Congrats to Tamara! I am separated and it is nice to get out and enjoy yourself!

Tamara for so long I wanted to write to you.You remind me of myself along time ago. I was told that I was the prettiest at my work of thousands of women,many were very jealous of me and would act like my bestfriend.I was very hurt by many ,I was married for 12 years to a very controlling man that abused me in alot of ways mostly emotionally.I finally left him for someone else that loved me alot we have been married for25 years.I have three children from my first marriage and we have a daughter together.I had alot of guilt for the way I was with my children when I left there Dad thank God that is over.I told the man that I had to date before I could marry him and that was the best time in my life,there are many times that I know my 2nd husband is controlling but I am mostly bedridden.Take your time you are so beautiful and get to enjoy life with the girls and date around please enjoy your life it is so short.After being abused you need to love you and bond with your children.May god bless you and your children and light the way!He loves you and you are very beautiful learn to trust again.I will be praying for you!!!!

yeay congrats for tamra!! she deserves a happy and healthy relationship!! hopefully her kids and family support her also

hey tamra i have been in a phyically and emotional abusive relationship and i understand when youo finally decide to be done its really frightening...when you find some one who is different and nicer then what you had it feels like love and you get your confidence back..but from my experience i had to change some things within me to be able to live comfortably in my own skin girl teach people how to treat you and keep your boundaries love you go big or go home

Yes Good for her!

Way to go girl. Coming from a latina he is hot. And Latinos are romantic and treat their ladies well.

I am so happy for you....You deserve the best...You are smart,sexy,great attitude...You go girl!!! Can't wait to see next season....Good Luck Tamra

yes! she deserved to be treated like a human being, not a dog!

Good for u! Simon was so stuck on hisself and he was Mr. Perfect! NOT!

Simon has little man syndrome (napoleon). He is insecure and wants to control every aspect of his family's life. Simon is jealous of his wife and feels if he lowers her self-esteem, she will step in line with his controlling nature. The first step of an abuser is to alienate your friends and family.
Tamra you stayed too long, however, you can make a new start for you and the kids.

Stay STRONG and keep your head up. Someone who is worthy of you will come along and don't move too fast.
Best of Luck!!!

I love tamra she is to good for simon go girl you are beautiful.

She just wants another sugar daddy to pay the bills!! This wasn't all Simon! At least with the other woman you saw their children. Not her, she wants all the attention! Everyone puts down Gretchen but she not married, has no kids but Tamara can do no wrong! HA!!

YES HAPPY FOR HER. YOU GO GIRL.

Ya Im Happy for her. Her Relationship with Simon was Horrible. He was definitly not in love with her no more. He pushed her away big time. I give her props cuz she really tried to work it out. On the other hand Simon didnt do crap. Thats good she found someone that will appriciate her. Simon needs to Clean up his act. I hope she finalizes her divorse and moves on from that grumpy negative Simon. I wish her all the luck!

As anyone could see through the limited glimpses into Tamara and Simon's marriage... it wasn't working, therefore I'm happy that they decided to split. As Simon demonstrated numerous times throughout the show, he has a major superiority complex and he lets everyone know when he does not approve of something. I hope that Simon is able to reflect on his behavior regarding Tamara's son and see that he greatly contributed to his wife's stress and that he didn't give her a reason to stay in love with him! BUT>> Tamara! You have young children going through this divorce with you! Put you needs on hold for a while and be a Mom!

i just love tamra so proud of you, iam happy for her..

YOU GO GIRL I CAN TELL YOU ARE FINALLY HAPPY GOOD LUCK SUSAN

All I have to say is That is why you DON'T talk about people, because you never know what is in store for your own life. But honestly she needs to focus on her kids.

Tam you get your true love and go on with life you Rock 4 being a single mom with only 2 kids you DONT need simon!!!!!

Quick to judge but not too quick to do the same. But why the tatoo if theres nothing left?

She needs to concentrate on getting herself together first and formost!!! She just got out of a long relationship and it takes time to regroup yourself. She may not let the grass grow under her feet, but she needs to mow the the lawn to be sure it will be a nice one!!!

YEA!!!!!!!!!! GO GURL

I TRUELY FEEL THAT SIMON CONTROLLED TAMRA BECAUSE HE WAS SO AFFRAID OF LOSING HER. I KNOW THAT HE LOVED HER VERY MUCH..... BUT CONTROLLING HER WAS NOT THE WAY TA GO ABOUT IT, CAUSE ALL IT DID WAS PUSH HER WAY! I DO BELEIVE THIS IS HOW SIMON FELT HE COULD KEEP THE REALATIONSHIP- BY CONTROLLING IT, BUT WE ALL KNOW IT'S THE WRONG WAY TA GO ABOUT IT!.....GOOD LUCK TAMRA

Good for u Tamra.

I am so Happy for her! She is so much fun and deserves to have someone by her side!

I think its waaaayyy too soon! after so many years together and 3 children with Simon, she needs to give herself time to heal before she gets involved with anyone. otherwise, its just going to be the same drama in the next relationship..

