If you show up on a blind date and you don't like what you see, what are your options? You know, when you don’t want to run out screaming and hurt your date’s feelings.
But you’re definitely not feeling it. Whether you’re not attracted to them, there’s zero chemistry, or they are behaving badly, we asked the experts what you can do. Here is what they said.
Relationship coach and “Romance Whisperer” Cindi Sansone-Braff tells Personal Space to always be honest, but be polite about it.
“I always advice my clients to be honest and to temper their honesty with kindness,” Sansone-Braff says. “If you were just meeting for coffee, then just have the coffee, make some small talk, and honestly state, ‘I just don't feel that we have the right chemistry together, and I don't want to lead you on or waste your time.’ Wish this person well and be on your way.”
She adds that if you did have a longer date planned, it wouldn't kill you to spend the evening.
“Try to make the best of it, and at the end of the evening, let this person know that you just don't think that the two of you are the right fit,” she says. “This kind of behavior is supremely important if one of your friends or family members set you up on the date. You wouldn't want to start a feud with your friend or family about the situation.”
What not to do?
“I would not advise you to walk out like you didn't even see the person, nor should you be rude or unkind. You're a grown-up, so act like one,” Sansone-Braff says.
"The key with exiting blind dates early actually starts with planning to blind date,” she says. “Try to avoid a dinner date or another activity where you can't make a relatively fast exit. Happy hour drinks are a good bet so you can extend the date if it's working well.”
Syrtash says give it at least one drink together to determine if you are really that turned off.
"Consider the fact that people took time to show up on the date, so it's generally worth not ending a date before you've had one drink together. Unless the person is terribly rude, in which case you can end it almost immediately."
And you don’t need to play sick if you don’t like the person — just be honest.
"My friend fakes having a headache! You don't need to act to get out of a date. After a drink and light conversation, it's totally fair to say ‘I enjoyed chatting but have a heavy workload to get back to. It was nice to meet you!’ and make it clear that the date is over,” Syrtash says.
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