"There’s probably a couple things there that are major keys to a successful relationship. For me, personally, I think growing up, I saw people that worked and I saw people that didn’t work. What I found didn’t work was a lack of communication. If there isn’t communication… people can’t read people’s minds," he shared with Personal Space. "You don’t know what’s bothering somebody or what they don’t like or what they do like. You can’t communicate. No matter what it is, you have to be able to express your likes and dislikes. It’s a major key to a successful relationship, and it’s not even necessarily verbal communication. It’s the physical touches or the understanding of what a person likes and dislikes throughout their daily routines. It’s about paying attention and being invested."
And, that means that Kroy always makes time for his Don't Be Tardy wife -- and their family. "If I came home from football and went downstairs and played video games and wasn’t engaged with the kids, and didn’t talk to my wife and she was up with the kids screaming and trying to run her businesses and I wasn’t helping her, it would irritate somebody," he said. "When people get irritated, they start to disconnect. As long as you’re invested and care. At the end of the day, if you truly want to be married to somebody for the rest of your life, you have to invest the time. Your buddies at the bar can wait. The beer- you don’t have to have that. Your wife, she needs your attention and she needs your help. She needs you to be around and invested. That’s what’s going to make the connection grow and be there. If you do need some time to unwind, do it with her. Don’t run off and do something else. Again, you’re not investing time that could be invested in the marriage."
Kroy and Kim have also made sure they carve out time for each other and make sure they don't forget the romance, even when they have a family as big as theirs is.
It’s really difficult. I’m sure we haven’t got it perfected, but we’re trying to. We do a lot as a family. Our routine is a little bit more later in the evening. We put the kids to bed and then we can either finish up on some work stuff. I’ll help her do some of her work or we can just sit back and have a discussion. We can go in our hot tub and have a glass of wine without the kids running around doing homework and meals and wanting to play," he said. "That time comes after they go to bed, typically. I think we still get one on one whenever we can. Whether it’s 20 minutes in the car ride to drop the kids off at school, or 20 minutes to go get a coffee together. It’s little times that make a difference. They add up at the end of the day, you know?"
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