Her thoughts on marriage, Vicki, Slade's stand-up, and more.

Mar 5, 2012 - The Dish0

Tamra Barney of The Real Houswives of Orange County
Another week, another 'Wife. All season, members of the Wives mobile club have been texting in their questions for The Real Housewives of Orange County. First, Vicki Gunvalson, then Heather Dubrow, and this week, Tamra Barney weighs in. Thousands sent in questions, and Tamra took on the best of the bunch -- here's how she answered:

Q: When you aren't filming, do you and the other Housewives still hang out, talk, or argue?
TAMRA SAYS: Yes, I hang out with Vicki, Heather and Gretchen. There is not much arguing going on while the cameras are down. If we do get upset with each other it is because of something that was said on the show or in the press.

Q: Why do you think Vicki is so jealous of your new friendship with Gretchen?
TAMRA SAYS: I think Vicki was just caught off guard with the new friendship. I really don't think she is jealous, more confused to how this happened.  

Q: If you could go back and change anything you've done so far this season, what would it be?
TAMRA SAYS: There are lots of moments I wish I could change, but how would learn if I didn't make mistakes ? 

Q: What did you think of Slade's show?
TAMRA SAYS: I though it sucked. I thought we were in a much better place, and to find out he did that set us back. There is nothing entertaining about a man making fun of the way a woman looks. It's pretty degrading. But honestly it didn't affect my life, so who cares!

Q: Do you think that you will ever get married again?
TAMRA SAYS: I would love to get married again. It will take some time for the kids to get used to the idea though. It has been 2 and half years since my separation and I am very lucky to have a wonderful man in my life that accepts me with 3 young kids... he is a keeper, so you'll have to keep watching to see what happens.

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12 comments
granny58
granny58

Vicki is all about "Vicki". Agter the big fight at the Bonko party ,when she left the party and went outside,she couldn't believe no one followed her out. She was i believe furious about that and that is the only reason she went back inside.

Light on
Light on

I think your r/ship with Gretchen is a good thing, it shows maturity and growth and it seems both of you have quite a bit in common! Heather appears to be a nice balance to the mix, I love her husband Terry, this season looks like fun! Eddie seems to be a keeper! Good luck!

Pat Dichter
Pat Dichter

Gretchen - Pay attention to how Slade is treating the other women around you. He is showing you total disrepect and not paying attention to you, when you clearly have asked him to drop certain material from his stand up routine and when you are trying to rebuild the shattered friendships. He also is not paying respect toward the advancement of your career. He is talking with people and then telling you about it, so you can make a decision? If you were number one in his life, he would discuss things before setting things up for you. You keep saying you don't know about keeping him around, but you are not paying attention to yourself. Start looking and listening both to him and yourself. Very slowly he is controlling you and your environment and you are allowing it. Stop the behavior and switch gears.

Greg'sGirl
Greg'sGirl

I've never seen someone FLIP so quickly like you!! You talked about Gretchen NON STOP last year and the year before and all of a sudden you have a moment that you decide to make up? Who does this and you couldn't be bothered to let Vicki in on it? I always liked you but I just can't take this phoney crap, it doesn't look good on you! I hope Gretchen stabs you in the back - YOU deserve it!! Who would invite a "man" to a party who just ripped them to shreds - that is just too insane for me!

Marge Osborne
Marge Osborne

Well Tamra, you lost viewers by making your snarky comment in the limo on the way to the '80's party when you mentioned things you liked about the '80's, then said Regan White House....NOT!!!!! It figures an airhead like you would like what we have now better, doesn't everyone love the insane national debt, high unemployment, high gas prices, foreign affairs in a disastrous mess... I could go on an on. If only we had a Regan White House back but I doubt you even have a clue what Regan did or what his WH was like. Just empty headed blather.

Viewer565
Viewer565

I do not know is it me? Or Orange county so so boring this season. I lost all interest. I can not wait for a Persian family to air.

Viewer from FLA
Viewer from FLA

I have to say I thought how you handled the Slade and Gretchen thing was very mature and different from the way you used to be. I am so glad you quit talking trash about Gretchen, it just made you seem so jealous of her. And the fact that you invite Slade to your party was a step in the right direction. You did talk so much trash about him and got involved in things you have no business talking about on him so why get mad when he did the same to you. Hopefully you can get Vivki to realize if she can dish it she better be able to take it too! I really like the new you and I am happy to see you grow into a better woman! Good luck with Eddie!

Texas Lady
Texas Lady

Tamra - I'm glad you and Gretchen are trying to smooth things over. Also, that you are taking the mature approach and the right approach for your children about moving in with Eddie. It was the right thing to do to call Gretchen directly when you heard about the standup comedy. As we viewers saw it, Gretchen did not like the approach Slade took.....so she shouldn't be blamed for any of his comments. He is a big boy, let him take the adverse comments or whatever that result from his actions.....Gretchen tried her best to take the high road. At your party, Ricky was a jerk --- it wasn't any of his business, and obviously he didn't know the full story. You handled yourself well!! Keep up the good work -- I;m actually beginning to like you!!

malerie
malerie

I def dont think vicki was jealous of you and gretchen , she prob just wanted you to have told her since you guys are best friends. I do like you tamera, infact i like all you girls!

BravoFan #1
BravoFan #1

Tamara just remember Gretchen told Slade NOT to do anything about the housewives, he lied to her and did it anyway. Also, second marriages when children are involved has a high rate of failure. You and Simon are the parents who are to discipline them and NO one else is.

Rose Rogowsky
Rose Rogowsky

Tamra, YOU ROCK! I am truly amazed at the difference "a man" makes in your life! You just seem like you are in such a much better place, at peace with the world and see the lighter side in your friendships. I saw you and Gretchen before. Both of you have so much BEAUTY that just beams and shines out from your beings. You were fussing with your purse at the AMA 2010 in LA and I was upstairs. I saw Gretchen at Bloomingdale's, also. I love your honesty and growth as a human being. You are beautiful. Warm wishes, Rosie P.S. "Hoe Down Gurl!" ;)

San Diego Big Daddy
San Diego Big Daddy

Tamra rocks! She is honest, full of integrity, amazing business women, MOM, gorgeous...I mean what else could you ask for? My husband and I love her to pieces and always get a kick out of her. AND I like that the few times she may have been wrong (wait was Tamra ever wrong, NOT our girl!)!!! She'll stand up and fix it. You really aer amazing and we just continue to get more and more impressed as every season passes and the "perception" of knowing you grows stronger. We need to do some real estate together in San Diego! You know what a great town it is...xoxoxoxo. Keep on Tamra.....