! She seems to always have that deer in headlights look on her face when she is lying! which to me seems pretty often! I'm over her being the perpetual victim! gretchen brings a lot of this sh*t on herself! All this cheating business was five freaking seasons ago! Geez you would think Gretchen would be over it... She came out this season gunning for Vicki.. Which to me made no sense! I mean if she was willing to forgive you she should be willing to do the same with Vicki...  And I don't think Gretchen was innocent in the situation to begin with! I honestly believe she gave the ladies something to talk about... it was beyond exhausting watching Gretchen whisper in your ear about Vicki all season! I was just watching it and I was exhausted..I can't imagine having to actually be the one listening to it... Looking forward to your wedding special.... So so happy Vicki and Heather are bridesmaids....... I'm also happy you and Alexis squashed your beef.. You got to admit the girl can hold her own!! 

mtrae9
mtrae9

Why would Gretchen invite you to her party.  None of you like Slade, or it seems Gretchen for that matter.  She wanted people there who love and support them, and I don't blame her.  I wouldn't have invited you and the other housewives either.

joycemarie
joycemarie

LMAO..best comment I've read today....and true..

joycemarie
joycemarie

haven't bothered to watch..just hoping she goes away next year...can she, pretty please?

bluebayou
bluebayou

 @MangoBeach Ditto from me, this is disgusting.  I suffered thru Kim's, not watching Tamra's. Sorry Eddie.

Kittycatcom
Kittycatcom

@0815 Gretchen is a back biting bizniche and poor example for a friend as well so Tamara should cut the cord..tired of lessening to that 5 year old voice...Actually Slade is too good for her and needs to be careful...her loyalty to anyone or lack there of so far speaks volumes... I could with reason totally dislike her just for wearing that dress on the reunion...Andy should select a bloggers panel to interview and hire the next housewife on the OC...might be interesting...

Apple12
Apple12

@tallwvguy as long as she leaves Vicky out of the relationship they should be great together..

joycemarie
joycemarie

excellent post..and with Vicki there, both of their 'mean gir'l comments and voices kind of just blend together, don't you think? 

joycemarie
joycemarie

seriously, having watched the OC since season one, Vicki and Tamra have REGRESSED in age..

 

erica8123
erica8123

 @beachy11 I won't be watching Tamra's wedding show OR RHOC season 9.  Tamra is just pure disgusting

Yali
Yali

 @Julieknows I agree Tamra is disgusting, but Gretchen is no prize either. She is a kiss ass and thats it!

erica8123
erica8123

 @bellaswiss Tamra is so transparent!  "Hold on to your daddies girls, here comes Gretchen hehehehe"

Can we say JEALOUS for the start!?!?

joycemarie
joycemarie

HousewifeinNH..i might have to debate as to the HEAD of that screwball line is..Vicki and Tamra are running neck to neck from where I sit..great post though!

ccollier08
ccollier08

 @piperbeau Is this comment really serious? It cannot be serious... this is a ridiculous comment...

erica8123
erica8123

 @piperbeau I almost always agree with you and was surprised to see it was you saying this.

UM Tamra is the one repeatedly bringing up Gretchen's past not Gretchen.  Tamra is the one that started it and won't let it die. 

 

joycemarie
joycemarie

they r all such witches that even if they had been invited, all they would have done is talk smack on both Gretchen and Slade..this way, Gretchen didn't have to feed and buy drinks for the slugs I mean ladies....

HousewifeinNH
HousewifeinNH

 @mtrae9 I was so glad she didn't invite them.  Notice how there was no drama at the engagement.  I kept thinking if they were there, it would be nothing but arguments and screeching.