The Real Housewives of New Jersey shed light on their delicate relationship.

on May 31, 2013 - The Dish0


A fragile peace treaty may have been brokered between sisters-in-law Melissa Gorga and Teresa Giudice, but don’t expect the two of them to become BFFs anytime soon.

“The trust isn’t there,” Melissa told Life & Style. "The trust needs to be built.”

Perhaps Melissa is feeling a wee bit untrustworthy after seeing the trailer for the upcoming fifth season of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. In it Teresa’s daughter Milania, 7, talks about “going on the pole” like her aunt Melissa.

Teresa insists that her kids have not heard any stripper comments in the Giudice home.

“Do I say anything negative about Melissa or my brother in front of my children?,” she said to the mag. “No, that does not happen.”

Teresa also claims that her involvement in the rumors circulating that Melissa was having an affair came from a good place. “I was just trying to warn [Melissa], before she came on the show, that I was hearing these rumors about her,” she explains.

Teresa is also hesitant about the family reunion admitting that it will take, “a lot of time, a lot of hard work,” for the fractured family to be healed.


Watch what happens between these two families on The Real Housewives of New Jersey season premiere this Sunday at 8/7c, followed by new series Princesses: Long Island.
65 comments
penneyone
penneyone

Melissa you need to let your husband and Teresa do the play dates. They could make-up and you don't have to worry about Teresa and her stupid husband talking bad about you in front of their kids. 

Toletha
Toletha

Teresa, Melissa is NOT your enemy.  More than anything, she wants peace, and she wants her husband to have peace of mind and happiness.  So quit blaming Melissa for what you have done.  It is you ALONE who has ruined the relationship between you and your brother and his family.  Melissa is not trying to keep Joe away from you.  She knows that you being in Joe's life is one thing he truly wants.  You and your brother can still have a close relationship, but his wife and children will always be number one in his life, as should your spouse and children be number one in your life.  That's even biblical.  It's just never going to be exactly the way it was when you two were growing up.  You both have families now.  But I'm sure that Melissa would have no problem if you and Joe planned some "brother and sister dates" just for the two of you to spend quality time together.  It would also be nice if both families got together occasionally, minus the drama.  Just keep in mind that Melissa is and has been Joe's number one girl for quite some time now.  Not even your mother can claim that spot.  But Joe has a big heart (from what I have observed).  There is still room in it for his big sister.  You just need to understand that he will ALWAYS be shared.  So, why don't you just bury the hatchet and make peace with your sister-in-law, Melissa, because she is his wife, the mother of his children, and she is going nowhere.  That alone will go such a long way in rebuilding the trust.  Of course, we viewers are weeks behind in what is current in your lives, but from what you said on WWH, it sounds like you have already made up and put the drama behind.  I truly hope so, and hopefully once and for all time.

Godiva_mocha_me
Godiva_mocha_me

Teresa & Melissa have their issues...though I find Teresa to be the bigger jerk in their situation. My problem is with Caroline and her rude and snotty personality. With her bobble-headed self, Ugh...

SusiefromSATX
SusiefromSATX

I can understand a bit where Teresa is coming from. Me and my Brother were very close. Went to same partys, hung out a lot. We were close. Than he met his wife and that was that. I felt so left out for so long, I missed our fun together. It was just over, and would never be the same.  I blamed it on my sister in law which was wrong. I never did anything bad, I just did not get close to her.  It was a waste to of been that way, and wrong. There is nothing you can do about it, so just live with it. I am still not nuts for my sister in law lol! But I love her and would never speak bad of her, or hurt her. As hurt as Joe is I say stay out of it with these girls. And so what if Melissa danced, or just worked there. Why is she so mad its out. I say they both just take a short trip some place alone together and start fresh, for each other, and the family.

