Planning your wedding? You can go ahead and toss that copy of Emily Post’s wedding etiquette in a drawer. Nowadays wedding traditions are the last thing you want on your to do list.
More and more millennials are seeking new ways to take on that time-honored ceremony of marriage.
The creepy garter toss has been replaced with epic dance routines like the one Hunter Heinrich did for his bride Lexi in North Texas. And couples are blending their cultures in their special day, like Shannon and Seema Paul, who incorporated their Hindu and Christian faiths into their ceremony. Even The New York Times is declaring that using the words “fiancé” and “fiancée” to describe your betrothed is so passé.
“This generation is one that has been empowered and taught to be leaders and think of our higher selves, which definitely caused us to question a lot [about weddings],” declares Raquel Kristi, wedding and events expert and creator of Pop Bliss. The company provides luxury pop-up ceremonies for several couples who say “I do” simultaneously.
“Bride and grooms want to be less stressed. They just want to show up and start enjoying their wedding,” Raquel explains. “PopBliss allows them to be as excited and surprised about their ceremony and reception as their guests.”
Millennials want to have a celebration that’s built around them, their personalities and their love for one another, versus falling into old routines. “When it comes to our wedding day, we want to know why we’re carrying the bouquet and wearing the veil, and why mom and dad are so involved in the planning process,” Raquel explains.
Brides are taking the bridal shower and bachelorette party to the next level with shoots in fun destinations, just like Teen Mom star Maci Bookout did in Las Vegas this past August.
“Bridal parties are going away on vacation, where they are all dressed in swimsuits and may have signage to signify the bride and her bridesmaids,” says Raquel. “They are able to show how much fun they are having in a more editorial style.”
That sentiment carries right into the actual ceremony.
Stuffy reception games like the bouquet toss have been replaced with dance battles. “It’s the ‘Bride Hives’ and the ‘Guy Grooms’,” Raquel exclaims. Dances can be choreographed and practiced in advance. And there’s the “Turnt Up” dance, where couples go out on the dance floor, and it is captured on video. “It’s more of a party than a competition of who’s getting married next.”
And yes, social media is playing a big part in all these changes. “This is the generation that wants to post pictures and give you a play-by-play of the ceremony,” Raquel says. “it’s all about having every moment captured with Snapchat and Instagram. Sometimes your place card will have the bridal parties’ social media hashtag.”
It’s all about documenting the ceremony that may become the next big viral video.
There is one tradition Raquel feels will never fade away. “The walk down the aisle -- regardless what changes, whether it’s a white dress or blue or something else altogether, for every bride, it’s that moment where it’s truly about the love and the couple is really walking into their first stages of love together.”
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