The RHONJ star sounded off in her blog about last night’s episode, which saw Melissa Gorga being made aware of rumors that she cheated on her husband Joe Gorga. And she says seeing the drama unfold between her family is starting to wear on her—though she chooses to address it as if she were writing her own memoir.
What would each chapter of her book reveal?
“In it, my own family members and friends I've had for 10 years turn on me," Teresa writes. "They hate me and hate on me like it's their full time job. They sit around every day talking about me non-stop, even when I'm not there. They talk and talk and talk some more about how obsessed I am with them. They bang their hands and wave napkins and cackle about how crazy I am."
Teresa also says that while she's painted as the source for all of her family's pain, "It does hurt that [they] always [assume] the worst of me. It hurts when they call me names. It hurts when I see tabloids with the "inside scoop" on my parents, my in-laws, and my marriage. But what can I do? Nothing because it's only fiction. Right?"
Might peace be nearing between the Gorgas and the Giudices? Not likely. Next week, the clan heads to a retreat to work on their problems—and things quickly fall apart. Check out a preview clip below.
Your family situation is a very very painful one, every years it becomes worse and worse, and personally I do not think that to have it on TV helps.
As seen on the RHOC, suggesting something (like for instance that your sister has a shady work in a shady bar) is as hurtful if not more hurtful than to say it. Repeat after me: Suggesting something is the same as saying it, repeating a rumor is the same as starting it.
Melissa is not the forgiving kind. It is her choice. Register the info and move on. Do you really think you will need her absolution? Why does her opinion of you matter so much for you? Why do you give her so much power? That is your choice dear.
Insults hurt first the person proffering it. I know it doesn't look that way at first but it is. It tells other how much self-worth a person has for herself. It shows how powerless a person is. Insults come when communication has failed. I do not means this lightly. You guys do not know how to communicate effectively. It is obvious, from the get go, you do not listen to each other, you do not listen to what you say (I mean you in a collective way), you do not take time to digest what is being said, before reacting, you do not pay attention to intentions before reacting. In one word you do not communicate, you declare stuff at each other.
They called you names, that doesn't change who you are. If you are the one insulting it odes change who you are in a deep way, it makes you a powerless person unable to communicate your feelings and resolve conflict. Worse, it makes you the one who hurts or who tries to.
Be always the bigger one.You will teach your children how to be good, and that is something worth fighting for.
Teresa, if it hurts so bad, why do you do it?
When you stop blaming everyone, recognize your own role, and sincerely truly apologize, nothing will change. The others should leave you in the dust until that time comes. I know I would.
Teresa, I really hope and pray not only you but Melissa as well reads this. In the beginning i was totally prepared to not like you but as time would have it and watching the way Melissa mindf***s her husband, the way Joe Gorga accepts everyone else's version of the facts as Bible against his only sister, my opinions have changed dramatically. Do these people not watch the dailies of their own show? Melissa accuses Teresa of instigating the situation at the salon, convinces her no brainer husband of the same and I'm sitting here thinking am I the only one who watched Teresa tell Kim D. and that jerk NOT to talk about her family? Did Teresa NOT get up and walk out of the room because she did NOT want to be a part of that conversation? At the restaurant, did Teresa NOT stay out of the conversation and in the outtakes explain to TV Land it was because she had heard these rumors years earlier regarding her sister-in-law and after a conversation with Melissa, Teresa was satisfied that Melissa had not cheated on her husband. From where I sit, Melissa acts as though she really does have much to hide from her husband. Why else would she try sooooo hard to break brother and sister's relationship apart? Or are you really just a mean, vindictive, evil biotch that is soo jealous of your sister-in-laws success that you just can't stand it and you have to attempt to destroy her at every opportunity? Teresa cannot be held accountable for what comes spewing forth from another individual's mouth. All she can do is what she has done, tell them not to speak about her family, get up, walk away, and not feed into the crap. As for Gorga, he needs to grow a pair! Buy em, rent em, borrow em or steal em but for the love of GOD man grow a friggin pair and stand up to your wife and put and end to her constantly accussing your sister of destroying the "Family". Truth be told, Teresa's the only one putting forth the effort and trying to find ways to mend the pain in this family. It's an uphill battle when Melissa goes into the retreat with sarcasm, a bad attitude and spreading the feeling of gloom and doom to everyone who will listen to her rantings. You should be ashamed of yourself Joe Gorga and equally ashamed of the female you call your wife. If I had a sister-in-law like that!! Well I guess I can just thank GOD I don't.