Beckyy
Beckyy

It was so sad about what happen in New Jersey.  It was nice to see Teresa and the girls give clothing to those in need.   BUT, Teresa, instead of you and Joe saying that your brother and sister-in-law didn't contact you, WHY didn't you two just breakdown and call them...... !    (Sure between the four of you either one of you couples could have called the other).    Teresa, you should have said something to your oldest daughter right away (WHEN SHE OPENED UP HER BIG MOUTH !).  And when she takes the letter to your husband and he starts putting the blame on Melissa and her husband (to your daughter) that's wrong.  Teresa instead of your husband saying that it is (all of the adults fault) he's such an idiot because he wants to make himself look good.  My opinions about you and your husband haven't changed. 

juliep626
juliep626

I just want to say that it is not just that easy to decide who is going to take the girls,like caroline says she sees it as petty, but i completely get melissas reasoning behind it because she can not trust theresa, joe or the girls, it is very sad and i really hope the issues can be resolved, it is hard because you can not change personalities and teresa is just playing stupid when she deny's  everything ,she needs to watch her own shows i do not blame melissa at all for not wanting her daughter to go with those people

Debbieinmissouricitytx
Debbieinmissouricitytx

Melissa...you are a show boat! and I know people like you...You have boys and the boys will marry women just like you and those women will keep those boys from you and your husband...they will treat you the same way you have treated Teresa and her parents...and your boys will have children with these women and the women will use those children to fracture the relationship between you and your sons...the very same way you use your children...And how do I know this? because I have known many women in my life that are just like you and they have used their children to gain the upper hand...and I would advise them not to do it because it will back fire when their sons marry and it has...their sons married women just like them and those women do the very same things that they did...and today my friends are hurting to see that their sons don't come around anymore...and I remind them that they did they same thing and its only pay day....so please stop your circus chaos before you end up the same way...because the seeds you are planting and sowing now will be the very same seeds that you will reap....what we sow we will reap and with your Thank you Jesus phrases all the time...you should know that is biblical!

toni.wilson.319452
toni.wilson.319452

I can't believe this first episode...Melissa in Burberry boots wearing a bling jacket. Teresa thinking that people want dress up clothes when they don't have water, power, or a place to live. Just crazy, selfish and delusional.

OKtransplant
OKtransplant

Teresa grow up! You claim to want to keep the family together, grow up and be an adult.  And since you and your husband feel the need to talk in front of your children... shame on you both!  You will reap what you sow...   Where does Gia get all these opinions to claim it is Zia Melissa-the blame for all that is wrong with your relationships - you did that!   Disgusting, disgraceful and just all out ugly.  No matter how much make-up, jewels or fancy clothing you have - you  ugliness and no class.  Melissa and your brother are no saints- but I have not heard their children say anything about their uncle "Juicy Joe" or their Aunt "Tre".  

pamski22
pamski22

Melissa need to grow !! acts like a 10 year old ..after tonight i saw the real melissa not cool

AprilLove
AprilLove

I don't understand why everyone picks on Teresa - she is obviously mentally & emotionally challenged.  Perhaps a therapist could do some good or just leave he alone and don't film with her. 

RHOCI
RHOCI

I cannot believe there is anyone who would side with Teresa!! Her admiration and desire for her brothers attention seems almost incestual. What happily married woman needs that much attention from her brother?

CathyAMCfan
CathyAMCfan

Teresa is a piece of crap and a liar. I watched her talk negatively about Melissa while Gia was listening more than once. I've watched her talk poorly about Melissa while Adriana played at her feet. She is poisoning their parents. And joes the biggest ahole in the state of New Jersey. Joe guidice is cheating on Teresa and everybody knows it. Teresa is poison. Caroline needs to mind her own business. If she befriends Teresa again after all Teresa has said and done, ill be muting and fast forwarding her along with Teresa and joe guidice and calling for her not to be on another season.TEAM MELISSA!!!!!!!

lateriaf
lateriaf

Teresa, you should not worry so much about Melissa, sweetie you need to get your parenting skills in check.  Your daughter is to young to be in grown peoples business, wearing makeup, talking about liking boys and telling you how to respond to another adult (are you kidding america?).  You probably should let Melissa take Malonia? and stay at home and watch that other one!

itsme64
itsme64

I do not understand how Teresa gets away with everything she does other than the fact that she has to start talking loud and not letting the other person speak. She has to always be right and nothing is her fault. She is obviously very jealous, and with good reason, she is the least attractive person on the show. She feels it is fine to comment on other's weight and looks. She needs to take a good look in the mirror. Her snide little smiles at someone elses misfortune makes me crazy. She is the trash talker, the instigator and the reason everyone has problems. I wish, wish wish that I was sitting at the reunion. There are so many things I would like to tell her.. It must just kill her knowing her sister-in-law is gorgeous and knowing that no amount of plastic surgery will ever give her a forehead or good looks.