I don't agree with everything about Tamara and Simons' relationship. I can relate to both of them on some issues. I like to have a good time and I at times can get carried away and my husband will get upset and tell me stuff. Tamara has done the same. Also the clothes and dressing her age remarks. I also have gone through that. It is frustrating. Makes you feel terrible. She seems to be an out going and out spoken person. There's nothing wrong with that. Except when your married to a man that doesn't like it. Although when he met her, I bet he was attracted to her probably just as we as fans have gotten to know her. That's her. But being controlling was the wrong way to handle his insecure ways and now he lost her. I was never able to work outside of my home or be outside in my front yard or have friends or go to the gym. 20 years later I started to stand up for myself.It has improved.It's been a long battle. I wish you all the best Tamara.

I think she needs to focus on her relationship first. It this year she and vicki focused on gretchen and how fast she got into a relationship. She should probably mind her own.

you go girl - gotta move on and get back on that horse.

the separation from your husband has an horific painful time for your children. End of story, you take care of them now, and you will have a happy future. God Bless

I am very happy for her~she was under lock and key for awhile with Simon and now she is finding out there are many other better men out in the sea! Congrats...
PS: I was also wondering does anyone know if the O.C. is going to have a season 6 ???? I noticed they didnt announce anything on this ???? please blog!!!!

Tamra, I am happy for you. I was married to a control freak too. When I saw what you went through this session, it confirmed to me all the reasons why I am glad that that's over.

I'm happy for Tamara. I had a very hard time watching Simon control her every move and try to make her feel less than she is.
Good for you Tamara. I hope you are very happy in this new chapter of your life.

I could not stand the way Simon acted towards Tamara when he was angry. I really felt bad for her this season. She does deserve better than him. As for her dating so soon after Simon, Sometimes love and happiness happens when you least expect it. Just enjoy this time and don't rush it!

It wont last. Tamara you should spend your new free time with your children and I know you wont regret it.

Yes, I am happy for her. Although to the viewers, it feels too soon, the marital breakdown happened months ago. Simon filed for divorce in January. Tamra's not a widow. Therefore, what's the "proper" time to date?
It's at the time of her release from her prison. GO!

Any family psychologist will tell you to WAIT WAIT WAIT after a divorce. This is not what is best for your children and Tamra needs to put her children first!!! (not herself) These kinds of adjustments are very difficult for children and can affect them in many ways. It is also not good for Tamra. She needs to slow way down and learn to stand on her own for a while. She needs to work on herself before rushing into a relationship. I hope she reconsiders things for her children's sake!!

Good for Tamara, "Hot Latin Lover." That's a very important quality in a man considering you have children. And the way the last man treated you, that's important. Good work. I'm sure grandma would be proud. Different times we live in. Not good.

Can you spell REBOUND?!!!...

I am so glad that she is beginning to find happiness. At first I wondered why she left Simon even though it may seem that he was controlling he made it appear that he had her best interests at heart but I guess we all do not really know what goes on behind closed doors. Good Luck

I am very happy for Tamara, her ex-husband should of valued her more but instead he acted all controlling and was an asshole, why would you talk bad about your wife's friends. that was stupid, but Tamara you deserve better and I know he will most definitely let you be you and not try to change you, he will support you and worthy you for the true person you are. and as for vicki, be nice and apologize, i think out of all of them shes the one that actually care enough about you to confront your ex. Good luck to you and your children;)

Maybe Tamra will judge Gretchen less now that she has gone through this breakup with Simon. She is being accused of the same things she tried to accuse Gretchen of last season and it doesn't feel too good. I am glad Gretchen stuck to her guns and kept up that blog.

I have watched this show for 5 years bout time you left simon hes and ass and Vickie has always had your back you should be a better friend to her

I am saddend to see that Tamra has ended her marriege, I must have missed that episode that told us about that. Being a retired proffessional athalete and also is 42, I would have had my agent attempt to arrange a date for me. I loved her personality and obviously her great look. I felt we had very similiar personalitys and would have much in common. I can only wish her the best, if you looking for a good looking man, your age, financialy set please write back.

I am happy for Tamra. As long as her children are taken into consideration with both Tamra and Simon's future relationships, then all is well. I hope Tamra is free to be herself and not told that she is doing/saying everything wrong by Simon anymore.

I think Tamra is better off with anyone other then that man she was married to!

i think that simon didnt like the fact that tamara was gettin more wise an speakin out to him if he would have just believe in his wife they may have still be together but you know a person can only take so much a well i hope that tamara finds a man that is beside her 100% an not behind her so i she found that in the new man than go for it tamara you deserve it

I'm not surprised! Her marriage was in the way which is why she hated Gretchen so much. Gretchen was living the life Tamra wished she had. Its so obvious. Mean Girl Tamra. Alexis and Gretchen are much better looking and Tamra needs to do somethign with her hair. Patene????? anything, something Jeesh

Tamara, it's too soon for another love interest. Give yourself a breather and get to know yourself.

I'm really happy for you Tamra.You deserve to be happy.You and Vicky are the only housewives who are real.You guys tell it like it is.You both can see the through the rest.You're not fake.Enjoy life and God bless!