Teresa you are a very good person ,dont let your brother and his wife ake you feel bad about yourself.they both need help,there jelous of you and like to get every one around them on there side ,let them go its only manzo and cousin,no big lost
The biggest hypocrite in the group is Jaqueline. It's obvious that she's jealous of Teresa. Big time jealous. Jaqueline is one crazy &&//@. She's such a trouble maker. Her mission is to get Teresa in trouble as soon as she sees an opportunity. As for Melissa..haha that woman is so into herself. She's one mean $&&(/@. Her mission is to break the family up. And her husband is a lap dog. He needs to man up to Melissa before it's too late. AND YES she's cheating on her lap dog of a husband- she's dating herself. Talk about a self center wannabe. On display on display. lMFAO. Caroline : she better man up her two boys. They ran to Hoboken and now she's there 2. She better focus on her handsome husband before he finds a another woman. Caroline STALKS her sons. What girl would want to stick around with a mom like Caroline. kATHY: she's a nice lady but if she keeps hanging around Jacquieline she's going south and fast. Teresa is a nice girl. She loves her brother very much but the her needy for attention sister inlaw that has her lap dog of a husband by the balls will break their family ties. Melissa is just plain mean. End..
I suggested that born Teresa and Melissa should take a lie detector test to see who is lying.
Teresa is such a liar.....you cause the drama and then act like its everyone else. But I do think you and Joe deserve each other. So Melissa writing a book so now you have to as we'll, you really do want to be her. Oh and the lips make you look creepy.
Teresa i used to love you but lately im really disappointed. Family is everything. Your friends they will come and go and they will sit there and try and cause problems for other people so their lives don't look so miserable. I know you think Melissa is to blame for all your problems but as an outsider looking in i think that you have caused more problems with everyone on the shop. Why is it nobody likes you? I hope things change and we get to see the old Teresa back.
Unfortunately Melissa is not a big enough person to let Joe have a relationship with his sister.
Teresa I love you and your beautiful family. I believe you are trying really hard for your parents sake to try to mend a relationship with your brother. But it is so clear that he is blinded by Melissa's lies and their quest for fame is more important to them then family! Everyone on the show is so jealous of you that can't even have a brunch or go out for drinks without bringing you up! Just continue with your success and enjoy your beautiful daughters! And one day your brother will realize what a loving sister, daughter and Mother you are!! Bravo needs to wake up and realize without you there is no show! You should have your own show! xoxo
Teresa you need to keep Melissa Gorga as far away from you and children as you can...Melissa is the root to all your family problem and a leopard such as Melissa doe not change its spots over night
I think that the old saying, "A daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life, a son is a son till he gets a wife", is what Teresa should live by.
Teresa I have to say your hubby is not taking crap from anyone this season. I am proud of you and him for pulling through this marriage and hope that things keep getting better. xoxoxo
Teresa I can't believe your still with your husband after all he has said and done to you. You have pushed your family and friends away. Grow up life is too short. Admit that you also have been holding grudges and can't let it go.
Teresa do you ever ask yourself who the rest of the group gets along? Why it's only you that isn't invited to the functions anymore? It's you that can't get along with any of the group? Maybe you need to take a long good honest look in the mirror? Wake up, grow up and for the girls sake stand up to your husband. He has given you some really bad advise! He is so envious of the relationship between you and your brother that this is where it has gotten you!
Completely divided from your family and friends STOP PICKING FIGHTS!!!!!
They all get along because they're all partners in crime. What they did to Teresa was terrible. Joe Guidice jealous of Gorga? Based on what? I haven't seen a shred of evidence to support that. I think Guidice is way too secure for something so silly.
@Skippy2 The only reason no one gets along with Teresa is because they are all jealous of her success, the more she became successful the madder they got and they don't like the fact that she is the star of the show, without her there wouldn't be a show. PERIOD!
Karma sux! You a 're just getting what you put out. Give totAl and sincere forgiveness and it will come back to you 100 fold. Love one another.......
Teresa, your brother has the mental and emotional capacity of a 12-year-old. He isn't worth your time and it's not your job to mend the family rift. Let him go; give it a few years and then see where he is after Melissa divorces his ass. I am glad you are finally standing up for yourself.