GetitGirl
GetitGirl

Of all of the ladies, Teresa is the one I dislike the most.  She's not intelligent, selfish, ALWAYS IN DENIAL, never takes responsibility for her dirty work, lies,, constantly slings trash at other people, insecure.... the list can go on and on and HAS THE AUDACITY TO PLAY THE VICTIM!!!!  And her husband, Joe,  my goodness!  What a little insecure and lying troll!!  The only reason they are tolerated is because it makes good TV.

 

Teresa is the problem why the family is not getting along.

 

I love, love, love the Gorgas, the Manzos, the Walkiles, and the Lauritas----They are the reason I watch the show.  The Guidices are too annoying and stupid for me to enjoy.  Enough already!

muttercup
muttercup

Teresa started this whole mess with her brother, her sister in law and her niece and nephews over being jealous of Melissa.  She was wrong and she needs to come clean.  The damage she has done only hurts her own kids.  Gia has so much hate towards her aunt and uncle that it will never be erased.  Take a bow Teresa, what you have done can never be repaired. 

Donna9
Donna9

Aw come on!  No one is perfect.  And I mean no one!!  It is silly to believe that we don't have flaws and Teresa's is more visible than others.  Frankly, I believe that they are all too harsh on her and I believe that she was set up!  Melissa/Joe (Teresa's brother), are overreacting and should mend their differences.  At the end of the day, Teresa is still family.  On another note, Caroline may be justified in her stances.  She too has gone a little too far at times, despite her rational viewpoints.  I so hope that they all mend things.  Some of the "sharpest individuals" are those that KNOW who they are, and accept others for who they are without transcending or compromising their own behaviors for those that may have flaws.

mia_alli
mia_alli

i love you teresa!! your the only one who says it how it is, they just cant take the heat!!!

cathy.montgomery.775
cathy.montgomery.775

I must admit that I have just recently started watching this train wreck....but from what I can gather...Teresa has the same affliction my recently late husband had...no filters from thought to speech....no malice...just truth as they see it. She is married to a P.I.G HOG however. Jacqueline is a sweetheart but easily led. Caroline needs to stop thinking that she is wise just because she is the oldest...I'm even older....and trust me...I made my share of mistakes as a mother. I do NOT have the answers to y'alls problems. You Caroline don't have all the answers either...so stop acting like a know it all. Melissa and Kathy are the "peacemakers". Not an easy job.  Bottom line...y'all need to stop hating on each other and just accept your individual personalities. NOBODY IS PERFECT. LIghten the eff up. But hey....I guess I just bought into this fool's paradise didn't I? Carry on..........

Cocostilletto
Cocostilletto

Teresa is the "boss" of the show and I'm sooooo over the "Poor Melissa" victim card... Teresa tried to warn Melissa before she came on the show the rumors that was spreading about her because as we allllll know, when you become a reality tv star your closets will open ad your past can come back to haunt you. The way I see it Melissa and Teresa are just alike the only difference is... Teresa is strong and a beast when she feels attacked. Melissa is weak and a cry baby that wants the media and her husband to take up for her when she feels victimized. Teresa doesn't need anybody to defend her and that's why she has taken down everybody one by one that try's to cross her.... Teresa is all about her fam and family and she really doesn't care about who pulls the victims card. That goes for Kathy that really tried to be relevant and make it seem like Teresa was coming at her intentionally. Kathy tried picking sides so she got burned too. What Kathy and Melissa needs to understand is Teresa is not kissing anybodies butt and she definitely doesn't owe anybody an apology because everybody gained up on her with so many different personal issues. Teresa is the reason Melissa and Kathy are on the show and Teresa is definitely the reason they are staying on the show. Neither one if them have anything interesting in third lives that viewers are looking to watch besides their drama with Teresa. Teresa has so much going on in her life with her cookbooks, Joe and his drama, financial stress and mending fences with her brother that everybody isn't considering her feelings and all the lies and personal information that her family put out in the media. So Teresa is a beast and I respect her for winning her battles fair or not fair.... Teresa is a survivor....

Dianna65
Dianna65

Melissa and Teresa should dump jacqueline. Watching the reruns J actually tells M she heard that man tell T he was going to embarrass M. I would never trust her again!!

