When we are young, the foundation of what we know about love and relationships comes from all of the stuff the people around us say. Whether it’s directly from a rom-com or straight out of the mouths of our elders, who sugarcoat the truth about what it’s like to grow old with someone else, we’re raised on relationships clichés that we shockingly learn over time are far from the truth.
Here are the top 5-cliché relationship rules you should forget about ASAP.
1. Love means never having to say you’re sorry
In every relationship, there’s bound to be moments when you made a mistake, said the wrong thing at the wrong time, forgot to do a chore around the house that you pinky-promised you would. Just because you are “together”, whether that means dating or married, it doesn’t mean you can brush off that wrongdoing and pretend it never happened. Being in love, doesn’t mean you have a free pass to not apologize for messing up.
2. Opposites attract
If you and your partner are so similar and love the same things and stick your tongue out about the same thing, it doesn’t mean you should kick them to the curb because you’ve always heard that “opposites attract”. Sometimes people are attracted to a person who is a different from them and their relationship flourishes because of that. But falling for a person who feels like an identical clone of you, isn’t a bad thing and it doesn’t mean your relationship will be a snooze fest either.
3. Always listen to your heart
There are a lot of body parts you should take into consideration when making a decision in the love department. To trust what you feel about a person or if you’re truly happy with your relationship, you should consult not only your heart, but your head and of course your gut.
4. Never settle for anything less than a fairytale
Love is by no means perfect and relationships, even really good ones, can be difficult and sometimes messy. Aiming to be the main character in a fairytale, alongside your partner, creates unrealistic expectations that can make you overlook the little things that often times are proof that your relationship is stronger than the price and princesses in any Disney movie.
5. Love conquers all
What really conquers all is unbreakable communication. Being open and honest with your partner is what will push you forward in your relationship and make your love for each other keep on growing.
Jen Glantz is a "professional bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of "Always a Bridesmaid (For Hire)” and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store ... and on first dates.
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