1bizymom
1bizymom

Why do you even put up with the self centered Teresa? She never takes responsibility her horrible actions/mouth. Everyone is out to get her and want to be her. I wouldn't want my dog to be like her. If Teresa is dumb enough to believe that her husband was talking to "his friend Albie" trust me I have been married for 18 years with my husband for 22 years and he has NEVER talked to his friends in a sexual tone like Joe did or even called me C yoU Next Tuesday. It's sad that Teresa want material items for the mishap. No ring or diamond would ever make up for that. I love how she doesn't understand why her kids say horrible things about their aunt because Teresa never speaks bad about Melissa. Kids repeat what their PARENTS say. Trust me if my husband doesn't care for anyone in my family I would be damned if he said anything in front of my kids I would set his but straight. Kids do not need to hear those things they need to love their aunts, uncles, and cousins without their parents mouths get in the way.

Jo.Anna.from.Lewiston.Idaho
Jo.Anna.from.Lewiston.Idaho

Hi everyone! Love love love the RHONJ! My opinion is this  it has to do with the fact that every single solitary person on the show except for Teresa has a boy.  I am not saying that the Guidices do not love their girls - I am just saying that there is a clear jealousy of Joe Guidice not having a son of his own.  They did a scene where he was wishing on a star for his son! Come on - here this little brother-in-law is popping out boys left and right and they can't even get one!

 

Just a side note- Antonia's Godfather - yep - is Joe Guidice - so the Gorgas chose HIM as their eldest child's Godfather - which clearly shows that they had a relationship him during Melissa's pregnancy with Antonia during the entire  sprinkle cookies fiasco - and she still chose this man to be the Godfather of her eldest child.

 

Also, if I remember correctly after playing the reruns on Bravo 100 times and listening to it as background - I believe Kathy and Rosie's mother is the elder sister of Teresa's father - and when she came to the US and got married she asked her husband (Kathy and Rosie's father) to bring him (her brother) to the United States.  Clearly he was younger than his sister by I think 7 years or so - but the fact remains the same - Kathy and Rosie's father and mother helped bring Teresa's father to the US.

 

If anyone has feedback to these facts - please let me know, but I believe I have them correct.

Classychic77
Classychic77

Melissa & Joe should do themselves a favor and cut ties with Teresa permanently!  She is an evil, jealous person who only wants to destroy others to make her loveless marriage look better.  

Caroline, I'd give the same advice to you about Deena.  She is obviously superficial, flaky and untrustworthy.  Her words and actions say she cares more about Teresa than her own sister, niece and nephews.

 

Tema54
Tema54

I'm not the biggest fan of Teresa's, but Caroline is a heartless, mean person. She thinks she's better than everyone. Quit acting like the Godmother Caroline. No wonder your sister isn't talking to you. You try to tell everyone how to feel and think.

happybrenda
happybrenda

Melissa cant even take a pic with Teresa without a sneer on her face as above. Melissa is the jealous one she wants the fame T has and she cant get it without trashing T. I wish she . her sisters and her husband would just go away. On the preview it show her having a drink with one of the new friends T's friend. Anyway when she tells M that she heard Melissa cheated on Joe the dropped jaw look was so damn fake . People think if your pretty and stick skinny your above everyone else./ Otherwise I cant figure out why anyone could not see how horrible Melissa is to Teresa and then no one thinks Teresa should retaliate,

bananas325
bananas325

honest to god.. i live in Massachusetts. i'm originally from california.. i love 'real housewives'... all of them (except atlanta.. i keep it real..) and i was alway on teresa's side.. and yet.. i can't defend her any longer... i'm sorry... honestly, there's something going on that maybe viewers don't know, but it's crazy now.. i love all these ladies.. i an see everyones' points... but, teresa is losing it... if i could say anything to her.. you need to love your family. you need to back off. you NEED to leave your husband... i'm an italian-american. i love my family... i know you love yours, you've defended yourself til your eyes were blue but, it's okay to be wrong... start over. you're beautiful, successful and have beautiful girls who are counting on you..! oxoxooo... i love you both, melissa, teresa, and aaaaall the girls..!

kstcyr
kstcyr

No matter how hard Melissa tries to deny keeping Joe from getting close to his sister ... every week watching the show, it is sooo blatantly obvious. Very sad to see a Wife be that jealous and threatened, of a Brother/Sister relationship.

Wisebeauty
Wisebeauty

Melissa, why do you even bother having anything to do with Teresa? You're too much of a lady to involve or waste your time with trash like Teresa. I really enjoy seeing you and Joe. Teresa is very jealous of your happiness and love with Joe. Teresa will never have what you have and it kills her!

AnneR
AnneR

Teresa is a textbook narcissist.  Never takes responsibility for anything; it's always someone else's fault.

smmereye
smmereye

Whoops I forgot about Lydia I'm sure her and Kathy would be fast friends.

smmereye
smmereye

Watching the reruns of past seasons there are a few things that stick out to me (and my hunkaman)...  The Manzos make fun of everyone!!!! They especially make fun of Teresa, Melissa and Kathy.  They crack on their intelligence, relationships and finances.  What the hell?  Teresa prints a little comment and your friendship ends? Passive aggressive much? Speaking of passive aggressive the most PA person on any RH?  KATHY!  Under that nice layer (which Im sure is real) there is a passive aggressive creature lying in wait.

promotepeace
promotepeace

In an Italian family loyalty & respect means everything!! The way Teresa disrespects Melissa in front of her kids and anyone else for that matter, makes her a black sheep. She doesn't want to own up to anything she does....It's pathetic & I really do feel so very sorry for her brother!! I don't know why he would even want to try to mend things at this point. The damage is done!! I wonder if Teresa's parents ever watch the show??? Surely they'd see her behavior is just not rational!!!  

Cyn44
Cyn44

 @Beckyy

 Teresa didn't contact them because of Melissa's pledge at the reunion. She would never ever see her(Melissa) or her children.

I believed her so I guess Teresa did too. Someone set Teresa up! They were all quick to believe that Teresa was the culprit and Kim D should have made it more clear that she was NOT! Jac knew and Caroline? Why was that not more deeply studied?

dobnerk
dobnerk

 @toni.wilson.319452 Yes!  How did you like her talking about how the hurricane was a blessing.  It was a great thing for the community.  What?  The woman is not the sharpest knife in the drawer.  That goes without saying.  It amazing some of the things that come out of her mouth.

Godiva_mocha_me
Godiva_mocha_me

 @bananas325

 I keep it real too. I doubt the RHOA care that you don't watch their series, Besides, the drama and bs is ALL the same on ALL of the RH shows--but there seems to be a tad bit more silicone, botox and overall fakeness in the NJ, Bev Hills & Orange County installments.

glamapuss
glamapuss

I totally agree.  I know family is important but sometimes you do need to cut ties with some family members if need be. If you are consistently being hurt over and over again by the same family members there isn't a need for a relationship with that family member until they prove themselves and I mean really prove themselves. You are NOT a bad person if there are family members whose ties need to be cut. 

decenthousewife
decenthousewife

 @smmereye

 Teresa does much more that prints little comments..she is fake. She would not know how to be a friend if you sent her to a class. Teresa cares about one thing only..TERESA

mikepsl1
mikepsl1

 @smmereye

 I could not disagree more with everything you have stated. Anyone who has attended a community college basic pysh course, or anyone who has been alive on Earth can see Teresa is textbook narcissit and bat-crazy. The things the Manzos said about her (along with rest of cast, their families- even Andy Cohen) all agree. If everyone you know you have an issue with the problem is YOU....

bravofan12
bravofan12

 @promotepeace

 how about the way Joe disrespected Teresa at the Christening party?  What brother does that??  OMG you're right the damage was done.  If I was Teresa I would've never spoken to him again!  He's a D'bag! 

 

bravofan12
bravofan12

 @glamapuss

 Teresa was on the show FIRST!  If Teresa was such a bad family member why did Melissa did everything she could to get on the show?

Oh right..she missed being on stage with or withour the pole LOL

nina.goertz.9
nina.goertz.9

 @glamapuss

 I second that.  Teresa is such a miserable jealous person.  She NEVER takes any responsibility for anything she does and if she does it's always followed by"but you did ...."  That would be one family relationship I'd let go of , some people will just make you miserable if you continue to let them.

Godiva_mocha_me
Godiva_mocha_me

 @belleLA    

 Glad to see that we agree. What was the point of her saying she doesn't watch RHOA? This post is about RHONJ. SMH...

JanetR
JanetR

 @bravofan12  @glamapuss

 Because it is a great business opportunity.  You get paid and you get to push your business (crap) to others, like jewelry, wine, or even cookbooks!